Mznaett:
You don't advise a woman who's going through so much pains in her marriage to pray .

If you do, you are not different from the "man" who put her in such a messy situation.

@op

If I were you, the moment I find out my partner is cheating on me, I'm out.

There's no point questioning his action.

I take it you are not married, neither am I. But I can tell you, @ the bolded is easier said than done.
When you are married with a child involved, "extramarital situations" bore so much pain in your life. You wouldn't naturally want to lose your spouse to competition and you wouldn't want to have him back at the same time...

CHoccolaTE:
I have even heard of worse cases than OPs.
There was one married man that told his wife to call his side chic and apologise to her after the wife warned the side chic to leave her husband.

My former neighbour beat his wife till her nose broke and was bleeding all over her dress because the stupid man wanted to invite the girlfriend to the house and his wife locked the door and hid the key.


These are just few, I know many other horrifying cases of married men acting like beasts to their wives because in Africa nobody cautions them.
Funny thing is that the baby you bore is for his family and bears his name and will carry on his lineage. But he is body shaming you for losing your beauty after having the child.

Madam OP, if you are open to using diabolical means against him please do so. Or get people to severely beat him up and wound him seriously.
Or just ignore him and bear. If na me I will put little quantities of me and my babies piss and shit in his every meal I prepare for him along with using diabolical means against him.
I love revenge, I don't joke with it.

Omo! see women dey vex ooo

Seun:
Agreed. I just couldn't help myself when I stumbled on the topic.

A friendly remainder: Please check "evidence@n****" a transaction was made for "lyfe" posted since Sunday 2nd of June.


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FlutterDollar99:
I take it you are not married, neither am I. But I can tell you, @ the bolded is easier said than done.
When you are married with a child involved, "extramarital situations" bore so much pain in your life. You wouldn't naturally want to lose your spouse to competition and you wouldn't want to have him back at the same time...

And I am telling you that I don't tolerate BS of any kind.
Not because I don't love my partner but for my happiness and peace of mind.

I love you. You deserve much better

12inchess:
How will you feel, if you buy a brand new 2019 Benz car. Atleast you thot you did and then after you just 1 or 3 years it's looking like a 1993 Mercedes Benz 190.That is what many Nigerian women do to their husbands. Later they will start complaining that he will that he is eyeing other women. They no how looks are important. Even when they grow older. Why don't you also maintain your weight and shape. Hit the gym. Drese good. That is wht I admire abt many American women. If he now is still looking out then you would know he is the problem. But from what you've posted here it seems you're the problem and he must have been sick and tired of complaining. If you leave, that slay mama will just take your place and no guarantee for something better esp since you have a kid and you know how Nigerian families are abt women that already have kids. That is the Reality. However make sure you protect yourself both financially and healthwise.

Even some monstous looking Nigerian men are complaining.

If your husband cheats on you, cheat on him back with a WEALTHIER man.
If he wants to scatter the marriage,scatter it together.

I wonder why some women fight to stay with these dusties...You have to match his wickedness with more wickedness.

If he's good to you, be good to him.

If he's bad to you, make his life painful.

Stop letting these creatures treat you this way. Stop letting them stress you out. Too much stress makes one look older than her age. I don't want that for you Queens.

tosyne09:
There are 7.8Billion people on planet. (earth).

The report shows

Women = 5.6Billion

If the union is unbearable, kindly quit. before you quit and start looking for new angel in town. know this: that you are solely responsible for your own happiness. so, take that responsibility by becoming a believer......I recommend Christianity and if you're one already, interact with your bible and allow God's peace in your life.

Check this summary of recent UN report and learn

Men = 2.2Billion

So, they advised women to be careful in showing attitudes to any man because out of the 2.2 Billion men:

One billion are married already.
130 million are in prison.
70 million are mentally ill.
That means that we have just about 1 billion men available for marriage and out of the 1billion:

50% are jobless
3% are gay
5% are Catholic Priests
10% are your relatives
35% are above 66years
So, ladies both the married and singles, you have to rethink before treating any man like trash.

For details visit UN demography report.

Interesting. Obviously, children are conveinently left out of your demographics . I haven't seen the report, but I'm pretty sure they said male and female ( including both adults and children)
Not men and women (adults only). There is a difference.

Jentle244:




I feel ur pain really

First of all what I would say is this: He body shames u at any given opportunity. I would say say u work on ur body, do some exercise, avoid fatty foods, watch your diet. and be discipled about it. I guess ur husband married u a slim lady? go back to that ur former shape.

If u ask me I don't like women who are fat unnecessarily. thruth be told.

So work on ur weight and body size.




Secondly, are u a spiritual woman?

A woman who kneels before God will stand before men.

I use to know an aunt whose husband cheats on her. Every time she complains to my mum until my mum told her what to do. She prayed a prayer that no man who cheats on his wife to pray


"O Lord my his penis never stand if he meets a strange woman" an it worked like fire cause God has said whatever God has joined together let no man put asunder, that girl is trying to put asunder(divide) in your marriage.


So what am trying to say is that u must be a prayer woman if u want a peaceful home.





Thirdly, Know how to cook, especially his favorite. it is said that the way to a man's heart is through the stomach which invariably means food, good food as at that. if u don't know learn from ur friends.

