grad2012:
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BEANSANDBREAD00:
If there was no nairaland what would you do?
There are several advices people in this forum would give you how will you be able to choose?

My friend you are a man you should no what to do and follow your heart

Jayslicky:
Look at the way you carried women palava for head like family man, chase your dream and make money, if she is not okay with your plan that means she was never in your life's plan, you young enjoy life and care less about women issues, she wants a marriage or a baby just shows she don't trust you enough, as they say true love is patient, all I see in your girlfriend is someone who is desperately seeking for marriage from any guy who approaches her, love is not in her dictionary, she has a shallow idea of marriage but in all do what you feel is best for you.

Redwhiteandblue:

...She's a good lady, the type every man would want.

Redwhiteandblue:


GF says she's willing to wait for 5 years max so I can figure my life out before marriage but she needs some form of "security", something to hold on to; either a court wedding or a baby.

Redwhiteandblue:

She's concerned about her biological clock and waiting in vain.

Redwhiteandblue:

I, on the other hand, do not quite vibe with the idea. I think if we're waiting for each other, it should be because of love and not a "commitment" *I hope that was the right word*

Redwhiteandblue:

She says she's very much okay with a Long-Distance Relationship as long as communication is strong -- she has done it about twice. For me, honestly, I am not sure I can do it. I told her its something I'm willing to try for us but I'm not assuring her I can do it. I think "out of sight is out of mind" she thinks "absence makes the heart grow fonder"

midehi2:
!. You don't love her much for the wait.

2, You already have a double mind, the new girl is already an alternative for you.

3. There's a clause for your relationship (your parents, her age).

4. There's tendency you gonna disappoint her in future.

(my advice) Please breakup with her in a good way, let her find the best way now, if not she will never forgive you for disappointment.

Redwhiteandblue:
Hi everyone!

I'm a silent reader and I created this throwaway account for anonymity. I need your advice, I wouldn't want to make the wrong decision.

I'll try to keep this short, I understand most people don't fancy epistles. My wahala plenty, biko bear with me. So here's the gist.

I'm a young man, early twenties, who just graduated and waiting for service. I have a girlfriend who is 2 years older than me. We've known each other for four years -- started out as friends for the first two and started dating two years ago.

She's a good lady, the type every man would want.

I have plans to travel next year for my post-graduate studies (Canada or USA). I don't have intentions of coming back anytime soon, except for important family events, so the goal is relocation.

GF says she's willing to wait for 5 years max so I can figure my life out before marriage but she needs some form of "security", something to hold on to; either a court wedding or a baby. She's concerned about her biological clock and waiting in vain.

I, on the other hand, do not quite vibe with the idea. I think if we're waiting for each other, it should be because of love and not a "commitment" *I hope that was the right word*

She says she's very much okay with a Long-Distance Relationship as long as communication is strong -- she has done it about twice. For me, honestly, I am not sure I can do it. I told her its something I'm willing to try for us but I'm not assuring her I can do it. I think "out of sight is out of mind" she thinks "absence makes the heart grow fonder"

I don't want a situation where something goes south along the line, we'll then have a baby or a divorce to deal with. I'm not planning for it but I'm just being realistic.

Issues;

- My mom doesn't like their tribe. Doesn't matter, right? After all, its my life.
- Age factor. Not a problem for me.
- Distance that will come between us and time before I get ready. She says she can wait 5 years.
- Pressure from her end. She's Igbo and the first daughter. She says she can stand the pressure.

She wants to know if I'll be willing to put in the effort to make the LDR work. She could come visit occasionally.

She says if I'm sure its not going to work out, I should let her know to avoid wasting each others' time and a messy heartbreak in the future.

So my question is Do you guys think the "security" is a good idea? Would you advice me to go through with it?

Please ask any questions that would help in the decision process.

Side note:

There's a girl I've known for 2 years now. We're just friends!

- She's from my side of the country.
- I'm 2 years older than her. She's 20 and just graduated.
- There's a chance she will travel to the same destination for her post-graduate but I'm not sure.

We've been communicating a lot lately (during the few months my GF traveled. GF is back now.) and its very clear this girl likes me. GF is not comfortable with the closeness. I used to ignore her but GF felt that wasn't really nice and urged me to talk to her. I saw her point and started responding to her and boom! It transitioned into an everyday sort of thing.

Now she's concerned -- if she left for a few months and we got this close, what will happen when I travel?

Advice a brother, please. Thank you!

Lalasticlala

UyaiIncomparabl:

DMerciful:
What's the meaning of your moniker?

UyaiIncomparabl:


Beauty incomparable.