kennybabs1980:
my dear guy, I'm telling you what's agitating my mind, you're here talking about naijabet...
leave me joor

OK o, I will advice you to continue working as usall OK, don't go and tell madam anything because if you do there is no way oga would not know.

Even if the woman frown at you don't worry assume you don't know anything about them, time would come oga would be the one to put things in order, oga and sece sece would get tired one day and bubble would bust from there where madam would finally know everything by herself. And you would be smiling because it does not come out of your mouth, OK.

kennybabs1980:
Honestly you're very correct. What should be my business with whatever happens in their home? What I don't like is the way the woman wanted to cunningly drag me into what doesn't concern me. See me see wahala sha.

U are partly to be blamed in this anyways ie if u were the type that can handle the truth ... U collected recharge cards that u never worked for.. In this world, there's no free lunch... U payback one way or another...
But next time if she gives you attitude, politely explain to her that reporting your boss to her was not in your job description..

kennybabs1980:
Honestly you're very correct. What should be my business with whatever happens in their home? What I don't like is the way the woman wanted to cunningly drag me into what doesn't concern me. See me see wahala sha.

She is an insecure woman - that’s what they do.

I would advise you consider looking for another job. Do not test the emotions of a scorned woman. They will go at all length to get what they want and don’t mind burning bridges. I’m shocked she is calling you just to say “Hi”. I don’t think your Boss would like such coziness and it maybe misinterpreted.

Get yourself out of that situation. Trust me, that woman would get rid of you either deliberately or otherwise. You are no longer her friend.

Richy4:


U are partly to be blamed in this anyways ie if u were the type that can handle the truth ... U collected recharge cards that u never worked for.. In this world, there's no free lunch... U payback one way or another...
But next time if she gives you attitude, politely explain to her that reporting your boss to her was not in your job description..

If only he has another job or there is one he can readily get

Mutemenot:
Like the previous guy above me said, u better talk to your Boss but be selective and constructive with your words so it won't have effect in their marriage. Just say "oga e be like say your wife don dey hunt you wella, she dey even like ask.me some funny questions oh. E be like say I go dey stay my end mostly so she won't have time to question me on our waka .. abeg play your game well Boss". If he's a guy man he will support u sharp sharp n even love u more

Wow wow play your game well... So would you have given same advice if it was a situation with the opposite sex?

BecaciaBarbie:

Wow wow play your game well... So would you have given same advice if it was a situation with the opposite sex?

op's job is our concern here not the woman n her husband.

Boss13:


She is an insecure woman - that’s what they do.

I would advise you consider looking for another job. Do not test the emotions of a scorned woman. They will go at all length to get what they want and don’t mind burning bridges. I’m shocked she is calling you just to say “Hi”. I don’t think your Boss would like such coziness and it maybe misinterpreted.

Get yourself out of that situation. Trust me, that woman would get rid of you either deliberately or otherwise. You are no longer her friend.

Wey the job bros, na so e easy?

kennybabs1980:
I'm doing that today, I have gotten a nice explanation to give him. I don't like seeing that woman. Just see the way she started being nice just because she wanted to use me as guinea pig whose head will be used to break coconut after they've settled everything. The husband will beg her and they'll settle, the man will surely know I'm the one who told her. If I tell oga what his wife is asking from me now, what happens if he start wahala with his wife?

Let's know how it goes/went

Acidosis:


No one is talking about the secretary lol


To marry is becoming one of the scariest things ever.

Wetin concern the secretary na?

It is funny how everyone is treating the oga's wife like the one at fault when she is actually the wronged party.

Hmmmm.

The wife is very annoying. See how she wants to drag innocent bystanders into her own wahala.
You have handled the issue very well so far. Continue to greet her politely when she comes your way but avoid her as much as possible and ignore her angry looks.

Just Keep Quite And Stop Familarity With Ur Boss Wife

I think If I was in your shoes i would ave given her something. Give her something that will harm no one.you should give her something. Nothing is not acceptable.

I dont think you should tell your boss

daewoorazer:

Your undoing was letting her ‘bribe’ you with recharges And all that, now your conscience is messed.....


It’s not messy yet, move the equipment to your house and make everything with your boss’s wife strictly professional....stop laffing at every jokes and perhaps eating every plate of eba she loads in front of you.....

