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BuddhaPalm:
Chief my man...

I have a feeling this is all mental masturbātion for this guy.

He won't take any action.

demelza:
To hook a Nigerian man is very easy.

Simply pretend and act humble.

Be the first to apologise.

Kneel down and give him food.

In fact, pretend to be submissive

Before you know, you don marry.


@Op, sorry o!
Get a lawyer to help.

Fourwinds:
you are teaching the devil bad thing

15ssDRIVE:
Devil � Dey learn from woman �

Incomparable:
This is what always happens when a man desires a slave for a wife or vice visa then the bad ones study you and pretend along, just to hook you.

Had it been, you are the type that shows love and allow your girl to be herself, there wouldn't be any need for a monster to pretend to be an angel, just to hook you.

I pray God safes you from this mistake you've made. Next time, give more love than receiving, with that, the lady will feel too relax, and from there you'll know her true colour, otherwise, you will continue to get wolf in sheep's clothing as wife. People study other people's major weakness and use it as a strong weapon to defeat you. My opinion though.

Dyt:
coughs

na wa o

for 11 months she was the best but changed afterwards
that she even stabbed you

it is well my broda

AdetolaAdeniyi:
Well, I am a Christian and because of my faith, i would not advice you to divorce her. But, that does not mean you should be a fool. Leave the house if your life is in Danger.

EVILFOREST:
OKAFOR’s LAW
NEVER make the mistake of marrying a LADY you love more.
Settle for a LADY that LOVES you more.
Come back and thank me
For you will look ROBUST in that MARRIAGE.

You are suffering because you LOVE her so much and she doesn’t love you at all
SORRY MAN, always ask the elders

Endowed595:
Did jesus speak abt divorce in the bible? He said a man may divorce his wife only for one reason, and that being immortality!

MoxxxxO123:
In as much as you are experiencing this tough situation in your marriage divorce won't be a way out of this, firstly you take it to God in prayers..For the sake of your well being and your son find a way to act blind to her while you still make efforts for the marriage.dont seek divorce or separation at this time

Endowed595:
I totally get you. At first she was behaving well and you feel for it.
Dude! You have to man up!
In your own house a woman beats you up and stabs you!
She still relates with her ex's!
She has the nerve to threaten you!
Like whats the matter with you!
At first i thought and still do that all this was some sort of made up story but if its not, you need to stand up to her as a man.
1. Dont divorce her, beat the shit out her and kick her out
2. Beat the shit out of her and kick her out!
3. Beat the shit out of her and kick her out for heaven's sake!

Be a man!

I cant even take 1% of what i read in that story.
Best of Luck man!

royalamour:
Met in 2014 November.
Dated for 11 months. All these while she was so homely and accommodating.

She would call to let me know about her movements even when I did not ask for.

She would apologize at any slight opportunity.

It was all rosy.

The parents kept calling and advising me not to let other ladies win me over.

They would visit or call my parents at every given opportunity and I felt "this is it".

We got married almost a year later.

The first 2 weeks of the honeymoon was smooth until the 3rd week and bam! there was disagreement about money.

She stabbed me with a knife though the cut wasn't too deep. It took me months to catch up with reality as the lady I was dating was a total different person.

That was the journey of misery and then it was nagging, disrespect and stuffs until I caught her on the phone telling her ex that she misses him and sh1ts.

I was devastated. This lady refused to apologize. She won't even listen to me whenever I asked to have a heart to heart talk with her.

I had to involve her parents and it was by force before she apologized.

She got pregnant and 9 months later she was delivered of our first son.

2 weeks later, my attention was drawn to constant beeping on her phone and when I checked, my supposed wife was discussing with another of her ex about how tight and intact her vagina was cos she gave birth through CS. And the guy used to be jealous cos he enjoyed the sex they had as she was always tight and shits.

I was devastated. I drew her attention to it and she denied feigning ignorance. It was when I showed her screenshots that she accepted and asked me to forget about it, that what has happened has happened.

She would never say sorry. So called her elder brother and he begged me and begged her to apologize, still she won't.

I reported to the mother. This didn't help matters. The aunts numbering about 4 had to beg on her behalf.
I let it slide.

Things got worse and it came to a point where she would not cook. Even times when I return home from long journeys, I most times will have to go into the kitchen to sort myself.

Mum got sick and I asked that she come to us so that we can go to bigger hospital for proper check up and hell was let loose.

She stopped cooking and would only cook whenever she desires.

Time past and my life became almost miserable.

I would close from the office and won't be able to go home. I would stroll into a beer parlour and while away time till maybe 10pm and would sneak out very early even before she wakes up.

