Good evening nairalanders, I need you guys advice. I was spending my weekend with my fiance as usual before an unknown number called, her phone rang the first time she did not picked. I was like why didn't you pick up, she said nothing, few minutes pass the number call again this time she picked up, after the call I asked her who was that, she said an old friend then i ask her what did he want she said nothing I was not comfortable with her answer because I know when she is lying, I insisted she said nothing with unconvinced tuned. So, I suspected something is wrong because of how long I have been with her and she usually tells me anything I ask her and also we re lovers and the same time friends. So I secretly copy the number from her phone, save it to my phone and check it on whatsapp to see the guy dp and saw a advance guy with a bald head on the dp. So, I ask her again who is that man that called just now? She said ok fine, baby I don't know how you will take it, I'm sorry, I have slept with him in the past before I ment you and i don't know how to tell you because his a married man and you will be very mad at me because of that. Hmmm I was actually very mad at her and told her to leave my house, right now I'm confused I don't what to do.
Pls I need constructive and matured advice nairalanders.

This looks like a lie to me

UnknownT:
Just see yourself as her karma. Since she slept with a married man, when you guys get married, a single lady will sleep with you and the equation balances

Madt guy

Karatum:


Madt guy

lol
What to say nah

And how is that a big deal? She once slept with a married man, and so what!!! You're not even happy she told you the truth.

Your next gf is probably eating sh*t right now and getting fu**ked by dogs.
You better call her back.
You can only send her out if she cheated on you while you guys were dating.

olsome:
This looks like a lie to me

Lie, how?

UnknownT:
Just see yourself as her karma. Since she slept with a married man, when you guys get married, a single lady will sleep with you and the equation balances

Lol, you re funny

break up immediately

Forgive her bro.... She has apologized

UnknownT:
Just see yourself as her karma. Since she slept with a married man, when you guys get married, a single lady will sleep with you and the equation balances

Oga God bless you

Sleep with a married woman too nah

Serene007:
. Hmmm I was actually very mad at her and told her to leave my house, right now I'm confused I don't what to do..

Why ask for the truth when you know you can't handle it?

You see why she was hesitant? Your reaction. And you did exactly what she was scared of.
Did she tell she was a virgin?
Did you meet her as Choir mistress?

Girls do nasty things

Maybe you should judge her based on your time with her, not her past.

If you can't take it, let her go.

amjustme2:


Why ask for the truth when you know you can't handle it?

You see why she was hesitant? Your reaction. And you did exactly what she was scared of.
Did she tell she was a virgin?
Did you meet her as Choir mistress?

Girls do nasty things

Maybe you should judge her based on your time with her, not her past.

If you can't take it, let her go.

Thank you very much for this advice

Learnstuffs:
It's a big blessing meeting a lady that has not dated a married man.

Hmmm

ceeroh:
And how is that a big deal? She once slept with a married man, and so what!!! You're not even happy she told you the truth.

Your next gf is probably eating sh*t right now and getting fu**ked by dogs.
You better call her back.
You can only send her out if she cheated on you while you guys were dating.

Thanks for this

If am yr girl i will nt take u back if u come to apologies,

u guys will be asking for past bt wen thy open up,, u will be doing Jesus the saint

Serene007:
Good evening nairalanders, I need you guys advice. I was spending my weekend with my fiance as usual before an unknown number called, her phone rang the first time she did not picked. I was like why didn't you pick up, she said nothing, few minutes pass the number call again this time she picked up, after the call I asked her who was that, she said an old friend then i ask her what did he want she said nothing I was not comfortable with her answer because I know when she is lying, I insisted she said nothing with unconvinced tuned. So, I suspected something is wrong because of how long I have been with her and she usually tells me anything I ask her and also we re lovers and the same time friends. So I secretly copy the number from her phone, save it to my phone and check it on whatsapp to see the guy dp and saw a advance guy with a bald head on the dp. So, I ask her again who is that man that called just now? She said ok fine, baby I don't know how you will take it, I'm sorry, I have slept with him in the past before I ment you and i don't know how to tell you because his a married man and you will be very mad at me because of that. Hmmm I was actually very mad at her and told her to leave my house, right now I'm confused I don't what to do.
Pls I need constructive and matured advice nairalanders.

You should leave her be because I'm more concerned about the bolded. You go through her phone (without her permission) and kick her out of your place because of what she did before she met you? Can't imagine what you'll do if she were unfaithful.

lol, bros u kicked her our and u are still seeking advice because u don't know what to do?
U already did what you knew.

If you cannot stand by your decision then don't make any.

Maybe your next girlfriend go be olosho with enough threesomes with married men.
Besides how is this our business.

Don't let these guys and girls up there deceive you poster.

Girls will always defend one of their own. But they will be the first to pretend they don't do things like this.

You are there thinking that you guys are friends and there is nothing she is keeping from you but she is there denying calls in your presence. Why should she have the married man's number? Know who he is and hasn't blocked him yet when she is supposed to be serious with you?
Those Numbskulls up there supporting the girl don't think deep.


I want you to keep something in mind Poster. Girls never tell you everything.
Read that bolded part again.

Your fiancee did not tell you everything about what happened with that married man.
You might even be surprised that she has slept with more married men than that before.