That’s all you need......na conscience dey worry u, if she had not been ‘nice’, trust me, you won’t give a flying fûck

Correct advise, though the plate of eba thing sounds hilarious!

kennybabs1980:
The woman became so friendly with me since February 2019. she will call me on phone to just say hi, recharge my phone sometimes etc. I have always been so sceptical about the woman's attitude of recent since I know her as a very inquisitive person.

Let's treat your case this way, using the 48 laws of power.

She used law 8 on you: Make people come to you - use bait if necessary.

You knew right from the time that she's inquisitive yet you acted unbothered since you're getting small chops. She used the bait and hook method on you and now you don't want to be trapped.

Instead of applying law 40: Despise free lunch.

Now let me give my advice using law 5: So much depends on reputation - guard it with your life.

I will suggest you stylishly tell your director if he can give you the chance to be doing some of the jobs at your place. Let him know that you do perform better/work effectively when alone.

Give the wife space. If you ignore her and you are still visiting the house, you might be called a thief or a rapist some day.

But where is lalasticlala sef now

Acidosis:


No one is talking about the secretary lol


To marry is becoming one of the scariest things ever.

I'm very sure if the roles were reversed, the advice would be different. If it was madam cheating, many would have advised her employee to spill the beans...
The side chick/boo would always be excused because they've taken no vows.

Boss13:


She is an insecure woman - that’s what they do.
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She is not an insecure woman. Rather a woman who knows her husband and knows for sure he is cheating. She is just gathering her evidences.
You can call her insecure only if her suspicions are not true, but they are. The boss has been showing signs he is cheating and she's smart enough to pick up the signs. She however isn't smart enough to hack into his phones and social media accounts.

Boss13:


The wife knows the husband is cheating but wants evidence. What she wants to do with it - Only God knows (women and their ridiculous ways).

What's ridiculous in getting evidence on who your partner is cheating with? You're wondering what she will do with the information? Let her have it first, and then you'll see .

Meanwhile, why are you making out the wife to be a bad person? You've called her insecure, you've called her ridiculous, yet you know for a fact her suspicions are correct. You know for a fact her husband has done her wrong
She's even tried to do her own detective work, but unfortunately she's not so great at that. Dont be surprised she already knows about the secretary as it's probably common knowledge in their office and OP won't be the only source she has there. She just needed exact confirmation from someone who travelled with them.

Boss13:


She is an insecure woman - that’s what they do.

I would advise you consider looking for another job. Do not test the emotions of a scorned woman. They will go at all length to get what they want and don’t mind burning bridges. I’m shocked she is calling you just to say “Hi”. I don’t think your Boss would like such coziness and it maybe misinterpreted.

Get yourself out of that situation. Trust me, that woman would get rid of you either deliberately or otherwise. You are no longer her friend.

She’s an ‘insecure’ woman for suspecting her cheating husband is cheating? Urm who would’ve thought lol, it’s pretty understandable smh

Kennybabs1980

I feel bad for the woman, but at the same time it’s unfair that she’s dragging you into her business. Best thing to do is to ignore her and be neutral, but then I can also see your neutrality somehow being flipped on you by your boss if he gets caught one day and finds out you were aware of his wife’s investigations. Corrupt systems sometimes have a way of punishing those doing things the ‘right’ way unfortunately.

Talk to your boss stylishly, that woman can lead to your sack, hunger dey Nigeria

eyinjuege:


I'm very sure if the roles were reversed, the advice would be different. If it was madam cheating, many would have advised her employee to spill the beans...
The side chick/boo would always be excused because they've taken no vows.

You're very right. It's a man's world after all :p

bukatyne:


Wetin concern the secretary na?

It is funny how everyone is treating the oga's wife like the one at fault when she is actually the wronged party.

Hmmmm.

Very funny my sister

Use her for money rituals

kennybabs1980:
My director's wife is a kind hearted woman but she is too sensitive and highly inquisitive. I have known her for 5 years, that's when I started working with her husband. I'm very close to my oga and his family.

My oga is a womanizer but his wife hasn't been able to catch him red handed. The woman became so friendly with me since February 2019. she will call me on phone to just say hi, recharge my phone sometimes etc.

I have always been so sceptical about the woman's attitude of recent since I know her as a very inquisitive person.

