safarigirl:
i personally think it depends on what you are doing.

A carrier is good for outings, you need to be able to see your baby. It is safer, if you are getting on a bike, a carrier is more convenient. You don't need to worry about adjusting the child to jump bike or jump whatever, you don't have to worry someone will snatch your baby from the back.

If you are indoors and busy, backing the baby is more convenient. Your hands are free, you can work without obstruction. I can't be using a carrier while trying to prepare a meal, lest i risk burning the child or putting pepper in their eyes, or if i want to bend down amd wash clothes, can i bend with the baby carrier? Won't the baby fall off?


It really depends on what you are doing and where you are. Neither is better or worse, they both have their advantages and disadvantages and there is nothing wrong in knowing how to use the two. It is even better if you are an expert with both.

I am actually talking more about going out. Backing the baby at home is understandable although I didn't do it much and when I tried to do it later, she always struggled to get free because she wasn't used to it.

SexynSerious:
you've spoken well, my sista. carrying baby in your back is the most comfortable form of taking care of your child both for mother and baby. The baby feels comfortable and relax in your back. unfortunately, our people tend to copy everything oyibo. they think it makes them sophisticated

It is not about copying...it is about evolving. I am sure you are not using an android phone instead of analogue because you want to "copy everything oyibo" but because you needed to upgrade.

Who says backing babies is the most comfortable method?

See prove below..

yes you can . its like carrying your 2 year old in your hand but more comfortably.

realtalk19:


for me I prefer backing my child.its convinient for me unlike carriage in front whereby u still needed to support the weight of the baby with ur hands.

my son is 2years and I still back him conviniently when going out but can u put a 2year old in front?

Well said my dear. my 2 kids were carried with carrier and once i carry them, they go to sleep like babies that they are...

ImaIma1:


It is not about copying...it is about evolving. I am sure you are not using an android phone instead of analogue because you want to "copy everything oyibo" but because you needed to upgrade.

Who says backing babies is the most comfortable method?

Biglittlelois:
I think baby carrier is ideal for an outing, backing the baby should be at home.

yeah

Baby carrier is modern while backing baby is local.

Sha keep the baby safe when you're carrying him or her


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4v-MQMkY85Q

Having read the comments above, those that support carriers have not come up with any tangible reason why carrier is better than backing. It tells you the kind of mothers we have these days; self centered, egoistic and not willing to accept corrections. Look at the faces of a child who is backed and those that use carrier. The backed babies look more comfortable. It helps bond mother and child easily. When the child is overactive, u put the hands inside the wrapper. Your baby makes sound, u respond, u are balanced and so is the baby. The baby backing can be improved upon cos of the era we are in. God help our modern mothers these days. Some don't want to breast feed their baby, now backing, etc and u want that child to listen when he or she grows up? Naaaaa!

realtalk19:


tying wrappers about is different from backing a child.it does not say breast provided u ar wearing a bra. even after 2 kids with enough backing ,my boobs are still standing.

sagging boobs depends on ur body elasticity

picture or you know the rest...

ImaIma1:
Hello Nairalanders,

This topic has always been a controversy. Some weeks back I had my baby in the carrier as I was walking down the road and one woman(looks like in her 50s) shouted from a car that I was punishing my baby and I should back her.
My older neighbour has asked if I am a kangaroo.
Please is backing the standard? Do you ladies back or use a carrier? What is your take on this?

You must not do either. I never saw my mom carry a baby at her back or use a carrier. The baby stays on her arm or is dropped when a task is at hand.

Eroms4life17:
Having read the comments above, those that support carriers have not come up with any tangible reason why carrier is better than backing. It tells you the kind of mothers we have these days; self centered, egoistic and not willing to accept corrections. Look at the faces of a child who is backed and those that use carrier. The backed babies look more comfortable. It helps bond mother and child easily. When the child is overactive, u put the hands inside the wrapper. Your baby makes sound, u respond, u are balanced and so is the baby. The baby backing can be improved upon cos of the era we are in. God help our modern mothers these days. Some don't want to breast feed their baby, now backing, etc and u want that child to listen when he or she grows up? Naaaaa!

