The Ways to Forgiving Others In Islam By Life Elements Care Group
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The Ways to Forgiving Others In Islam

In the name of Allah, The Creator, The Provider. Verily, we testify that there is none worthy of our genuflections and attention other than Allah and we bear witness that Muhammad bn Abdullah is His Final Prophet and Messenger.

Allah! Owner of the Majestic Throne, we ask You to pardon our misdeeds and make us a blessing to the Ummah of Your Noble Messenger.

Islam is an impeccable religion, on which manners, conducts and characters are taken seriously. Infact, it is a door or a gateway to Jannah. The Messenger of Allah said: “

Abu Darda (RA) reported that Rasulullah (SAW) said, “Nothing is weightier on the Scale of Deeds than one’s good manners.”(Al-Bukhari)

The Sweetness of faith and the bliss in Islam can only be enjoyed by the one who follows the rules and regulations tenaciously and sincerely, neither going overboard nor falling short.

In times, humans have mastered certain behaviour, some learnt within their environment and some learnt via personal choice, all towards a goal and an interest. It is ponderous that we act seeking Allah’s pleasure and act in accordance to His ways. We ask Allah to guide us to the best of conduct and brighten our precious faces.

How do you sleep at night bearing grudge and rancour? Have you forgotten how the respite of Allah covered you? The Religion of Islam preaches forgiveness and pardons and enjoins its faithfuls to practice these noble acts. Of the Name and Attributes of Allah is Al-Ghaffur (The Oft-Forgiving) and Al-Afuww (The Pardoner). We all know it is not easy as said to pardon those who have wronged us, those who cheated us, maltreated us and oppressed us. However, let me regale you with this sweet verse from the wordings of Allah. Allah says:


وَلَا تَسۡتَوِي ٱلۡحَسَنَةُ وَلَا ٱلسَّيِّئَةُۚ ٱدۡفَعۡ بِٱلَّتِي هِيَ أَحۡسَنُ فَإِذَا ٱلَّذِي بَيۡنَكَ وَبَيۡنَهُۥ عَدَٰوَةٞ كَأَنَّهُۥ وَلِيٌّ حَمِيمٞ
The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allah ordered the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly), then verily! he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend.-Sura Fussilat, Ayah 34

وَمَا يُلَقَّىٰهَآ إِلَّا ٱلَّذِينَ صَبَرُواْ وَمَا يُلَقَّىٰهَآ إِلَّا ذُو حَظٍّ عَظِيمٖ
But none is granted it (the above quality) except those who are patient, and none is granted it except the owner of the great portion (of the happiness in the Hereafter i.e. Paradise and in this world of a high moral character).-Sura Fussilat, Ayah 35

The Ways:

Remembering the patience of Allah over you, His respite:

The patience and forbearance of Allah covers everyone. He gives us respite, overlook and He is patient when we float His rules. If He were to punish us immediately for our misdeeds, then for sure we will all be gone back to Him. We take lessons from Our Creator and apply this to ourselves, giving respite to those who have wronged us. We are humans prone to errors and mistakes.

Knowing that pardoning comes with rewards:

The one who is patient with the one who wrongs is given an unimaginable bounty from his Lord, the one that is not comparable. Allah says:

ٱلَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ فِي ٱلسَّرَّآءِ وَٱلضَّرَّآءِ وَٱلۡكَٰظِمِينَ ٱلۡغَيۡظَ وَٱلۡعَافِينَ عَنِ ٱلنَّاسِۗ وَٱللَّهُ يُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُحۡسِنِينَ
Those who spend [in Allah's Cause - deeds of charity, alms, etc.] in prosperity and in adversity, who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allah loves Al-Muhsinun (the good-doers).-Sura Aal-E-Imran, Ayah 134

A way to have peace/rest of mind:

