Baltazarcus:


hey, how can I get my hands on the book u mentioned "the manipulated man" I really wanna read it. Do u have the soft copy pls send to this email phikisi4real@yahoo.com. Or the link to download it. Thanks

I cant find the softcopy on my system, but go to google and search for 'The Manipulated man by Esther vilar pdf'.You will surely get it.

As far as I am concerned, marriage can go to he'll and die, because I am not doing it, because it does not interest me in anyway.

Elder0001:


Women need marriage more than men need marriage.

Women gain more from marriage.

Especially northern women, most of them dream of being married to rich men, and when such happens they become very happy.

Even my 3 sisters, they all dreamt of being married to rich men, so far two of them have gotten what they want but the third one is still dreaming and praying to God. Even though she's already employed and gets 90k a month, she still wants more money, women! Such greedy money grubbing cunts.

CHoccolaTE:
Marriage is a scam to take advantage of women. I have been saying this on Nairaland for years, see this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/1265450/why-men-think-womens-lives#15355649

How can society expect women to be breadwinners like their husbands and at the same time be subjected to the husband's authority and and obey him and even bear his name as if her father that raised her his own name is useless. Big scam.
If a woman starts taking care of her husband financially then they are now equal partners but Nigerian men will never agree.
They want a housemaid and baby machine and ATM
They want a woman that will ignore their cheating and pray for them
Some sef don't lift hand to do housework at all but would go berserk if their wives decide to leave job of breadwinning to them.

Let marriage go obsolete, it's better for oppressed women.
If only men can stop shaming spinsters that are old and unmarried maybe more people will be more comfortable with the idea that marriage isn't a do or die affair

find a team player and get married.

NO

foreveryoung1515:
NO

So sorry,i read your diary.I pray God manifest Himself in your home.
The thing is majority of men dont want marriage.Higher percentage are into it only for procreation.After that,they begin to exibit their true-self.Just be patient with him.

olatuneji:


So sorry,i read your diary.I pray God manifest Himself in your home.
The thing is majority of men dont want marriage.Higher percentage are into it only for procreation.After that,they begin to exibit their true-self.Just be patient with him.

Thanks

Elder0001:
Ireneidiva,crackhaus your contributions will be appreciated.

When you marry for the right reasons, it does. People marry just to have kids,for financial gains or other selfish reasons. I think you should marry when you are mature enough in all aspects and you meet someone who is madly in love with you.

Deji63:


Woe betide you if you have ever collected money or anything of monetary value no matter how little directly or indirectly from any woman in your life. You are extremely appalling and make people fear for their daughters that animals like you are on the prowl. You sound so callous for a man. It's unbelievable. The way you sound your financial stability is questionable. I swear. God punish you if you ever referr to yourself as a man.

Hey I can't remember telling you not to marry poor women ,did I?

This life is filled with different people,you can't tell them all how to live their life. This doesn't call for insults.

Elder0001:



Trust me ,Nigerian women take all those bullshît because of what they gain from marriage.
Ask yourself why women don't leave abusive ,cheating and paedophilia partners?
It's not necessarily because of what people say but because of what they tend to gain from the marriage and what they'll lose if they leave.

The average man is trained right from his youth to be the saviour of the woman , physically, spiritually and financially . Men are advised to be this and that before entering into marriage but the only things women are told is to be beautiful and respectful ,am I from another planet?

So what is that thing women stand to lose?

Don't mention money please. Women make a lot of money these days.

So what is it?

MrNipplesLover:



if these are your reasons to back up ur first statement, then you are absolutely wrong with first statement.


women, nowadays, don't care about all those things u typed up there. all they want is being a woman to be tagged as"married" (Mrs).

ur points were what feminists capitalized on when the revolution started. now, they are repenting. seems u don't know how many then-feminists are married lately.

You are dumb.


Mrs Mrs?!!! A benefit?

MrNipplesLover:



in my broad mind, feminists tend, or have the tendencies of being an anti-marriage.

Oponu,

Feminists are against the sham practiced by Nigerians called marriage where a woman is told to be submissive and is seen as subordinate, where she's asked to pray for her cheating husband and be quiet for peace to reign.


That up there is SLAVERY.

