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gaby:
Hmmm

Some of you guys are just so unfathomable and it irks me to no end how you bandy the word "educated" as if common sense is taught in schools especially our kinda schools.

You saw all these with your korokoro eyes while dating but simply pretended as usual that it wasn't there because in your mind your being an architect who can spoil her with gifts will cure her craze...fafafa fawoool

Look guy...zero love..is what that woman sure has for you and you disgust her fantastically. If she had her way or choice she wouldn't wish to be caught a thousand miles around you..its so frigging obvious. You were just a means to an end considering her biological time was waning..

She lost the one she truly loved for whatever reasons and was left with no choice than to manage you to fulfil all righteousness such as having a child seeing how time was ticking out on her coupled with pressures from her family too.

I won't be surprised if her true love is the one she is working towards moving closer to overseas.

I'm seated here typing and wondering how your "Architectural" brains could miss spotting how her "Doctoral or Surgical brain" is conveniently using you as the "available to be settled for in the absence of the desirables" haba oga...are you that low in self esteem or looks.

The lack of an okay self esteem is as well a huge turn off for most women so you know, and from the look of your write up you sure exudes this.

Wetin dey happen na...make una still try dey face reality and tackle am head on.

You see say you dey irritate person plus the person dey shame for you, you still dey force yourself on am cum dey claim successful architect. Your "trying too hard" to win her true love is even more repulsive to her including the gifts..

Na all these kind dundee characters dey make me sometimes dey agree say instead wey person go born mumu make e jejely born omila...

Abi na the woman disvirgin you or na Doctor kill you for your former life wey cum make you swear say you must marry doctor for your new life lol..

Guys make una dey shine una eye well well like my daughter abeg...no time to check time o

Just incase none of the above checks out...guy you dey marry person wey done die for one side prematurely wey him soul never rest according to the Nigerian gist.

Wake up man..you can do better than this...life is too long or short for all these arrant bullocks...yolo man...

That woman's true love is in a corner and probably getting his steady cut on the side from her because he must be married too hence your coming into the picture.

This story aptly captures and rings so true to the saying " Money can not buy love".

Superb submissions!
The mistake was from the beginning!
He forced himself into her....she didn't see him in that picture!
She never admired him....never saw him as her king...never respected him or praised him.....never appreciated whatever he did no matter how small or big and certainly,she never loved him!
He was just a 'fall guy' that was used to replace the main guy whom she had deep affections for even till date but for some reasons,that relationship never worked out!!!

ozoono:
come u talk too much, are u a parrot?

Hehehehehej

Bros U are related to Wike?

UyaiIncomparabl:
If she so much hated attention, she wouldn't even post pictures of herself nor have agreed to take pictures. A person who doesn't like attention lives a private life online and offline. In her case, she's disgusted at him.

God bless u sweetie...... I wonder how she managed to upload a picture if her male colleagues on their birthday and couldn't do same to her husband.... She's not just into him or she has something really deep in her heart that will hunt her for the rest of her life

get a second wife as soon as she travels out

gaby:
Hmmm

Some of you guys are just so unfathomable and it irks me to no end how you bandy the word "educated" as if common sense is taught in schools especially our kinda schools.

You saw all these with your korokoro eyes while dating but simply pretended as usual that it wasn't there because in your mind your being an architect who can spoil her with gifts will cure her craze...fafafa fawoool

Look guy...zero love..is what that woman sure has for you and you disgust her fantastically. If she had her way or choice she wouldn't wish to be caught a thousand miles around you..its so frigging obvious. You were just a means to an end considering her biological time was waning..

She lost the one she truly loved for whatever reasons and was left with no choice than to manage you to fulfil all righteousness such as having a child seeing how time was ticking out on her coupled with pressures from her family too.

I won't be surprised if her true love is the one she is working towards moving closer to overseas.

I'm seated here typing and wondering how your "Architectural" brains could miss spotting how her "Doctoral or Surgical brain" is conveniently using you as the "available to be settled for in the absence of the desirables" haba oga...are you that low in self esteem or looks.

The lack of an okay self esteem is as well a huge turn off for most women so you know, and from the look of your write up you sure exudes this.

Wetin dey happen na...make una still try dey face reality and tackle am head on.

You see say you dey irritate person plus the person dey shame for you, you still dey force yourself on am cum dey claim successful architect. Your "trying too hard" to win her true love is even more repulsive to her including the gifts..

