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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by virago(f): 11:32am On May 01, 2019
truthsayer009:


Spot on! I use to say this to people, everyone thinks I'm childish. "If you spend enough time with a Guy & you don't naturally feel like Fvcking him, he ain't the one". Irrespective of whether it is a no-sex relationship or not, once the thought never comes in. Bye!

There is this line I read upto 10 times, Chaiii the thing sweet me die.


I can bet my 1 month salary on it that she will go back for Round 2, Round 3 even 4. Usually at 7 is where It stops, as my Pastor use to say, 7 is the number of perfection.





Love is not all about sex , what I have seen in most cases is that the person we have the best sex with is usually not the one. Ask anyone married who they had their best sex with and they'll tell you it was an ex or one casual sex they had , if other married couples can rein in their urges and fight whatever temptation that comes their way for a happy and peaceful home why not her , she even has the recipe for a peaceful home already but the only thing lacking is her inability to control her urge

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Katier00(f): 11:33am On May 01, 2019
virago:



You respect her honesty yet you don't want her to tell her husband if the result of that action may be dire , isn't that hypocritical on your own part For one thing honesty goes beyond coming to a faceless forum to talk about your cheating ways
there are things better left unsaid for the cause of peace. Instead of tormenting her husband with this kind of truth. She loves her husband and wants her marriage to work.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by DeeMain(m): 11:35am On May 01, 2019
cyrilamx:
Eschew That "nobody holy pass slogan" Many people are more holy than others right from the beginning of time till now. sins aint equal if you read your scripture well. Christ told Pilate that those who handed him over to him (Pilate) are guilty of greater sin. Jn. 19:11 And same John taught about categories of sin: sin leading to death and not. 1 Jn. 5:16-17. Adultery like fornication is one sin God frowns at in his commandment. But as a loving and merciful father he forgives. However, no matter what advise people give her, if it doesnt include confession to her husband she hurts God won't even forgive her. It is sad we live in an era that trivialises sin. For the umpteenth time, many people are holy than others.

Hogwash, this your postulation has no new testament basis unless you are wiser than Jesus who forgave the adulterous woman and exposed the hypocritical Pharisees.

Christianity is about the finished work of Christ at the cross. It is called grace. Her sins are all forgiven all she needs to do is believe in Christ and confess him as her Lord and saviour.

You have ingrained within you an old testament mindset of tit for tat and an ear for an ear. A testament in which righteousness was based on the 10 laws and the 600 plus rules and regulations and if you disobeyed one you had disobeyed all. Such that no one could keep them and stand and so all sinned and had come short of the glory of God as a result. They had to resort to sacrificing the blood of animals to cleanse them from there sins.

Whereas in the new testament righteousness is a gift. All that is required is believe and you are saved and when you sin you ask for forgiveness and the same blood that saved you will blot out all your sins.

This is the gospel. No other gospel should any man preach.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by freethinker01: 11:35am On May 01, 2019
Shelumiel:
Madam, you should not be flaunting your problems on social media ; you will get the worst kind of advise on earth . And secondly , you need prayers ...lots of prayers , because adultery is something that is capable of destroying not just your home , but your peace of mind. My advice : seek your spiritual leader ; he will know how to handle this from a Godly perspective.
What exactly does prayer have to do with this?
All these overzealous folks self
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Katier00(f): 11:36am On May 01, 2019
Awe4luv:

by the time that hot guy comes to band her big ass again she won't come back to tell us sha
then that will be her choice and her consequences to bear
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by xyz123456: 11:37am On May 01, 2019
sisisioge:
grin grin grin grin grin

I should just send this to someone I know! A huge age difference eventually turns out to be a big deal once a woman attains the level the older guy could afford her. In the next 12yrs,Regina Daniels would be a lovely 31yrs old rich hot chick while her husband would be an old man who wouldn't be able to please her at 71yrs! Anything above 5yrs is plentiful fa.
That's why you missed the young body.

