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francis247:
Sluggish Cognitive Tempo alias Concentration Deficit Disorder

francis247:
Subtly or assertively, actively or passively, overtly or covertly no individual is an exception as far as addiction is concerned. We're all guilty. Note however that the application of the word addiction here is quite different from the conventional and negative light for which it's popularly known. It's application here encompasses a much broader context. While Some are addicted to living their lives to please others, drugs, sex, gambling, gossip, backbiting, slander, abus/taking undue advantage, creation and fueling of conflicts, killing (literally and/or figuratively), lying, stealing, etc. others are addicted to giving, kindness, creating solutions to problems, fixing broken people/things, helping the poor/needy, inventing/developing an existing invention, promotion of good health and well-being, etc. It is therefore no wonder that while some persons, time and time, again and again have been saved and have saved other persons through their addictions, others have on countless occasions been destroyed by theirs.

Sluggish Cognitive Tempo alias Concentration Deficit Disorder leaves us addicted to a lifestyle of passivity and hypoactivity interpreted as outright laziness, uninterestedness, day dreaming, over thinking, sluggishness, lethargy, apathy, poor focus, etc. consequently creating a world of “pains” and “problems”.

How then do we manage these addictions and surmount the “problems” posed there of? Are theses really problems or minor difficulties that can be resolved by minor lifestyle adjustments/changes? The answers to these questions lie within you.

Whenever someone, events, situations, circumstances or time tell or remind you directly or indirectly that you're slow in any way whatsoever, look them straight in the eyes and tell them, “yes I may be slow and lethargic but seeing as not I but you have a problem with that, what are you going to do about it? What's your solution?” (and if Sluggish Cognitive Tempo alias Concentration Deficit Disorder happens to be within the neighbourhood prancing around in all of its glory and preventing you from saying it out loud, it's more than okay to say it in your head as you already do most times). Chew up that dish of mockery while it's hot and fresh, as soon as it's served and let your system convert it into the waste that it is and pass it out because sometimes the only way to get out of a situation is to get into it.

QueenBelle:
what he mean to say is

Slow cognitive abilities equals low concentration

francis247:
Yes

pryme:
For the life of me, I can't seem to connect this article with the name of the thread, did someone copy from and paste in the wrong page?

QueenBelle:
read the post and think about it a bit.
You will get it

pryme:
I would not say this if I did not read the post. addiction and love is different from how people perceive you or is that not what the Op said?
And where does love come into the picture, telling people to Bleep off if they say what you dont like?

Pls help me understand how the title relates with what the Op typed up there.

pryme:
I would not say this if I did not read the post. addiction and love is different from how people perceive you or is that not what the Op said?
And where does love come into the picture, telling people to Bleep off if they say what you dont like?

Pls help me understand how the title relates with what the Op typed up there.

francis247:
I think you're restricting your thoughts on this matter only to the romantic kind of love which is of course very logical seeing as this is after all the romance section.

This is the preceding version of the write-up. I didn't post it because I had initially posted it plus it would have made the whole thing too long.


Most things in life are never really considered a problem until and unless they become too much. Anything, everything, no matter how good, great, wonderful, awesome, beautiful, sweet, useful, helpful, etc. it might be never really looses its appeal until it becomes too much. Too much - Sometimes difficult to define, most times it isn't seeing as it can be very obvious to debate or ignore.

As humans, we're naturally inclined to like/love things, people, habits, etc. and we're equally inclined naturally to stretch this likeness/love beyond it's limits which has given birth to words and phrases like addiction, habit, too much, very much, etc. But where do we draw the line between a healthy likeness for something/someone interpreted as love and the unhealthy version of fondness for something/someone interpreted as addiction?

The health, wellness and well-being of our lives physically, mentally, socially, psychologically, etc. are largely dependent on a series of tasks, duties and obligations that must be routinely carried out. A habit therefore can only correctly be deemed an addiction when it begins to interfere or impact negatively on certain aspects of the health and general well-being of your life Physically, mentally, socially, psychologically, etc. Addiction is something you feel very very strongly about, like you cannot do without. It's something that your body, your brain, your mind wants even when you just finished having it. At an extreme level, addiction is a thing/habit that you just don't love, adore, extol and worship, no. You breath for it, live for it, sleep and wake up for it. You feel very strongly like you'll die for it, and as a matter of fact, kill for it. At this level, if extreme measures are not taken, addiction will rule until it eventually ruins its prey. When one or more areas of one's life suffers to the detriment of another or others, addiction as opposed to love might just be the right term to describe the kind of relationship you have with that particular thing or person.

The Other Side/Type of Addiction
Nonetheless, there is the negative and the positive kind of addiction. Addiction for the right reasons, addiction/obsession to/for a particular thing in search of a solution to a problem can be classified as the positive kind of addiction. In other words, when you're addicted to something and that addiction is solution-to-problem based, then you have the right kind of addiction while the negative kind is that which creates problems or add to an already existing problem. When one is addicted to something for the wrong reasons, such addiction have the tendency to cause a problem, a myriad of problems or fuel an existing problem as the case may be.

Self Examination Time
What is your addiction? Would you say you have the right or the wrong kind of addiction? Are you addicted for the right or the wrong reasons? Does your addiction or addictions have more of a negative than a positive impact or more of a positive than a negative impact on your life and that of those around you.

Proposed Solution
Have you ever wondered why you stopped playing those very sweet and special games as a child growing up? Have you ever wondered how you suddenly without or barely knowing about it overcame those little bad habits your parents would repeatedly warn you against - like sucking your fingers, chewing your nails, sitting inappropriately, etc?

Simple - You wanted to stop/overcame, even though you may or may not have exactly recognized it. You were getting bored and tired of them even though a part of you still wanted them. You were subconsciously, little by little no longer desirous of them so you consciously began making little strides to do away with them as you grew older. Like a shoe, like a cloth, you outgrew them with little or no effort.

So why do we become adults and are unable to overcome an addiction when as children growing up, we at one point or the other overcame addictions? - Because we had to. We had no choice. Being addicted to those things that are characteristic of children meant that we were children and will remain children. We therefore had to do away with them because we didn't want to remain children, because we had to grow up.

But now you're an adult and you want/need to overcome the addictions characteristic of adults.

In as much as being and adult is literally determined by age, there are different levels of adulthood and this is not necessarily determined by age. We most likely have witnessed cases where children play some very vital role of a parent to their parent/s. I'm not referring to children taking care of their aged parents. I'm talking about children being compelled for one reason or the other to take care a/their young adult parent. This goes to show that even a child can be an adult as long as he/she can play the role of one.

To therefore beat that addiction just as you did when you were a child evolving into an adult, you have to want to, you have to really want to be be the the kind of adult of which you've always dreamed as well as recognize and remind yourself consciously of the need to become this kind of adult, a very grown up and well respected adult. You have to think and picture this superb adult version of yourself. As you do these, you'll find yourself replacing gradually those habits and addictions that have been holding you back. You'll find yourself making concerted efforts consciously and subconsciously to beat that addiction.

pryme:
OK I get your point.
But I think the words you are looking for are
VICE and VIRTUE.