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Kyom20:
Good day fam. I have this girl I have been dating for over 2 years now. She is an amazing person, caring, loving and loyal. She gives so much for our relationship and doesn't ask for anything in return just my love and sincerity. We started off being very open with each other but I have anger and insecurity issues and i began to beat her anytime I felt she was getting familiar with any guy and even some girls. I did this to make her tell me the whole truth and also to make her stay away from these people. She claims that this has made her afraid of me and doesn't allow her to be as open with me as she wants to be.
We stayed together for a while but work took me to another state. She always makes effort to come and see me and I try to go and see her but the sometimes I drift away and she complains that she feels I am cheating on her especially because I am close to many girls. I often prove myself to her but sometimes the complaints get too much and I call it quits but later on we settle.
The issue at hand now is that she has been depressed about some school issues and I try to be there for her but she said the excitement and joy is gone from our relationship and that I am not putting enough effort, I acknowledged this and tried to do better. However, the last time she came to see me she was acting strange and asked me to use a condom. I was suspicious so I beat her and she confessed that another guy had touched her but they didnt av sex, she claimed she did it bcus she was emotionally down and lonely.
I am very hurt and angry because this is the second time this is happening although from her chat with her friends I can confirm she didnt av sex, I dont understand y she would let another man touch her in spite of our issues. I know she loves me and I dont want to let her go because she just seems so right for me.
I really need advice on what to do next. Thanks guys

Kyom20:
Good day fam. I have this girl I have been dating for over 2 years now. She is an amazing person, caring, loving and loyal. She gives so much for our relationship and doesn't ask for anything in return just my love and sincerity. We started off being very open with each other but I have anger and insecurity issues and i began to beat her anytime I felt she was getting familiar with any guy and even some girls. I did this to make her tell me the whole truth and also to make her stay away from these people. She claims that this has made her afraid of me and doesn't allow her to be as open with me as she wants to be.
We stayed together for a while but work took me to another state. She always makes effort to come and see me and I try to go and see her but the sometimes I drift away and she complains that she feels I am cheating on her especially because I am close to many girls. I often prove myself to her but sometimes the complaints get too much and I call it quits but later on we settle.
The issue at hand now is that she has been depressed about some school issues and I try to be there for her but she said the excitement and joy is gone from our relationship and that I am not putting enough effort, I acknowledged this and tried to do better. However, the last time she came to see me she was acting strange and asked me to use a condom. I was suspicious so I beat her and she confessed that another guy had touched her but they didnt av sex, she claimed she did it bcus she was emotionally down and lonely.
I am very hurt and angry because this is the second time this is happening although from her chat with her friends I can confirm she didnt av sex, I dont understand y she would let another man touch her in spite of our issues. I know she loves me and I dont want to let her go because she just seems so right for me.
I really need advice on what to do next. Thanks guys

Kyom20:
I av serious anger issues dats y i beat her, bt I am working on it. In as much as I av my faults. She also did something wrong, I just want to know if ders hope 4 d relationship.

ADMAF:
: OMG- You are a splitting image of a secondary school mate of mine. The resemblance is so striking! Are u from the north central?

faithfull18:
Something is wrong with that girl.

Ginaz:
You devil from the pit of hell. Cos you're angry or have anger issues should not make you put your frustration on her head. How can you stand to see the one you love, crying, begging you to stop beating her and your heart is like a stone?

How can you inflict pain on someone you claimed to love? Your insecurities will be your undoing at the end. I so much feel sorry for the unfortunate woman that would be your wife. She's gonna spend her lifetime in tears and pains at her so called husband's hand.

Change your ways you devil. You don't even have remorse, you're hitting someone's child you haven't married all for the sake of your insecurities and childish anger.

You disgust the hell out of my lungs. Woman beater go beat your fellow man let's see how powerful you are. Let's see how hot your anger is na. Fool.

You are a joke of a man. You're still childish if as an adult you can't control your foolish and rotten anger.

I have never been so angry. You son of a Jerk!!!!!!!!

gloria34:
Nah, i was born and brought up in south-south. So i have a "twin" somewhere?

ADMAF:
M telling u..... Uncanny- go and ask mum n dad wea they kept dat r twin oo. No place to hide for dem anymore.