As for your husband, he will find out soon enough and divorce you. You kuku do not find him sexually attractive before and what's the use of a marriage without sexual attraction? Good luck.

But when they reach old age nko?? How will a man of 65 who is still active sexually cope with a woman of 63 who is no more active??

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by virago(f): 11:40am On May 01, 2019
femi4:
Love is no longer enough, the person must be sexually attractive ....This is just the definition of LUST

After like 7 rounds both of you will get tired of each other, the sex....I ve been there before


Not like that for we ladies , the more the sex with him the more drawn we are to him , it is however the reverse for men

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by cyrilamx(m): 11:41am On May 01, 2019
DeeMain:


Hogwash, this your postulation has no new testament basis unless you are wiser than Jesus who forgave the adulterous woman and exposed the hypocritical Pharisees.

Christianity is about the finished work of Christ at the cross. It is called grace. Her sins are all forgiven all she needs to do is believe in Christ and confess him as her Lord and saviour.

You have ingrained within you an old testament mindset of tit for tat and an ear for an ear. A testament in which righteousness was based on the 10 laws and the 600 plus rules and regulations and if you disobeyed one you had disobeyed all. Such that no one could stand as all had sinned and come short of the glory of God as a result.

Whereas in the new testament righteousness is a gift. All that is required is believe and you are saved and when you sin you ask for forgiveness and the same blood that saved you will blot out all your sins.

This is the gospel. No other gospel should any man preach.
It seems u don't even know the scripture u quoting. The adulterous her sin was obvious and probably her hubby would hv a hint of it. As per ur delusion that all sins re equal then u really a biblical novice. All have sinned doesnt mean all have equal sin. I even gave u two verses for u to read but anger in ur blood wont allow u. continue to deceive her that it not necessary to confess I to her hubby...
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Vyolet(f): 11:42am On May 01, 2019
Slyprof:
This is why some men insist on full housewife, the dangers of intermingling between men and women are enormous. Had it been u were not working in that office this would not have happened. My advice is that u steer clear of that guy cos u will eventually loose ur husband and perhaps the guy also cos he will probably have a fiancee. If possible start a business or get a transfer to another branch.
Yinmu, who told you a full housewife cannot cheat if she wants to, not with the increase in jobless able bodied young men loitering every street. Cheating is in the mind, who will cheat will surely cheat irrespective of their work functions.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by mechanics(m): 11:43am On May 01, 2019
Since Christ forgives our sins, you should pray and ask God for forgiveness and tell your husband, with that he won't do anything stupid and all those guilt will vanish away, but I wonder what connect you to a man very older than you, maybe it was love at first sight, that's why one has to be very careful in this aspect of selecting a life partner, and you should stop all forms of communication with that guy, he's ready to destroy your marital vows.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Katier00(f): 11:43am On May 01, 2019
loswhite:
it is different for you to feel and for you to actually act on those feelings... cheating is not mistake, it is by choice. Cheating is a deal breaker for me. I will forgive you but we are done for life
wait until you walk in her shoes. Yes she made the wrong choice but willing to amend her ways. You can't just leave her because of that singular act

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by virago(f): 11:47am On May 01, 2019
sweetilicious:
I know people are judgemental.I l know people can give wrong advice because they don't know the true story.But I believe seeking advice helps at times with depressed and suicidal thoughts.


He's not being judgemental he's just saying the plain truth , if you steal my money you're a thief , no other way to put it or sugarcoat it. That being said I agree with him , she isn't going to stop any time soon as she really hasn't come to unburden her soul , she's merely here to acknowledge that she will do it again and again , so why shy away from the truth ? The earlier she accepts who she is the better

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Nobody: 11:48am On May 01, 2019
greenguy:

Your colleague is just catching fun, you're being used, though it's sweet. He can't marry a woman with kids, he can't love you, he can't trust you cos you're a cheat

It's funny how most of these useless women don't realise this. Or maybe they do, but they're just hopeless like that.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by atiku07(m): 11:48am On May 01, 2019
Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

My advice if u can actually request a transfer the better, however whatever happened in Rome should remain in Rome some secrets are best kept as secrets do not tell him anything try as much as possible to forgive urself for now and move on. But please not in distant future u might jokingly tell him when u feel like he must have gotten over it as a sign of restitution. in whatever u do never seek opinion of an outsider nor reveal whatever u have done to anyone !

have a nice day !

