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Yewandequeen:
Not true.

Aint all about intelligence or affliction sometimes you need to work smart. That you are intelligent doesnt mean every thing will be rosy for you. You need to know some basics in life, bycut where necessary to make it.
You can be intelligent educationally and not smart socially/streetwise but i put it to you that you need these two with Gods help to make it.

I need that streetwise OT
Reach me on o8o62714868 I would be grateful

MyGeneration:
Sometimes it's when the child looses focus. I am a living example of that sha genius from primary school I was a big fan of dexter from Cartoon Network and jimmy neutron from nickelodeon I was practically a nerd that people made fun of because of my way of thinking. I started reading chemistry and physics text books when I was in Jss getting admission was beans but once I got to university distractions finished me girls in particular because when I was smaller and seen as a nerd no girl ever looked our way so once we were in uni we wanted to do it all. We fell down the ladder graduated with poor grades and had to struggle but someone who is great is destined to be great it's always in you just find your way. I refused to work coz I know I am a problem solver I went into business when my mates were getting jobs it wasn't easy but we are still going up that ladder

Bro I have similar story but just that I’m still in university and can still push one last effort coz I’m in my LAW finals and can’t afford to have extra year on me . You can tell me more on how you overcome your challenges so I can learn too �

franchasng:
That guy you quoted made some valid points.

It is not entirely good for a child to be raised being introvert. Extroverts tend to make it faster in life during adulthood than most introverts and its because extroverts learn to mix up with life and overcome real life challenges faster than introverts
Even in girl child, extrovertic girls get married to more promising men than introvertic girls who confine themselves in the house without mixing up and making meaningful male friends.
And not all rich kids end up rich, I have some as mated who are struggling today while the ones born poor and in average families are very successful today.

At the bolded, O please don't give me that crap! You think going to clubbing and fucking everyone is making it in life.. Or that introverts don't face challenges and you are the one who pulls them out of it when they do. Do you even know what it means to be introverted to begin with.. Some introverts are social too.. have friends.. very outspoken.. they just enjoy spending time with themselves more..Go read.
And I never said all rich kids remain rich.. I said 95%. And for the record..? MOST people born poor REMAIN POOR! Your friends might be successful.. but what about the rest of the world?

CreepyBlackpool:
should I?

You described me. I thought you knew me

vingeophysicist:
most importantly is discovering what you are born to do on earth.

How Sir?

monimekaz:
I used to be this bright child but I must confess I have not achieved anything as an adult .Dreams are turning nightmares .They said we should get skills that certificate is not enough,got some IT skills etc but none is getting me close to my dream .My talent just there wasting ,depression setting and no one seems to believe in you anymore .It is heartbreaking.

Maybe try and go out of your comfort zone.
You can't stay one place and be shouting there is no improvement. Do things that scare you.. take a risk that will change your life! This world is a possibility.. there is always something out there.

Ozkar:
yes, opinion not fact. If you state opinions like they are facts, the least you can do is back them up.

There are more introverts in the top 10 richest list, yet extroverts are the ones that make it in the world. Well done sir.

You dey mind the guy
Most people don't actually know that success comes from within.. change your mind and you change your life. Extrovert ko!

Jayhazard:
This is why people who do not possess certain qualities should not get jealous of those who do, and those who do should not look down on those who don't. Life is so unpredictable! You can't tell where you'll end tomorrow. No matter how much you try to do things in your power, external factors will always be involved. Nothing dey this life mehn!

Word

millionboi2:
mine is dat I failed over and over again in my attempt to build up financially...... ideas pooping here and dia and non ve worked yet,but I'm 100%sure dat some days I will break out never to go down with d help of dis experiences.


So bro bliv u me,some days wat will be will be.

I'm a star and will by God's grace end a star datz my bliv.

You've got ideas. You are a star!

monimekaz:
I used to be this bright child but I must confess I have not achieved anything as an adult .Dreams are turning nightmares .They said we should get skills that certificate is not enough,got some IT skills etc but none is getting me close to my dream .My talent just there wasting ,depression setting and no one seems to believe in you anymore .It is heartbreaking.

Take heart. Don't lose hope.
It will be nice if you can tell your background, academic, that way people here might be able to advice and direct you accordingly to achieve greatness.

monimekaz:
You can't believe I have gone back to learn phone repair from a guy who didn't even finish jss3 and even older than him. I just need money to push my dream and I can never steal or do anything that will tarnish my name .I just want to succeed in life .

