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alBHAGDADI:
Don't waste your time with those feminists. They are happy a marriage is crumbling. They will do a lot to ensure it crumbles like theirs.

Just pray for the OP.

At all. Got a lot on my hands to do than waste it on unhappy bitter women trying to form equality with their husbands. Check into their history, they are divorcees, unhappily married, bitter spinsters or the male in their marriages. I pray the op avoids these set. Wish her all the best.

rOsy247:
At all. Got a lot on my hands to do than waste it on unhappy bitter women trying to form equality with their husbands. Check into their history, they are divorcees, unhappily married, bitter spinsters or the male in their marriages. I pray the op avoids these set. Wish her all the best.

And you that is happily married with your community peniss of a horseband, wehdone, married woman to a man whos heart and blokos belongs to many but issokay, after all you got the ring, you got the honour of being in the house praying that your horseband has pity on you and eats ypur food so he can gathrr enough strength to satisfy his numerous babes all around.
Some people genuinely believe there are no faithful husbands so they actually drown their pillows in tears whilst canvassing for more women to remain in the unhappy shackles they have found themself

Anyone that calls foolishness out here is bitter. I get it

rOsy247:
Remain in your bitterness.

keepingmum:
And you that is happily married with your community peniss of a horseband, wehdone, married woman to a man whos heart and blokos belongs to many but issokay, after all you got the ring, you got the honour of being in the house praying that your horseband has pity on you and eats ypur food so he can gathrr enough strength to satisfy his numerous babes all around.
Some people genuinely believe there are no faithful husbands so they actually drown their pillows in tears whilst canvassing for more women to remain in the unhappy shackles they have found themself

Not all husbands are community penis like yours and probably your dad. So don't use what's prevalent in your family to generalise on people you don't know. We have great husbands with dignity and mine is one. If you drown your pillow with tears, I don't and will never cos there's no need for it and will never be. Remain in your misery while clamouring for equality with a man that should be your head.

rOsy247:
Not all husbands are community penis like yours and probably your dad. So don't use what's prevalent in your family to generalise on people you don't know. We have great husbands with dignity and mine is one. If you drown your pillow with tears, I don't and will never cos there's no need for it and will never be. Remain in your misery while clamouring for equality with a man that should be your head.

Madam Mrs Horseband, are you pained or ashamed to admit that your only achievement and self worth admiration is been marriedb to a community peniss? Abi you have forgotten what you wrote in the first page how you "fought and prayed" for your husband's conscience to prick him when his wandering blokos took over instead of you[s][/s]to remind him of his vows and lay down your boundaries with him as women married to faithful men do[s][/s] you didnt do, but as the virtuous wife that you is nah, the defender of the happy wives of community penisse association and the gate keeper of the 'i will remain married even if my unfaithful horseband brings home HIV/Hep B or HPV infection", you rather used your story as an example to encourage another women whos husband is been tempted and seeking counsel to allow him cheat .

rOsy247:
Not in all cases. So many marriages have been saved with these. Talking from experience. Secondly, from the op's post her hubby is not in that category at least yet. The strange woman is only trying hard to appeal to his heart, so now is the right time to fulfill her role even more and please don't discourage her.

Agreed some men are chronic cheats. That's why I said at the end that she should do her own part so no blame goes to her. Then leave him to God and his conscience to handle. Even when a man/woman has no conscience, U can't underestimate the power of God fighting your battle. If you don't believe that God can do that, a lot of us do and [/i][/b] it's working for us personally[b][i]. No matter how hard you fight ur hubby or the woman he's cheating with, twill make no difference. Twill even worsen the situation. God's battle is the best ever.

You have earned the ultimate prize my dear. Be proud of your community peniss of a horseband please. Dont be shy

Seahawk:
If you need me to explain that simple post to you, no wonder you think the rosy poster is making sense.

Read what you wrote initially, it makes no comprehensive meaning to someone reading it.
The poster you are talking about made more comprehensive meaning .
Go back and read those posts.

rOsy247:
Not in all cases. So many marriages have been saved with these. [/b]Talking from experience[b]. Secondly, from the op's post her hubby is not in that category at least yet. The strange woman is only trying hard to appeal to his heart, so now is the right time to fulfill her role even more and please don't discourage her.

Agreed some men are chronic cheats. That's why I said at the end that she should do her own part so no blame goes to her. Then leave him to God and his conscience to handle. Even when a man/woman has no conscience, U can't underestimate the power of God fighting your battle. If you don't believe that God can do that, a lot of us do and it's working for us personally. No matter how hard you fight ur hubby or the woman he's cheating with, twill make no difference. Twill even worsen the situation. God's battle is the best ever.

How many years experience if i may ask?

rOsy247:
Too many bitter feminist hates my post. The truth is no one is pressuring you to do whatever. Follow whatever works for you. It changes nothing for those of us making the best of our marriages.