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by spiralwedge(m): 11:48am On May 01, 2019
Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

Go for what makes you happy and do it discreetly and wisely. Stop carrying guilt bag on your head up and down. It's like masturbation, first few times you are ashame, but later you are good to go. Be happy and go about your life like nothing happened.
My only advice is to stop it with your colleague. Do it far and again be wise.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Iphone5: 11:50am On May 01, 2019
I know who the OP is and her main nairaland account lipsrsealed

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by greatsodade(m): 11:51am On May 01, 2019
Islie:
If it is SEX you crave for......divorce your husband and look for a stud who will sex your brains out


If its LOVE...... Then focus on your husband and teach, speak, encourage him to be a better man in bed and enjoy your marriage


Because at the end of the day.....sex doesn't sustain marriage for long where their isn't love


Best advice...the ball is in her court now to either be dignified or adulterous
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by RiyadhGoddess(f): 11:56am On May 01, 2019
All these men that will not go to a car dealer to buy a car but would rather prefer to enter another man's compound to take/steal their car.


Madam poster Adultery is a Big Sin! Confess your Sin, Repent of it and then forgive yourself. Don't go back to it o. Sins like this dey sweet at the beginning but the end is always bitter...
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by jelel6: 11:58am On May 01, 2019
Personally, I don't think unfaithfulness is the gravest unforgivable thing a partner or wife can do to me. There are a few other things I dread of marriage than a cheating partner.

The deed has been done. Looking forward, you don't EVEN KNOW what it is that you want. That's the real problem I see. You still want your BLOW buddy! And you still want your husband and marriage! But I don't think you can have them both. At least, it's not fair on your husband to keeping banging another guy while you're still married to him without his knowledge.

So, Marbella003. What do you want? Blissful Sex with this guy who may or may not have all the GOOD QUALITIES you've mentioned above OR

A blissful marriage with husband and all the goods that come with him, bar the bedroom prowess?

Besides, have you ever come to think of the possibility that you have not been satisfying your husband sexually too? How are you sure you yourself is good in bed? Who knows? He might be complaining about your lack of sexual adventure to some of his buddies. Saying his wife seem too dignified and holy and educated to try CRAZY THINGZ with.

As for his physical traits, you have no complaints there as you saw him with your two eyes before marrying him. He didn't create himself. I'm sure he didn't look like Christiano Ronaldo before you married him, why do you now expect him to start looking like Anthony Joshua? I just hope you've maintained your original body shape from the first day you met him to this day otherwise we may as well add hypocrisy to your list of shortcomings.

Apparently, sexual fulfilment is an important component of marriage where you stand and I have no problem with that. It sucks you believe your husband can't guarantee that you. I'll only encourage you to list out other good things you have with him. If you think ALL those good things are BASIC and every Tom, Dick and Harry can give them to you? Then it's settled. You have GOTTEN YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT. What's remaining is just the small matter of following the direction that leads you to them ( your priorities).


Las Las, if not for the sake of the kids in a marriage, I don't have no problem with divorce. Heck, I intend to use it if I have to when I'm married. However, if you have any, don't forget to take their welfare and happiness into consideration too. I'm sure they trust mommy too do right by them, Do right by daddy, and THEN do right by herself.

Good luck!