And you will. Nothing better than an honest heart.

aboyaji:
Spiritual attribution to some natural happenings can't be much emphasized. I am a victim of all these aforementioned and a lot of friends I have are too.

Inhibition itself should not be ignored in this regard. Fear of the unknown, self constraints, very spiritual family background. All the listed play a very big role in a child's disposition.

Almost 3 of my friends are facing this same fate. Very brilliant, highly knowledgeable. I'm not exaggerating. They are all graduates with 2.1, 2.2 and all but nothing much on their side.

Is it English or laws of physics and mathematics and all Albert Einstein's notations we come this world for?

Is it watching other people's car zoom pass us or looking at big mansions and salivating that we come to see?

Is it solving university problems for undergraduates and correcting every m]stakes and impressions and following the main Oga behind like dog in a bid to get daily chopins like 1k or 2 we come for?

Most times, it's the extroverts that make it in this world. Parents should balance the weighing scale they use while raising a child.

Thanks.

A man in quest of success must be street smart and school smart.

But no matter how smart, having something from your parents to start out with is very crucial.

Today, I go to learn how to do menial works, not because of myself, but because of the children,

you must hand them some valuable skills, to tell them wealth can be made this way or that way.

Raised by my mum, a good spender but still a hardworking woman. I don't want to be like that.

I don't want to do business the way mum did business. She did all just to raise us her children.

She has thus shown me how to fail in business. Business is meant to enrich you like it or not.

Education is meant to make you wiser, and the wisdom to guide you to success, while working.

Success is not out there or on the pages of books and paper, it is in being effective and efficient.

To succeed, you must but try, learn, practice, fail, try again until you find your bearing in life later.

There are early risers and there are late bloomers, you can choose to be one and stick to it to success.

Not to try at either of this two at all is when one is jinxed and cursed to a painful life of penury and failure.

face your fear, don't run away from it, and don't worry that you will fail, only worry on how you will succeed.

millionboi2:
datz is just ur opinion.


We are Africans and things like dis hapns here,we call it black magic.

Will save you lots if you quit believing in trash like that..

[b] I have to say that this OP is not clever at all. Baba have you ever heard of something called "book-smart vs street-smart"? That apart, how dare you assume that because someone is brilliant in school(brilliance and intelligence are two totally different terms, OK), it then means they are going to do well in life? Let me tell you, life is not black and white. Neither is it one smooth sail to anywhere. They are lots of twists and turns and bumps and all what not. It works out well for some and it doesn't for others.

Take me for instance. Let me tell you what a high school mate said to me recently. She said..." John, going by your exploits back in school, I felt you shld be the person deciding which of these multi nationals that you want to work with" It made me really sad. But I'm not depressed. I know I have my whole future ahead of me. Everything is up to me still.

And so you know, this your voo doo village people mumbo-jumbo is exactly what it is....Mumbo-Jumbo!!! [/b]

aboyaji:
remind me, are there Nigerians in the top 10 list?

There are places where things work than others. If you're an introvert in Nigeria and wish to vie positions with others in Nigeria, you'll be stamped and trampled on.

I use myself as example so much because, I'm facing life in its full capacity.

I'm now into pneumatic engineering. An apprentice in his 29. I'm facing life squarely because I'm the autobigrapher of my life. I'm pushing all angles to learn a skill or two. I don't want to give flimsy excuses to my unborn kids and the living family why I have not made it till this moment. I'm still squatting in my bro's house. This my bro didn't go to university but has a two bedroom clean house that reeks of opulence. He hustles for real. Has his car and married with two kids. He's an extrovert to the core. As I'm typing, we're at a bar and I'm finding it hard coping with wild life or this type of lifestyle due to inhibition. It pulls me down and I fight it with whatever strength I have. The inhibition started from home training.

But talk about business sense, whatever one can do to get money, I'm always alert and alive to churn out a handful of lists.

Different strokes for different folks.

oga, whatever issue you have is not because you are introverted. You simply aren't selling any value others are willing to pay for. It's not about churning out lists. Being full of self pity or blaming introversion wouldn't change a thing either.

Think of a societal/global need/problem. Come up with a marketable solution. There's no rich person that became rich simply by churning out lists, they get to work providing solutions and getting paid for it. When people 'hustle', they do just that - only on a smaller scale.