Oga no law says backing is better. An uncomfortable baby will cry when placed in a carrier. You are just looking for a way to bash ladies. I think I happen to be the only one that sees uncomfortable babies backed. Some are almost falling down sef.

Don't use baby carrier if you have a massive chest

WE ARE IN NIGERIA AND FOR SECURITY REASONS PLEASE CARRY YOUR BABY IN THE FRONT EXCEPT YOU ARE AT HOME THEN YOU CAN BACK YOUR BABY..

ireneidiva:

Oga no law says backing is better. An uncomfortable baby will cry when placed in a carrier. You are just looking for a way to bash ladies. I think I happen to be the only one that sees uncomfortable babies backed. Some are almost falling down sef.

My sister, it's not about law or bashing. It's about perception. I respect your opinion so please respect mine. You can take it or leave it. My advice is that we should be careful what modern ideas we imbibe so easily because they look stylish or trendy. Take a moment to reflect. Be observant before deciding. I will always advice women close to me to back their babies even if they are the only ones doing it. Do what works for you my sister. Peace!

Eroms4life17:

My sister, it's not about law or bashing. It's about perception. I respect your opinion so please respect mine. You can take it or leave it. My advice is that we should be careful what modern ideas we imbibe so easily because they look stylish or trendy. Take a moment to reflect. Be observant before deciding. I will always advice women close to me to back their babies even if they are the only ones doing it. Do what works for you my sister. Peace!

Yes.I also believe we should drop the old ways when better ones come out. You can monitor your baby more in front. I cant see why you would advice women to carry thier babies at the back for no useful reason asides the fact that it is the old way. So like you said, leave people to do what suits them.

As for me I don't back my babies. If I don't use carrier I will carry d baby on my hand than putting d baby on my back. Cos when I want to jump inside bus if d baby is on my back d baby will definitely hit his head on d door if I back d baby.

ImaIma1:


I have heard that too and there might be some truth in it. Even as a teenager then, my mum scolded me for tying wrappers a lot at home that it would sag my breast.

There's a way to do it without sagging the breast

ireneidiva:

Yes.I also believe we should drop the old ways when better ones come out. You can monitor your baby more in front. I cant see why you would advice women to carry thier babies at the back for no useful reason asides the fact that it is the old way. So like you said, leave people to do what suits them.

My sister it's not about old way. It's about what's best for the child. Nobody should make a woman who backs her child to be shamed. I know how I feel when my mum tells me she backed me. It humbles me even it now. Don't wonder too much why some kids these days don't have have that telepathic connection with their parents. It's because of things like this which people commonize. But in the real sense, they matter.
My conclusion is that if you want to use carrier, go ahead but do not shame those who back their babies.
If you back your baby, you are more of a mother than those who don't! You can take that to the bank!

ImaIma1:


It's just that people won't just mind their business and it is annoying. They believe their way is the standard. You can imagine an okada rider riding pass and yelling that I should go and buy wrapper .

He’s trying to teach u some home trainings

The baby carrier is actually better to me cos i can see my baby and can make him/her as comfortable as possible. Plus there is minimal risk of falling

ImaIma1:


It is not about copying...it is about evolving. I am sure you are not using an android phone instead of analogue because you want to "copy everything oyibo" but because you needed to upgrade.

Who says backing babies is the most comfortable method?

Which one is upgrade again? cant u read all d corrections people have addressed u with? because a method is local doesn't make it lesser or unsophisticated, they are both good in different situations.

I think the most important thing is what makes you comfortable as a mother and whatever ensures the safety of the child.

Backing of babies should be discouraged because most women have xtra large bumbum this can cause the baby to have bow leg or agada.The new born babys bones are soft and can adapt to the size of the waist of the mother that backs the baby.You are better off with a front baby carrier. In future that child will have straight legs.

ladyamabel:
Well said my dear. my 2 kids were carried with carrier and once i carry them, they go to sleep like babies that they are...

