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Do you have a coworker so
handsome or so beautiful that you
can’t get your eyes off them or they
possess other qualities you trip
for? He/she tends to distract you
from work that sometimes you just wanna go straight to them and
express your feelings. A lot of us
have been in your shoes and a lot
are presently in them. Dating your coworker can be interesting and at the same time, disappointing. Everyone tends to pay particular attention to the both of you when you are dating your coworker.
You somehow become the centre of attention and as you
would expect, not everyone will be
in support of the affair and you
might just be dating someone who
is being admired by another
coworker. Or the jobs rules won’t allow such intimacy at
work.However, if you think you
have finally met your other half in
the same working environment,
then I think you should consider
putting these steps into consideration.

1) Make sure he/she is truly single: This is important if you don’t want to embarrass yourself in your workplace. Ensure you do the
necessary underground works to
ensure your coworker is single
unless you just want to flirt and not date. You can imagine how
embarrassing it will be when you
later find out he/she is engaged or
in another serious relationship
when everyone in the office has
already put their expectations on you two. You literally can’t hide the
heartbreak and shame.

2) Keep it casual:
It is quite wise to advise that you keep things casual. Don’t be too
close or try to show your romantic
sides too soon. It’s tempting to
just wanna steal a kiss, a hug or
pass some romantic gestures when you guys are alone in office or at
some lonely corner at workplace
but hey, take it easy.
Don’t be too quick to get intimate
or have sex when your goal is a
long term relationship. If you only
want a no strings attached thing,
then fine with the sex but you still
don’t have to show everyone in the office what you guys are up to.

3) Don’t rush yourselves:
I understand the passion and feelings may be burning too fast and you just wanna move with same momentum, but it’s just better if you guys calm down n build your commitment, nurture your feelings and water your
relationship to fruition so it
becomes well rooted in love and
understanding. If you rush things, it
may backfire.

4) Focus on your job:
You don’t wanna lose your job
because of him/her. If you do, he/
she might leave you. If both of you
lose your jobs, your relationship
may have just been directed to its
crashing lane. A jobless relationship is almost a worthless
one. Don’t distract yourselves. Not
even every employer wants their
staff having a romance in office.
You know how bad that can be to
work and business. So, when it’s time for work, work and when your
on break, you can have a moment
to say hi and exchange smiles or
even a kiss if you won’t be caught.

5) Keep it on a low key Secrecy is key to a lasting affair with your colleague:
You never know who is interested in him her or who wants the affair to go
on or end. Again, when you rush to
get everybody in the know of your affair, you won’t be able to hide
the shame when it crashes. You can
even surprise your coworkers with
the news of your engagement or
marriage plans. At this stage, you
must have achieved the commitment and won’t be afraid of letting the cat out of the bag. Let your relationship remain a secret and when it has become strong, you can surprise your colleagues with wedding invitations cards.

6) Don’t expect so much:
My dear, when dating a coworker,
simply give your best and don’t
expect his/her best. If a man will
marry you, he definitely will,
probably not as soon as you would
expect. Give each other time and don’t let loose all your feelings and
hopes. Enjoy the moment and see
what tomorrow will bring. Anyone
who dates you must never marry
you. Know that. And don’t play the
guilty or blame games. If it doesn’t work out, be fine enough to move
on. No high hopes. It’s not a do or
die affair.

7) Communication is key
not duringwoking-hours disturbance or calls:
Always have time after work or on your free days to communicate. Phone calls, text messages, video calls and
chats are important. Share your thoughts and worries. Talk about
your fears, your expectations and
everything he/she should know. Let
the cat out of the bag. Naked
yourself to him/her and expect the
same. Hide nothing. If you are satisfied, then go on. If you are not,
walk out when it hasn’t gone deep.
Communication is key to a
successful relationship.

Follow your instincts it won’t mislead you:
Always follow your instincts. Listen to
your inner self speaking to you.
Don’t jump into conclusions. Don’t
rush into actions whenever you
hear one or two or more things about him/her. Approach every
matter with caution and let your
instincts judge first.

9) Be conscious of when to end it: Again, it must not lead to
marriage. If marriage is your
primary aim of going into a
relationship with your coworker,
then be ready for a disappointment. Enjoy the moment and know when to let go if it doesn’t work out as you expect.
Don’t remain in an unhealthy
relationship probably because you
are tired of being single. My dear
have fun, enjoy the moment and when you have given your best and
you ain’t getting same from them,
quit with your senses still intact.

10) Don’t compromise your
professionalism when the affair
goes sour:
It’s your job o, please. Jobs don’t
exist in Nigeria anymore. Hold your
job tight. Your coworker won’t get
you another job if you lose this one.
Even if the affair ends, still get
yourself composed and pretend as if nothing ever happened and do
your job, professionally. Still be nice
to your ex and let the business go
on as usual. It’s hard but you have
to try except you wanna lose your
job. However, if seeing him/her
everyday torments you and
disorganizes your coordination at
work, then you may consider
quitting the job and finding
another one elsewhere. It is the price for a relationship. It doesn’t
always end well so try and get over
it and give love a chance again
when you are ready. So in essence, dating a coworker puts you at 50/50. You either win or lose and losing isn’t always easyas it comes with the shame and disorientation at work. He or she becomes a beast to you at work. It can only take a strong mind and maturity to cope as normal again.


Source: https://nwafada.com/2019/04/04/10-things-to-know-when-dating-your-coworker/

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Member as a share holder or board of directors??

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