This is all I have to say.

First if all,i commend your patience and perseverance to still be in that marriage. What you've endured is more than what you might still have to endure,only if you make yourself happy.

The reason why you this depressed is coz you've kept this sadness in you for too long,you simply need someone to talk to,someone you trust who's got your backlit confide in. I suggest people like your family members (the wise and reasonable ones),your mum or even a counsellor/therapist.

You own your life and only you can make it worth living.just ignore him and see him as just someone you living with. You're even lucky you got a Source if income. You should take succour in that many are going through a lot worse but they aint depressed, not coz they're cheating, but coz they've learnt ways of purging out their worries. You could take inspiration from the love you have for your first child. Start by thinking what a strange woman is gonna do to him/her If u ain't there.

Wake up every morning and say to yourself....IM STRONGER THAN MY CHALLENGES AND I'LL BE FINE.

Stay healthy young woman!

Leave him. You guys can co parent but you don’t have to be with him.

From your wright up, you knew this man was this way but you still wriggled your way in to answer Mrs.

You have two options:

1. Leave the animal

2. Stay and endure with him till old age when his waist gets really stiff to chase anyone. Then you can have him all to yourself while you nurse all his baggage as a result of his bad life style. Pray hard that you don't contract HIV/aids.

The choice is yours.

yettymuse:
You were buying shoes and wears for him to look good for you... Really? Seriously and he still cheats on your ass. I know you would also fill his empty pocket with cash to be in his good book....

The kind eye I give this so called 'Miss independent' using their hard earned money to buy orgasm...

Anyway, the die is already cast. Baby number2 is on its way... Endure, continue to endure, may the good lord comfort you.

The die is never already cast. Divorce and separation are a thing, you know.

Op, you need to leave this highly toxic relationship and seek therapy. Depression is no joke; and it, talk more of the abuse and risk of contracting an STI from hos philandering ways could literally kill you. Don't mind those that will feed you with the "marriage is not easy" crap. Your personal happiness is key and you clearly are not getting any in that relationship. So, leave while you're still alive.

marriage , to me is not a must or "we die here together" if your happiness is being sabotaged, then leave ! who says we all have to remain married forever.
good you have a source of income, take care of your babies and damn that marriage. life is bae do not let someone turn you to nothing all in the name of staying married.

search your heart. your intuition would guide you.

divert your attention to your child and remember your baby needs you alive.

discover things that makes you happy, and focus on them. it could be social events, reading, develop your skills, crave higher for more education and professional courses, and if you are into business, start planning to expand your business, engage yourself in something productive.


most importantly understand that human being are bound to disappoint and only God will not.
Once you start finding your feet know that their would be resistant. he could start claiming you are cheating, ignore him until he involves a third party by himself.

PastorPaul1:
Unmhnm!! You are not unfortunate, you are just blessed! Give God praise for making you a mother and being able to feed yourself even without any man's input. Try and speak with someone you know that is older and closer to your husband who can give him an elderly advice... And don't forget to keep praying for your husband. How you got married and what led to one thing or the other that makes two of you come together as one is not known in your story.. But I pray for you that the Almighty God will touch your husband and make him a new person and you will enjoy your home to the fullest, Amen.

Wow! Am short of words with what the Op is tolerating, all to stay married.

Hmm, na wa o

Mehn am short of words.

Justwantafriend:
Please this is only for mature minds and that's why am putting it in this section because I believe there are lots of married people here.
Though am married but not to a man who love me. I married a man who only see me as baby production machine and the only time he shows little care is when am pregnant. This is my second pregnancy anyway and he has suddenly changed. He only gave me 25,000 to buy baby things and so far so good I have spent more than 100k of my money buying what I think my baby need. I don't bother him for money for upkeep or any other thing because i have business fetching me money. The only money he drop is feeding money which is like 1000 in a day and I don't complain instead I add my own money and cook any meal we need to eat.
The painful part of these is hes a chronic cheat, he woo any girl (ugly,beautiful,married,young and women older than him) I saw this on his Facebook inbox without him knowing. And despite not giving me anything, he's promising them heaven and earth. This is a man I do buy expensive shoe and wears for so I can be admiring him instead of admiring other men outside. He has never buy anything for me and since the beginning of this year, I have been the one clothing myself and my first child. He never appreciate that.
I have been given 14th as my EDD (expected day of delivery) and this man don't even ask of my health any more. I do cry myself to sleep every night asking God why he allowed me to marry my enemy, he should have just allow me die as single girl than putting me in bondage. I swore never to have abotger baby for him after my first child but he always rape me. he doesn't know how to make love at all. He will just open my cloth from behind and shook his dick anytime he's Hot not minding if am enjoying it or not. I am fed up of life, if not for my first child, I would commit suicide because am just so unfortunate in life.
Am sorry for all the grammatical error. God bless you

Good morning! how is your baby now?

If you're sure you're telling the truth,find joy from within.