NB: introversion is not even the same as social inhibition. One is cognitive and natural. The other is behavioral and learned.

Please remove connection from it. All boils down to God's favour cos if you know someone and God doesn't put it in the heart of the person to help you, he will still not help you.

davillian:
The thing is that life doesn't present everybody with the same opportunity.
Such people might not have the opportunity to even attend the university.
I have people who lost their sponsors in the university and had to work while schooling and in most case it will affect their grades that doesn't mean they dont know anything.
I believe its by opportunity ,connection and Gods favour one can be come successful .

franchasng:
Shutup! Some things are beyond your stupid understanding, this poster made pure sense.

While growing up, I was the brightest star from nursery to higher institution level, I graduated as 3rd best graduating student. I got offers, and sometimes to last stage interviews in top oil firms and blue chip firms, at the end, I won't hear from the HR departments again for no reason after excellent performance at interviews.

I never failed any job aptitude text or exam, Mobil, chevron, total, nlng, shell, Schlumberger, DHL, NNPC, globacom, NBC, just think of any top firm u know, I passed their aptitude test and interviews, and some I stopped at aptitude test no hearing from HR again.

People I was better than back in school got good jobs, mine was different.

If not for the excess star and favor from God Almighty, I may have ended up a pauper begging others but my star is too much for enemy to stop, they only delayed my progress but couldn't stop it entirely cos I later found my blessing in self development and entrepreneurship and today, I am a startup company owner with greater potentials by the awesome grace of God.

So not everything you argue or try to act western when u are born black monkey in a black African nation filled with wickedness.

You better wake up and embrace your God before enemies use your life to play ludo.

If your parents are rich, its not a guarantee that u won't suffer cos I have lots of people that their parents used to be rich while growing up but today, they are struggling, so open your eyes on time and stop arguing stupidly

Can i send you a dm Sir....wanna chat with you

Ozkar:
oga, whatever issue you have is not because you are introverted. You simply aren't selling any value others are willing to pay for. It's not about churning out lists. Being full of self pity or blaming introversion wouldn't change a thing either.

Think of a societal/global need/problem. Come up with a marketable solution. There's no rich person that became rich simply by churning out lists, they get to work providing solutions and getting paid for it. When people 'hustle', they do just that - only on a smaller scale.

NB: introversion is not even the same as social inhibition. One is cognitive and natural. The other is behavioral and learned.

You See, you've been adamant to details. I never cast aspersions on some group of things. I was highlighting possible cause of mine. Everything I said was personal.

And about solving problems, it's always easier said than done. Need I tell you my life before you'd believe or see reasons or understand?

Life is not scripted. The more we live, the more we explore. No one knows it all.

And some might be rich today, but poor tomorrow. How then do you juxtapose that? There are things greater than our imaginations. You might say the poor didn't plan well, hence his crash. Things do not always have one particular direction it flows. Corners are cut. Distractions abound.

Life is life.

franchasng:
Shutup! Some things are beyond your stupid understanding, this poster made pure sense.

While growing up, I was the brightest star from nursery to higher institution level, I graduated as 3rd best graduating student. I got offers, and sometimes to last stage interviews in top oil firms and blue chip firms, at the end, I won't hear from the HR departments again for no reason after excellent performance at interviews.

I never failed any job aptitude text or exam, Mobil, chevron, total, nlng, shell, Schlumberger, DHL, NNPC, globacom, NBC, just think of any top firm u know, I passed their aptitude test and interviews, and some I stopped at aptitude test no hearing from HR again.

People I was better than back in school got good jobs, mine was different.

If not for the excess star and favor from God Almighty, I may have ended up a pauper begging others but my star is too much for enemy to stop, they only delayed my progress but couldn't stop it entirely cos I later found my blessing in self development and entrepreneurship and today, I am a startup company owner with greater potentials by the awesome grace of God.

So not everything you argue or try to act western when u are born black monkey in a black African nation filled with wickedness.

You better wake up and embrace your God before enemies use your life to play ludo.

If your parents are rich, its not a guarantee that u won't suffer cos I have lots of people that their parents used to be rich while growing up but today, they are struggling, so open your eyes on time and stop arguing stupidly

Please what did you do for your star to shine. I have a similar story too. I noticed that since I traveled to village for post ume something in me changed my secondary school friends said he thought I would graduate with a first class. In the university I lost interest in studying so I focused on biz. A guy in my school told me that the way i act I want to go far that I can't be ordinary to go far is either I hold Christian God tight or protect myself the other way.