Na all these kind dundee characters dey make me sometimes dey agree say instead wey person go born mumu make e jejely born omila...

Abi na the woman disvirgin you or na Doctor kill you for your former life wey cum make you swear say you must marry doctor for your new life lol..

Guys make una dey shine una eye well well like my daughter abeg...no time to check time o

Just incase none of the above checks out...guy you dey marry person wey done die for one side prematurely wey him soul never rest according to the Nigerian gist.

Wake up man..you can do better than this...life is too long or short for all these arrant bullocks...yolo man...

That woman's true love is in a corner and probably getting his steady cut on the side from her because he must be married too hence your coming into the picture.

This story aptly captures and rings so true to the saying " Money can not buy love".

You have said it all

Pragmaticman:
Bro, my name is also Gaby, u said my mind already. U nailed it

This guy is just a mumu.

With all these signs, he still married her, and still living with her.

To the OP, pls u need to understand that u got married to yourself, that lady wil relocate overseas and abandone you. If u like, relocate with her abroad because u don't want to lose her.
The reality is that, u can't lose what you don't have. In her mind, u are not her husband. U are just a pun

The guy's dream was to have a career/professional wife obviously and when he landed this Doctor, he lost all his manly senses by ignoring crucially important tell tale signs that would have prevented a topic like this.

The guy tries too hard to impress the woman yet she still fails to get impressed, all she feels is more repulsion instead and oga fails to see any of these.

If you know how choking or suffocating it can be when someone you truly have no genuine love for is all over you and trying tooth and nail to impress you, you'd even feel sorry for the woman.

The woman is quiet and reserved my ass...wished there was a way you could see her in a room alone with someone she truly loves only then will you understand that true love knows no inhibitions.

Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?

Bros this your story they similar to my own......?

Xaos:
Clone her phone. If you can't, then clone all her SM accounts. If she's hiding something you will know.

But before you do, I want you to know

— you wouldn't find anything.
— your wife isn't ashamed of you or something like that.

It's just that she really, really, really hates attention.
I myself I am programmed that way.
Your wife is a mirror image of myself.

But please do clone her SM for your satisfaction.

biko how do you clone phones or sims ? I can call if you do

UjuJoan2:
What is her dating history?

Exactly, there's someone she is still shielding from seeing things about her..

Bros. Your story long o!
But you still made sense sha.

humilitypays:
Op Cc: Pkingman

Your wife does not love you, simple!

Your wife is not proud of you!

I used to be an international level relationship counsellor, and during those times, I met and counselled women of all races, class and profession. So I will be honest with you, no mincing words!

Your wife married you out of no other available choice. Your wife got heartbroken by her dream man, and she couldn't get another of her dream men to propose and marry her, her type of men weren't coming forth while her age advances without pity, and family was pressuring her to settle down, and you came onboard and she noticed you are serious to settle down and have the finance to settle down, so she decided to just marry you in order to fulfill all righteousness of being married.

Deep down her heart, you are the least of the type of men she admires and trips for. In fact, it still surprises and disgusts her that she married u, she can't believe it, she looks at u and get upset. When I was a relationship counselor, I learned a lot from women, it built my level of confidence with women and it helped me understood women of all races and class better. They confided in me. Many married women don't love their husbands, they married their husbands out of no choice. Their dream men weren't coming, some got heartbroken by their dream men, some their dream man wasn't financially buoyant to marry them and family pressure pushed to marry the rich men they married.

You maybe tall, dark, handsome but that's to you. Not all women love dark, tall and handsome, some ladies prefer average height guys, some prefer slim guys, some prefer plump guys, some even prefer fat guys, some prefer skinny guys, some prefer rugged looking guys, some prefer Churchy looking guys, so for ladies, they don't have a definite look of an ideal man, forget what you read online, it is only men that have a defined qualities of what they see as hot lady; big protruding buttocks, firm breast, flat tummy, ladies are not like men, sometimes the man they see as handsome maybe ugly to many other women, that's women for you.

And women's love radiate beyond physical looks, they consider inconsequential things and qualities u may hear and shiver, that's women, they are weird creatures, doesn't mean u are not so many ladies ideal man.

In fact, u maybe an ideal man to ladies hotter, prettier, classier and richer than your wife, yes that's the truth, but you decided to confined yourself to your wife as your supermodel from courtship.