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Hybridz:

Good morning! how is your baby now?

Thanks for checking on me. My baby is doing fine. I gave birth to a boy

Justwantafriend:
Thanks for checking on me. My baby is doing fine. I gave birth to a boy

.

Great

Justwantafriend:
Thanks for checking on me. My baby is doing fine. I gave birth to a boy

Hmmmmmmmmm! how sweet? may God make him the coolness of your eyes and guide him.
my regrds to the little soldier! stay strong woman!
bye.

Justwantafriend:
Thanks for checking on me. My baby is doing fine. I gave birth to a boy

Have u left him yet?

Justwantafriend:
Thanks for checking on me. My baby is doing fine. I gave birth to a boy

Congratulations

you are not happy.
you are depressed.
you are considering suicide.
you are at the risk of getting an incurable STI
you are being mentally, emotionally and sexually abused.
you are bringing innocent kids into a dysfunctional family.

you have two options, you leave or stay. your choice.



p.s, I'm really scared for your kids and the kind of environment you are bringing them into. just terrible.

Flambo02:


Have u left him yet?

Hmmmm No am still with him. He has apologised and promise he wont do it again(i guess he did that because he's broke and am the only one that can cater for him now) have been the one feeding and clothing him. Am doing it for the sake of my kids sha

tabithababy:
Buying shoes and wears for a man

Using your money to feed a man

Borrowing/ giving your hard earned money to a man


Greatest mistake a wife/ girlfriend can make

It is well

MISS INDEPENDENT.

The type earthquake2 and fellow alpha males are hoping to marry

AntiBrutus:


MISS INDEPENDENT.

The type earthquake2 and fellow alpha males are hoping to marry

Yea especially not a prostitute in her late 30s forming feminist on social media

I avoid that

Earthquake2:


Yea especially not a prostitute in her late 30s forming feminist on social media

I avoid that

Why getting emotional?

AntiBrutus:


Why getting emotional?

Sorry for your tears

Crush your kneecaps with a baton sweetie, it'll help

Earthquake2:


Sorry for your tears

Crush your kneecaps with a baton sweetie, it'll help

Now you are sounding really emotional.
My heart goes out to you

AntiBrutus:


Now you are sounding really emotional.
My heart goes out to you

Yea I can feel you, maybe Shiloh this year will get you a 'male'

So you quit searching for keywords 'pregnant' and 'wedlock' on nairaland

Earthquake2:


Yea I can feel you, maybe Shiloh this year will get you a 'male'

So you quit searching for keywords 'pregnant' and 'wedlock' on nairaland

Lol, so much personal attacks.
Typical of people that are hurting.
Is "shiloh" and old age the only thing you got? Be creative nah, surprise your brain

AntiBrutus:


Lol, so much personal attacks.
Typical of people that are hurting.
Is "shiloh" and old age the only thing you got? Be creative nah, surprise your brain

You are trying to divert the initiative to me

Typical of dumb, menopause driven bitches

Bye Felicia

Earthquake2:


You are trying to divert the initiative to me

Typical of dumb, menopause driven bitches

Bye Felicia

The initiative has always been on you.
You always this slow or you are faking it?

AntiBrutus:

MISS INDEPENDENT.
The type earthquake2 and fellow alpha males are hoping to marry

AntiBrutus:


The initiative has always been on you.
You always this slow or you are faking it?

Bitch you quoting everywhere are you Hot or what?

I don't do 50 yr old pussies

Bye Felicia

Earthquake2:


Bitch you quoting everywhere are you Hot or what?

I don't do 50 yr old pussies

Bye Felicia

Now we agree the initiative has been on you.
You seem to be the aggravated one. I can imagine veins on your head...while you struggle to put together words you think would hurt. Take PCM for the trouble.

How many times will you say bye?
Amnesia?

AntiBrutus:


Now we agree the initiative has been on you.
You seem to be the aggravated one, I can imagine veins on your head...while you struggle to put together words you think would hurt. Take PCM for the trouble.

How many times will you say bye?
Amnesia?

It seems you are really h0rny tonight

Pay through my pm and I'll handle your disheveled pussy

Don't mention me if your not interested

Earthquake2:


It seems you are really h0rny tonight

Pay through my pm and I'll handle your disheveled pussy

Don't mention me if your not interested

You said bye twice, yet you are still here. Why are you telling me not to mention you?

Is it so difficult to be a man of your words?

AntiBrutus:


You said bye twice, yet you are still here. Why are you telling me not to mention you?

Is it so difficult to be a man of your words?

You won't have the last word you b1tch I would

Now fvck off and don't mention me again

Earthquake2:


You won't have the last word you b1tch I would

Now fvck off and don't mention me again

So you didn't mean the "bye Felicia".
Why were you trying to act like you call the shots and you are actually brave enough to walk away?

Here you are, trying to call the shots again. You failed before to keep to your own words, how then can you give me orders?

You are losing it baby. Keep trying, don't give up...