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Zedoo:
I wonder if some people really have brain matter.

What is wrong with women owning some shett around this bxtch?? Heh? Heh
Don't men buy shett without telling no one?

Its called insurance.

Women need their own shett too just in case the bxtch in men come out.

Its 2019.

Can y'all stop thinking like uncivilized coons

Gaddamnit.

Before buying things I always inform NOT seek consent, especially consent of every relevant human being in my life. I struggled to make that money and unless you are an asset consultant I do not need to seek your consent.
So many men are bad managers and they often comes from family of poor decision makers so why seek their CONSENT instead of just informing and moving on.
If you are married to this new brand of destiny crushers and serial arsonist husbands, be careful when seeking consent or informing them or you will one day find your sweat burnt to the ground while they expect you to cherish theirs or even continue languishing in poverty with them.
Everybody should secure themselves as the divorce rates is increasing and it seems Nigeria is catching up. This is the reality...you can argue with your keyboard.

ibizgirl:
This issue has broken a lot of homes. The basic thing in any marriage is know your spouse. That Mrs A tried it and it worked does not mean Mrs B will try it and it will work.

Some courtship na just 3months ,courtship followed by marriage. becus money just arrive, some guys go pick random girl for church or for street or campus and quickly do marriage, I intend to live with my girlfriend even give her belle dats if she is presentable and do marriage after wards, in a way dat after d marriage life will still continue and every activities still goes on in d hux,

Cus I don observe say nigeria girls too hold marriage with high esteem and I go porge them and delay dat marriage make dat high esteem die

For every selfish woman you know, there are at least 50 selfish men. Women have learned to be wise. They learnt it the hard way. They learnt from the experiences of friends, relatives and close associates.
I know some women who after being married for over 30 years, their husbands sent them packing with nothing, I mean nothing; and then brought another woman into the house.

So many men today buy properties without informing their wives. So why should the woman inform the man when it's time to buy hers. As the saying goes, what's good for the goose.......

eagleeye2:
I like this type of topic, because it exposes the hypocrisy in many women. It's okay to buy and own properties and other investments in your name as a lady and a free human (married or not). But why do that without your husbands knowledge.
Someone talked about writing a will and putting documents in banks vault. As if it's not a human that will write the Will or serve as the banker to help you safeguard the documents.
Have you ever wondered why there are so many abandoned monies in the banks? So many unclaimed real estates (especially landed properties) ?
If you are married, why all the secrets that you are keeping from your spouse? But, clearly you will wish the man to tell you about his properties and other investments? You will even want to lay claim on those when the man dies.
Men stay woke. Because many women (not all) are naturally selfish beings. I know of man answering husband to such selfish woman even as I am typing.

Another fool.

OgogoroFreak:
Your husband married you. He owns you and everything thereof.

toyetade:
From experience that marriage is heading for a rock. Eventually the woman head will become swollen and any small challenge in the family, the wife will be looking for a way out. It is a bad omen. One of my friend is dealing with this now. If you notice your wife doing this especially secretly you need to be weary

Am from a dysfunctional home, I wouldn't hide it, and this was one of the tins dat scattered or separated my father and mother,
U kw bro ,some people are lucky to come from a stable family so day are very easy to drop comment like "I will put my name, my husband can't do anything " we dat know d effect of such an action will try every possible means to avoid it .
When u think marriage is easy then ask a dysfunctional kid how marriage is he or she will tell u to be careful of things you might take for granted
And example is this

Omudia11:
For every selfish woman you know, there are at least 50 selfish men. Women have learned to be wise. They learnt it the hard way. They learnt from the experiences of friends, relatives and close associates.
I know some women who after being married for over 30 years, their husbands sent them packing with nothing, I mean nothing; and then brought another woman into the house.

So many men today buy properties without informing their wives. So why should the woman inform the man when it's time to buy hers. As the saying goes, what's good for the goose.......

Is marriage a business?

When u said she had nothing to show for it after 30 years of marriage, does she not have kids (grown-up kids) seeing them should put a joy on ur face, madam now people like u day follow ur relative advice on how to control ur marriage,

But when you spent money on marriage it was not "our" marriage, it becomes "her's"?

