hergists:
In my third year in the university, my course supervisor invited me into his office. I was dressed in a tight shirt and a pair of jeans that accentuated my curves as usual. It all started as an educative session, and then conversation swerved uncomfortably.

He starts moving closer to me. “What shall I do?” says my mind, panicking. The man’s erection wilts despite his distraught efforts. He moved closer, started rubbing my hair and staring at my breasts.

“This isn’t right sir.”

I finally dared to speak up. He just kept telling me how we humans determine what’s right and wrong and how well things would go for me if I agree to sleep with him. I played him and found my way out of his office.

I don’t know a single person, no matter how cruel the harassment or the assault, who doesn’t feel some of that guilt and shame and wonders:

“Could I have done something differently? Perhaps it was my fault?”

When I saw that, I felt the beginning of what would be months of grief. It was my first realization that the academic system, that I thought was so meritorious, that I wanted to spend my life within was deeply unfair. I wouldn’t receive any justice, and he could go on and harass other women.

Frustrated and upset, I stopped attending his classes. Through hard work, I graduated as a distinctive student from his course.

Source: https://hergists.com/experience-sexual-harassment-university/

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Apination:
Women should as a matter of fact do their possible best to dress moderately so as to reduce the attention they draw to themselves. There would always be randy lecturers based on the existing standard, so it's not a debate on whether it's right or wrong

Apination:
Women should as a matter of fact do their possible best to dress moderately so as to reduce the attention they draw to themselves. There would always be randy lecturers based on the existing standard, so it's not a debate on whether it's right or wrong

speedyconnect3:


This a bad trend.

Don't blame the victims. Is there no harassments even in muslim countries where hijabs are worn?

Blame the perpetrators of the dastardly act.

Blame the lecturers who even go to the extent of trying to sleep with married women.

Didn't you see Prof Akindele's case? So you should blame the girl, a victim?

You shouldn't blame the victims. It's akin to blaming me for charging my phone in a restaurant where it got stolen instead of blaming the thief that stole it.

In the US women are legally allowed to go topless in most states.

Do you now rape them because they walked past with upper body naked?


Do you blame me for leaving my car open or you blame the thief that stole the car?


Do you blame a rich man for being rich or you blame the kidnapper that kidnapped him?


Do you blame the examiner for leaving the hall or you blame the student for cheating?


List goes on.

frbona:
their mode of dressing doesn't excuse the crime or the offenders. Its like defending a predator who sexually assaulted a lady on a beach wearing thongs. Quit the slut shaming. I wonder why many lecturers stoop so low in their desperation to push females to the wall when there are loads of lazy girls who are dying to give them the best sex of their lives so as to scale through their courses. It becomes a matter of ego and that's where the bubbles burst. Its meant to be consensual. If she refuses then politely let it slide. Don't fail her deliberately. These things have a way of returning to haunt you. Ask the uniben lecturer or the rest of his kin caught in the act. That she dresses provocatively is not reason enough for you to let loose of your self-control button and go romping like a dog in heat. Enough said.

Apination:
Women should as a matter of fact do their possible best to dress moderately so as to reduce the attention they draw to themselves. There would always be randy lecturers based on the existing standard, so it's not a debate on whether it's right or wrong

It doesn't justify an irresponsible behaviour!

So if the lecturer sees his daughter's nudity, he should sleep with her

And you all are here condemning MOYO that TVC presenter

Some lecturers even go for Muslims in hijab (covering)

So what do you have to say about that

Is like saying that people stole from you because they had a peep of your properties!

Let us jointly condemn It!

There is no justification for evil!

frbona:
their mode of dressing doesn't excuse the crime or the offenders. Its like defending a predator who sexually assaulted a lady on a beach wearing thongs.

Donbigi2:


In as much as you shouldn’t blame the victim.

Stop comparing Nigeria to US. In us there houses are not fenced or barbed wire like ours. Because their government has something in place to catch thieves.
Truth in Nigeria is. Only on special occasions will the lecture be dealt with. What’s best for you is dressing moderately because only you care about your interest in Nigeria.

sanpipita:


Sexual harassment is never about dress code wonder when you mor0ns will understand this

BlackManta:


If a woman is sexually harassed at a swimming pool, will you blame the woman for wearing bikini instead of Agbada or will you blame the pervert who sexually harassed her.