Earlier in 2016, I had empowered her with 1.2 million to start a business and one dime I didn't see as return on investment with her citing low patronage as the reason for the collapse of the business.

It was until the elder brother who was staying with us asked her for money and she refused that the dude disclosed that she made about 2.6 million from sales of items and services she rendered in the shop she denied making nothing from. She could not deny this fact but for my son I let it slide.

My wife would bring her female friend into the home and this lady even when she was engaged to a guy still go out to sleep with other guys.
I asked her to stop been friends with her and she blatantly refused. She would go ahead to invite the lady into my home and rain insults on me because I don't want them together.

This final one was the calls she was making with her ex most times when I was away in the office.
I noticed and she couldn't deny it. I later learnt that her cheat of a friend was the middle person that delivers messages to my wife whenever I was around.

I can't take it anymore.

I don't wanna die before my time.

I can't eat in my house anymore as she threatened to poison me and nothing will happen. This was let out in a heat of a moment while we were exchanging words.

What's the express way to divorce without complications?

NB: The dad has asked me to quit before I start to develop HBP.

She would never say sorry. So called her elder brother and he begged me and begged her to apologize, still she won't.

I reported to the mother. This didn't help matters. The aunts numbering about 4 had to beg on her behalf.
I let it slide.

I would close from the office and won't be able to go home. I would stroll into a beer parlour and while away time till maybe 10pm and would sneak out very early even before she wakes up.

id4sho:
it's very unfortunate, they will cry later. What people do for riches amuses me.

demelza:
To hook a Nigerian man is very easy.

Simply pretend and act humble.

Be the first to apologise.

Kneel down and give him food.

In fact, pretend to be submissive

Before you know, you don marry.


@Op, sorry o!
Get a lawyer to help.

royalamour:
Met in 2014 November.
Dated for 11 months. All these while she was so homely and accommodating.

She would call to let me know about her movements even when I did not ask for.

She would apologize at any slight opportunity.

It was all rosy.

The parents kept calling and advising me not to let other ladies win me over.

They would visit or call my parents at every given opportunity and I felt "this is it".

We got married almost a year later.

The first 2 weeks of the honeymoon was smooth until the 3rd week and bam! there was disagreement about money.

She stabbed me with a knife though the cut wasn't too deep. It took me months to catch up with reality as the lady I was dating was a total different person.

That was the journey of misery and then it was nagging, disrespect and stuffs until I caught her on the phone telling her ex that she misses him and sh1ts.

I was devastated. This lady refused to apologize. She won't even listen to me whenever I asked to have a heart to heart talk with her.

I had to involve her parents and it was by force before she apologized.

She got pregnant and 9 months later she was delivered of our first son.

2 weeks later, my attention was drawn to constant beeping on her phone and when I checked, my supposed wife was discussing with another of her ex about how tight and intact her vagina was cos she gave birth through CS. And the guy used to be jealous cos he enjoyed the sex they had as she was always tight and shits.

I was devastated. I drew her attention to it and she denied feigning ignorance. It was when I showed her screenshots that she accepted and asked me to forget about it, that what has happened has happened.

She would never say sorry. So called her elder brother and he begged me and begged her to apologize, still she won't.

I reported to the mother. This didn't help matters. The aunts numbering about 4 had to beg on her behalf.
I let it slide.

Things got worse and it came to a point where she would not cook. Even times when I return home from long journeys, I most times will have to go into the kitchen to sort myself.

Mum got sick and I asked that she come to us so that we can go to bigger hospital for proper check up and hell was let loose.

She stopped cooking and would only cook whenever she desires.

Time past and my life became almost miserable.

I would close from the office and won't be able to go home. I would stroll into a beer parlour and while away time till maybe 10pm and would sneak out very early even before she wakes up.

Earlier in 2016, I had empowered her with 1.2 million to start a business and one dime I didn't see as return on investment with her citing low patronage as the reason for the collapse of the business.

It was until the elder brother who was staying with us asked her for money and she refused that the dude disclosed that she made about 2.6 million from sales of items and services she rendered in the shop she denied making nothing from. She could not deny this fact but for my son I let it slide.

My wife would bring her female friend into the home and this lady even when she was engaged to a guy still go out to sleep with other guys.
I asked her to stop been friends with her and she blatantly refused. She would go ahead to invite the lady into my home and rain insults on me because I don't want them together.

This final one was the calls she was making with her ex most times when I was away in the office.
I noticed and she couldn't deny it. I later learnt that her cheat of a friend was the middle person that delivers messages to my wife whenever I was around.

I can't take it anymore.

I don't wanna die before my time.

I can't eat in my house anymore as she threatened to poison me and nothing will happen. This was let out in a heat of a moment while we were exchanging words.

What's the express way to divorce without complications?

