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starring:
Many thanks Bro.
Appreciate

Don't eat anything she brings or gives you, girls are diabolic. She might want to go the babalawo way, if you know girls you'd be on alert about every of their moves. Guy the best thing you can do now is totally avoid her, don't see her again, they have gone deep into the science world now they don't even need to put it in what you will eat, they can rub it on their face or lips or anywhere or even on you. I swear if you really know some girls you'd know devil has a mentor. She's high risk now due to the situation, if I've got time I would have told you about an uncle of mine that had similar situation like yours years ago, mofo went ahead and married this bitchh, a very good nice guy, the best uncle I ever had now he's dead. Died last week and killed by his wife and the bitch left him and married a white guy now after he caused so much trouble for the sweet guy, it taught me a lot about how destructive women can be. Be very careful and count yourself lucky, God just gave you a sign now the rest is left for you don't Starr disturbing him tomorrow.

eph12:
I would slowly withdraw from her, reduce my communications with her. If she complains, I'll blame my tight work schedule. When we hardly talk or see each other, she'll get used to not seeing me. Knowing girls like I do, she'll get somewhere else to fill that void as most of them can't just stay on their own. There must be another guy warming their heart even if nothing sexual is happening

SHE already did...

BrokeFucker007:
Bro anytime a woman tell you how many times she had sex, multiple it by 3. She must have had sex not less than 30/40 times bro. I can testify that nowadays in naija the number of hoes keeps rising daily, almost all the girls I see nowadays are hoes the difference is the price tag and sometimes time and location. Don't try such crap as marrying a girl while you're abroad unless you've made ur peace with another guy or guys lashing her kitten, during service my neighbour Tonia had a fiancee in Spain and we were fucking like crase she later wanted to introduce me to the guy as a friend/neighbour that comes around meeeehn I just couldn't do that the next time she tried to give me phone that the guy wants to talk to me I collected it and cut the call. I was pitying the nigga, he sends money and all to the girl, she tries to share with me but I was raised to not be a Lambert so I decline, I like my own stuff. I told her never to do that again and she never did and the guy called back and she told him that I've left, or should I talk about while her ass is up and I was fucking her she will pick his call and pretend to be asleep and the guy will pet her and say sorry and ask her to go back to sleep and beep him later when she wakes up. Na there I swear say I'll never run any serious thing with any girl that is miles away from me.
Bro all those tears are for one thing, the goodies she gets from you and nothing all, fvck you and ur emotions, she doesn't care and won't. You're just an opportunity for her to get the fvck out of naija, a means to an end, I bet my left balls that if you marry this whorre you will regret it for the rest of your life. then it used to work but nowadays girls have thrown caution to the wind and fvck around for any little reason, too many have becomes coded whorres. A lot of these girls here on nl are whorres too and tend to tell you forgive and accept her, forgive her and maybe have some fun with her or preferably don't waste more time with her and quit the situationship that you have been in. I'm telling you from personal experience, I've fvcked many girls/side chicks/acquaintance and have heard them receive calls from their lover, fiancee and all saying all mushy words I love you and you're my everything and all sort of lies and even their voice sounds so true that I started doubted if the girls were really fvcking me behind their lover's back. Women, girls, ladies? especially with the state of Naija economy bro its not the right time to run these distant relationship. If you want to do it, first make peace with the fact that another bro is drilling her oil well.

see something :ona waaaaa

PrimadonnaO:
I agree. Once a cheat, always a cheat.

The rationale that allowed her cheat so unabashedly would be there again for her to cheat in future. Cousin my foot!

It disgusts me when people act remorse only after they've been caught.

It baffles me sis.. Like, what's the benefits of cheating if I may ask To me it's stressful and energy exhausting jumping from one man/woman to another
If he marries such a woman, he's sure gonna end up dead before his designated time. A cheating partner reduces her husband's life-span so it's best he move on.

dayleke:
SHE already did...

Then the OP has no problem

Here is my take. If you have slept with another woman while dating her then forgive her if not please end the relationship.
Besides dating a Nigerian girl while living in another country is like parking a car at owner's risk.

All of una being diplomatic and advising to the OP just de vex me. Some things require e-yabbing, and potential physical beating in reality

How on earth did a girl tell you a cousin is sleeping in her house and you believed? Are you that dumb? Even if he is truly her cousin, sexual feelings have no regards for blood relationship, incest is real. Secondly, her cheating wasn't happenstance, but a pre-meditated action, engineered on lies, betrayal, unfaithfulness, disloyalty, playing you along like a stupid cow. It was after she was caught, she apologised, not before. Which means if you haven't caught her, its business as usual. And if you know anything about female sexuality, you'll understand that there is a difference when a man cheats and a woman cheats. Women cheat to go out of a relationship while men cheat to stay. A woman that cheat has basically lost all respect for you, and see you as lesser. It's how women are wired. Women are hypergamous (wired for quality), which means they upgrade to quality partners, while men are polygamous (wired for quantity), we just wanna Bleep regardless of if she is rich or not. See the difference? If she still fuckks a home base guy, that probably do not have the resources and international mobility as you, then well, I can only imagine what kind of man you are.

