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The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Obierika: 6:39am On May 19
As a single guy in Nigeria who is about to select a wife the biggest mistake you could possibly make right now is to marry a lady who is either not working or is not earning any sort of income.

Do not ignore this warning if you plan to get married soon!

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Olude193: 6:41am On May 19
Obierika:
As a single guy in Nigeria who is about to select a wife the biggest mistake you could possibly make right now is to marry a lady who is either not working or is not earning any sort of income.

Do not ignore this warning if you plan to get married soon!


Loooool


Wetin happen

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Davash222(m): 6:48am On May 19
That's not the biggest mistake..

The biggest mistake is to marry a Nigerian girl.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Anyahuruagu: 6:54am On May 19
The worst mistake is to marry entitled wife with zero contributions..

Living Hell.

She may be working but she no dey contribute.

Looking for a go getter who is ready to wave poverty bye bye as am waving it not a mediocre whose taste buds doesn't taste investment and savings.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Oluromantic(m): 6:55am On May 19
You're correct op. She doesn't have to come from a rich home but should have good earnings to support her man

That belief of ...I'm a woman, my office is my husband's kitchen... Is archaic. But funny enough, some girls are still in that dream land.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by ellapius(f): 7:33am On May 19
the biggest mistake for a Nigerian girl is to marry a guy who is not ready to marry. a Bleep boy. a jobless Bleep boy who believes his big gbola is his selling point

modified.....
I have had to face so many hateful words from guys here becos I said all this. some have called me names from prostitute to pain heartbroken lady. it so bad to see how weak men transfer their frustration on ladies out there. I have e come to realize that many guys want smart ladies for a wife but don't have the balls to live with them.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Naija246: 7:34am On May 19
the biggest mistake in my opinion is to even consider marriage grin

Guys should know that you will enjoy your life far better when you are single than when married.
Being single affords you the luxury of:
-developing new skills
-saving a chunk of what you earn
-it affords you the opportunity to travel more.
-you will age slower(due to less stress)
Etc
The benefits of single life for a man far outweighs the pros of being married.
We men are doing Women a HUGE!! favor by marrying them. grin

guys, don't let any lady sell you the idea that marriage benefits you.. it's a scam!!
Marriage benefits Women not men!!
Hoard your ring!! cheesy

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by MJBOLT: 7:47am On May 19
i just hope you wont get married to a working class lady with bad character undecided character should be the first thing you look out for in marriage.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by pDudd: 7:48am On May 19
The biggest mistake is to marry any woman at all.

As a man, can you tell me exactly what you benefit from marriage that you can't benefit as a single guy. Tell me.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by pDudd: 7:50am On May 19
Naija246:
the biggest mistake in my opinion is to even consider marriage grin

Guys should know that you will enjoy your life far better when you are single than when married.
Being single affords you the luxury of:
-developing new skills
-saving a chunk of what you earn
-it affords you the opportunity to travel more.
-you will age slower(due to less stress)
Etc
The benefits of single life for a man far outweighs the pros of being married.
We men are doing Women a huge favor by marrying them. grin

My nigga cheesy wink

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Nnaabros: 7:55am On May 19
ellapius:
the biggest mistake for a Nigerian girl is to marry a guy who is not ready to marry. a Bleep boy. a jobless Bleep boy who believes his big gbola is his selling point

How can YOU possibly marry him when he's not ready to marry you? undecided

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Naija246: 7:55am On May 19
bro I'm just spilling red pill truths for my brother's oo grin
I hope they listen.
We men should seriously start questioning alot of thing's the society implicitly expects from us.

Marriage restricts a man's potential and freedom.
Have you ever noticed that the most productive time in a man's life is when he is still single.
Look at great inventor's from Nikola Tesla to Faraday, they all peaked when single.
pDudd:


My nigga cheesy wink

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by MelaninSkinGirl(f): 7:56am On May 19
Studies show married men are happier and live longer than their single/divorced/widowed counterparts. Single/Widowed/Divorced men are more depressed and suicidal than their married counterparts.

On the other hand, studies show that Single women live longer than their married counterparts, they also retain their figures and beauty longer than their married counterparts.

These studies show that the main benefactors of marriage is the Men. Make of that what you want!!!

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by pDudd: 8:00am On May 19
Naija246:
bro I'm just spilling red pill truths for my brother's oo grin
I hope they listen.
We men should seriously start questioning alot of thing's the society implicitly expects from us.

That's right bro. You ain't lying.

All women bring to the table these days is an expired pussy or a kid or kids from her baby daddy. They are broke, lack zero skills, and from poor semovita backgrounds.

If she isn't Beyonce or Rihanna that can add value to my life, then let her carry her expired kpekus and baggage and commot from my front. Empty barrels.