King44:
point of correction our kids taink u

Philpham:
You are nothing but a greedy thief, I pity your wife. She don enter one chance.

Why pity his wife when day are happily married

keepingmum:
Women please buy as many properties as you canin your SOLE name. , buy in your full names please. MRS titi Abubakar not Mr and Mrs Abubakar.....they may be a second Mrs Abubakar in the future, like Jennifer is also Mrs Abubakar.

Whether the man you are married to supports, agrees or is even aware is irrelevant. Buy it ohhhhh.
I have been married for almost 15years to a truly wonderful man who is also VERY imperfect in many ways!!!

Dont buy in your brothers name cos you areonly enriching your brother and his own immediate family.

I have seen and will see more to validate my views. I have assets in my name alone and infact, only tell hubby after purchasing. But i also have a will that indicates all my estate to my children.


Dont listen to any inlaw, pastor or Imam that says otherwise rather speak with wives who have atleast a decade of marriage lessons in them.

If you are married to an egoistic dream killer that believes you acquiring properties will make his blokos shrink, please buy without his knowledge, take your documents and keep in the bank for storage!! Keep buying and preserving the docs in the banks vault.
Dont allow him pressure you to add his name to your property, if he so desperately wants a propertt he should buy

best comment. Ladies,take note of the first paragraph.

Use Mrs so so so and so not Mr and Mrs so so so and so. They are two different meanings in the eyes of the law. Take note!. Don't let religion and tradition fool you. Religion doesn't hold water when its time for court proceedings if so we wouldn't need documents to land ownership in the first place.

chloride6:
If you fine out your wife built a house without your knowledge don't her know. Just organise for the house to be burnt to the ground...

Even if she has Insurance, she will lose some money. When she builds again, burn in again. Don't allow her know just smile at home.

IF AM YOUR WIFE I WILL FIND OUT AND KILL YOU WITH SMILES ALSO

tunjilana:
This is the real ish...If the man is doing it all alone...dying under bills and maybe even debt...cant even save to buy block...then all of a sudden u pop out with a surprise house all in your name...then u are being selfish...But if u have supported the home reasonably...And most needs at home are being duly met and u use ur surplus to build a house in ur name...my dear U have my absolute blessing...miat women caught in issuea regarding this...dont usually give the full story...they just want the world to see the man as retrigressive and "enemy of progress"...

Exactly dis is what I have been waiting for, the story isn't usually complete when ladies report dat their husband is angry because she built a house without him knowing, the man goes into debt just to feed d family pay the kids school fees and u have the money to buy a land, mold blocks,payer workers at the site, and roof the hux,
I will not talk o,but u go just suffery pack go your papa hux since u first day plan to move, it is not pride, some things are just hard to forgive and example is this

loswhite:
You can buy the world in your name but discuss it with your man and agree before proceeding.... simple

The topic isn't if you will tell the man or not. Maybe you should read the topic again. That said, whether he agrees or not, I will make investments I deem necessary.

loswhite:
U can have kids without having a husband. Marriage is not for everyone

Dumb post... All this one na because woman no wan buy property in your name? Lmao!!!

A woman with too much power is a recipe for disaster

Laws of marriage have been long placed on ground for females to follow but they now tend to bend it,

The men of age who said it was betteer for the woman to change her surname to the man's name knew why day did that, because of issues like this and so u don't say did d man not buy properties in his own name?

Ladies and pride are increasing daily, and I have come to observe no matter how beautiful or ugly a lady is some can't be a good house wife even if oyedepo pray for them,

toyetade:
From experience that marriage is heading for a rock. Eventually the woman head will become swollen and any small challenge in the family, the wife will be looking for a way out. It is a bad omen. One of my friend is dealing with this now. If you notice your wife doing this especially secretly you need to be weary

Or you mean the wife has choices so can't be pushed around?

I will bet that the 'small challenge' is the husband cheating or abusing her.