All this victim blaming is the reason why perpetrators of sexual harassment always gets away with it.

hergists:
In my third year in the university, my course supervisor invited me into his office. I was dressed in a tight shirt and a pair of jeans that accentuated my curves as usual. It all started as an educative session, and then conversation swerved uncomfortably.

He starts moving closer to me. “What shall I do?” says my mind, panicking. The man’s erection wilts despite his distraught efforts. He moved closer, started rubbing my hair and staring at my breasts.

“This isn’t right sir.”

I finally dared to speak up. He just kept telling me how we humans determine what’s right and wrong and how well things would go for me if I agree to sleep with him. I played him and found my way out of his office.

I don’t know a single person, no matter how cruel the harassment or the assault, who doesn’t feel some of that guilt and shame and wonders:

“Could I have done something differently? Perhaps it was my fault?”

When I saw that, I felt the beginning of what would be months of grief. It was my first realization that the academic system, that I thought was so meritorious, that I wanted to spend my life within was deeply unfair. I wouldn’t receive any justice, and he could go on and harass other women.

Frustrated and upset, I stopped attending his classes. Through hard work, I graduated as a distinctive student from his course.

Source: https://hergists.com/experience-sexual-harassment-university/

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Cc: Lalasticlala Myndd44 Seun

You handled it well dear!

I had a similar experience in my university days. I just quit going to his class

He asked of me from my coursemates, I just ignore

One day we came face to face, I just feigned sick

He wasn't even the only one.

Na God see me through fortunately I was brilliant.

Confronting them is inviting victimization! Who will you report to

Even their female colleagues takes their side women who should know better and offer advice on how to overcome such

Thank God for some NGOs who are now doing something.

Valerie47:
I had none, maybe cause I don't enter lecturers offices.

Fash20:



Is the class room or lecturers office a swimming pool? Until women learn to dress moderately they wont stop being rape victims.

speedyconnect3:


This a bad trend.

Don't blame the victims. Is there no harassments even in muslim countries where hijabs are worn?

Blame the perpetrators of the dastardly act.

Blame the lecturers who even go to the extent of trying to sleep with married women.

Didn't you see Prof Akindele's case? So you should blame the girl, a victim?

You shouldn't blame the victims. It's akin to blaming me for charging my phone in a restaurant where it got stolen instead of blaming the thief that stole it.

In the US women are legally allowed to go topless in most states.

Do you now rape them because they walked past with upper body naked?


Do you blame me for leaving my car open or you blame the thief that stole the car?

Will so blame you for leaving your car open .... Nonsense


Do you blame a rich man for being rich or you blame the kidnapper that kidnapped him?


Do you blame the examiner for leaving the hall or you blame the student for cheating?



List goes on.

Lucifer66:
There is no such thing as sexual harassment!
Women are whoreee and enjoy every bit of it!
It's just that our laws are biased and favour these useless creatures.
If Nigeria was a sensible country rape would be legal!

Admin401:
He specifically implied that he doesn't support sexual predators, why are you people in this part of the world so dumb? You can't point out something without being labeled as that thing, you can't discuss child predetors or adult predators without being terms a child predator or an adult predator what the fvck is wrong with you dumb stupid super-sensitive unintelligent people?

Lucifer66:
There is no such thing as sexual harassment!
Women are whoreee and enjoy every bit of it!
It's just that our laws are biased and favour these useless creatures.
If Nigeria was a sensible country rape would be legal!

Fash20:



Is the class room or lecturers office a swimming pool? Until women learn to dress moderately they wont stop being rape/ sexual harassment victims.

newsnjobs:
What would I call this scenario!

A girl in my class was complaining to me that a particular lecturer is disturbing her to give him her honeywell.

But on many occasions I normally see the girl sitting down in a class room directly opposite the lecturer office claiming to be reading.

And I ask myself, upon the whole class rooms everywhere, it is this one directly opposite this same lecturer that you said is harassing you that you come and sit down reading.

Fear God for for his judgement is great.

Fear APC for they are evil.

Fear women for your life.

Spatta:
I am a Lecturer, I am reading all your comments. It will be the Thesis for the Young Lazy girls in my department, especially the ones who roam around my office with seductive attires and rolling eyes, energized children of darkness sent to destroy me.
Oya, write on