I don't like it when a man who has financial stability confines himself to a certain lady who doesn't appreciate him, its disgusting, you are a man, act like a man and not like a sissy!

When I wasn't that financially okay, no lady, I mean no lady looked down on me, talkless of when God then answered my call, they no born that lady well. As it is now, I select ladies, in fact, 80% of so called hot ladies u see around can't meet my spec, so who born that lady that will push me aside, unless she is the daughter of USA President or Queen of England and she must be as sexy as Kim Kardashian too, they never born that lady.

How can you allow yourself to be sidelined by a lady, ah, they swear for you ni

I am sure what pushed you into this mess is I MUST MARRY A DOCTOR useless mentality, what's doctor Money is the koko, how much does a doctor earn

I can pay 4 doctors in Nigeria, and I can pay 2 doctors in USA, so to hell with that useless doctor that will try nonsense I am a doctor bulshit!

Yes I met a lady some time ago, I didn't know she was a doctor, cos i care less about what any lady does for a living cos its inconsequential to me, i can make a jobless lady anything i want her to be so what, so we started dating and I then found out she was a doctor working with national hospital, just few months to our dating, I noticed arrogance in her, I quickly dropped her to her shock! She cried and pleaded to no avail, I can't take that bulshit. I can't call u and u don't return my call as my so called girlfriend, that ends our relationship, call back and I will end the call and call u back, its a sign of respect to return calls of important people in your life, don't ever ignore those little signs during courtship.

I pay attention to details because I don't want to end up with a lady that has been debased and used/dumped by another man who is still reeling in pains, I can't consume another mans vomit, never!

You ignored the signs during courtship! She wasn't proud of u. It is u the man that should be the one hiding not she. Me I don't even allow any of my gf to add me on Facebook, if u do, I unfriend u, I don't post pics, I have no pics on fb or anywhere, if u want to see me, come to my house or office, the business I have online is to make money and leave. Online is for women looking for praise and validation that they are pretty and those looking for man not for me anymore, not now.

Your wife's true love is either abroad or in her workplace or nearby.

As soon as your wife relocates abroad, that will be the end of your marriage with her.

Any day that her dream man, probably her former lover comes asking her back, she will run leave u, that's the truth!

Go and find out who and who your wife dated, u ought to know her dating history and the guy she loved the most and why. You ought to know this before u married her.

From my years of experience, Nigerian doctors, especially the females have pride and ego. That name doctor de shack their head, and funny enough doctors are the least earners, they hardly end up rich. Ordinary engineering graduate with OND that works with NLNG, Mobil, Shell, etc will pay 10 Nigerian doctors, so what's the fuss all about

Doctors time done expire, the only place they still earn well is US, Australia, Canada, UK (but tax takes back their income here), but doctors in Nigeria are as poor as teachers, so why the pride

Owo ni koko, money is the key now, internet, entertainment and ICT are the trending money makers now, so don't let any doctor do nonsense with u, tell them they are broke!

How much do they earn in Nigeria Highest is 350,000 if they are lucky to get job in federal hospital like national hospital. How much do they earn in USA $30 per hour, by 8hrs = $240 a day, multiply by 22 days, highest is $7,000, then minus tax of up to 35 - 40%, then you pay rent, gas, etc, how much is left

But some guys earn legally online $15,000 monthly not through scam, legitimate money, so don't let any nonsense feeling fucking doctor intimidate u, their time has passed!

Guys before u marry any Nigerian lady who is a doctor, make sure she sees u as her king if not drop her asap!

I have dated 3 doctors and they are all arrogant and prideful because of the nonsense doctor name and because some mumu Nigerians accord them so much respect for no reason I can tell.

Op, your wife is in love with someone else that didn't see her good enough to be his wife, and u went and carried another mans reject with your koro koro eyes

Its not as if she is feeding u or that u are broke, abeg start to show her less attention, get a hot looking side chick with big ass big like trailer and focus on having good time with the side chick and your guys, go home late, go out with her and friends on weekends, spend less time at home, call your wife less, but make sure u give ever enough money and material things to keep the home okay, but spend less time with her and at home.