Brazenbabe:


Oh Please
You go about waving your masculinity like a flag but you cant even take half of what you dish out
STFU

That's what they always do. Confused lot. A man speaks up, he's being a man. A woman speaks up and she's bitter, needs psychological help, arrogant.

Two-faced modaf*ckers.

Tinamoore:
From my personal experience, I will say yes Marriage still makes sense when its with a compatible and nice person.

The emotional & psychological needs coupled with companionship offered in marriage is second to none.there is a deep bond between couples which cannot be experienced outside marriage( my personal opinion).hence my opinion that marriage still makes sense.it all depends on the kind of person the marriage is entered with.

But a marriage that makes sense may loose its flavour and head to either separation or divorce when a partner changes completely from what he/ she used to be.

There is an adage in my place that says" marriage is like a parcel, you only get to know what's inside when you open it". I have come to believe this adage so much.at times, despite several years of courtship and studying our spouse to be , we may end up seeing a different package either immediately or some years into the marriage.

Some people argued on this thread about who benefits more in a marriage.I don't believe any gender benefits more.marriage is a symbiotic relationship. Both genders benefit and compliment each other.The issue of who benefits more springs up when one party is trying to play smart/wise.

My dear,
In the Nigerian version of marriage, the men clearly benefit more.
It seems you're in a great marriage. Good for you.
But women take a lot of bullshit in the name of marriage especially here in Nigeria.

You want to know what makes it even more pathetic, many of them have been brainwashed to believe that they should be happy to be Mrs this or that.

So they stay because the society will see them as failures that cannot keep a home.

Elder0001:


Are you crazy ?? Just this hour I've seen more than 3mentions from you.

Mynd44,dominique,lalasticlala

Rule 2

Ohhhhh.... Lukatew


You want me to be banned right? Who cares

Crybaby. Mtcheew.

CheeZena:



Oponu,

Feminists are against the sham practiced by Nigerians called marriage where a woman is told to be submissive and is seen as subordinate, where she's asked to pray for her cheating husband and be quiet for peace to reign.


That up there is SLAVERY.

internet can give some people the effrontery to type anyhow to their senior brothers.

so how rude you sound. instead of passing ur message with courtesy.


internet.

Elder0001:


Women need marriage more than men need marriage.

Women gain more from marriage.

The whole marriage system is actually for men.

foreveryoung1515:
NO

I empathize with your situation but I don't know if you understand that you both are destroying the psyche of your son and setting him up to become a potentially physically abusive person.

When he sees you both fight,his views of a relationship/marriage is becoming twisted and he is learning that violence is an acceptable way of life.

No child deserves the trauma of a toxic environment and the worst part is that you are bringing another innocent soul into your hell.

I hope you don't get killed one day or end up killing someone.

I hope you summon the bravery you need to take a step and have a better life because you deserve it.

Look around NL,so many damaged souls,wounded people,where do you think it started from?

Only few people are able to escape the permanent scars that a toxic upbringing causes.

If you don't care about yourself,please save your children.

I wish you all the best

mhd5757:

Especially northern women, most of them dream of being married to rich men, and when such happens they become very happy.

Even my 3 sisters, they all dreamt of being married to rich men, so far two of them have gotten what they want but the third one is still dreaming and praying to God. Even though she's already employed and gets 90k a month, she still wants more money, women! Such greedy money grubbing cunts.

So you want your own sister, with a salary of 90k to marry a poor man?

Why will a poor man even consider getting married, if not for the entitlement mentality of Nigerian men. You want a wife who will cater for your needs and bear your children, you want a family where you will be the 'head', you want to be considered successful by joining your peers to start a family . . . And yet you don't have the financial resources REQUIRED to support the family. Does that even make any sense to you?

biterkola:


I empathize with your situation but I don't know if you understand that you both are destroying the psyche of your son and setting him up to become a potentially physically abusive person.

When he sees you both fight,his views of a relationship/marriage is becoming twisted and he is learning that violence is an acceptable way of life.

No child deserves the trauma of a toxic environment and the worst part is that you are bringing another innocent soul into your hell.

I hope you don't get killed one day or end up killing someone.

I hope you summon the bravery you need to take a step and have a better life because you deserve it.

Look around NL,so many damaged souls,wounded people,where do you think it started from?