And the bitter truth? if you are not based abroad, you won't have her in the first place. The only space you occupy in her life is that you've got resources, probably money and a vehicle to transport her offshore. Tell her you've been deported, and those crocodile tears will disappear like Sahara desert. To crown your stupidity, you're here asking if you should forgive her. Also, basing your decisions if they slept 4 times or more , sorry bro, you're stupid. The fact you came to NL to ask shows you're weak, lack self-respect and boundaries, and a classical beta-Male, the kind women use as a last option when their sexual market value has gone down, and no man wants them. You're the kind of man that will train another mans child, because you're too stupid to see women through their bullshit, probably you're low self esteemed, and believe you cant get another girl, scarcity mentality instead of abundance.

I intentionally want this message to infuriate you, vex you, and roller coaster your emotion, and if it does, do yourself a big favour and leave her. Your commitment is your life, that's what men give to women, make it expensive as hell, that only a good woman will earn it, not a cheat that doesn't deserve you. Marrying (commitment) is basically a woman's insurance to her depleting sexual market value, and if you give it to that cheat, you've played to loose, while she played to win.

Dating a student comes accompanied with similar experience(s).

Try as much as possible to avoid dating undergraduates. Leave undergraduate ladies for undergraduates. They will always break your heart with their sexual explorations guarded with lies that only the devil can tell.

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

Life's not totally black and white and sometimes a story from one angle/view might not be the full picture. From what I deduce you both had a disagreement that lasted for 1month. you need to be honest, was it a disagreement or a breakup. If it was a breakup, and it was during this period the girl cheated. I won't totally blame her, because to be honest she might think you are not coming back. Only you and the lady understands the whole story, because if it was black and white you won't be asking for advice. You need to make a decision yourself based on the facts on ground,and not follow people's advice here.
P.S I wish the lady can tell us her part of the story

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

(when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

Oga, where's this your 'abroad' .......is it Africa abroad or the real abroad

Actuarydeji:
Oga spare me the Nigerian grammar jare. After her engine has been well serviced and panachukwu she's now claiming that she's a changed person. Yes! She's is a change person because her engine has been serviced. The only reason why a man can leave his babe is infidelity. Guy, move on and forget about, infidelity is in her blood she won't repent.

please what is the meaning of panachukwu

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Like seriously? This advice advise no make sense at all

there should be a way to repay heart breakers!

I have to weigh in on this conversation again. I befriended some prostitutes some 11 years ago in Obalende and they told me certain things. One told me she gets tired of different men coming to her. That she feels exhausted having more than 10 men in a night. That its not as if she doesnt like sex, but it was too much on her. She said she had no choice since her husband had died and she had to take care of her children by herself. She did not last one month in the business.

The second one I met said they deceive their customers and give them thighs and not their honeypot as they cant stand the stress of too many men inside them. She also told me she discharged a guy and gave him back his money because his dick was so large and he wanted her to sit on top.

Now I know some people would come and start saying "you befriended prostitutes". I say yes and I am glad I did. I dont have anything against anybody's line of business so long as they are honest about it and it does not contravene the law.

Why did I say all these? A woman who willingly strides two or more men along and lies about it to one or all of them is worse than a prostitute. I'd rather be friends with a prostitute who, though ashamed of her line of business is honest about it than have business with a woman who cheats with at least one person and lies about it. Bro, she is not decent. Period.

pansophist:
All of una being diplomatic and advising to the OP just de vex me. Some things require e-yabbing, and potential physical beating in reality

How on earth did a girl tell you a cousin is sleeping in her house and you believed? Are you that dumb? Even if he is truly her cousin, sexual feelings have no regards for blood relationship, incest is real. Secondly, her cheating wasn't happenstance, but a pre-meditated action, built on lies, betrayal, unfaithfulness, disloyalty, playing you along like a stupid cow. It was after she was caught, she apologised, not before. Which means if you haven't caught her, its business as usual. And if you know anything about female sexuality, you'll understand that there is a difference when a man cheats and a woman cheats. Women cheat to go out of a relationship while men cheat to stay. A woman that cheat has basically lost all respect for you, and see you as lesser. It's how they are wired. Women are hypergamous ( wired for quality), which means they upgrade to quality partners, while men are polygamous (wired for quantity), we just wanna Bleep regardless of if she is rich or not. See the difference?

And the bitter truth? if you are not based abroad, you won't have her in the first place. The only space you occupy in her life is that you've got resources, probably money and a vehicle to transport her offshore. Tell her you've been deported, and those crocodile tears will disappear like Sahara desert. To crown your stupidity, you're here asking if you should forgive her. Also, basing your decisions if they slept 4 times or more , sorry bro, you're stupid. The fact you came to NL to ask shows you're weak, lack self-respect and boundaries, and a classical beta-Male, the kind women use as a last option when their sexual market value has gone down, and no man wants them. You're the kind of man that will train another mans child, because you're too stupid to see women through their bullshit, probably you're low self esteemed, and believe you cant get another girl, scarcity mentality instead of abundance.