Instead of you to plan on treating your women right, you are already trying to figure out loop holes that will favour her.

Omudia11:
Egoistic fvck.

my friend, your issues will kill you in this life. Trust me

pocohantas:
All this talk because a woman buys a property in her name? Don't married men buy properties in their names everyday? It is regular thing that making a topic about it would be very absurd.

Every time, don't marry. Are you the one that will tell me if I should marry? Or you think every man reasons like you? shut the fck up.

U don't have to insult anyone,.....

larryking540:
See as u day talk like say na u marry d man or na d man marry u ,

These are some of the reasons marriage don't last, becus ladies like u now believe man and woman was created the same day and equal right is attached to both of them

You may disagree with my opinion but it still doesn't change the fact.

Marriage - The two marry themselves.

And yes, we both have equal right.

Not everyone wanna be submissive to stay married.

Omudia11:
So what portion of the Bible prohibits women from owning properties? Y'all ate too fragile nowadays, blaming everything on feminism. In my tribe and culture,
women have always been allowed to own properties. Whenever land is being shared, it must be shared with respect to age, not gender, and female child that is older than a male gets to have a bigger portion than a male and she is free to build anytime. Infact in my culture, it is a taboo for a woman to be buried in her husband's place. She must be buried in her own town, that's why lots of women buy land and build.

I spoke as a believer not as a traditionalist, you cannot be both as they are mutually exclusive. The bible does not say a woman cannot own property. The question was directed at married women and I discussed it from the perspective of a married Christian woman and also asked what motivated the need to own properties outside her husband. I don't expect you to respond to my position if you do not believe in Christ.

As for the feminists that you mentioned IMO they have ruined this world and would usher in the apocalyptic world. However, true believers will not be here when that world comes and women can own all the properties they want and do with their body as they please without opposition.

TheWalkingMind:
Nothing wrong in it. Only a senile man will make a hill out of such a mountain. As far as I'm concerned marriage is meant to be a peaceful coexistence with no constraint of choices and freedom. A woman in a marriage has as much right as a man in the same marriage. She is human before being a wife.

Let's be fortunate here and all these mentality must stop,will the woman be happy for the man to buy properties in his name only,if yes she can buy on her name,funnny questions

Elder0001:
Your post summed it up

You’re a very wise fellow .

a single lady commenting on marriage issues is now wise?

flyca:
Your wife was first human, before being your wife. This is 21st century where women have a voice now. She is not your slave, she is your wife. If you involve her in the marriage business, she involves you. If you don't, to hell with your consent and ego massage! If you want her respect, give respect.

All those insult hold no water. Having a career, money and a voice only scares chicken-males in this era. Real men that know their worth, know the kind of women they go for.

Bye

Keep ringing it into their heads.

Many men wants their ego massaged the same way their mum did for their dad but women are changing and it scares them.

What annoys me the most is they go around saying they wish to marry a successful woman but eventually they really can't deal with fact that she is successful.

They begin wanting to turn her into an inferior being and when she stands her ground, they become all abusive.

martowskin1:
U need to calm down, about the bolded part.... Is a wrong move, imagine the husband doing things without carrying the wife along...

Marriage is an important institution that no matter how civilised we claim to have become, the man and the
woman knows their place

Did you read the last part of my post?

Besides, gender roles is not my thing. My place is anywhere I choose not what religion, society, my spouse or parent choose for me.

In our full names yes ...

Myles Munroe once said if your planning to divorce why don’t people invite us back for another party

Omudia11:
Another fool.

Are you referring to me or Mohammed?

ibizgirl:
This issue has broken a lot of homes. The basic thing in any marriage is know your spouse. That Mrs A tried it and it worked does not mean Mrs B will try it and it will work.

thank you for this response

It's a sensitive talk.

Like someone said, know your spouse. That it worked for A doesn't mean it will be the same for B.

One of the trade mark of a healthy marriage is transparency and communication. It builds trust and unity among the couple.

At such a level, secrecy and walls are broken down. And the spouses are ONE. Anything contrary is simply "work in progress" or worst, a bad marriage.