I have had this advice over and over again and I notice that whenever I pray seriously I see automatic results.

A doctor once told me that if I don't do something my certificate will be ordinary paper.

The thing is this our parents never told us the world is jungle. They gave us good training and always do the right thing but is this our world only physical, I really doubt it

absoluteSuccess:
A man in quest of success must be street smart and school smart.

But no matter how smart, having something from your parents to start out with is very crucial.

Today, I go to learn how to do menial works, not because of myself, but because of the children,

you must hand them some valuable skills, to tell them wealth can be made this way or that way.

Raised by my mum, a good spender but still a hardworking woman. I don't want to be like that.

I don't want to do business the way mum did business. She did all just to raise us her children.

She has thus shown me how to fail in business. Business is meant to enrich you like it or not.

Education is meant to make you wiser, and the wisdom to guide you to success, while working.

Success is not out there or on the pages of books and paper, it is in being effective and efficient.

To succeed, you must but try, learn, practice, fail, try again until you find your bearing in life later.

There are early risers and there are late bloomers, you can choose to be one and stick to it to success.

Not to try at either of this two at all is when one is jinxed and cursed to a painful life of penury and failure.

face your fear, don't run away from it, and don't worry that you will fail, only worry on how you will succeed.

1 like from me to you.

You are wise. Your comment is devoid of vulgarity and hate. You are a good person.

Thanks

karlboss:
Please what did you do for your star to shine. I have a similar story too. I noticed that since I traveled to village for post ume something in me changed my secondary school friends said he thought I would graduate with a first class. In the university I lost interest in studying so I focused on biz. A guy in my school told me that the way i act I want to go far that I can't be ordinary to go far is either I hold Christian God tight or protect myself the other way.

I have had this advice over and over again and I notice that whenever I pray seriously I see automatic results.

A doctor once told me that if I don't do something my certificate will be ordinary paper.

The thing is this our parents never told us the world is jungle. They gave us good training and always do the right thing but is this our world only physical, I really doubt it

Bros, yours is a case of discovering yourself. I was once in your shoes. Don't mind people telling you to do juju or anything. Just ask Baba God for wisdom. Always do.

Move out from your comfort zones. Try new things. Do things you've never and have been afraid of doing (good things o).

Meet people, hang out, but with moderation and wisdom. Your light will come.

monimekaz:
I used to be this bright child but I must confess I have not achieved anything as an adult .Dreams are turning nightmares .They said we should get skills that certificate is not enough,got some IT skills etc but none is getting me close to my dream .My talent just there wasting ,depression setting and no one seems to believe in you anymore .It is heartbreaking.

Do you have a hobby you can monetize...
Consider doing this..

Increases your EQ not IQ
Cements some of the HR /people skills you'll need in the future.. Attitudinal skills... Tenacity Initiative building bridges

Work on this hobby till you get sth very concrete or be set up as an entrepreneur... But remember to have a mentor or coach.. Learning on the job..

I receive your thanks ahead of time, fully aware this will work for you.



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smeag0l:
Please remove connection from it. All boils down to God's favour cos if you know someone and God doesn't put it in the heart of the person to help you, he will still not help you.

Connection is when you know someone that knows someone that knows someone that knows someone.
The person doesn't need to know you.

Intelligence should have focus in making money not only book alone.

I mean the intelligent ones should be intelligent enough to figure out money

CreepyBlackpool:
There's no such thing as star being blocked

no village people involved.


He stopped reading and started failing, simple as that!

It difficult to explain these stuff. I have had this experience. When I say worked hard and smart during my BEng days, believe me, I worked more when compared to CR7 during his training sessions. Primary school days, I was tops.

However, after university it all changed. Opportunities (job adverts) failed to materialize; I even assisted friends in job applications (virtually same format), they were invited but I wasn't. Even, the jobs that I made to interview stage, I ended up encountering horrific rejection from my interviewers. The worst thing is that I got a job offer, accepted it, three days later I was told that offer no longer existed.

I ended up working in institutions I never imagined I would work in, the funny thing about my job was that I was never allowed to practice what I was employed for instead I was asked to join touts to recover revenue (agboro-work) despite my MSc and BEng in EE.