When you pardon and overlook, you enjoy the bliss of a peaceful state of mind. One of the companions narrated to us a story of how a man keeps his mind whenever he wants to sleep:
Anas ibn Malik reported: We were sitting with the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and he said, “Coming upon you now is a man from the people of Paradise.” A man from the Ansar came whose beard was disheveled by the water of ablution and he was carrying both of his shoes with his left hand. The next day the Prophet repeated the same words, and the man came in the same condition. The third day the Prophet repeated the same again, and the man came in the same condition. When the Prophet stood up to leave, Abdullah ibn Amr followed the man and he said, “I am in a dispute with my father and I have sworn not to enter my home for three days. May I stay with you?” The man said yes.
Abdullah stayed three nights with the man but he never saw him praying at night. Whenever he went to bed, he would remember Allah and rest until he woke up for morning prayer. Abdullah said that he never heard anything but good words from his mouth. When three nights had passed and he did not see anything special about his actions, Abdullah asked him, “O servant of Allah, I have not been in dispute with my father nor have I cut relations with him. I heard the Prophet say three times that a man from the people of Paradise was coming to us and then you came. I thought I should stay with you to see what you are doing that I should follow, but I did not see you do anything special. Why did the Prophet speak highly of you?” The man said, “I am as you have seen.” When Abdullah was about to leave, the man said, “I am as you have seen, except that I do not find dishonesty in my soul towards the Muslims and I do not envy anyone because of the good that Allah has given them.” Abdullah said, “This is what you have achieved and it is something we have not accomplished.”
Source: Musnad Aḥmad

Knowing that you will be saved from the paroxysm of rage and the rage of vengeance:

The one who forgives and pardons will neither look to avenge nor be consumed with a destructive anger. The one who fails to forgive is enraged with an appetite of bad temper anytime he sees the one who wronged him.

Being thankful that you are the oppressed and not the oppressor:

This alone is enough to pardon and forgive. For the Messenger of Allah said: “ Jabir ibn Abdullah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

اتَّقُوا الظُّلْمَ فَإِنَّ الظُّلْمَ ظُلُمَاتٌ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ
Beware of committing oppression, for oppression will be darkness on the Day of Resurrection.
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2578, Grade: Sahih

We all wish to be forgiven: put yourself in their shoes:

We act sometimes out of rashness and impetuousness and become regretful for our actions. We wish that the one who we have wronged pardon us and understand that we never intended to hurt them. So have a share of this empathy and put yourself in their shoes.

Sometimes we act in accordance to our available knowledge:

The knowledge of humans is somewhat limited to their experience. We become stern over an act that we think is best. Afterwards, we regret our actions and hope that the one we have wronged out of ignorance overlooks and forgive.

These and many more are reasons we should harbour the mindset of pardoning those that wrong us.

We ask Allah to correct our ills, grant us a goodness in our character and make us dwellers of the Garden.
Was salatu was salaamu ala nabiyyina Muhammad wa ala ahlihi wa sahbihi ajmaeen.

Jazakumullahu khayran,
Wa salaamun alaykum
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Reminder from Qur'an

Surah Al-Ahqaf, Verse 35:
فَاصْبِرْ كَمَا صَبَرَ أُولُو الْعَزْمِ مِنَ الرُّسُلِ وَلَا تَسْتَعْجِل لَّهُمْ كَأَنَّهُمْ يَوْمَ يَرَوْنَ مَا يُوعَدُونَ لَمْ يَلْبَثُوا إِلَّا سَاعَةً مِّن نَّهَارٍ بَلَاغٌ فَهَلْ يُهْلَكُ إِلَّا الْقَوْمُ الْفَاسِقُونَ

Therefore bear up patiently as did the apostles endowed with constancy bear up with patience and do not seek to hasten for them (their doom). On the day that they shall see what they are promised they shall be as if they had not tarried save an hour of the day. A sufficient exposition! Shall then any be destroyed save the transgressing people?



Allah have said it All

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The best way to forgive in Islam is to bomb or behead those that wrong you.

can't you just have sense

aishapmbtoto:
The best way to forgive in Islam is to bomb or behead those that wrong you.

and people like you wake up to say the lords prayer

Jehad Things is their way

aishapmbtoto:
The best way to forgive in Islam is to bomb or behead those that wrong you.

aishapmbtoto:
The best way to forgive in Islam is to bomb or behead those that wrong you.