Return back to bachelor life and in fact, make sure u get your own house, build good mansion as an architect, invest and then have a second plan so that if she succeeds in traveling abroad, u forget about her and move on with your life with a hotter, classier chick, because once she travels abroad, she will forget u and probably start flirting around with different men she admires over there, that's how they do, so prepare ahead, her dream guys go chop her tire for abroad and even her fellow doctors go de do for here if they are not doing already.

Marry Nigerian female doctor at your own peril, prideful arrogant broke people forming nonsense

I don't blame them, I blame the guys giving them attention sha

Na the kain thing wey I dey pray for this one dey vex for

Xaos:
Disgusted at someone she married — the father of her child? Okay. For you to say this, maybe you skipped the part he said she has been / still is a good wife. Or the fact that he ‘only’ isn't a part of her life online.

Oh... You don't know a thing or two about people who hates attention. Is not something you can ‘just’ fathom.

she hates attention you said? You forgot the part where the man said she posts pictures of her colleagues at work even her kids, family and friends? The woman is simply not proud of her man. A woman unthinkably posts pictures of those that means so much to her and won't hesitate to let the world know.

sacajawea:
Lol As Soon as He said Medical Dr, a Nigerian Medical Dr it is Finished
Those People are Sick Cold People
You are Married to a Sociopath! OP this is Just the beginning

Take five jareh https://i1.wp.com/media.premiumtimesng.com/wp-content/files/2016/03/image_21542.jpg

Marrying a Nigerian female doctor is like marrying a psychiatric patient...they are sick but don't know....sick with arrogance, pride in empty stomach (they are broke but don't know lol )

Op is dealing with a psychiatric patient who doesn't know she is sick; Nigerian doctors should marry their fellow doctors so they can be sick and unfaithful together

Mr op, the truth is dat ur wife doesn't love u and u knw it. U cannot deny this except if u dnt want to tell urself d truth. Never marry someone that doesn't love u as u do is d lesson. Learn to treat anybody d way they treat u. The remedy to this ur situation is: neglect her completely, both on social media etc,. Perform ur duty as a husband would do to his wife. Get out, mingle with friends esp beautiful ladies, take pix with them post them on Facebook. Behave as if u don't notice her, never go out for functions with her. Try be a bit cocky and I don't care. Watch and see her crawl back for u. One thing we guys don't understand is dat women love challenge. Jst try and treat her the way she's treating u. Make sure u don't cheat on her for u to get d leverage. Tnk me later.

victorian:
So op simply move with the flow in your marriage. Your wife won't leave you.
She's made up her mind to be committed to you . Don't bother your mind about showing u off.

Tonto dikeh that was showing off her husband and their kisses online, where is she today? Lilian esoro? Where are they today? So it's not about showing off.

It's all about commitment and you've got that at home

At least thank God for that.

Am trying to agree with u. But, I'll ask, in marriages, what makes both partner happy becomes priority isn't it?.. This is what makes this guy happy, and from what he wrote, he can move mountain for this wife if she @ least can appreciate this man b4 people, which is SM in this case.... Anyway, dude got what he ordered.. Me, I won't marry a woman that can't appreciate me with these little things. That lady is hiding something very serious. Else I wonder why she will post her self, post her colleagues and say good things about them, but won't talk about her man. Or put social media aside, @ least appreciate good gifts like car with all the good words and prayers for her man.. Haba. What type of personality is that.. My brother... U have a big deal, and is unfortunate u'll live with this coldness for the rest of ur. Sorry. I can't help you. Is marriage.

dfrost:
The wife will kill him. Simple. A medical personnel? A surgeon? I reserve my comment.

OP, go and make your marriage work.I don't listen to one sided stories.

Kill him? That’s not possible. You’re making it sound like he’s in a cage

Alwaystruth:
It is you op that is a problem in that marriage.Try to understand your woman and wife very well and I believe your mindset about her will change.It is not every body that likes this social media show,Mr.Op, I am a perfect example of a man who doesn't like social media stunt. In my fb ,I have one little cropped up picture of myself and that's all. It will interest you to know that I live abroad for past 19 years. I have thousands of pictures taken with flashy clothes and cars at beautiful spots but non is in my fb or IG. So, forget about this showing up in sm and move on with your life and be happy with your family.The only thing that should bother you is her plans to relocate abroad because doctors are hotcakes abroad and as you have started complaining already,I doubt if she will give you the attentions you wants and deserves when she travels abroad.