I thank God for the lady I met (she is my wife now though), she introduced me to MFM. Na for MFM, I pray scatter the nonsense cage wey hold me down. First, my supervisor was transfered and another brought in; this new supervisor allowed me to practice my EE, na there people eye open say I sabi the work die. About a year and half later, I have moved to international organization. Even the small things I do in my new organization (things i consider ordinary as in not worthy to mention) are praised all the time, my name keeps ringing at the HQ for performance.

I am getting closer to God and I am learning how to fight spiritually - MFM dey teach plenty things. There is wickedness everywhere, we need to understand that we need fight the battles of life physically and spiritually.

'''
Ephesians 6:10-18
10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.

11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.

12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

14 Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;

15 And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;

16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.

17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:

18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;'''

Brother, you've said it all. When certain things happen extraordinarily, the best bet is to go spiritual. Spiritual problems are solved with spiritual solutions. MFM is the place to be,I know what I'm saying. God bless MFM & D.K. Olukoya.

saintneo:
It difficult to explain these stuff. I have had this experience. When I say worked hard and smart during my BEng days, believe me, I worked more when compared to CR7 during his training sessions. Primary school days, I was tops.

However, after university it all changed. Opportunities (job adverts) failed to materialize; I even assisted friends in job applications (virtually same format), they were invited but I wasn't. Even, the jobs that I made to interview stage, I ended up encountering horrific rejection from my interviewers. The worst thing is that I got a job offer, accepted it, three days later I was told that offer no longer existed.

I ended up working in institutions I never imagined I would work in, the funny thing about my job was that I was never allowed to practice what I was employed for instead I was asked to join touts to recover revenue (agboro-work) despite my MSc and BEng in EE.

I thank God for the lady I met (she is my wife now though), she introduced me to MFM. Na for MFM, I pray scatter the nonsense cage wey hold me down. First, my supervisor was transfered and another brought in; this new supervisor allowed me to practice my EE, na there people eye open say I sabi the work die. About a year and half later, I have moved to international organization. Even the small things I do in my new organization (things i consider ordinary as in not worthy to mention) are praised all the time, my name keeps ringing at the HQ for performance.

I am getting closer to God and I am learning how to fight spiritually - MFM dey teach plenty things. There is wickedness everywhere, we need to understand that we need fight the battles of life physically and spiritually.

Tundexxy:
Can i send you a dm Sir....wanna chat with you

No problem, feel free to.

Hmmm! This is really a complicated matter from whichever angle one is seeing it, we are truly born equal but with different opportunities, challenges and background history. Western education has never been a sure way to success, just Nigerian way of thinking about education that has made us dwelling in that ocean of thought as no one can tell which way because the same rice "B" is selling and doing wonderfully great and "A" is swimming in the pool of poverty and wretchedness. Example of life is like a psychologist or mind reader trying to tell you exact thinking of your plans of years to come when it has never been discussed with no one before, nah they can only guess and perhaps get close and not even closer, let alone exact... This explains more about life, The master planner is only ONE who is with the original book of destiny. Make as alot of efforts as you can and pray more, HE sees and knows unseen and unknown.

aboyaji:
1 like from me to you.

You are wise. Your comment is devoid of vulgarity and hate. You are a good person.

Thanks

Thanks my bro, God bless you.

One of the tools to success in life is our relationship with people, give your best to them no matter what.

May God grant all your petition with health and wealth in abundance this new year.

Sarang:
At the bolded, O please don't give me that crap! You think going to clubbing and fucking everyone is making it in life.. Or that introverts don't face challenges and you are the one who pulls them out of it when they do. Do you even know what it means to be introverted to begin with.. Some introverts are social too.. have friends.. very outspoken.. they just enjoy spending time with themselves more..Go read.
And I never said all rich kids remain rich.. I said 95%. And for the record..? MOST people born poor REMAIN POOR! Your friends might be successful.. but what about the rest of the world?

For your info, I am a confirmed introvert, so when I speak, I speak from experience.

I am that book worm, that most intelligent student or guy you can ever imagine. I read 4 novels a day while growing up and even after graduation. I rarely go out, I bury my life inside books, reading everything readable back then, from textbooks of all subjects (science, arts, commerce, history), I finished reading Oxford English dictionary from cover to cover in 3 years, almost did same for Bible.