Don't mind those daughter of Jezebel most of them are frustrated singles that will never marry bc of toxic character. Don't even engage them further. They hate the word of God and don't wanna hear it

androidroot:
Please I really wanna know the meaning of this stew slang..

https://www.nairaland.com/4806802/tiwa-savage-gives-relationship-advice/1#72374345

that guy explains it better

rOsy247:
So u saying since the hubby is about to start something with a strange woman she should stop her wifely roles?

You know that if a husband/wife is cheating/threatening to cheat and the victim decides to up the ante, they just make the cheating attractive for the person.

Imagine give special attention to a child throwing tantrums, he soon learns that throwing tantrums is the best way to get what he wants..

Now, the exception is if the wronged spouse was failing in his/her duties initially which again is debatable.

keepingmum:
You have earned the ultimate prize my dear. Be proud of your community peniss of a horseband please. Dont be shy

keepingmum:
How many years experience if i may ask?

I feel it's a complete waste of time replying you but I have few seconds to waste right now so let me reply this.

If you are wise like you claim to be you'll understand experiences come in many ways including that of others around us other than oneself. So when I say I'm talking from experience, it mustn't happen to me before gaining experience. I've helped many women salvage such situation in their homes, to God's glory. Secondly, when I say it's been working for us, i mean fulfilling our wifely roles has assisted a lot to keep our homes plus Gods assistance and I'm one of such women. This alone spurs my hubby more to do all that's required to keep the marriage intact. Faithfulness is one of it. My marriage has never been in turmoil cos of infidelity and will never be.

I stand bold to tell you My hubby doesn't even know whether other women exist or not cos I'm more than much for him. So
Like I told you earlier not every man is a community penn.is like the men in ur life and family. Stop equating the situation in your life to be the case of every woman you don't even know. I understand your bitterness .... Las las you go dey alright.

bukatyne:
You know that if a husband/wife is cheating/threatening to cheat and the victim decides to up the ante, they just make the cheating attractive for the person.

Imagine give special attention to a child throwing tantrums, he soon learns that throwing tantrums is the best way to get what he wants..

Now, the exception is if the wronged spouse was failing in his/her duties initially which again is debatable.

So are you saying cos op's hubby is about to cheat with a strange woman, op should give him tit for tat treatment?

rOsy247:
So are you saying cos op's hubby is about to cheat with a strange woman, op should give him tit for tat treatment?

Ma'am, did I anyway imply that the wife (I didn't even get to see the OP) should cheat on the husband? Of what good what that be?

I am saying that the wife should find the root cause of the infidelity and address it. If she is the cause (not an excuse), she should adjust and if there is no fault from her side, she weighs her options if she is willing to give him a 2nd/nth chance or move on.

If she is giving him another chance, then extra cooking and care will not resolve any issue. The husband has 80% at home and is trying to get the balance 20% outside. The wife giving him 90% (by doing extra) means the husband is getting 110% and there is no incentive for him to change/repent.

[quote author=bukatyne post=72506558

If she is giving him another chance, then extra cooking and care will not resolve any issue. The husband has 80% at home and is trying to get the balance 20% outside. The wife giving him 90% (by doing extra) means the husband is getting 110% and there is no incentive for him to change/repent.[/quote]That's what I disagree with. I disagree with this *no matter what you do he'll still cheat" idea cos I've witnessed many marriages that has been redeemed cos of the wife not neglecting her role in her hubby's life. It's not all about cooking and care. It's about wifely roles generally. Agreed it might not work for all men cos some are chronic cheats but like I said in my first post, just do your part as a wife and leave the battle for his conscience and God. No amount of confrontation will work. Twill only worsen.

I'm not a party to tit for tat. I believe in doing your bit and forget who's not doing right while leaving them for karma or God ultimately to handle.

[quote author=rOsy247 post=72506954][/quote]Let's disagree then.

Rewarding bad behaviour doesn't put a stop to it.

Besides, I am all for the quality of a marriage over quantity so what classifies as 'working' for you might not cut it for me.

And it takes two to make it work.

nairalandbuzz:
https://www.nairaland.com/4806802/tiwa-savage-gives-relationship-advice/1#72374345

that guy explains it better

thanks bro

bukatyne:
Let's disagree then.

Rewarding bad behaviour doesn't put a stop to it.

Besides, I am all for the quality of a marriage over quantity so what classifies as 'working' for you might not cut it for me.

And it takes two to make it work.

The truth is that a lot of women just like those attacking the Rosy lady, are out there caring and doing exactly what she's advocating without even knowing their husbands are already cheating on them.

