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OP,

Dust yourself and move on! Shit happens, no one is perfect...You'd be surprised to know that your husband has also fallen into this kinda temptation several times, he covers his tracks well and keeps going as if nothing has happened...take this secret to your grave and dont be tempted to tell anyone, whether your sister, mum or bestie...just pray that the guy doesnt blackmail you and try your best to get a hold on your thoughts...no matter how sweet it was, dont try to do it again...manage your husband as he is, you cant have it all, focus on his good points and be grateful...remind yourself that there is more to a blissful marriage than glorious sex...lastly dont let your kids grow up and discover you were the cause of their broken home.

Best wishes!

well, some people are advising that she tell her husband to enroll in a gym class, do work out to look more appealing or probably dress well. These would not change anything looking at the words she used in the post above.

She likes tall guys of her age bracket. doing workout or going to gym wouldn't add to her husband height or cut the husband age to half.
Some things are better left in the realm of imagination...embrace reality and let go of fantasies.

SIN WILL GIVE YOU AS MUCH PLEASURE AS IT WANTS YOU TO HAVE,
BUT ITS ALWAYS WAITING FOR THE TIME TO BREAK YOUR LIFE APART.

i won't pontificate on the moral rightness or wrongness. i rather point towards the need for control of desires which have potential for damage or disharmony. take hold of yourself, its just an urge. concealment is an attribute in survival, but more importantly is control. everything can be replaced (even the officemate),control your urge, conceal, maintain harmony in the office and HOME. ask God for forgiveness, afterall we are just human.

If ever I get married,,, DNA test for my children is a must. These cannot be trusted

Katier00:
Do not beat yourself life happens . so just forgive yourself that is first step to recovery, forgive yourself ,yes you did something wrong it is unacceptable anywhere ,anytime any place, but life happens the question is the way forward stop judging yourself and have a decent conversation with your husband .you can lighten up your bedroom, he's just in his forties , he's not 70 . I believe he still have an erection so you can work hard and get that Dream man that you've always wanted and fantasized about . then for your colleague just look into his eyes and tell him it's over, tell him you're a married woman you have children and you respect the institution of marriage tell him all that and he will leave you . so let's just say this is a mistake, it is when you repeat it again that it will become a habit so don't beat yourself about it and I must commend your honesty we are human and sometimes we feel that way, you will feel like sleeping with another person that is not a spouse its natural anyone that will condemn your action is just lying I'm being hypocritical. so please you are just being human but don't let your flesh rule you because you are going to lead yourself to your own destruction ,be strong everything will be ok. one more thing please if you know the kind of husband you're being married to and you know that it's going to change everything by telling him that you slept with another person please don't tell him .just remember, don't do it again ,don't let the flesh possession thank you

it is different for you to feel and for you to actually act on those feelings... cheating is not mistake, it is by choice. Cheating is a deal breaker for me. I will forgive you but we are done for life

SELF-CENTERED INDULGENCE, PRIDE AND LACK OF SHAME OVER SIN
ARE NOW EMBLEMS OF AMERICAN LIFESTYLE.

JasonScoolari:
Dear Marbella003,

I don't advice cheats, infact, I hate cheats whether a Man or Woman.... You did not advice yourself when your pussy was itching you.

Now you seek our advice after cheating on a good man. And you still feel like offering your pussy to the guy as a useless sex slave.

What a promiscuous Dog.


Get Lost. Filthy animal.

Well spoken.

Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

one should not always expect things to be rosy in life because its never always rosy. Sometimes bad things happen.
The question is what is your life mission? Why are you alive? What is your ambition? Is sex all there is to life? Do you know there are people who never had sex from birth till death yet there organs were functioning?
If don't answer these questions and so many more you will keep being someones pleasure source and nothing more and you will never understand the true reason why you are existing.
Its time for you think hard and long for your life.

Best comment ever. Nice one

tessytessy:
OP,

Thanks for sharing your problems here. You are human at most. However, the problem is that, you are hooked on that sex like opium. Two things will happen; its either you tell your husband or you tell a close friend who will ensure this ends. Trust me it will not end with a transfer, it will not end with blocking him. The problem is, if your husband gets to find out, your life will be messed up, your kids life will be messed up. Your parents will never respect you again.

Its better to hit a night stand with a stranger (if the thing dey hold you badly) than to be in a relationship with a colleugue.

I saw this happen to a couple, whose wife was hooked up to her EX. The discovery shattered that home for good. The woman lost her job, husband lost his job. Kids had to withdraw from the high brow school. Once those kids discover why their lives became messed up they will never , ever forgive you.

Forget about that guy and face your husband. You will be amazed that your husband can even toss your body upandown but he feels you are too holy for that sh*t. Madam, just talk tour husband. Adultery never ends well. You might even get pregnant,

ABSTINENCE IS THE BEST PREVENTION FOR HIV/AIDS.
PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN CURE.

Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

you are Yoruba baa?

Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

You’re the little devil deep down your own mind. �
Sex isn’t everything in life.
One day you will get tired of this so called sex
And you will probably regret doing such.
You better stop before it becomes worse.
Find a social/sport activity that can get your mind of having sex out of your marriage.

Well I’m just here to read comments.
Let me drink water and mind my Business

REMOVE SEX FROM RELATIONSHIP,
AND YOU WILL DISCOVER THAT MOST OF THE LADIES HAVE NOTHING TO OFFER IN A RELATIONSHIP.