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Nobody: 12:04pm On May 01, 2019
yettymuse:
Small cheat wey woman cheat we don reach page 3! undecided undecided undecided. Double standard!
Op! Na knack you knack, you no kee person.
.
Just dead the relationship with the dude.. If you wanna cheat, long distance with no strings. There are Brostitutes you can pay off sef. Don't dare talk about it to your husband.
Na knack you knack, you no kill person (Kuku kee me lmao oooooo)
I am a Brostitute with a 8 inch hmm hmm and you don't have to pay me a dime because I am specially into older ladies.
Feel free to click that link to contact me on whatsapp please
https:///send?phone=2347032293621&text=Hi/my+name+is

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Raalsalghul: 12:09pm On May 01, 2019
mybestlove:

In as much as I like your comment, guy you fall hand by saying this is a reason you won't marry
Which hand I'm fall.
Believe me, he's not the only one. undecided
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by madridsta007(m): 12:09pm On May 01, 2019
GrossPrice:


Marriage counselor, clap for yourself.

Thank you. Done so.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by yesloaded: 12:09pm On May 01, 2019
JasonScoolari:
Dear Marbella003,

I don't advice cheats, infact, I hate cheats whether a Man or Woman.... You did not advice yourself when your pussy was itching you.

Now you seek our advice after cheating on a good man. And you still feel like offering your pussy to the guy as a useless sex slave.

What a promiscuous Dog.


Get Lost. Filthy animal.
grin
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Theboss100(m): 12:15pm On May 01, 2019
I Pray Never To Meet Bi**ches Like U As A Wife. Ur Type Are Disgusting [quote author=Marbella003 post=77989360]I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by shege45: 12:16pm On May 01, 2019
Slyprof:
This is why some men insist on full housewife, the dangers of intermingling between men and women are enormous. Had it been u were not working in that office this would not have happened. My advice is that u steer clear of that guy cos u will eventually loose ur husband and perhaps the guy also cos he will probably have a fiancee. If possible start a business or get a transfer to another branch.
funny you. A cheat is always a cheat. She could as well cheat with her neighbor when u go to work

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by TheiSchooler(m): 12:17pm On May 01, 2019
Marbella003, every adulterer (just as with other serious sins) also has a "justification." Please stop saying you did what you did cos you don't find your husband attractive. Those who steal blame the system or say they were hungry. Those who fight and kill say they were angered. A sin is a sin. No excuses with God.

"No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it." (1 Corinthians 10:13).

But He is a merciful God and we are in the age of grace.

"Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?

“No, Lord,” she said. And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” (John 8: 10-11).

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by sodiamond: 12:18pm On May 01, 2019
Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I don't know what to do.
My dear don't go and kill yourself o. I will advice you stop now. Do not ever tell your husband anything. I don't support cheating but there are some situations you can not help. Men cheat everyday and nothing has happened so why is everybody crucifying a woman who still has a little remorse.
We are too judgemental abeg! Do you know what the husband does behind her? Infact if you cannot hold yourself go and have sex as many times as you want with the guy until you are satisfied, then you can dump him and face your home! I'm sure that most of the guys criticizing her are real cheats, their anger is that it has to do with a woman. See the way they are analyzing it sef!!

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Nobody: 12:21pm On May 01, 2019
Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.


You want to have ur cake and still EAT it?..... your main problem is greed. you are greedy and that goes for some of your female folks too. greed can destroy you for good if you don't leave it and learn to be contented. people are happy in their relationships and marriages not because they have everything they desire but because they learnt to be contented and not to be greedy.
And let me warn you, in case you choose to add stupidity to your greediness. never you tell anybody about this, not even ur closest friend or family, cause one day they can use it against you. the safest secret is the one you keep to yourself.
my piece of advice to you is, forget about this episode and never look back, keep your relationship with your colleague casual but cordial (you don't want him causing you trouble), he will move on eventually

