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AmakaUnique:
Boyfriend/girlfriend relationship to the ordinary man in the street means a boy and a girl that are emotionally or sexually attached to each other but they are not married to each other. It can also be called dating.

This is a very widely accepted practice among the youths today, and if you are not in it, then you are 'old school'.

But I want to let you know that the only relationship acceptable and recognised by God between a boy and a girl who are not married to each other is courtship (that is a period of getting to know each other after proposal and acceptance of marriage proposal, before the wedding comes) and worthy of note is that there must also not be any intimacy between the two of them before the wedding.

Boyfriend/girlfriend relationship or dating is not acceptable before God and is not right for a believer to engage in. That is a relationship coined out by the devil to deceive young men and women and drag them into the pit of immorality, and it has ruined so many young people today. Talking about the unwanted pregnancies that have destroyed many young ladies, sexually transmitted diseases, heartbreaks, etc.

Some may say they are just dating and are not committing fornication, but you cannot put a goat and a yam together in a room, otherwise you are calling for trouble. What about the touching, kissing etc. How long do you think you both can endure the fire you are carrying in your bosom without getting burnt? Please say no to such an ungodly relationship.

We have been made to believe that without dating, one can not get a good husband or wife. But dating is not a criterion for having a successful or happy marriage.
Many of the people that dated for so many years before getting married are not even happy in their marriages today compared to their counterparts who never dated before getting married. Some of them are going through hell in their marriages.

So, it's all about allowing God to lead and guide you in making the choice of who to marry. With prayers and obedience to His will, God can give you a good husband or wife without you engaging in the costly game of dating. I know this is not a palatable advice because the truth is always bitter and hard to practice. But it will save you so many troubles and heartache if you follow it.

Dont look at the fact that everybody is doing it because the bible said in Exodus 23:2 "You shall not follow a multitude to do evil..." So it doesn't even matter if 99% of people are doing it. And it also said in Matthew 7:13-14, "Enter you in at the strait gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat. Because strait is the gate and narrow is the way which leads to life, and few there be that find it".

You can see that the way that leads to destruction is very wide and so MANY people go through that way because its an easy way, but the way that leads to life is very narrow and its only very FEW people that go through it. It's so narrow that you cannot do as you like or you may fall or get injured, but it leads to life.

But in the wide and broad way, anything goes, there's no code of conduct, its wide enough to play or do whatever you like, it's such a smooth and thorn-free way that doesn't require carefulness on your part, but you know what? It leads to destruction.

AmakaUnique:
Boyfriend/girlfriend relationship to the ordinary man in the street means a boy and a girl that are emotionally or sexually attached to each other but they are not married to each other. It can also be called dating.

This is a very widely accepted practice among the youths today, and if you are not in it, then you are 'old school'.

But I want to let you know that the only relationship acceptable and recognised by God between a boy and a girl who are not married to each other is courtship (that is a period of getting to know each other after proposal and acceptance of marriage proposal, before the wedding comes) and worthy of note is that there must also not be any intimacy between the two of them before the wedding.

Boyfriend/girlfriend relationship or dating is not acceptable before God and is not right for a believer to engage in. That is a relationship coined out by the devil to deceive young men and women and drag them into the pit of immorality, and it has ruined so many young people today. Talking about the unwanted pregnancies that have destroyed many young ladies, sexually transmitted diseases, heartbreaks, etc.

Some may say they are just dating and are not committing fornication, but you cannot put a goat and a yam together in a room, otherwise you are calling for trouble. What about the touching, kissing etc. How long do you think you both can endure the fire you are carrying in your bosom without getting burnt? Please say no to such an ungodly relationship.

We have been made to believe that without dating, one can not get a good husband or wife. But dating is not a criterion for having a successful or happy marriage.
Many of the people that dated for so many years before getting married are not even happy in their marriages today compared to their counterparts who never dated before getting married. Some of them are going through hell in their marriages.

So, it's all about allowing God to lead and guide you in making the choice of who to marry. With prayers and obedience to His will, God can give you a good husband or wife without you engaging in the costly game of dating. I know this is not a palatable advice because the truth is always bitter and hard to practice. But it will save you so many troubles and heartache if you follow it.

Dont look at the fact that everybody is doing it because the bible said in Exodus 23:2 "You shall not follow a multitude to do evil..." So it doesn't even matter if 99% of people are doing it. And it also said in Matthew 7:13-14, "Enter you in at the strait gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat. Because strait is the gate and narrow is the way which leads to life, and few there be that find it".

You can see that the way that leads to destruction is very wide and so MANY people go through that way because its an easy way, but the way that leads to life is very narrow and its only very FEW people that go through it. It's so narrow that you cannot do as you like or you may fall or get injured, but it leads to life.