Then, anytime I just dressed up and picked up the carrier, my baby would start pulling me to put her in it. Being in it was like an adventure for her...looking at everything that passed.

I could kiss her over and over and hug her. I was always kissing her forehead. And she used to fall asleep so fast in it and rest her head on the milk factory...lol.

I could not imagine her behind me. Besides, backing out doesn't go with anything about me...my personality, my style...even with the present age and time we are in.

Codedone:



Which one is upgrade again? cant u read all d corrections people have addressed u with? because a method is local doesn't make it lesser or unsophisticated, they are both good in different situations.

Hmmmmm... you sound like you are taking it personally.

Do I need to explain what upgrade means? Just like "people" pointed out, we moved from using washable nappies to using disposable diapers.

I haven't even said backing is bad. This is somewhat of a debate between 2 methods. So calm down.

baby carrying varies from culture to culture as . if it is scientifically proven that a baby carrying is cultural dangerous, then abandon the culture. Japan uses slings, Europe and America use carrier,Africa uses wrap with or without strap.

Eroms4life17:
Having read the comments above, those that support carriers have not come up with any tangible reason why carrier is better than backing. It tells you the kind of mothers we have these days; self centered, egoistic and not willing to accept corrections. Look at the faces of a child who is backed and those that use carrier. The backed babies look more comfortable. It helps bond mother and child easily. When the child is overactive, u put the hands inside the wrapper. Your baby makes sound, u respond, u are balanced and so is the baby. The baby backing can be improved upon cos of the era we are in. God help our modern mothers these days. Some don't want to breast feed their baby, now backing, etc and u want that child to listen when he or she grows up? Naaaaa!

If you are talking about bonding, having the baby in front does that better. I can kiss my baby and hug her while she is in front. I respond to her better when she makes any noise.

About tangible reasons, you already mentioned one which is bonding. Bonding is better with your baby in front where he or she can even see your face. You can play with them.

For security purposes...you can see your baby at everytime and be sure that no one is tampering with him or her.

Warmth...the baby nestles and rests on your chest and you can pat him/her at will.

The baby is comfortable and usually sleeps easily in it. From the baby's face, you can see the comfort and love he or she feels.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to look good with a carrier as a mother as long as baby is comfortable. Backing doesn't make a good mother. Breastfeeding is backed by World Health Organisation, not backing. Both of them are not of the same importance.

But you are funny o...so it's breastfeeding and backing that makes a child listen?

If you have a big baby, nobody would tell you before you dump ur carrier and back ur baby.

When I first tried the carrier for an outing, my shoulder and chest must have cursed me for the pain they went through. It was hell

Also there are times, when you need to do something at home and your baby also wants your attention. Backing is best. You cant put your baby in front and be washing plates for instance

Although, if you still ask me, if i had a less chubby baby, i would prefer to use carrier, for outing anyway.

While do I feel backing a child with wrapper stresses the breast of the woman... dont crucify me please.

Eroms4life17:

My sister it's not about old way. It's about what's best for the child. Nobody should make a woman who backs her child to be shamed. I know how I feel when my mum tells me she backed me. It humbles me even it now. Don't wonder too much why some kids these days don't have have that telepathic connection with their parents. It's because of things like this which people commonize. But in the real sense, they matter.
My conclusion is that if you want to use carrier, go ahead but do not shame those who back their babies.
If you back your baby, you are more of a mother than those who don't! You can take that to the bank!

That is the point. You are saying those who back should not be shamed but you are doing same to those who use carriers.

How are people who back more mothers? Because they carry the babies on their back? Come on!! Children are not close to their mums because they back them but because of the overall care they give them. Please don't make such unverified conclusions.

My neighbor for instance backs her baby but could drop her baby in the crèche till 7pm even if she is home and just watching series. Someone once said that aside the fact that the neighbour is the mother, she doesn't see any chemistry or connection between her and the baby. She can leave the baby all night with the crèche owner while she is out. And you will tell me that someone like that is a better mother just because she backs the baby. Please don't insult us.

Mothering has gone past backing or holding on to old or local ways to make you acceptable. It is much more than that.

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