Man must wise now. Days of dulling are over.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by pDudd: 8:01am On May 19
MelaninSkinGirl:
Studies show married men are happier and live longer than their single/divorced/widowed counterparts. Single/Widowed/Divorced men are more depressed and suicidal than their married counterparts.

On the other hand, studies show that Single women live longer than their married counterparts, they also retain their figures and beauty longer than their married counterparts.

These studies show that the main benefactors of marriage is the Men. Make of that what you want!!!

Studies carried out and published by you cheesy

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by MelaninSkinGirl(f): 8:04am On May 19
pDudd:


Studies carried out and published by you cheesy
Married men and mortality
A major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood. Men who have marital partners also live longer than men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age, and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers. But is marriage itself responsible for better health and longer life?

Although it's hard to be sure, marriage seems to deserve at least part of the credit. Some have argued that self-selection would skew the results if healthy men are more likely to marry than men with health problems. But research shows the reverse is true: unhealthy men actually marry earlier, are less likely to divorce, and are more likely to remarry following divorce or bereavement than healthy men.

Another potential factor is loneliness; is the institution of marriage linked to better health, or is it simply a question of living with another person? Although studies vary, the answer seems to be a little of both. People living with unmarried partners tend to fare better than those living alone, but men living with their wives have the best health of all.

Numerous studies conducted over the past 150 years suggest that marriage is good for health. More recently, scientists have begun to understand why married men enjoy better health than their single, divorced, and widowed peers. But before we turn to the why, let's look at how marriage affects specific diseases, including America's leading killers, cardiovascular disease and cancer.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens-health

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Nnaabros: 8:09am On May 19
MelaninSkinGirl:
Studies show married men are happier and live longer than their single/divorced/widowed counterparts. Single/Widowed/Divorced men are more depressed and suicidal than their married counterparts.

On the other hand, studies show that Single women live longer than their married counterparts, they also retain their figures and beauty longer than their married counterparts.

These studies show that the main benefactors of marriage is the Men. Make of that what you want!!!

And yet you're the ones most desperate to marry.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by MelaninSkinGirl(f): 8:10am On May 19
Nnaabros:


And yet you're the ones most desperate to marry.

Because of societal pressures sir. If you leave women alone, I am sure they will be happy to maintain their singlehood status.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Naija246: 8:13am On May 19
most of these studies are propaganda in disguise.
in the real world, married men are more depressed, work more and are generally unhappy.

They are also easier to manipulate by employers since they have more to loose if they don't bring home the bacon.
A singles man's needs aren't much so you can't really manipulate him to work himself to death contrast that with a father with 3 kids and a wife to feed, such men will jump through hoops just to provide for their family.

PragerU published a video four years ago that was obviously propaganda encouraging men to marry, the backlash they got wasn't funny at all. grin
Men are wising up!! Especially men from the western world



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EtvfHnZMcOY

MelaninSkinGirl:
Studies show married men are happier and live longer than their single/divorced/widowed counterparts. Single/Widowed/Divorced men are more depressed and suicidal than their married counterparts.

On the other hand, studies show that Single women live longer than their married counterparts, they also retain their figures and beauty longer than their married counterparts.

These studies show that the main benefactors of marriage is the Men. Make of that what you want!!!

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Headlesschicken(m): 8:14am On May 19
undecided Real talk, cos at the end of the day her big ass or beauty or whatever the phuck else it was that made u marry her won't bring food to yuh table...

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Nnaabros: 8:14am On May 19
MelaninSkinGirl:


Because of societal pressures sir. If you leave women alone, I am sure they will be happy to maintain their singlehood status.

Not true. Most women feel miserable, lonely and incomplete without a husband, crying 'God when' everywhere.

They see marriage as a bed of roses, because they have no wedding and marriage bills and expenses to worry about.

Most men just want to live a free fun life without the burdens of marriage. Even many married men still have extramarital adventures.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Olawrites: 8:17am On May 19
MelaninSkinGirl:

Married men and mortality
A major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood. Men who have marital partners also live longer than men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age, and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers. But is marriage itself responsible for better health and longer life?

Although it's hard to be sure, marriage seems to deserve at least part of the credit. Some have argued that self-selection would skew the results if healthy men are more likely to marry than men with health problems. But research shows the reverse is true: unhealthy men actually marry earlier, are less likely to divorce, and are more likely to remarry following divorce or bereavement than healthy men.

Another potential factor is loneliness; is the institution of marriage linked to better health, or is it simply a question of living with another person? Although studies vary, the answer seems to be a little of both. People living with unmarried partners tend to fare better than those living alone, but men living with their wives have the best health of all.