But in the wide and broad way, anything goes, there's no code of conduct, its wide enough to play or do whatever you like, it's such a smooth and thorn-free way that doesn't require carefulness on your part, but you know what? It leads to destruction.

Nanatrendy:
Point of correction dating is different from boyfriend girlfriend relationship. Dating is just meeting up with a guy or girl you are getting to know in an open area without getting intimate. The aim of dating is to get to know the person better before deciding the next move. You can actually date more than one person before you decide on one. There's absolutely nothing wrong with dating.

Nanatrendy:
Point of correction dating is different from boyfriend girlfriend relationship. Dating is just meeting up with a guy or girl you are getting to know in an open area without getting intimate. The aim of dating is to get to know the person better before deciding the next move. You can actually date more than one person before you decide on one. There's absolutely nothing wrong with dating.

FindX:
Stupid preachers.

OlujobaSamuel:
All these things are semantic, it's about what you take them to mean. I have female friends as a man, is it wrong to call such my gf or whatever? I can't walk up to a stranger and tell her I want us to court, the details of interaction between bf and gf can never be the same with that of courtship, for me to go into courtship with a lady, I must know basic things about her, I can't know such if she is not my friend, if she is my friend as a female, then she is my gf.
I just don't buy the idea of lustful desire either in friendship, dating or courtship, however you wanna interpret it.

OlujobaSamuel:
God so so bless you oo. I once told a lady to let's go on a date, and she was like what do you mean, are you my man, we can just be friends. I just laff it off and rephrase the invitation. Time is now evolving rapidly, gone are the days we are always under our parents watch to study us or study a partner within our vicinity so as to recommend a partner, we now get busy with life that some of us don't even have the time to check out a lady detailed enough, the best is too have a date, meeting point, hangout or whatever name we wanna call it so we can share thoughts and see individual perspective about life.
You don't have female friends, how do you know needs, wants, thinking etc of a lady when you eventually have a wife.

micxwell:
I wonder, I kind of get the OP's point view. I believe she formed her perspective around the world's interpretation of dating... "That part where you ask a lady to a date and it ends with kissing in the car and probably sex at the extreme". That's what dating means to a lot of people.

PrimadonnaO:
I like this angle. And truthfully, this is where a lot of persons short-change themselves...and create problems for themselves.

Ideally, dating should be devoid of sex... in the barest sense, it's all about meeting up and discussing... getting to know each other. And everyone should be allowed to do this with as many people as they wish... and when proposals come, they pick who they've come to know better... who they've come to like best...and courtship/committment begins.

Nanatrendy:
Point of correction dating is different from boyfriend girlfriend relationship. Dating is just meeting up with a guy or girl you are getting to know in an open area without getting intimate. The aim of dating is to get to know the person better before deciding the next move. You can actually date more than one person before you decide on one. There's absolutely nothing wrong with dating.

degamemaster:
I don't know what the OP intends to achieve with this post but what I know according to what a married woman told me, there is no particular formular for marriage. Your canal mind goes first before your spiritual mind. The individuals involved matters too so, it doesn't matter whether you dated and courted for donkey years or not, just let your mind decide and the spirit of God leads you.

FindX:
Stupid preachers.

AmakaUnique:
Boyfriend/girlfriend relationship to the ordinary man in the street means a boy and a girl that are emotionally or sexually attached to each other but they are not married to each other. It can also be called dating.

This is a very widely accepted practice among the youths today, and if you are not in it, then you are 'old school'.

But I want to let you know that the only relationship acceptable and recognised by God between a boy and a girl who are not married to each other is courtship (that is a period of getting to know each other after proposal and acceptance of marriage proposal, before the wedding comes) and worthy of note is that there must also not be any intimacy between the two of them before the wedding.

Boyfriend/girlfriend relationship or dating is not acceptable before God and is not right for a believer to engage in. That is a relationship coined out by the devil to deceive young men and women and drag them into the pit of immorality, and it has ruined so many young people today. Talking about the unwanted pregnancies that have destroyed many young ladies, sexually transmitted diseases, heartbreaks, etc.

Some may say they are just dating and are not committing fornication, but you cannot put a goat and a yam together in a room, otherwise you are calling for trouble. What about the touching, kissing etc. How long do you think you both can endure the fire you are carrying in your bosom without getting burnt? Please say no to such an ungodly relationship.

We have been made to believe that without dating, one can not get a good husband or wife. But dating is not a criterion for having a successful or happy marriage.
Many of the people that dated for so many years before getting married are not even happy in their marriages today compared to their counterparts who never dated before getting married. Some of them are going through hell in their marriages.

