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Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by AmakaUnique(f): 11:05am On Mar 16
Boyfriend/girlfriend relationship to the ordinary man in the street means a boy and a girl that are emotionally or sexually attached to each other but they are not married to each other. It can also be called dating.

This is a very widely accepted practice among the youths today, and if you are not in it, then you are 'old school'.

But I want to let you know that the only relationship acceptable and recognised by God between a boy and a girl who are not married to each other is courtship (that is a period of getting to know each other after proposal and acceptance of marriage proposal, before the wedding comes) and worthy of note is that there must also not be any intimacy between the two of them before the wedding.

Boyfriend/girlfriend relationship or dating is not acceptable before God and is not right for a believer to engage in. That is a relationship coined out by the devil to deceive young men and women and drag them into the pit of immorality, and it has ruined so many young people today. Talking about the unwanted pregnancies that have destroyed many young ladies, sexually transmitted diseases, heartbreaks, etc.

Some may say they are just dating and are not committing fornication, but you cannot put a goat and a yam together in a room, otherwise you are calling for trouble. What about the touching, kissing etc. How long do you think you both can endure the fire you are carrying in your bosom without getting burnt? Please say no to such an ungodly relationship.

We have been made to believe that without dating, one can not get a good husband or wife. But dating is not a criterion for having a successful or happy marriage.
Many of the people that dated for so many years before getting married are not even happy in their marriages today compared to their counterparts who never dated before getting married. Some of them are going through hell in their marriages.

So, it's all about allowing God to lead and guide you in making the choice of who to marry. With prayers and obedience to His will, God can give you a good husband or wife without you engaging in the costly game of dating. I know this is not a palatable advice because the truth is always bitter and hard to practice. But it will save you so many troubles and heartache if you follow it.

Dont look at the fact that everybody is doing it because the bible said in Exodus 23:2 "You shall not follow a multitude to do evil..." So it doesn't even matter if 99% of people are doing it. And it also said in Matthew 7:13-14, "Enter you in at the strait gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat. Because strait is the gate and narrow is the way which leads to life, and few there be that find it".

You can see that the way that leads to destruction is very wide and so MANY people go through that way because its an easy way, but the way that leads to life is very narrow and its only very FEW people that go through it. It's so narrow that you cannot do as you like or you may fall or get injured, but it leads to life.

But in the wide and broad way, anything goes, there's no code of conduct, its wide enough to play or do whatever you like, it's such a smooth and thorn-free way that doesn't require carefulness on your part, but you know what? It leads to destruction.

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by dingbang(m): 11:18am On Mar 16
Amaka and disappointment ..

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by paxonel(m): 12:14pm On Mar 16
Op, You have not used scriptures to point out your claims that it is wrong grin

Anyway,it is not wrong,
infact it should be encouraged and taken very seriously like marriage so long the individuals are 18+. That means, both of you should be faithful to each other like married people and be very committed to each other until you are ready to give birth to children and set up a family do you understand?

If you can do that,you are far better than married people that are divorced

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by payosehtor(m): 4:33pm On Mar 16
cool
Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by payosehtor(m): 5:07pm On Mar 16
@op, iam a witness to what you are talking about. the benefits of this teaching is timely.first, it allows the spirit of God to reveal the outcome
of that relationship /reveal to you who that individual in question is.eg God showed me snake when I prayed for the first fiancee, later discovered the snake was Hiv status, before then she wasn't happy with my no sex stand.but I told her, look since we stated the courtship, I don't like what see in spirit when praying about our relationship , therefore Iam afrd, in short. she and her entire family respect me highly till today. today i am married to a chest woman with kids

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by payosehtor(m): 8:52pm On Mar 16
op, don't expect much patronage to this your thread cuz this is a narrow way issues. it's not applicable to nominal church goer.
mods. please don't torch this thread. allow us sample opinion

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by asalimpo(m): 6:45am On Mar 17
Is there dating in d bible? Is there courtship? If you dont date how will u get to know each other well enuff to know if you want to spend life together? Or u mean that you agree to marry first then you start going out? As for goat nd yam in same room na you sabi. Men r not senseless unthinking animals. Konji can b strong but ppl can resist. A man nd a woman can in d same room/same bed and nothing happens-they dont even need to b born again or "spiritual".
And it happens- a lot, though it's not d majority.

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by shakaranews: 8:13am On Mar 17
Depends on church O. Courting is allowed, jus no touching body in the process.
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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by enshi(m): 8:13am On Mar 17
Yes we can date and sex is almost inevitable but In the whole process God knows when you take him for granted... In all you do avoid taking him for granted..

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by Tunechisneaks: 8:13am On Mar 17
Abeg you know get girlfriend? Because I know understand!!

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by dante0147: 8:13am On Mar 17
Everything falls under trasanctional sex
Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by FindX(m): 8:13am On Mar 17
Stupid preachers.

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by Lucid1(m): 8:14am On Mar 17
payosehtor:
@op, iam a witness to what you are talking about. the benefits of this teaching is timely.first, it allows the spirit of God to reveal the outcome
of that relationship /reveal to you who that individual in question is.eg God showed me snake when I prayed for the first fiancee, later discovered the snake was Hiv status, before then she wasn't happy with my no sex stand.but I told her, look since we stated the courtship, I don't like what see in spirit when praying about our relationship , therefore Iam afrd, in short. she and her entire family respect me highly till today. today i am married to a chest woman with kids


LoL. Chaste.