U did not read the OP's story well....the heading of the thread as impaired ur angle of analysis....what is there to study in this wife.
Did u read the part where she crops his image out before posting, did u read the part where she post enuf pictures of herself and that of male colleagues with warm messages....or ddnt u see the party where even if the dude post her pictures and tag her she will go pms and tell him not to tag her.
I don't just want to conclude.....but I think she's keeping her options open the moment she finds someone open totake her with her kid....she will support this dude like trash....I mean.....who da hell crops out their spouse's picture??

The truth is she doesn't love you but all hope is not lost its not difficult for a woman to love, communicate with her, how do you make a woman happy if you don't know what she wants? try and figure out what she wants in a man and mold yourself to be that man, be a friend to her someone she enjoys having a conversation with. Be creative in the oza room, if your sex life is boring it will make matters worse, shower her with more love and pray for her.

Pkingman:
On her relationship with me at home: She is a perfect partner.. Very friendly and jovial, respects me.. Despite her busy schedule, she still takes out time to keep the home running.. Cooks and does chores, without bothering me to assist.. I hate domestic chores ..we have no maid because she said she doesn't need a maid. My mum and hers take turns to visit and assist.

On Intimacy... Good.. Top notch.. Na she dey rush me sef. We play, pray and laugh.. We even watch football matches together. We both support Arsenal. We hardly quarrel.

On social functions : She isn't the very outgoing type.. More of an indoor person but we attend dew occasions together and she acts just okay... Not cold, not overly excited.. But if we take pictures together, she will never upload that but will rather upload her personal picture.

On gifts : I don't know if it's because she has her own money and can easily afford anything I buy for her.. She has never asked me for anything, even cash I give her because I believe I have to. She only says thank you, no excitement at all. Is this how independent women act?
I complained about this to her parents and siblings.. They said that's how she is.. But I don't feel good about this.. It's so not feminine. As if I am not adding anything to her.

On changing my attitude towards her : She doesn't even want me to put her up on social media as well.. So if I stop that, it won't bother her.
I can't just start giving her cold attitude at home.. No reason for that. Besides, she may just enjoy the space and shun me.. That will be to my own detriment because she sure knows how to keep to herself and mind her business while I can't .

My concern is that my friends, relatives, colleagues show off their partners and celebrate them online. They take pictures and post.. They use their spouses on their DPs.If I don't do same, won't people think my marriage is having issues? And my wife being the reason for this just doesn't sit well with me. I am uncomfortable about it because normal women don't behave like this. They are proud of being married. They are usually crazy about their husbands and look for every opportunity to show them off,display gifts and all that... How many women will husband buy new car for And they won't show off online, at least on whatsapp? Even though she already has a car she bought before we got married, I thought this will be different, being a new car and a SUV...Haba!

Please I hope you see this.. You should have given us this details before people started chastising her. Please don't change towards her.. That is the disadvantages of marrying an independent woman. Like you said there is nothing you can give her, she can't give herself.. Your marriage doesn't have a problem please.. Don't cause problems for it..


That just the way she is.. Just keep loving her and live with like that.. This is a very good woman you just portray.. Please sir don't let online community people get into your head.. I hope you see this..

Kwinesther:
she hates attention you said? You forgot the part where the man said she posts pictures of her colleagues at work even her kids, family and friends? The woman is simply not proud of her man. A woman unthinkably posts pictures of those that means so much to her and won't hesitate to let the world know.

Don't mind them jareh, even Kim Kardashian, Beyonce who are hot, classy, rich ladies still show off their husbands who are not even handsome, Nigerian female doctors are sick (arrogant & prideful for nothing), simple!!

Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?

Guy, pass me her number. She has exactly the specifications of my dream wife.

victorian:
So op simply move with the flow in your marriage. Your wife won't leave you.
She's made up her mind to be committed to you . Don't bother your mind about showing u off.

Tonto dikeh that was showing off her husband and their kisses online, where is she today? Lilian esoro? Where are they today? So it's not about showing off.

It's all about commitment and you've got that at home

At least thank God for that.

I just viewed ur dp.
You look look like a masquerade.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Bros. Your story long o!
But you still made sense sha.

Op's post got me son angry jareh, it was so annoying

nadigo:
My brother hmmn you have the best wife in the world you know why i said this i have the same experience my wife is a medical doctor of over 20 years experience and everything you said here i ve personally experienced with her i want to believe it comes with the occupation
Let her have her space and see your marital life blossom just an advice

Which occupation?