I intentionally want this message to infuriate you, vex you, and roller coaster your emotion, and if it does, do yourself a big favour and leave her. Your commitment is your life, that's what men give to women, make it expensive as hell, that only a good women will earn it, not a cheat that doesn't deserve you. Marrying (commitment) is basically a woman's insurance to her depleting sexual market value, and if you give it to that cheat, you've played to loose, while she played to win.

bros where’d you base? I wanna gift you my main chicks pvssy for this comment. Abeg drop address, will make sure I tell her all the styles to satisfy you when she gets there.

In this age, you still believe a girl when she says the boy she is seeing is her "cousin." Na wa o. Leave the relationship, she doesn't mean it when she says that she can't leave you and she will commit suicide if you break up with her or her life is meaningless without you. Let a Cristiano Ronaldo come for her and she will throw you in the trash bin. I can bet she had more the four sex with that "cousin" . Dump her and don't look back. If she commit suicide that's her business. Infidelity is unacceptable.

starring:
e go don pass 20 sef and I'm sure per fvck go be more than 2 rounds..

please don't let this incident turn you into a bad person

I assure you there are still very decent and faithful girls out there .

You just have to commit your search into God's hands.

mrphysics:
Dating a student comes accompanied with similar experience(s).

Try as much as possible to avoid dating undergraduates. Leave undergraduate ladies for undergraduates. They will always break your heart with their sexual explorations guarded with lies that only the devil can tell.

Not all.

all these girls in universities are waste of time

let's not even talk of nysc

most of them lack brain, but it seems the op lacks brain more here

mumu

eph12:
Then the OP has no problem

Abi o..
I was referring to the gf's "cousin" o...

islandmoon:
there should be a way to repay heart breakers!

And the best u could think of is to father a kid with her? Funny u

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Who was the idiot that first used that line "devil u know is better than d angel u don't know"?

if you can't be happy, try fake it. please!

stupidity:
bros where’d you base? I wanna gift you my main chicks pvssy for this comment. Abeg drop address, will make sure I tell her all the styles to satisfy you when she gets there.

Thanks man, although I prefer money instead. Make I send account number?

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

Honestly, I have been laughing since I read your post, so sorry bout that but I can't stop laughing!
Can't you see she is using you? Are men of this generation so stupid they can't see when they are being used?

Bro many years ago I used to be in your position, I am smarter now, much smarter.

For starters, your ex girlfriend is a good liar! Remember how you started about the so called Cousin. Don't fall for her scam again bro.

Secondly, she sleeps around very much and she believes she can easily outsmart you because you have a good and trusting heart! Check it out, she introduced the guy as her Cousin then makes sure she calls you every time there is a banging date with the guy to continue having your trust. She is manipulative!

Next, she believes you are easily manipulated by tears and drama and you would succumb easily.

Finally, she won't hurt herself Nada! She is just applying emotional blackmail on you.

Guy, man up and take a decision, my elder Broda told me something I never forgets in relation to women. Beta thing no dey finish for market!

Your Ex girlfriend does not deserve you! You are way ahead of her league!

There are thousands of more beautiful, more chaste, more faithful and productive ladies out there looking for agentleman like you with a good heart to date!

May Almighty God lead you to such women to make their noble dream come true.

imagine. I was in such situation bro. all I can say is that you should let her go b4 you get heavy bp

I don't even know why you are seeking opinion when the only sensible option you have is to DUMP her!

Jesus! How can you let yourself to be fooled by some fictitious cousin line? How could you even trust a girl? My brother, forgive her for her transgression but DUMP HER! Let he take her repentance elsewhere.

Cheers

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

OKOATA:
What's with all these sissy niggas I read on nairaland lately. So at this stage of your life you are still foolish, cousin came to stay at your GF house for 5 days, she told you na my cousin and you believed her. Infact may thunder fire that your dull brain. Are you that ugly that you can't find another girl? Too many foolish boys on the loose these days. If she commit suicide make you join am since you be mumu.

dayleke:
Abi o..
I was referring to the gf's "cousin" o...

Ehn the OP is concerned about how the babe will feel if he withdraws. He shouldn't worry about that because there's someone else to fill in the void

zed7:
You sef na mumu. Who takes a 22 year old serious? She's a child and is experiencing life. Any girl below 27 at the least doesn't understand the concept of relationship.

You no serious o. So na advanced ladies of 30+ you expect a young guy to date?

If you having girl problems i feel bad for you son

Doesn't she have female friends?

Just fūck 4 of them and get 2 of the 4 pregnant. Then take off to your abroad.

She never forgive you. Table turned

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?