NB: The dad has asked me to quit before I start to develop HBP.

amhelpless:
having baby mamas is far better than marriage nowadays, I already have 2 baby mamas just waiting for my ex that left me when I was broke then, she has been trying to come back now, I can't wait to get her pregnant, by the time the baby is 3 months , I will get another baby Mama.

that will make it 4 kids.. boom!!
I'm done with child bearing..
I can't come and die because of one lazy girl.

Endowed595:
I totally get you. At first she was behaving well and you feel for it.
Dude! You have to man up!
In your own house a woman beats you up and stabs you!
She still relates with her ex's!
She has the nerve to threaten you!
Like whats the matter with you!
At first i thought and still do that all this was some sort of made up story but if its not, you need to stand up to her as a man.
1. Dont divorce her, beat the shit out her and kick her out
2. Beat the shit out of her and kick her out!
3. Beat the shit out of her and kick her out for heaven's sake!

Be a man!

I cant even take 1% of what i read in that story.
Best of Luck man!

Adiwana:
If this mumu of an op divorces his wife then he's a greater fool than i imagine.Everybody is saying divorce.Divorce for what??You saw texts and you know she's fvking her side nigga,smash that phone on the ground.She attempts to fight you,you are a man ffs overpower her and the throw her out of your house.She said heaven will not fall if she poisons you,then the gates of hell will not stand in your way if you smash that her phone on the ground.Stamp your authority in your house you this weakling.Bring out that beast in you and fling her shit out of the door.Seize that child once you've conducted a DNA test and guess what,nothing will happen.Let her go and marry that nigga she's smashing.African culture maintains he will not marry her so far as she's still married to you.Let her bring back her Dowry and let the son stay with you.By tradition he bears your name and will not go to his mothers house.You are in charge here.Lock her up if she persists and keeps on harassing you.Do something you lil livered mf and show her you paid for her Dowry not the other way round.You initiating that divorce move will automatically seal your fate.MAN UP FOOL

gaby:
Hmmm...deep

Bro, you do not need to get divorced before you run to save your head first, [s]divorce will come in its time most likely from her even, because she'd certainly need to move on.[/s]
My brother, e better say man no get wife than to get the one wey go dey make you fear to go house. ..

So I take run leave my problem o. Who divorce and lawyer help....life first man..

EfemenaXY:
Divorce. Divorce. Divorce.

Divorce isn’t always the answer to marital problems and should never be taken lightly especially when there are children involved.

This should only ever be the last resort if all else has failed.

Besides, there’s always three sides to every story:

~ His side
~ Her side
~ The truth

Based purely on your side of the story, you need to do some serious soul searching and ask yourself why your wife changed overnight.

The first few years of marriage are the honeymoon stage. You courted this woman for 11 months. That’s quite a while to have studied her. There is no way a person can keep up the pretence for 11 long months (unless yours was a long distance relationship?). There must have been red flags. You just chose to ignore them.

Nonetheless, there HAS to be a reason why she’s suddenly turned 360^os on you. Obviously there appears to be:

1. An emotional black hole in your relationship. The ex turning up is a symptom of the underlying issues with your marriage. A woman would only turn to an ex or another man if her emotional needs aren’t being met. For example when discussing with your wife, do you seek her opinion / input or do you wave aside her views? Do you say “Thank you” to make her feel appreciated when she gives / does something you are a recipient of? What is your sex life like with her? Do you take the time to satisfy her needs? Or is it all about you, you, and you? Is life with you one endless boring routine? Or do you make efforts to spice it up?

2. Trust Issues. When a wife starts stashing away huge sums of cash in secret, it means she’s preparing a nest egg for herself and her kids without you in the picture. Most times this action arises from betrayal or if she perceives you to have betrayed her. Have you ever cheated on her? Or done something to make her feel insecure in your union?

3. Immaturity. A refusal to acknowledge one’s fault / mistake and apologise accordingly is usually down to misplaced pride and immaturity. Wisdom comes with age. How old is your wife?

For a marriage to work, both parties have to roll up their sleeves and get stuck in. You have to ask yourself if there’s any part of you that wants to salvage the marriage. If you do, then you need to ask your wife if she’s still interested in the marriage too.

If the answer is “yes” from both of you, then both of you need to make the effort to save it. Start by seeking help from a neutral third party such as a marriage counsellor. Book a couple of sessions with them so you and wifey can talk through your issues.

Your problems didn’t start today. They’ve festered for over four years so you need to be patient and not expect everything to be miraculously resolved in one day. A lot of patience, perseverance, and constant communication will be needed to get your relationship back to a healthy state.

It is well.

millionboi2:
hahahahaha


Do u want to impregnate all d whole gals