A man that has not been caught cheating (emotionally/sexually) on his wife is still receiving the best treatment from her nonetheless...
Depriving this care and cheating back on the occasion of finally getting him caught is NOT likely to change him, it just shows the woman was waiting for a good reason to go fvck that man she's been having the hots for...in which case, there were already deeper issues in that marriage from both ends.

crackhaus:
The truth is that a lot of women just like those attacking the Rosy lady, are out there caring and doing exactly what she's advocating without even knowing their husbands are already cheating on them.

A man that has not been caught cheating (emotionally/sexually) on his wife is still receiving the best treatment from her nonetheless...
Depriving this care and cheating back on the occasion of finally getting him caught is NOT likely to change him, it just shows the woman was waiting for a good reason to go fvck that man she's been having the hots for...in which case, there were already deeper issues in that marriage from both ends.

Boss...

I dnt understand where there is much bitterness from some female folks on this thread, Look at the venom their pour on Rosy...

All is well oo.. MA sure as you say a lot of them are wishing they actually have good husbands and they come here and begin to form macho.

God help us all oooo

temi4fash:
Boss...

I dnt understand where there is much bitterness from some female folks on this thread, Look at the venom their pour on Rosy...

All is well oo.. MA sure as you say a lot of them are wishing they actually have good husbands and they come here and begin to form macho.

God help us all oooo

And they keep preaching about emancipation, women should have a choice to be and to do.
I guess when one woman chooses to remain loyal to her cheating husband, the sermon on choice is quickly forgotten and thrown out.

crackhaus:
The truth is that a lot of women just like those attacking the Rosy lady, are out there caring and doing exactly what she's advocating without even knowing their husbands are already cheating on them.

A man that has not been caught cheating (emotionally/sexually) on his wife is still receiving the best treatment from her nonetheless...
Depriving this care and cheating back on the occasion of finally getting him caught is NOT likely to change him, it just shows the woman was waiting for a good reason to go fvck that man she's been having the hots for...in which case, there were already deeper issues in that marriage from both ends.

First, I have never advocated a spouse cheating back, it absolutely makes no sense to me.

If a wife doesn't know the husband is cheating, it is a different ball game.

temi4fash:
Boss...

I dnt understand where there is much bitterness from some female folks on this thread, Look at the venom their pour on Rosy...

All is well oo.. MA sure as you say a lot of them are wishing they actually have good husbands and they come here and begin to form macho.

God help us all oooo

Good husbands = cheating men?

God will really help us.

bukatyne:
Good husbands = cheating men?

God will really help us.

Is that your definition of good husband??

Cheating men??

temi4fash:
Is that your definition of good husband??

Cheating men??

I should ask you.

Your sentence 'All is well oo.. MA sure as you say a lot of them are wishing they actually have good husbands and they come here and begin to form macho.' is funny if in this context, the women are against Rosy because she is encouraging the wife to pray and maintain status co for a cheating husband.

bukatyne:
I should ask you.

Your sentence 'All is well oo.. MA sure as you say a lot of them are wishing they actually have good husbands and they come here and begin to form macho.' is funny if in this context, the women are against Rosy because she is encouraging the wife to pray and maintain status co for a cheating husband.

From what i read, and infer from the thread,The man has not started cheating on the wife, a strange woman is trying warm her way into the heart of the man. That is why i dont see anything wrong with rosy advise.

bukatyne:
First, I have never advocated a spouse cheating back, it absolutely makes no sense to me.


If a wife doesn't know the husband is cheating, it is a different ball game.

Loud it.

temi4fash:
From what i read, and infer from the thread,The man has not started cheating on the wife, a strange woman is trying warm her way into the heart of the man. That is why i dont see anything wrong with rosy advise.

In fact, the OP should repost the first post.

I engaged Rosy here to correct the notion of cook harder, clean harder, fvck him harder advises works for most of the part; it is just rewarding bad behaviour.

If a strange woman is 'trying to warm her way into the heart of the husband', then cook and clean seems an extremely simplistic advice.

Let's go back to the OP.

Besides, who is giving this report? The husband or the wife? I know the OP is a friend.

Whose friend?

bukatyne:
In fact, the OP should repost the first post.

I engaged Rosy here to correct the notion of cook harder, clean harder, fvck him harder advises works for most of the part; it is just rewarding bad behaviour.

If a strange woman is 'trying to warm her way into the heart of the husband', then cook and clean seems an extremely simplistic advice.

Let's go back to the OP.

Besides, who is giving this report? The husband or the wife? I know the OP is a friend.

Whose friend?

At the bolded from the thread, there was no part where the man was giving the lady attention..

The question should be what is the woman doing that the wife is not doing that is even making the husband want to consider the strange woman in the first place??

Am not supporting the cheating partner because nobody deserves that, but then if it has not graduated, the first thing is to look for the root cause, which i believe a discussion and other improved wifey duties can fix should do the magic.

But then, I don't know the perspective you are looking at it from