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Been dating this girl for a while now. Met her while I was working with a coy in enugu We dated for about 3 month before I moved back to Abuja where I am originally based however we continued dating long distance. I go to see her and vice versa whenever we opportuned. It's been almost a year now and we recently decided to tie the knot. However some concerning things started happening. She told me her ex from way back reached out asking for a second chance. Later found out she actually reached out. When I confronted her she apologized saying. She just wanted to be friends and didn't expect he would ask her out. Last time she came visiting around Christmas she told me she was going to drive down to Abuja this was supprising cuz she had always flown down she said she had to attend a conference in Nsukka before coming down and she will be passing the night with a male friend which she knew from her days back in IMSU I asked her to book a hotel but she insisted she will stay there cuz it's closer to the venue. I'm just wondering do I have a reason to be worried or am I just being unnecessarily insecure. Really need advice

You are dating yourself

You have no reason whatsoever to be worried.
Someone reached out to her ex, you're still asking questions. Can't you see you're just an option? She's only keeping you around till she finds the right guy. The right guy might necessarily not be her ex, but trust me she'd dump your sorry as* once she finds a guy better than you.

Bro, she is cheating, she will cheat and she has probably been cheating. your instincts are never wrong. follow them

In this present Nigeria, once an EX of your babe comes back for her and she’s reaching out, forget it bro.


It’s either the EX is now a burger or he has blown from yahoo. Your babe done go be that. Or he must chop the cookie and drop her asx back for you.

I think the problem here is communication you need to communicate better. Don't give up on her if you truly love her and don't assume anything. Talk to her express your concerns let her know if she continues it will be difficult for you to stay with her.

As we speak the ex is probably buying condom and prostinator 2

fayded:
Bro, she is cheating, she will cheat and she has probably been cheating.
your instincts are never wrong. follow them

i love that word " your instinct are never wrong"

like someone said instincts are never wrong

the moment you start having doubt is the moment you should break up immediately or turn her into sex machine

life is as easy as that

Tabularasa1:
Been dating this girl for a while now. Met her while I was working with a coy in enugu We dated for about 3 month before I moved back to Abuja where I am originally based however we continued dating long distance. I go to see her and vice versa whenever we opportuned. It's been almost a year now and we recently decided to tie the knot. However some concerning things started happening. She told me her ex from way back reached out asking for a second chance. Later found out she actually reached out. When I confronted her she apologized saying. She just wanted to be friends and didn't expect he would ask her out. Last time she came visiting around Christmas she told me she was going to drive down to Abuja this was supprising cuz she had always flown down she said she had to attend a conference in Nsukka before coming down and she will be passing the night with a male friend which she knew from her days back in IMSU I asked her to book a hotel but she insisted she will stay there cuz it's closer to the venue. I'm just wondering do I have a reason to be worried or am I just being unnecessarily insecure. Really need advice

Don't pull the plug yet. She may not be cheating. But prepare for the worst though

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Don't pull the plug yet. She may not be cheating. But prepare for the worst though

L.O.V.E I love this life chai patoranking! L.O.V.E I love this life

,omo you sabi talk,don't pull the plug yet

fayded:
Bro, she is cheating, she will cheat and she has probably been cheating.
your instincts are never wrong. follow them

Exactly

Tabularasa1:
...Last time she came visiting around Christmas she told me she was going to drive down to Abuja this was supprising cuz she had always flown down she said she had to attend a conference in Nsukka before coming down and she will be passing the night with a male friend which she knew from her days back in IMSU I asked her to book a hotel but she insisted she will stay there cuz it's closer to the venue. I'm just wondering do I have a reason to be worried or am I just being unnecessarily insecure. Really need advice

What a mixed of sincerity and deceit: a collabo meant to have your head "turnioniown".

The game plan is simple: to have you think of her on the one hand as being sincere enough to tell you she's going to fvck, and on the other hand, to have you think "she wouldn't have told me if that's what she's going for"; in the end, you're to end up being so confused.

Now, just in case the two scenario captures not her game plan, which I doubt, then the third option is that she just doesn't give a fvck about you!

So what? My brother you cannot coman have your head turnioniown laidat. Mbok do something now!

She going back to her ex! She wants you to accuse her of cheating and possibly breakup with her and she wants the decision to be yours so you feel the burden why it failed.

Why haven't you gotten her pregnant since?