Numerous studies conducted over the past 150 years suggest that marriage is good for health. More recently, scientists have begun to understand why married men enjoy better health than their single, divorced, and widowed peers. But before we turn to the why, let's look at how marriage affects specific diseases, including America's leading killers, cardiovascular disease and cancer.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens-health


C u

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by pDudd: 8:17am On May 19
MelaninSkinGirl:

Married men and mortality
A major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood. Men who have marital partners also live longer than men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age, and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers.
But is marriage itself responsible for better health and longer life?

Although it's hard to be sure, marriage seems to deserve at least part of the credit.
Some have argued that self-selection would skew the results if healthy men are more likely to marry than men with health problems. But research shows the reverse is true: unhealthy men actually marry earlier, are less likely to divorce, and are more likely to remarry following divorce or bereavement than healthy men.

Another potential factor is loneliness; is the institution of marriage linked to better health, or is it simply a question of living with another person? Although studies vary, the answer seems to be a little of both. People living with unmarried partners tend to fare better than those living alone, but men living with their wives have the best health of all.

Numerous studies conducted over the past 150 years suggest that marriage is good for health. More recently, scientists have begun to understand why married men enjoy better health than their single, divorced, and widowed peers. But before we turn to the why, let's look at how marriage affects specific diseases, including America's leading killers, cardiovascular disease and cancer.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens-health


Result is inconclusive.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Helios85447(m): 8:19am On May 19
ellapius:
the biggest mistake for a Nigerian girl is to marry a guy who is not ready to marry. a Bleep boy. a jobless Bleep boy who believes his big gbola is his selling point
lol ur dp said it all .....lol

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Helios85447(m): 8:23am On May 19
would rather go and marry a Northern virgin lady ......preferable Fulani better still make she no even get work self or wise at all that will be much better.... do mistake go marry otherwise lol sorry is ur name...some working ladies self are just worst dey can bleep their boss or one fine work co- worker behind ur back...northern ladies anytime any day

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by MelaninSkinGirl(f): 8:33am On May 19
Hey, I showed you the science, you decide what you want to do with your lives. It's a free universe.

But believe me you, there is nothing sadder than a man who is 50something running around and sleeping with everything that moves. He thinks these pretty young girls love him, but he doesn't know they are in it for his wallet. It's a sad life.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Helios85447(m): 8:39am On May 19
MelaninSkinGirl:
Hey, I showed you the science, you decide what you want to do with your lives. It's a free universe.

But believe me you, there is nothing sadder than a man who is 50something running around and sleeping with everything that moves. He thinks these pretty young girls love him, but he doesn't know they are in it for his wallet. It's a sad life.
at least they are in it for his wallet and he is having his fun driving them like okada on the bed so its a win win ......just live a happy life ooo but that is why pple prefer to do baby mama stuff this generation don spoil no be small

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Naija246: 8:51am On May 19
oh you mean propaganda science grin
MelaninSkinGirl:
Hey, I showed you the science, you decide what you want to do with your lives. It's a free universe.

But believe me you, there is nothing sadder than a man who is 50something running around and sleeping with everything that moves. He thinks these pretty young girls love him, but he doesn't know they are in it for his wallet. It's a sad life.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Oluromantic(m): 8:56am On May 19
ellapius:
the biggest mistake for a Nigerian girl is to marry a guy who is not ready to marry. a Bleep boy. a jobless Bleep boy who believes his big gbola is his selling point
It's not a counter argument case. Make yourself attractable enough for marriage. This counter thought reduces ur attractiveness o

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by Oluromantic(m): 8:58am On May 19
MelaninSkinGirl:
Studies show married men are happier and live longer than their single/divorced/widowed counterparts. Single/Widowed/Divorced men are more depressed and suicidal than their married counterparts.

On the other hand, studies show that Single women live longer than their married counterparts, they also retain their figures and beauty longer than their married counterparts.

These studies show that the main benefactors of marriage is the Men. Make of that what you want!!!
Lol. You're funny. You need to stop this thinking b fore marriage as soon as possible.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by sexylassie2(f): 9:10am On May 19
The biggest mistake a woman can make is marrying a man with no income.

The reality is most men want to eat their cake and have it, they want a traditional wife but cant carry the responsibility of marrying a traditional woman.

Shebi you are the man, why do you need a woman that works, aren't you guys the superior being.

The only reason why you need a working woman is to prey on her finance, to be realistic, only broke men want a working woman, a rich man wants a house wife.

Note: cry me a river, you won't get any reply from me.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Guy by aeion: 9:12am On May 19
Considering all the begging threads on Nairaland from married people asking for money to feed their families, it's obvious Nigerians are getting married with little to no money or savings, and I'm very baffled by this!!!! You should be telling both males and females to each have a stable job/source of income and sufficient savings before getting married!!!!

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