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Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by jakandeola(m): 6:52am On Jan 29, 2019
iMed:
Hello guys,

I have noticed that my 2yr old daughter does not like to greet me. When she returns from school and the mother tells her to greet “good afternoon daddy” she refuses and if the mother insists she’d rather cry instead than say it. Again in the morning on the bed when the mother tells her to say “good morning daddy” she will refuse and if we insist she will rather cry than say it. I’m a bit confused because she’s my first child so I have decided to bring the matter here for more information and possibly guidance on how to proceed on this issue.

Set up: I live and work in Kaduna while my wife works in Abuja and the child is always with her.

At the moment I’m a bit concerned and I’m beginning to suspect that the mother may have been Training her in the wrong way! Should I be worried or it’s not something to be worried about? Guys pls your opinions are appreciated.

Mod: Mods please if you can kindly take this post to front page for more public opinion and contribution I’ll be grateful.
d mom is not training her well cos ive seen baby girl of 1years 6,month kneel down to greet. u too I think u are getting it wrong. dont be stingy when u got back from work did u buy anything? did u know if u bought sweet biscuite DAT even as you are back from work she run and jump on you happy to see you. just calm down sir. u too have a role to play in training her but show her love and prooved it.
Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by ogawisdom(m): 7:06am On Jan 29, 2019
You have not bonded with your child

U come home once in a while and expect her to connect with u.

It happens when a child grows without the father, u only come in once in a while so she doesn't know u well.

Start bonding with her and stop forcing her to greet u, treat her nice n spend alot of time with her, buy her different things whenever u are back let her be excited to see u even if she associates u with a gift grin grin

If u do this she will practically kill u with love and follow u everywhere u go. grin
Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by jeff1607(m): 9:42am On Jan 29, 2019
a girl child is taught to greet anyone ( bending the knee) no matter how little she is as long as she can talk.



soldiers who travel while their wives are pregnant still tell their kids about their father's return,



or she has a father figure elsewhere?
Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by cococandy(f): 2:57pm On Jan 29, 2019
You have issues. Take care of them and stop projecting it on OPs wife
She’s not the cause of your misery

jeff1607:
a girl child is taught to greet anyone ( bending the knee) no matter how little she is as long as she can talk.



soldiers who travel while their wives are pregnant still tell their kids about their father's return,



or she has a father figure elsewhere?

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Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by jeff1607(m): 4:49pm On Jan 29, 2019
cococandy:
You have issues. Take care of them and stop projecting it on OPs wife
She’s not the cause of your misery


did you read what he posted?


this matter shouldn't have been brought to a public forum , it's either you take what you need or ignore simple.
Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by ImaIma1(f): 6:07pm On Jan 29, 2019
Why are you so quick to blame your wife? Don't you trust your her?
The issue might be that your daughter is not free with you. You need to make your presence felt when you are around. Play with her, feed her sometimes, dress her up. Do things with her in a fun way. Take her out on a stroll, etc

Children are not hard to please. Don't just be around and keep her at arm's length while you probably hang out with friends or busy on your phone.

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Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by CyberWolf: 9:53pm On Jan 29, 2019
5thElement:


anytime you're home, make those moments the happiest of her life. be jovial, be playful. let your family feel your presence when you are around.

some men frank their faces or just glue their eyes to the telly or some paper forming lord and master of the realm.

get on the floor with your daughter and build Lego castles.

take her out to eateries on the weekends.

trust me, she won't be able to forget that experience for ever.

I am amazed at what even I can remember from childhood. thank God I had a good one otherwise I'd be having nightmares grin
I agree with you. Still remember the only time my dad trek to our nursery school then to pick me and my cousin. Dad usually come with car from office but that day, we didn’t see dad after dismal and me and my cousin decided to trek home, not far sha but was surprised when we met dad on road trekking to our school grin .. That scenario still replay like movie in my head even though dad is late now. This happened in the late 80s grin
Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by Nobody: 10:19pm On Jan 29, 2019
CyberWolf:
I agree with you. Still remember the only time my dad trek to our nursery school then to pick me and my cousin. Dad usually come with car from office but that day, we didn’t see dad after dismal and me and my cousin decided to trek home, not far sha but was surprised when we met dad on road trekking to our school grin .. That scenario still replay like movie in my head even though dad is late now. This happened in the late 80s grin

God bless our parents wherever they are.
Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by Abee79(m): 2:34pm On Jan 30, 2019
OP! Your daughter has another 'Daddy'. Forcing her to call you Daddy is only confusing her! grin grin grin grin

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Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by alphaNomega: 6:46am On Jan 31, 2019
madridguy:
You need to spend more time with your family so your princess can be seeing you around. Probably she seeing you as stranger.