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by profmallor: 12:22pm On May 01, 2019
Congratulations, Yes Congratulations cause you were first time lucky. Better to read the results/outcome of adultery on social media and news outlets that to be a victim. You may not be so lucky second time around. The disgrace and shame would far out weigh any sexual benefits you many every have thought you will get. Sex is good and is a strong compeling force but as soon as you keep going the wrong way, the end is always going to be disgrace. We have heard of men/women dying at hotel rooms, in vehicles etc

so way out, you must now sit your man down and discuss some of these challenges you woud want addressed, you as a woman might even have to learn to ask for what you want and how you want it, note that most men this days feel the pressures of our economy coupled with numerous responsibilities which might adversely affect sexual prowess that is the reality, unlike your colleague who if you investigate might not have much to think about or is just plainly irresponsible.

sin is sweet but as i said congratulations, you may not be second time lucky, something may just go wrong from someone secretly taping you for blackmail to even death. Try to move on, that's what wise people do.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by AgreatMan: 12:23pm On May 01, 2019
virgoquin:
Why don't you encourage your hubby to enroll for gym classes.

You didn't find him sexually attractive and you still went ahead to get married to him.

sleeping with another guy outside your marriage doesn't worth it at all. Highest fifteen mins :opleasure and the rest days you live to regret it.

You have to take a bold stand to let go of the other guy outside how sure are you sef that you are the only one he is sleeping with.
with all the kind of disease flying around town

You might need to change your bf, it can last a lot more that. S*x is is not food but a woman deserves to be taken somewhere she has never been before. Every woman always harbor a secret desire to be dominated s*xually.

The OP has reached a point of no return. She had tasted tastted from d forbidden pot. She might temporarily rescue her marriage for d next 5 or 10 years but it won't last which doesn't make it a bad thing. An extremely important ingredient of her marriage is clearly missing n that is NOT her fault.

Our over-religious, over-holy society frown at s*x but every single one of us will jump at it under d right opportunity.

Our society put so much pressure on woman but men also need to step-up physically. I feel her pain where she inferred that the touch of her husband's skin is too soft.

To d OP, hold on as much as u have to, if it doesn't work out, bounce. You have only one life, just one. Marbella003

My advice has it flaws but I care about people being happy over marriage.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by MrDoGood(m): 12:23pm On May 01, 2019
Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

Good morning madam.
Let me quickly tell you this. what you're experiencing is LUST and the reason you feel you enjoyed it is simply because cheating (having sex with someone's who's not your partner) seems to be more fun but very destructive. And now, you're attaching emotions which is normal for any woman who is or has cheated. Reasons are: it keeps spinning in your head, you start finding the new man attractive and you probably want to have more wild sex with him and believe me, if you still settle for that man, as in get married to him, the same way you're feeling for your husband now will be same way you're going to feel with this your new Bed King after some time. Try taking your mind back to the very first sex experience you had with your husband before you got married and compare the pleasure you felt then and the one you're feeling now.
All you need to do now is take the wheels and ride your husband the way you want and do crazy styles with him and not just missionary styles.
Sometimes indulge in quickie sex ant crazy places with your husband and not just the bedroom. This will spice a lot of things and the attraction will start coming in.

Now to the part on what to do.... Hmmmm


1. Work your transfer and kill the communications with him gradually.

2. Figure out a way to tell your husband because you alone knows your husband very well and you can tell if he's going to forgive you or not.
But i believe he would. Please don't start by telling him you're sorry.... start by condemning yourself before him and how you don't deserve him and all that bla bla. Before you even say the main point, his mind would have told him and anger would start dying down even before you start pleading for forgiveness. You alone knows how to bring out his soft spot out and i believe he will forgive. But before you apply number 2, make sure you're out from that work zone and tell him the whole truth and don't keep any away from him. But if he's the stubborn type and you feel he's going to use it against you, PLEASE DO NOT TELL HIM ANYTHING.





So many things to say, but i can't type all and a voice note would have been better, NL don't have such option.

I wish you all the best ma'am.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by BluntBoy(m): 12:24pm On May 01, 2019
Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

Interesting.

Sadly, I see a life of severe depression ahead of you. Hopefully, you won't end up committing suicide.

The effort you should have made into bonding with your husband and at least making an attempt to build your relationship (including sexual relationship) has been used to complicate matters for yourself.

Good luck to you.

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