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I like him but he has a "friend" that makes me so uncomfortable. Her pixs are all over his phone, his fb page, they chat often, and worst of all, they seem to trust themselves and she visits. I was shocked when I saw a 50k (and other amounts) alert in his phone which she gave him and I feel he gives her too.

He said she has a guy, and introduced my to her as his girl. I am planing to meet her bf because there are things I need to know.

But friends, is it possible for people in relationship to keep close friendship with the opposite sex and "nothing" goes on?

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Charanko:
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A great man once said ...

Yes they can be,without anything happening,don't trouble your mind provided you don't have any solid evidence against him,you may look stupid at the end,take it slowly until you establish good evidence,if he is seriously into her he will not present her to you but who know,

jackslow:
Yes they can be,without anything happening,don't trouble your mind provided you don't have any solid evidence against him,you may look stupid at the end,take it slowly until you establish good evidence,if he is seriously into her he will not present her to you but who know,

can you date a gurl that has a guy as his best friend?

Oluwasaeon:
A great man once said ...

that?

It's possible to be in a relationship and keep a close friendship with someone of the opposite gender and not ACT on any feelings/attraction you have towards them. You can find them physically attractive or have feelings without having motives for example

Can a guy and girl be in a platonic relationship and at least one not find the other physically attractive at the very least (since feelings are different to physical attraction)? Also yes, but just thought to point out the differences

Of course!

ibkayee:
It's possible to be in a relationship and keep a close friendship with someone of the opposite gender and not ACT on any feelings/attraction you have towards them. You can find them physically attractive or have feelings without having motives for example

Can a guy and girl be in a platonic relationship and at least one not find the other physically attractive at the very least (since feelings are different to physical attraction)? Also yes, but just thought to point out the differences

If you were in my shoes, what would you do and not do?

RoseyJ:
If you were in my shoes, what would you do and not do?

If I liked him but we weren't in an official relationship I'd be jealous and just seethe in silence lol, there wouldn't be much I could do since that's his friend and I have nothing to do with their business

If I were in an official relationship with him, I wouldn't do anything either since it's none of my business, especially if they were friends before I came into the picture. Only time I'd say something would be if they both engaged in something that blatantly crossed 'friendship' boundaries. I wouldn't go to see her boyfriend though, for what exactly? Lol

But that's just me

They can be friends, but there's a HIGH LIKELIHOOD that one party likes/has feelings for the other. The same way you're friends with him but "LIKE HIM" is the same way he's friends with her but probably likes her (and based on what you've writen, there's a HIGH LIKELIHOOD that he does).

RoseyJ:
If you were in my shoes, what would you do and not do?

Invest your feelings into someone else who is emotionally available.

in other for it to work

one of them must possess

low self esteem
must be recessive
must have scales in the eyes
must not crush
must be jobless

so yes, its not totally unpossible

ibkayee:
If I liked him but we weren't in an official relationship I'd be jealous and just seethe in silence lol, there wouldn't be much I could do since that's his friend and I have nothing to do with their business

If I were in an official relationship with him, I wouldn't do anything either since it's none of my business, especially if they were friends before I came into the picture. Only time I'd say something would be if they both engaged in something that blatantly crossed 'friendship' boundaries. I wouldn't go to see her boyfriend though, for what exactly? Lol

But that's just me

I want to meet him to findout if he knows about her gf's best friend. Also, to see how she will feel knowing that I and her guy are friends too. wouldnt that be cool?

RoseyJ:
I want to meet him to findout if he knows about her gf's best friend. Also, to see how she will feel knowing that I and her guy are friends too. wouldnt that be cool?

You'll probably piss the friend off and your boyfriend will probably think you're crazy, especially if you're going behind their backs to do so. Her boyfriend is going to tell her

I guess speak to your boyfriend about how you feel, he shouldn't necessarily cut ties with her but tone their relationship down a notch since it's making you feel uncomfortable, tell him to put himself in your shoes. If he continues (which would be pretty inconsiderate of him in my opinion), only option I can think of is to break up with him since its obviously making you very upset. But going to her boyfriend is a no-no in my opinion, it will likely do more harm than good

OP, Sorry if u find this offensive but I got a strong feeling after reading this that u might leave this guy, after destroying a friendship that was built out of trust... I don't know maybe I have been drinking too much orange juice...

Please, U have seen their relationship... U have seen how they got each other's back.. If u don't really like it, and u don't feel comfortable with it, use the back door... Someone else might find it interesting... who is ready to share a harmless friendship with the guy..

Do not sow a seed of discord between them please... just excuse yourself as i said using the front or back door which ever that is closer to u . ... .U have started thinking about forming CIA.. meeting her boyfriend and finding things...And we all know when a woman said she wants to find out something what that means...

Why not stick to the version your boyfriend has told you.... until you find a reason not to believe anymore..

I will suggest that u Google what friend zone is about.. my guses is that they have friend zoned each other and Anyone in that Zone needs St Peter, St Paul even St Christopher to come out of it...

ibkayee:
You'll probably piss the friend off and your boyfriend will probably think you're crazy, especially if you're going behind their backs to do so. Her boyfriend is going to tell her

I guess speak to your boyfriend about how you feel, he shouldn't necessarily cut ties with her but tone their relationship down a notch since it's making you feel uncomfortable, tell him to put himself in your shoes. If he continues (which would be pretty inconsiderate of him in my opinion), only option I can think of is to break up with him since its obviously making you very upset. But going to her boyfriend is a no-no in my opinion, it will likely do more harm than good

He is not yet (officially) my boyfriend
I just like him

RoseyJ:
He is not yet (officially) my boyfriend I just like him

And you want to kill yourself with jealousy? God abeg ooo

RoseyJ:
He is not yet (officially) my boyfriend
I just like him

Ok dear, you don't have any right to be questioning him let alone approaching the girl's boyfriend unfortunately

Hmmmm

Your story rings a bell. Yes, its possible. But it demands a great deal of maturity and understanding from all involved, and you need be on guards.

I'll advice you make the girl your very good friend. Your friendship with her will tell you alot about them.

backbone503:
Your story rings a bell. Yes, its possible. But it demands a great deal of maturity and understanding from all involved, and you need be on guards.

I'll advice you make the girl your very good friend. Your friendship with her will tell you alot about them.

Thankz.