So, it's all about allowing God to lead and guide you in making the choice of who to marry. With prayers and obedience to His will, God can give you a good husband or wife without you engaging in the costly game of dating. I know this is not a palatable advice because the truth is always bitter and hard to practice. But it will save you so many troubles and heartache if you follow it.

Dont look at the fact that everybody is doing it because the bible said in Exodus 23:2 "You shall not follow a multitude to do evil..." So it doesn't even matter if 99% of people are doing it. And it also said in Matthew 7:13-14, "Enter you in at the strait gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat. Because strait is the gate and narrow is the way which leads to life, and few there be that find it".

You can see that the way that leads to destruction is very wide and so MANY people go through that way because its an easy way, but the way that leads to life is very narrow and its only very FEW people that go through it. It's so narrow that you cannot do as you like or you may fall or get injured, but it leads to life.

But in the wide and broad way, anything goes, there's no code of conduct, its wide enough to play or do whatever you like, it's such a smooth and thorn-free way that doesn't require carefulness on your part, but you know what? It leads to destruction.

dante0147:
Everything falls under trasanctional sex

AmakaUnique:
Boyfriend/girlfriend relationship to the ordinary man in the street means a boy and a girl that are emotionally or sexually attached to each other but they are not married to each other. It can also be called dating.

This is a very widely accepted practice among the youths today, and if you are not in it, then you are 'old school'.

But I want to let you know that the only relationship acceptable and recognised by God between a boy and a girl who are not married to each other is courtship (that is a period of getting to know each other after proposal and acceptance of marriage proposal, before the wedding comes) and worthy of note is that there must also not be any intimacy between the two of them before the wedding.

Boyfriend/girlfriend relationship or dating is not acceptable before God and is not right for a believer to engage in. That is a relationship coined out by the devil to deceive young men and women and drag them into the pit of immorality, and it has ruined so many young people today. Talking about the unwanted pregnancies that have destroyed many young ladies, sexually transmitted diseases, heartbreaks, etc.

Some may say they are just dating and are not committing fornication, but you cannot put a goat and a yam together in a room, otherwise you are calling for trouble. What about the touching, kissing etc. How long do you think you both can endure the fire you are carrying in your bosom without getting burnt? Please say no to such an ungodly relationship.

We have been made to believe that without dating, one can not get a good husband or wife. But dating is not a criterion for having a successful or happy marriage.
Many of the people that dated for so many years before getting married are not even happy in their marriages today compared to their counterparts who never dated before getting married. Some of them are going through hell in their marriages.

So, it's all about allowing God to lead and guide you in making the choice of who to marry. With prayers and obedience to His will, God can give you a good husband or wife without you engaging in the costly game of dating. I know this is not a palatable advice because the truth is always bitter and hard to practice. But it will save you so many troubles and heartache if you follow it.

Dont look at the fact that everybody is doing it because the bible said in Exodus 23:2 "You shall not follow a multitude to do evil..." So it doesn't even matter if 99% of people are doing it. And it also said in Matthew 7:13-14, "Enter you in at the strait gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat. Because strait is the gate and narrow is the way which leads to life, and few there be that find it".

You can see that the way that leads to destruction is very wide and so MANY people go through that way because its an easy way, but the way that leads to life is very narrow and its only very FEW people that go through it. It's so narrow that you cannot do as you like or you may fall or get injured, but it leads to life.

But in the wide and broad way, anything goes, there's no code of conduct, its wide enough to play or do whatever you like, it's such a smooth and thorn-free way that doesn't require carefulness on your part, but you know what? It leads to destruction.

Khaytunechi:
We seen people who done dated for years,, got married and are still blessed and fine..

We seen those who didn't do shit until marriage and still didn't have a happy ending..

On this issue,, you have your way,, others have theirs,, as for the only way,, it doesn't exist..

AmakaUnique:
. And it also said in Matthew 7:13-14, "Enter you in at the strait gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat. Because strait is the gate and narrow is the way which leads to life, and few there be that find it".

You can see that the way that leads to destruction is very wide and so MANY people go through that way because its an easy way, but the way that leads to life is very narrow and its only very FEW people that go through it. It's so narrow that you cannot do as you like or you may fall or get injured, but it leads to life.

But in the wide and broad way, anything goes, there's no code of conduct, its wide enough to play or do whatever you like, it's such a smooth and thorn-free way that doesn't require carefulness on your part, but you know what? It leads to destruction.

Cabble4:
Dating is wrong in all climes. It gives room for sex and sex overshadows your sense of good judgment when it comes to that person you are dating. You don't get to see the danger in him/her no matter the number of people or the credibility of the people telling you.

payosehtor:
that exactly what I 've said.though I spoke like a church man. you 've buttress it in a rational/matured language.