Like other men cheesy
Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by alphaNomega: 6:47am On Jan 31, 2019
Abee79:
OP! Your daughter has another 'Daddy'. Forcing her to call you Daddy is only confusing her! grin grin grin grin

Eggzactly
Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by alphaNomega: 6:48am On Jan 31, 2019
ImaIma1:
Why are you so quick to blame your wife? Don't you trust your her?
The issue might be that your daughter is not free with you. You need to make your presence felt when you are around. Play with her, feed her sometimes, dress her up. Do things with her in a fun way. Take her out on a stroll, etc

Children are not hard to please. Don't just be around and keep her at arm's length while you probably hang out with friends or busy on your phone.



Don't mind the guy, always quick to blame the woman for any small comma. Ladies have suffered.
Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by Abee79(m): 9:48am On Jan 31, 2019
alphaNomega:


Eggzactly

Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by ImaIma1(f): 12:17pm On Jan 31, 2019
5thElement:


anytime you're home, make those moments the happiest of her life. be jovial, be playful. let your family feel your presence when you are around.

some men frank their faces or just glue their eyes to the telly or some paper forming lord and master of the realm.

get on the floor with your daughter and build Lego castles.

take her out to eateries on the weekends.

trust me, she won't be able to forget that experience for ever.

I am amazed at what even I can remember from childhood. thank God I had a good one otherwise I'd be having nightmares grin


Very good points. Some men just act all serious around the children and now wonder why the children are closer to their mums.

My daughter is so close to her dad. When he is around, she hardly allows anyone touch her...even me sometimes. They play so much. He carries her around...

But a lot of men feel that the fact that they fathered a child is enough. The woman can do every other thing. I doubt that the op has been close to his child.

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Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by Nobody: 5:19pm On Jan 31, 2019
ImaIma1:


Very good points. Some men just act all serious around the children and now wonder why the children are closer to their mums.

My daughter is so close to her dad. When he is around, she hardly allows anyone touch her...even me sometimes. They play so much. He carries her around...

But a lot of men feel that the fact that they fathered a child is enough. The woman can do every other thing. I doubt that the op has been close to his child.

Most guys don't exactly have a reference point for mushy mushy affection since they didn't get that from their dads anyway.

But things are changing, and the era of the man of the house being the emperor of all is fading. Daughters have a closer affinity to their dads while sons have a closer bond with their moms. That is usually the natural order of things.

It helps the girl pick a gentleman for a husband if her dad is such and helps the boy have respect for the girls he dates if he was raised by a "queen".
Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by richyblink1(m): 8:42am On Feb 01, 2019
iMed:
Hello guys,

I have noticed that my 2yr old daughter does not like to greet me. When she returns from school and the mother tells her to greet “good afternoon daddy” she refuses and if the mother insists she’d rather cry instead than say it. Again in the morning on the bed when the mother tells her to say “good morning daddy” she will refuse and if we insist she will rather cry than say it. I’m a bit confused because she’s my first child so I have decided to bring the matter here for more information and possibly guidance on how to proceed on this issue.

Set up: I live and work in Kaduna while my wife works in Abuja and the child is always with her.

At the moment I’m a bit concerned and I’m beginning to suspect that the mother may have been Training her in the wrong way! Should I be worried or it’s not something to be worried about? Guys pls your opinions are appreciated.

Mod: Mods please if you can kindly take this post to front page for more public opinion and contribution I’ll be grateful.

Keep your wife away from this. What role have you been playing in the life of your kid?

I have two girls (twin) of 2 years 3 months, trust me, the bond is out of this world. Their mother do even jealous us. Whenever I say 'my love, sugar etc, they know I am referring to them.

This morning K1 walk up to me while I was carrying K2 and say, Daddy, good morning, K2, good morning, and of course K2 replied her immediately. I amd wifey smiled.

Oga, try and be more involved to your kid and wife, marriage (family) comes first.
Re: My 2yr Old Child - Is This Normal? by Nobody: 10:07pm On Feb 01, 2019
iMed:
Hello guys,

I have noticed that my 2yr old daughter does not like to greet me. When she returns from school and the mother tells her to greet “good afternoon daddy” she refuses and if the mother insists she’d rather cry instead than say it. Again in the morning on the bed when the mother tells her to say “good morning daddy” she will refuse and if we insist she will rather cry than say it. I’m a bit confused because she’s my first child so I have decided to bring the matter here for more information and possibly guidance on how to proceed on this issue.

Set up: I live and work in Kaduna while my wife works in Abuja and the child is always with her.

At the moment I’m a bit concerned and I’m beginning to suspect that the mother may have been Training her in the wrong way! Should I be worried or it’s not something to be worried about? Guys pls your opinions are appreciated.

Mod: Mods please if you can kindly take this post to front page for more public opinion and contribution I’ll be grateful.

My son is 6+ but can hardly greet without u reminding him. I beat I tire na soh I leave am aftrrall people say am well cultured but where them get their own from I know no

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