... A friend of mine just got a condution of marriage from her guy. Everything is very alright between them ; finances, trust, love, etc.

Both of them are igbos and the lady grew up notbebeing able to speak the igno language. The guy has been dragging his feet citing the lady's inability to speak igbo since he himself is struggling with the language.. he wants his children to be able to speak fluenty an says that it heavily depends on the fluency of his wife to be.....

What do you guyz think.is it necessary to be language conpatible as a condidtion for marriage..?

bigpicture001:
... A friend of mine just got a condution of marriage from her. Everything is very alright between them ; finances, trust, love, etc.

Both of them are igbos and the lady grew up notbebeing able to speak the igno language. The guy has been dragging his feet citing the lady's inability to speak igbo since he himself is struggling with the language.. he wants his children to be able to speak fluenty an says that it heavily depends on the fluency of his wife to be.....

What do you guyz think.is it necessary to be language conpatible as a condidtion for marriage..?

She has been officially used & dumped.

Even if she learns Igbo language he will cite her complexion or her course of study as an excuse.


Naso we dey do.
Yeske. Awaniyen

That's not an excuse,people also marry from other tribes.

so he didn't not see a gal from his village and go nd marry abi heheheheeh after all d years it's now he realize he needs the children to speak igbo guys self

Toyosi01:
so he didn't not see a gal from his village and go nd marry abi heheheheeh after all d years it's now he realize he needs the children to speak igbo guys self

He gave the lady a chance to go learn to speak igbo..but sh thinks he is asking for too much

He should get a teacher for her and stay during classes.

I am Edo can't speak my language while my gf is igbo, point is should I now kill my sef cos of that.

bigpicture001:
... A friend of mine just got a condution of marriage from her guy. Everything is very alright between them ; finances, trust, love, etc.

Both of them are igbos and the lady grew up notbebeing able to speak the igno language. The guy has been dragging his feet citing the lady's inability to speak igbo since he himself is struggling with the language.. he wants his children to be able to speak fluenty an says that it heavily depends on the fluency of his wife to be.....

What do you guyz think.is it necessary to be language conpatible as a condidtion for marriage..?

If he's indeed serious then the both of them can learn together.

The Igbo that I can speak today is thanks to my dad .

So if u learn igbo,he won't pay bride price again,abi?

If she actually wants to get married to this guy, then let her learn it. They can even learn it together and it becomes fun....The babe is seeing it as a big deal.

I have seen an Akwaibom woman who married an Igbo man. According to her, her mother-inlaw has no time for English but Igbo lang.
So she was determined to learn Igbo lang due to her love for her husband.
Right now, she is an expert in the lang and her mother-inlaw really loves her for that determination....

@op, its your friends choice.

A feeble excuse
There are many women in his village, he can pick one
He knows a little Ibo, he can get her interested by teaching her some
He can't speak Igbo well, she can't speak at all,like the Partners they will become in the future, they can learn together and teach their kids together
Parenthood isn't a one-sided responsibility.

that's a very stupid reason
am Yoruba buh can hardly even speak my tribe which pains me alot nevertheless the woman I get hitched with if she speaks Yoruba cool if she doesn't cool..
if I want my kids to speak Yoruba very well I will give them a teacher or put them in an environment where they can learn their language

marvin906:
that's a very stupid reason
am Yoruba buh can hardly even speak my tribe which pains me alot nevertheless the woman I get hitched with if she speaks Yoruba cool if she doesn't cool..
if I want my kids to speak Yoruba very well I will give them a teacher or put them in an environment where they can learn their language

What's with you and this meme?

Op I know you are the one. But let me advice you. The guy dey find reasons to "ball".

bigpicture001:


He gave the lady a chance to go learn to speak igbo..but sh thinks he is asking for too much

Are they bred, living and working in Nigeria?

The guy is not been frank with the lady...what he has told the lady is code for....