Only few people are able to escape the permanent scars that a toxic upbringing causes.

If you don't care about yourself,please save your children.

I wish you all the best

Thanks

bukatyne:


The whole marriage system is actually for men.

Lmao..who needs marriage. If i need sex...ashawo cheap wella...if i need home food. I can employ a calabar nanny for 15k monthly that will cook all exceellent meals without wahala...men marry just to procreate and for societal reasons..many women are ready to be baby mamas so why does a man need marriage. If a lady stays in her fathers house over a certain age. Shes a shame to her family

CheeZena:


My dear,
In the Nigerian version of marriage, the men clearly benefit more.
It seems you're in a great marriage. Good for you.
But women take a lot of bullshit in the name of marriage especially here in Nigeria.

You want to know what makes it even more pathetic, many of them have been brainwashed to believe that they should be happy to be Mrs this or that.

So they stay because the society will see them as failures that cannot keep a home.

.

No dear, on the contrary I am separated from hubby.I had a very bad experience in my marriage.but that does not change the fact that there are good marriages in Nigeria.I have proof from my sisters, brothers and some friends.my bitter experience in marriage cannot change my general view of it.

However you are right when you say some women take a lot of bullshit in the name of marriage.it shouldn't be about what the society will say.personally, I cant stay in a marriage that I am emotionally and psychologically abused.

UjuJoan2:


So you want your own sister, with a salary of 90k to marry a poor man?

Why will a poor man even consider getting married, if not for the entitlement mentality of Nigerian men. You want a wife who will cater for your needs and bear your children, you want a family where you will be the 'head', you want to be considered successful by joining your peers to start a family . . . And yet you don't have the financial resources REQUIRED to support the family. Does that even make any sense to you?

i am not fukking interested in getting married!! and i dont give a fukk who my sister fukking marries!! fukk mariage!!!

mhd5757:


i am not fukking interested in getting married!! and i dont give a fukk who my sister fukking marries!! fukk mariage!!!

Oh dear. You seem to be in quite a mood this evening

Pipedreams:


Lmao..who needs marriage. If i need sex...ashawo cheap wella...if i need home food. I can employ a calabar nanny for 15k monthly that will cook all exceellent meals without wahala...men marry just to procreate and for societal reasons..many women are ready to be baby mamas so why does a man need marriage. If a lady stays in her fathers house over a certain age. Shes a shame to her family

Thats exactly what we are saying @ the builded part,
Many women only get married because they will be insulted and shamed unfairly if they remain single. The ones that are already married stay in bad toxic marriages because that will be shamed if they leave.

That is literally THE ONLY REASON many women get married. There is no benefit.

Remove the unfair shaming of single women and I can assure you a LOT OF WOMEN will stay single and start putting their dreams and ambitions first instead of looking for one entitled slave driver that wants his wife to provide for the family, bear his name and birth him children to bear his name while being a housemaid and nanny at the same time.

UjuJoan2:


So you want your own sister, with a salary of 90k to marry a poor man?

Why will a poor man even consider getting married, if not for the entitlement mentality of Nigerian men. You want a wife who will cater for your needs and bear your children, you want a family where you will be the 'head', you want to be considered successful by joining your peers to start a family . . . And yet you don't have the financial resources REQUIRED to support the family. Does that even make any sense to you?

Yet women who don't earn a dime run into marriage every month..do me good and extend this lame advice to the female folks.

CHoccolaTE:


Thats exactly what we are saying @ the builded part,
Many women only get married because they will be insulted and shamed unfairly if they remain single. The ones that are already married stay in bad toxic marriages because that will be shamed if they leave.

That is literally THE ONLY REASON many women get married. There is no benefit.

Remove the unfair shaming of single women and I can assure you a LOT OF WOMEN will stay single and start putting their dreams and ambitions first instead of looking for one entitled slave driver that wants his wife to provide for the family, bear his name and birth him children to bear his name while being a housemaid and nanny at the same time.

I have a friend looking for a baby mama - cute guy, good job, well settled and not interested in marriage.
You won't be a wife, you won't bear his name, just birthing the kid(s) will do and of course placing you on an upkeep with joint custody. You interested?

We need more girls like you honestly.