Kyom20:
Good day fam. I have this girl I have been dating for over 2 years now. She is an amazing person, caring, loving and loyal. She gives so much for our relationship and doesn't ask for anything in return just my love and sincerity. We started off being very open with each other but I have anger and insecurity issues and i began to beat her anytime I felt she was getting familiar with any guy and even some girls. I did this to make her tell me the whole truth and also to make her stay away from these people. She claims that this has made her afraid of me and doesn't allow her to be as open with me as she wants to be.
We stayed together for a while but work took me to another state. She always makes effort to come and see me and I try to go and see her but the sometimes I drift away and she complains that she feels I am cheating on her especially because I am close to many girls. I often prove myself to her but sometimes the complaints get too much and I call it quits but later on we settle.
The issue at hand now is that she has been depressed about some school issues and I try to be there for her but she said the excitement and joy is gone from our relationship and that I am not putting enough effort, I acknowledged this and tried to do better. However, the last time she came to see me she was acting strange and asked me to use a condom. I was suspicious so I beat her and she confessed that another guy had touched her but they didnt av sex, she claimed she did it bcus she was emotionally down and lonely.
I am very hurt and angry because this is the second time this is happening although from her chat with her friends I can confirm she didnt av sex, I dont understand y she would let another man touch her in spite of our issues. I know she loves me and I dont want to let her go because she just seems so right for me.
I really need advice on what to do next. Thanks guys

faithfull18:
Something is wrong with that girl.

Kyom20:
These were not comments I expected. I know I do wrong when I beat but my anger gets uncontrollable + I am already working on stopping it. I also know dat I av to put more work into our relationship, bt I'm just not sure of how to go about things. Pls I dont want to lose her

Nobodyperson:
Honestly bro, You did nothing wrong sometimes women can be very useless and you have to beat sense into them.
If the girl continues like this call her family members or better still, Impregnate her then dump her.

HyAccent:
You be taken the first step i.e acknowledging that you have anger problem, and that you do hit her.
The best thing you can do for yourself and everyone involved is: break up with her, let her go. Then seek help. Talk to an expert. The issue is YOU.

keenn:
Can u just keep quiet.

The lady is comfortable in the relationship, amd this also goes to all those beaten and been beaten.

Na una sabi

OladimejiRufai:
Boyfriend/Girlfriend is a scam! Most of the time, such relationships turn out to be a waste of time, waste of energy, waste of resources/money and waste of sperm...

mubby4real:
Or with the guy

kings20:
see as Girls carry am for head

Pain killers are available though for all those in siffia pains.

Kyom20:
These were not comments I expected. I know I do wrong when I beat but my anger gets uncontrollable + I am already working on stopping it. I also know dat I av to put more work into our relationship, bt I'm just not sure of how to go about things. Pls I dont want to lose her

Kyom20:
Good day fam. I have this girl I have been dating for over 2 years now. She is an amazing person, caring, loving and loyal. She gives so much for our relationship and doesn't ask for anything in return just my love and sincerity. We started off being very open with each other but I have anger and insecurity issues and i began to beat her anytime I felt she was getting familiar with any guy and even some girls. I did this to make her tell me the whole truth and also to make her stay away from these people. She claims that this has made her afraid of me and doesn't allow her to be as open with me as she wants to be.
We stayed together for a while but work took me to another state. She always makes effort to come and see me and I try to go and see her but the sometimes I drift away and she complains that she feels I am cheating on her especially because I am close to many girls. I often prove myself to her but sometimes the complaints get too much and I call it quits but later on we settle.
The issue at hand now is that she has been depressed about some school issues and I try to be there for her but she said the excitement and joy is gone from our relationship and that I am not putting enough effort, I acknowledged this and tried to do better. However, the last time she came to see me she was acting strange and asked me to use a condom. I was suspicious so I beat her and she confessed that another guy had touched her but they didnt av sex, she claimed she did it bcus she was emotionally down and lonely.
I am very hurt and angry because this is the second time this is happening although from her chat with her friends I can confirm she didnt av sex, I dont understand y she would let another man touch her in spite of our issues. I know she loves me and I dont want to let her go because she just seems so right for me.
I really need advice on what to do next. Thanks guys