I started solving calculus in secondary school on my own without anybody teaching me, I broke record, my maths teacher got marveled. I was teaching JAMB students that senior me further maths, integration, etc while I was still in SS2. I helped lots of people pass WAEC and JAMB by helping them sit for exams, even while in first year, I was helping people in 300lv write their department exam, they just bring their textbook close to exam and I read and that's all. I am born genius to the glory of God, so I know what I am telling you, you won't understand it sha.

There is no novel written between 1990 - 2010 I haven't read; foreign and local.

I have participated and won so many local and foreign competitions. I have done things you will hear and marvel. I have friends but I hardly go out to visit them, they visit me at home instead.

I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't womanise, I started responding to ladies not long ago, I never had a girlfriend growing up. I was over religious growing up that I feared girls nearing me.

The only bad habit I picked up after graduation was masturbation.

So when I speak to you, listen to me.

I have all manner of friends you can think of; good and bad, cultists and pastors back then in school.

I am that kind of brainy student you know that because of his being too good, even cultists befriend me and come to me to confess their sins and ask me to pray for them.

I saved some student neighbors back in school from being forcefully initiated into cults as some cult leaders in my school will come tell me some of their plans to forcefully initiate some neighbors and I will plead on their behalf and they listen to me.

I have friends who are like me, some graduated with first class from OAU, UNN, etc, so I have all manner of friends u can think of; both those from rich family and those from very wretched family.

You seem to be talking based on hearsay, but I am talking to u based on personal real life experience, most extroverts make it faster in life after school than most introverts, its a fact.

Introverts also end up successful, but it take them more time and effort. It took me a lot of determination, consistency and perseverance to overcome my introvertic life which seemed to hold me down a lot in the past.

As for rich kids, from my personal life experience, children born by average and poor parents tend to make it more than rich kids.

Maybe you are considering Dangote's son inheriting his father's companies as being rich.

Go and check, if Dangote is worth $10billion before he dies, after he dies and his son inherits his wealth, check after 10yrs, the wealth will reduce to like $4billion, yes he is still rich but he has become poorer than his father left.

Most rich parents fail to inculcate hardwork, financial management and money wisdom skills into their rich kids, and this affect the kids later in life when their rich parents are dead and gone, that's why you hardly hear the name of children of former rich people becoming richer, especially in Nigeria, why

Their kids either kept eating and selling off their parents properties and investment to live luxury life, without knowing how to brainstorm, hustle and make their own money to increase their family fortune.

Most rich kids can't stand on their own without their rich parents connecting them to top paying jobs, and making them company executives which they most times run down, or haven't you read the viral news of Diamond Bank Plc founder Edozie whose rich son has managed to run down Diamond Bank of recent

Its always like that, so your assumptions are not entirely true, look at them again

Tundexxy:
How Sir?

you discover yourself by reading and studying. Socrates knew the advantage of this that was why he said "Man know thyself".Channel your energy toward growing your innate ability and life will be much easier.

karlboss:
Please what did you do for your star to shine. I have a similar story too. I noticed that since I traveled to village for post ume something in me changed my secondary school friends said he thought I would graduate with a first class. In the university I lost interest in studying so I focused on biz. A guy in my school told me that the way i act I want to go far that I can't be ordinary to go far is either I hold Christian God tight or protect myself the other way.

I have had this advice over and over again and I notice that whenever I pray seriously I see automatic results.

A doctor once told me that if I don't do something my certificate will be ordinary paper.

The thing is this our parents never told us the world is jungle. They gave us good training and always do the right thing but is this our world only physical, I really doubt it

You need to make a sincere covenant with God on your own. Go to any Church you strongly believe in, I will suggest any of the old Orthodox Churches like Anglican, Catholic, etc that weren't built by one man. Go to the altar on your own one day, maybe during evening time, confess your sins to God not man, tell God all your evil ways and how bad you have been, then make a promise to God never to go back to those things and ask Him to help you keep to it.

Then promise God something special. Whatever comes to your mind. You can decide to close your bank account and withdraw all money and go and use it to do a rare pledge or job for God.

You can donate it for the building of house of God anywhere your spirit leads you.

Then try your best to be close to God. Then ask God for one favor in your life, just one favor.

You can start with 21 days fasting and prayer and on the day of your closing the 21 days fasting, use that money to redeem the pledge you made to God alone, and then sing and dance on your own with joy in celebration of your victory ahead.

God answers prayer if we ask with faith, total focus and without doubt