Saffi:
Men cannot handle cheating partners mentally like women do and that is just the truth. If you tell him now, the thought of you opening your legs to another man will constantly play in his head when he looks at you, which will eventually ruin your marriage. As a woman, if you cheat on your husband, you must take it to the grave otherwise you have yourself to blame.

To the sex part, encourage your hubby to look appealing for you. Work out together, eat well, mould him into the man that you want him to be physically. Tell him what you want him to do in bed. There’s only so much you can do, but for the sake of your vows and your home, good sex is really not worth it. You have to mentally train yourself to avoid temptation, that is the only way to stay faithful. And realistically most couples go through this at one point, so don’t beat yourself up too much. Dust your shoulders and do better and do not risk your family and your marriage for prick again. It is a temporary satisfaction and You will regret it.

. well said men can't handle this compared to women. she should take it to her grave and move on but like you said she shouldn't risk her marriage for prick again.

REMOVE MONEY FROM A RELATIONSHIP AND YOU WILL DISCOVER THAT OVER 90% OF LADIES WON'T SEE ANY REASON TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP.

Since you have acknowledged your wrong doing which is sin, pray for God's forgiveness and confess to your husband. Before doing this, you have determined that you won't involve in such acts any longer. Do you know that if Jesus Christ should now that you are going to hell? That is why it's important to confess to you husband and dissociates from your colleague. Marriage is for life, once you're in, it's only death that end it. Even if you divorce, the bible says you should remain unmarried as far as your spouse is alive. One has to matured spiritually and psychologically before committing to marriage to avoid this kind story. Some people neglected prayer before marriage, which is the most important of all, when you pray, God that instituted it would take control, and prayer should continue after marriage to avoid distraction such as this.

Katier00:
Do not beat yourself life happens . so just forgive yourself that is first step to recovery, forgive yourself ,yes you did something wrong it is unacceptable anywhere ,anytime any place, but life happens the question is the way forward stop judging yourself and have a decent conversation with your husband .you can lighten up your bedroom, he's just in his forties , he's not 70 . I believe he still have an erection so you can work hard and get that Dream man that you've always wanted and fantasized about . then for your colleague just look into his eyes and tell him it's over, tell him you're a married woman you have children and you respect the institution of marriage tell him all that and he will leave you . so let's just say this is a mistake, it is when you repeat it again that it will become a habit so don't beat yourself about it and I must commend your honesty we are human and sometimes we feel that way, you will feel like sleeping with another person that is not a spouse its natural anyone that will condemn your action is just lying I'm being hypocritical. so please you are just being human but don't let your flesh rule you because you are going to lead yourself to your own destruction ,be strong everything will be ok. one more thing please if you know the kind of husband you're being married to and you know that it's going to change everything by telling him that you slept with another person please don't tell him .just remember, don't do it again ,don't let the flesh possession thank you

Good read!

FLIRTING IS NEVER A RELATIONSHIP.
MARRIAGE IS THE REAL RELATIONSHIP.

CHANGE IS THE ONLY CONSTANT.
HANGING ON IS THE ONLY SIN...!!!

madridsta007:
I hope ladies here read this. Marry someone you LOVE. Nothing more, nothing less. Clearly, you do not love your husband. If you did, you won’t intentionally commit adultery. Adultery is an intentional act.

Marriage counselor, clap for yourself.

Nigerians are very quick to condemn and judge.
@Op. Try to avoid it repeating itself. I understand you are sexually malnourished and you are human. Go and sin no more, we all are sinners.

Baffles me when people who commit fornication day in day out are here condemning and judging someone who committed adultery. Bunch of Hypocrites.

You married your husband cos of his money and societal pressure I suppose. Congrats!

Norabay:
madam sorry to write this but u are a ...............,why not tel your husband to avoid feeling guilty, any one can complete that line for me.

Are you scared to call her what she truly is?


She is a cheap PROSTITUTE....

Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

someone has helped you shared it on facebook too. This is the link for more advice from people https://www.gistreel.com/i-cheated-on-my-husband-with-a-colleague-at-work-nigerian-lady-cries-out/

Chei! Isabella u don finally fvck that tunde guy? I go tell ur husband... Meanwhile, u fit enroll in my couples therapy and love class. Dm me

Shila16:
Bros shey your wife don do you this kind thing before?,You sound very bitter

Lol ..anyone that says the truth is now bitter abi?

Anyways I'm not married , I'm still in my early 20's

Thesame way women lose guard after marriage & a few kids so also men.no more new undies,weight & figure watching, looking hot, trying not to age etc.,,no more rough sex (know how she likes it is very easy)., adventurous sex, etc,both have to seduce each other without seducing each other...the truth is you will keep on wanting that pleasure.even if u culd stop going to that workplace, anytime u aroused or bored, u will always recall that satisfaction & crave for it...uve open ur Pandora's box, some can't be closed without repercussions...that being ur husband last last

Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

shame on you shameless h.o.e.

Nixxxx:
If this woman feels like this for a 40 year old how would Regina Daniel's now feel

Regina is mointored ,she will find it hard to cheat besides she is the one to feel bad,, we are all hustling for that billionaire divk

Is it not true that most Daddy’s aren’t their children’s Father?