Girls are masters of confessing parts of the full story and making it look like a full confession. They will say that small part with so much reluctance that you will be convinced when they finally say it, that it is the fulll story. But believe you me, it is not.

She might even still have something to do with that married man right now. If the past is the past, why is the past calling her in the present when she is with her future? Why is the past making her reluctant to come clean with someone she wants in her future?

I know you Love her.
But you have to carefully consider everything I have said above and ask yourself whether you are ready to deal with the very high likelihood and possibility that they are true. You can't trust her anymore and you should not go into a marriage with someone you cannot trust before you end up raising another man's child for 20 years.

If you ever take her back, put her under serious surveillance until you are satisfied that she is truly clean.

Don't let someone play soccer on your head.

Serene007:
Good evening nairalanders, I need you guys advice. I was spending my weekend with my fiance as usual before an unknown number called, her phone rang the first time she did not picked. I was like why didn't you pick up, she said nothing, few minutes pass the number call again this time she picked up, after the call I asked her who was that, she said an old friend then i ask her what did he want she said nothing I was not comfortable with her answer because I know when she is lying, I insisted she said nothing with unconvinced tuned. So, I suspected something is wrong because of how long I have been with her and she usually tells me anything I ask her and also we re lovers and the same time friends. So I secretly copy the number from her phone, save it to my phone and check it on whatsapp to see the guy dp and saw a advance guy with a bald head on the dp. So, I ask her again who is that man that called just now? She said ok fine, baby I don't know how you will take it, I'm sorry, I have slept with him in the past before I ment you and i don't know how to tell you because his a married man and you will be very mad at me because of that. Hmmm I was actually very mad at her and told her to leave my house, right now I'm confused I don't what to do.
Pls I need constructive and matured advice nairalanders.

Na runs girl! U better free the idiot.

amjustme2:


Why ask for the truth when you know you can't handle it?

You see why she was hesitant? Your reaction. And you did exactly what she was scared of.
Did she tell she was a virgin?
Did you meet her as Choir mistress?

Girls do nasty things

Maybe you should judge her based on your time with her, not her past.

If you can't take it, let her go.

She talks like a honest girl if you ask me. But why's the man still after the cookie?

my dear op, apart from she cheated on you with that man, do you truly love her? do you like her quality as a wife to be? if yes, call her back. your even lucky she has the guts to tell you the truth, cos some girls are smarter and will deny unless you catch them in the act.
Just call her and advice her, tell her the implications of cheating with married men. forget about what happened and move on, cos nobody holy pass.

Na u find trouble... Buh d real question should be why r dey still in contact, could be that d deed x still ongoing...

amjustme2:


Why ask for the truth when you know you can't handle it?

You see why she was hesitant? Your reaction. And you did exactly what she was scared of.
Did she tell she was a virgin?
Did you meet her as Choir mistress?

Girls do nasty things

Maybe you should judge her based on your time with her, not her past.

If you can't take it, let her go.

Very apt.
Afterall she told him the truth and he should be grateful for that. Besides, this happened before they met. So wetn be your problem?
Some boys sef

JubrinElSudan:
Sleep with a married woman too nah

It doesn't work that way. He has to sleep with a single lady when he is married.

DaySpringer:
Don't let these guys and girls up there deceive you poster.

Girls will always defend one of their own. But they will be the first to pretend they don't do things like this.

You are there thinking that you guys are friends and there is nothing she is keeping from you but she is there denying calls in your presence. Why should she have the married man's number? Know who he is and hasn't blocked him yet when she is supposed to be serious with you?
Those Numbskulls up there supporting the girl don't think deep.


I want you to keep something in mind Poster. Girls never tell you everything.
Read that bolded part again.

Your fiancee did not tell you everything about what happened with that married man.
You might even be surprised that she has slept with more married men than that before.

Girls are masters of confessing parts of the full story and making it look like a full confession. They will say that small part with so much reluctance that you will be convinced when they finally say it, that it is the fulll story. But believe you me, it is not.

She might even still have something to do with that married man right now. If the past is the past, why is the past calling her in the present when she is with her future? Why is the past making her reluctant to come clean with someone she wants in her future?

I know you Love her.
But you have to carefully consider everything I have said above and ask yourself whether you are ready to deal with the very high likelihood and possibility that they are true. You can't trust her anymore and you should not go into a marriage with someone you cannot trust before you end up raising another man's child for 20 years.

If you ever take her back, put her under serious surveillance until you are satisfied that she is truly clean.

Don't let someone play soccer on your head.

Your bolded message is so true. Same applies to guys

It's her past, so why get mad over it? I'm not saying its a nice idea sleeping with a married man but that happened before she met you so forgive her and continue the relationship since she ain't cheating on you presently.
You also have a past you know so don't play judge and jury. Let love lead

Are you angry because she just told you now or she did it?

If you are angry because she did, I don't think that would be fair, it is her past, there is nothing you can do about it. It is condemnable though!

Except, you want to go the past like the Flash to go and erase the past.

If you are angry because she just told you, then it is understandable, please get over it. She should have told you long ago.

Please note this, you people call it karma but we call it seed.
Whatever you do in life, you will reap, there is possibility of someone forcing you in future so as to do to her what she did to another woman.