Congrats, I wish I could connect spiritually as you do

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by dkronicle(m): 8:15am On Mar 17
Walking blindly
Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by aywhy93(m): 8:15am On Mar 17
Correct

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by Topmaike007(m): 8:15am On Mar 17
I Don't need to read your post to tell you it's �% right..I will I Know her if we don't start now..nobody should quote me and mention courtship,cos that one no be am so,she will not come to your house and if you want to see her it must be inside the church..

Op it is right

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by incogni2o: 8:18am On Mar 17
Trying to say right or wrong can be kind of misleading.

Whether Courtship or Dating.

When you are together too long -Like 1 year or more without thinking and talking and planning of marriage, Its gets wrong - For whatever reason.

Be serious

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by ITbomb(m): 8:19am On Mar 17
Sister Amaka why?


Halloluia somebori

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by Khaytunechi: 8:20am On Mar 17
We seen people who done dated for years,, got married and are still blessed and fine..

We seen those who didn't do shit until marriage and still didn't have a happy ending..

On this issue,, you have your way,, others have theirs,, as for the only way,, it doesn't exist..

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by mumin4sure: 8:25am On Mar 17
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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by Deckline(m): 8:28am On Mar 17
Amaka,tell us the truth. So,you no get boyfriend ba

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by OlujobaSamuel: 8:30am On Mar 17
All these things are semantic, it's about what you take them to mean. I have female friends as a man, is it wrong to call such my gf or whatever? I can't walk up to a stranger and tell her I want us to court, the details of interaction between bf and gf can never be the same with that of courtship, for me to go into courtship with a lady, I must know basic things about her, I can't know such if she is not my friend, if she is my friend as a female, then she is my gf.
I just don't buy the idea of lustful desire either in friendship, dating or courtship, however you wanna interpret it.

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by jcross19: 8:31am On Mar 17
Khaytunechi:
We seen people who done dated for years,, got married and are still blessed and fine..

We seen those who didn't do shit until marriage and still didn't have a happy ending..

On this issue,, you have your way,, others have theirs,, as for the only way,, it doesn't exist..
to tell you that the world is too complex and complicated . how the marriage is upon on each individual . virginity can't give you happy home but both parties have a big role to play in the family and let your marital affair be grounded in God.

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by jcross19: 8:34am On Mar 17
AmakaUnique:
Boyfriend/girlfriend relationship to the ordinary man in the street means a boy and a girl that are emotionally or sexually attached to each other but they are not married to each other. It can also be called dating.

This is a very widely accepted practice among the youths today, and if you are not in it, then you are 'old school'.

But I want to let you know that the only relationship acceptable and recognised by God between a boy and a girl who are not married to each other is courtship (that is a period of getting to know each other after proposal and acceptance of marriage proposal, before the wedding comes) and worthy of note is that there must also not be any intimacy between the two of them before the wedding.

Boyfriend/girlfriend relationship or dating is not acceptable before God and is not right for a believer to engage in. That is a relationship coined out by the devil to deceive young men and women and drag them into the pit of immorality, and it has ruined so many young people today. Talking about the unwanted pregnancies that have destroyed many young ladies, sexually transmitted diseases, heartbreaks, etc.

Some may say they are just dating and are not committing fornication, but you cannot put a goat and a yam together in a room, otherwise you are calling for trouble. What about the touching, kissing etc. How long do you think you both can endure the fire you are carrying in your bosom without getting burnt? Please say no to such an ungodly relationship.

We have been made to believe that without dating, one can not get a good husband or wife. But dating is not a criterion for having a successful or happy marriage.
Many of the people that dated for so many years before getting married are not even happy in their marriages today compared to their counterparts who never dated before getting married. Some of them are going through hell in their marriages.

So, it's all about allowing God to lead and guide you in making the choice of who to marry. With prayers and obedience to His will, God can give you a good husband or wife without you engaging in the costly game of dating. I know this is not a palatable advice because the truth is always bitter and hard to practice. But it will save you so many troubles and heartache if you follow it.

Dont look at the fact that everybody is doing it because the bible said in Exodus 23:2 "You shall not follow a multitude to do evil..." So it doesn't even matter if 99% of people are doing it. And it also said in Matthew 7:13-14, "Enter you in at the strait gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat. Because strait is the gate and narrow is the way which leads to life, and few there be that find it".

You can see that the way that leads to destruction is very wide and so MANY people go through that way because its an easy way, but the way that leads to life is very narrow and its only very FEW people that go through it. It's so narrow that you cannot do as you like or you may fall or get injured, but it leads to life.

But in the wide and broad way, anything goes, there's no code of conduct, its wide enough to play or do whatever you like, it's such a smooth and thorn-free way that doesn't require carefulness on your part, but you know what? It leads to destruction.
your type end up in a woeful marriage and pretend to be fine later admitted it that's the will of God . most Christians are the same as Pharisees I mean hypocrites.

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by gypsey(m): 8:36am On Mar 17
Fine, Don't be girl/boyfriends, just fuvk each other and go your ways, That's what the Bible says.

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Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by Skipperrabiu(m): 8:38am On Mar 17
idiot u are a great lier dont beleave with any guy claiming fixed match here jus want to change our topic , comort jare
Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by willexyaho(m): 8:39am On Mar 17
Ok
Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by Skipperrabiu(m): 8:43am On Mar 17
ITbomb:
Sister Amaka why?


Halloluia somebori
Under Yor Hips Someone Will Soon Grab It Till It Swell Up , 4ck the hell out under ur pant
Re: Boyfriend/Girlfriend Relationship, Also Known As Dating: Is It Right Or Wrong? by Cabble4(m): 8:44am On Mar 17
Dating is wrong in all climes. It gives room for sex and sex overshadows your sense of good judgment when it comes to that person you are dating. You don't get to see the danger in him/her no matter the number of people or the credibility of the people telling you.

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