The bubble bursted in April when I travelled with oga to Kaduna, Kano and Jigawa States for some trainings organised by our department for some cooperative livestock farmers. The wife started calling me while in Kano to ask about her husband, who stays with him in his hotel room, his visitors etc which I said to her I don't really know.

Oga actually brought his secretary which I knew he has been dating with him for the trip but of what concern is that to me? When we returned, the woman actually came to our office where she looked angrily at me, hiss at me and left without answering her greeting.

My job schedule involves sometimes working at oga's house especially when we have urgent training assignments. The woman have been sort of looking at me as someone who is also promiscuous like her hubby. Yesterday, she called me a liar and deceitful person, just because she wanted me to divulge her hubby's itinerary to her. It's possible she think I'm a small boy sha.

I'm actually planning to move some of the equipment in oga's house to mine so that I'll have less contact with the woman but I don't want my oga to know my reasons since I didn't tell him all his wife have been doing so that I don't cause wahala in their home.
How could I handle this issue brothers and sisters?

Dic.k her down

patani:
I think you should tell the boss what his wife is doing. Otherwise, you will be the biggest looser in the game she is trying to play

you said my mind

The story doesn't make sense

kennybabs1980:
My director's wife is a kind hearted woman but she is too sensitive and highly inquisitive. I have known her for 5 years, that's when I started working with her husband. I'm very close to my oga and his family.

My oga is a womanizer but his wife hasn't been able to catch him red handed. The woman became so friendly with me since February 2019. she will call me on phone to just say hi, recharge my phone sometimes etc.

I have always been so sceptical about the woman's attitude of recent since I know her as a very inquisitive person.

The bubble bursted in April when I travelled with oga to Kaduna, Kano and Jigawa States for some trainings organised by our department for some cooperative livestock farmers. The wife started calling me while in Kano to ask about her husband, who stays with him in his hotel room, his visitors etc which I said to her I don't really know.

Oga actually brought his secretary which I knew he has been dating with him for the trip but of what concern is that to me? When we returned, the woman actually came to our office where she looked angrily at me, hiss at me and left without answering her greeting.

My job schedule involves sometimes working at oga's house especially when we have urgent training assignments. The woman have been sort of looking at me as someone who is also promiscuous like her hubby. Yesterday, she called me a liar and deceitful person, just because she wanted me to divulge her hubby's itinerary to her. It's possible she think I'm a small boy sha.

I'm actually planning to move some of the equipment in oga's house to mine so that I'll have less contact with the woman but I don't want my oga to know my reasons since I didn't tell him all his wife have been doing so that I don't cause wahala in their home.

How could I handle this issue brothers and sisters?

You're already handling it perfectly well. Ignore her and stop picking her calls.

patani:
I think you should tell the boss what his wife is doing. Otherwise, you will be the biggest looser in the game she is trying to play

Wrong move bro. BIG NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

When they finally settle, he will be viewed as trying to cause problem in their home ab-initio and the big stick will be wielded (SACK)

He should try any means possible to reduce contact with the both of them or request transfer to another unit

You better not get involved. Don't say anything to your boss regarding his wife. That will be like taking sides which karma will fix for you to learn a huge lesson.

You think you both are pals? He is dating his secretary who may have a boyfriend. You think your boss is also not capable of dating your own girlfriend/wife without batting an eyelid?

You have already started taking steps to avoid his wife....stick to that and come up with something else as an explanation if your boss asks you why you are making such adjustments.

Your boss' wife knows her husband is a dog. Let her face him alone.

Use your head.

DREagon:
Don't say sh*t my brother
They no dey put mouth for husband and wife matter, because you no go dey for under their bed to defend yourself when them go dey settle the matter,
Just play the mute game, dey watch dem like film.

Gbam!!!!!!

There is a particular reason you are on that job for 5 years and counting. You are handling it professionally well, do not change strategy now irrespective of the pressure. You might think your boss does not know you are holding it tight, he knows already, he is a man for Lucifer's sake.

Stand your ground and speak professionally and maintain the same position you have been maintaining, and some day, and that day may not be too long, your boss will bring up the issue and that is when you tell the whole story including Jara.

The man will eventually ask why you did not inform him about his wife's probe. Your response should be simple; ' I am a man, I can handle such issues'.

Watch his face for his reaction. Your relationship with you from that day, will only be explained by you.

Good luck, but luck is not what you need.