”my people don’t fancy me marrying you because you are not meet all their criteria and they have found an Igbo lady for me to marry, please learn how to speak Igbo to beef up your scores, this way I can represent your candidacy to them for approval.....otherwise, I will just go for the ready made Igbo lady waiting in the wings for me”

Illiterate

bigpicture001:


He gave the lady a chance to go learn to speak igbo..but sh thinks he is asking for too much

The man should not start acting like it's the woman job to make their kids speak Ibo, if he wants his kids to learn how to speak Ibo he should relocate to the East where English is hardly spoken.

He has no excuse unless he is looking for a way out.

Other than that the man is Pusssy niggga for allowing language be a condition.

bigpicture001:


He gave the lady a chance to go learn to speak igbo..but sh thinks he is asking for too much

Screw him. What stops him from learning the language himself?

Useless condition

That's an unreasonable condition the guy is bringing up to instigate a breakup.... If u like him go school go study Igbo course in the university..after four year u go marry him .. wetin I dey talk sef, dump his yeye ass fast fast.

bigpicture001:
... A friend of mine just got a condution of marriage from her guy. Everything is very alright between them ; finances, trust, love, etc.

Both of them are igbos and the lady grew up notbebeing able to speak the igno language. The guy has been dragging his feet citing the lady's inability to speak igbo since he himself is struggling with the language.. he wants his children to be able to speak fluenty an says that it heavily depends on the fluency of his wife to be.....

What do you guyz think.is it necessary to be language conpatible as a condidtion for marriage..?

She should be ashamed that she can't speak Igbo and the man is igbotic and I love that ...if she can't speak Igbo let her learn it or find an efulefu and marry period

pryme:


The man should not start acting like it's the woman job to make their kids speak Ibo, if he wants his kids to learn how to speak Ibo he should relocate to the East where English is hardly spoken.

He has no excuse unless he is looking for a way out.

Other than that the man is Pusssy niggga for allowing language be a condition.

Do you know why it's called mother tongue ?


Monkeys everywhere

Let her try and improve a bit, even if she's able to speak fluently, it doesn't mean the children would also be able to cos if that was the case, he would be fluent

IkpuMmadu:


Do you know why it's called mother tongue ?


Monkeys everywhere

And mother tongue is spoken by only the mother?

Bar brains every where.

excuses

pryme:


And mother tongue is spoken by only the mother?

Bar brains every where.

Your stupidity is amazing ...it's called mother tongue the kids pick it from the Mothers at home ...education started at home


Go to school you guys wouldn't now look at nzuzu

Women are too cheap and becoming more stupid daily...if the dude tells you to learnt Igbo and speak Igbo as a condition please do it ! If you can't do it , maintain your respect and forget the marriage and move on

Don't come and disturb us

IkpuMmadu:


Your stupidity is amazing ...it's called mother tongue the kids pick it from the Mothers at home ...education started at home


Go to school you guys wouldn't now look at nzuzu

So it's the mother that invented the language she now speaks,
shiit for brains like you forget that not all women grew up with their mothers, some women women wear raised by their grand mothers.

Its illiterates like you that think a single women owns a language spoken by an entire tribe.

So if the children are required to learn Ibo and they end up learning Ibo without the help of the mother, that will not be accepted? No it won't be accepted for you fault finding illiterates.

If she's willing to learn the language, let her learn it. She should not learn because a man wants her to learn. If the guy is so keen about dating/marrying someone that speaks his native language, he should have communicated to her in his native language the first time they met and make his decision there and then.

Allaboutkatiee:


What's with you and this meme?

How is the meme disturbing you now

Florblu:
If she's willing to learn the language, let her learn it. She should not learn because a man wants her to learn. If the guy is so keen about dating/marrying someone that speaks his native language, he should have communicated to her in his native language the first time they met and make his decision there and then.

The man is just looking for a way out. I only feel sorry for the lady for the 8 years wasted with this fool, the man should just compensate her and let her be on her way.