Is she the only female medical doctor?

UyaiIncomparabl:
She's not abnormal. All of her actions are/were premeditated and as thus; are conscious choices she's made overtime.

I can't come to a conclusion on this, but I think (a strong possibility) that your wife doesn't love you. You' were just available for her to make as a choice to salvage her biological clock from waning out.

Just as they say, when the desirable isn't available, you make the available one your choice. I love to show off what I 'LOVE'. So you see, it's tit for tat.

A deep check; She takes pictures, but excludes/crops you out, you tag her, she untags you, you buy her gifts, she cringes and in turn makes you feel worthless, she tells you she doesn't need to show you off to the world to know you both are married. That's a blatant lie from the abyss. In as much as I want to be stingy, nay say cautious with the truth, but I have to let it all out. You're not her fantasy. Forget that part about you being tall, dark and handsome. Beauty is subjective. You may think you're attractive but she sees you below that. How do you people even make love? Is there chemistry?

Another thing, you saw these signs during courtship and still stubbornly had to dive in? You're the architect of your own misfortune. I just hope she hasn't been cheating on you. I won't say she's unemotional, she isn't. (A person with less or little emotion transcends such vibe to people around him/her, they have no feelings). She just doesn't vibe with you. Communicate with her and hear her reasons out. I'm 100% sure it'll be gibberish. If it persists, don't be afraid to lose yourself (meet people and hobnob, and of course, get a side chick who'll heal your heart from the worries your wife gives you ). Act like you don't care. Flirt a little. She go do normal. You'll worry less eventually. I'm one against cheating, but I wouldn't have people treated like garbage.

PS; I can be very unemotional and non-challant, but this is off the radar. I only show off who shows me off. Say no to one-sided relationships!

The faster you know that humans love opportunistically, the better.
In your next life, learn not to be a second choice and don't be afraid to chose rigidly too.

u talk too much.

my brother, am married too, so let me give you my candid advice.
be happy, your wife loves you. relationships and marriages are not built on social media. social media MIGHT end up creating problems in your marriage.
so my opinion, your wife is only being a matured Lady.

PaulAris:
I think you gotta trigger her jealous button a lil(ok, a lot maybe). But the aim is to put her in place.
All this mess you facing is cause you've been taken for granted.
So you gotta step up to that position you ought to be, and that is someone that she's got a lot more value and respect for.
All this cries you've been making to her ears about she not going social with you and all that, you really gotta let it stop.
Don't even give a damn about if she decides to tag you or not.
With the less attention and cries you'll be giving her, she's gonna think again before she makes those her nasty moves.
Now this is why most men are fighting hard for men like you to take hold of their balls and not let some lady toss about anytime she wants.
You think if you knew your worth she'd be doing you like this?
Damn, women can identify a needy ass from a Man.
So get your balls together and quit being someone taken for granted!
And hey, get some damn Chicks!

Epic!
Damn to the point nd Bleep d world.

Dat nigga too loyal.

Let d niggas get some Damn chicks nd live his life as if she doesn't exist.

Her brain go reset.

Just 2 years into marriage!
Build your spiritual life more.
Draw her closer to the teachings of Jesus Christ.
Study Christian teachings together.
You might win her heart once again.
You have too much material things which she doesn't fancy.
But one thing is lacking! Become Christlike.
He says 'come to me ............learn from me and you will find rest for your souls'

some guys always make mistakes, your girlfriend is not proud of you and you still go ahead and married her.... she go the hammer for outside too

Something must have made her to act that way.
if in her previous relationship was so bad, it could be it.
I think it can also be her nature.
maybe one of the reason why she doesn't show off is that she don't want to give others girls reasons to be attracted to her man.
A friend of mine always show of her man all the time. If her man buys new car for her, it's on media. One day she celebrated their two yrs anniversary and tagged her husband. Believe me, that was how she lost her husband. Her friends from her friend list took over the marriage .
Your wife is very cool. She is ok. Please, don't break up with her.
Don't be surprised that she has nothing to do with those abroad.
She is just a woman who protects her husband and is working so hard to get to the top without the help of anyone.
I love her kind of person. I think she's not moved by gifts. You are yet to discover what move her.
Don't ever break up with her.

UyaiIncomparabl:
You talk too much.

lol.