Fourthly, Be romantic, my sister know how to dob it in bed, like the above saying, another way to a Man's heart is through sex. This is the 21st century where the internet is at our finger tips. learn how to seduce him, learn how to u know moan, wriggle your body etc. Am not saying u should watch porn.



And Lastly, Be supportive: supportive in the sense that u are supportive emotionally, money wise and prayer wise.


In terms of money if u don't have something doing, men tend to get irritated especially when he has a girl outside. Learn a handwork such as decoration, pastry, confectioneries, catering etc



The ball is in your Court



I rest my case

I hope you do see how hippopotamus-like Kim Kardashian looks when pregnant? I'm very sure Kanye never called her names. Do you know what is emotional abuse? It's what op is facing now and its what Tonto faced that's making her go through all the enhancement surgery now.

Do you know why annoys me about most men? They open their mouth and talk anyhow to women because they feel they are stronger. When the woman gives them a little dose of their medicine, they label her foul-mouthed and start beating her up.

The woman has a four-month-old baby who might still be on exclusive feeding. How about allowing her to recuperate before suggesting all those exercises and dress nice thingy.

kennygee:


You people who always stress on infidelity, isn't there room for forgiveness?

I use to say "if my husband cheats on me, I'll leave". But wisdom has taught me better.

The mess in her home might just be the devil's way of pushing her out of her home for a strange woman to enter.

It is not a battle she can fight with force and quarrels.

You get sense pass me sef! (issues three grand salute)

Whether we like it or not, (though it is a very uncomfortable truth), most men, as high as 98% of them, will cheat......if they have the means, the opportunity and can do it without being discovered.

If women make it a POLICY that l will leave my husband if he cheats on me, almost, almost all marriages will crash and you know what?
There is no guarrantee that the next man yoou marry, is any different from the one you just left and he wont cheat on you as well.

We might say "then women too should cheat".
Truth is it does not work out for each gender, the same way!
By physiological difference in our anatomy, the male anatomy is more prone to cheating or multiple sex partners, that the female's own.
-The male organ is outside his body while the female organ is inside her body.
- The maleorgan is designed for penetration, while the female organ is designed to be penetrated
- The male is an 'electron donor' while the female is an 'electron acceptor'
- The male will never get pregnant after a sexual encounter, no matter how careless he is, but pregnancy is a high possibility in a female encounter and as such, could leave traces that can nver be erased.

All these make the male specie, very prone to multiple sex partners and if you decide to break the marriage at every instance of cheating, it is better not to even marry at all, in the first place.

Daboomb:


You get sense pass me sef! (issues three grand salute)

Whether we like it or not, (though it is a very uncomfortable truth), most men, as high as 98% of them, will cheat......if they have the means, the opportunity and can do it without being discovered.

If women make it a POLICY that l will leave my husband if he cheats on me, almost, almost all marriages will crash and you know what?
There is no guarrantee that the next man yoou marry, is any different from the one you just left and he wont cheat on you as well.

We might say "then women too should cheat".
Truth is it does not work out for each gender, the same way!
By physiological difference in our anatomy, the male anatomy is more prone to cheating or multiple sex partners, that the female's own.
-The male organ is outside his body while the female organ is inside her body.
- The maleorgan is designed for penetration, while the female organ is designed to be penetrated
- The male is an 'electron donor' while the female is an 'electron acceptor'
- The male will never get pregnant after a sexual encounter, no matter how careless he is, but pregnancy is a high possibility in a female encounter and as such, could leave traces that can nver be erased.

All these make the male specie, very prone to multiple sex partners and if you decide to break the marriage at every instance of cheating, it is better not to even marry at all, in the first place.

why should a sensible human cheat?..if my lady cheats ,she leaves!!..i have never cheated and will never do..it is better to be single than to be with a cheater

Daboomb:


You get sense pass me sef! (issues three grand salute)

Whether we like it or not, (though it is a very uncomfortable truth), most men, as high as 98% of them, will cheat......if they have the means, the opportunity and can do it without being discovered.

If women make it a POLICY that l will leave my husband if he cheats on me, almost, almost all marriages will crash and you know what?
There is no guarrantee that the next man yoou marry, is any different from the one you just left and he wont cheat on you as well.

We might say "then women too should cheat".
Truth is it does not work out for each gender, the same way!
By physiological difference in our anatomy, the male anatomy is more prone to cheating or multiple sex partners, that the female's own.
-The male organ is outside his body while the female organ is inside her body.
- The maleorgan is designed for penetration, while the female organ is designed to be penetrated
- The male is an 'electron donor' while the female is an 'electron acceptor'
- The male will never get pregnant after a sexual encounter, no matter how careless he is, but pregnancy is a high possibility in a female encounter and as such, could leave traces that can nver be erased.

All these make the male specie, very prone to multiple sex partners and if you decide to break the marriage at every instance of cheating, it is better not to even marry at all, in the first place.

Hi I sent you a mail Pls reply I need your help with something. Thanks

Noccerino:

Hi I sent you a mail Pls reply I need your help with something. Thanks

Sorry Bro, the Email to my accoutn is experiencing issues right now, am trying to retrieve password and Google is asking me many stupid questions.

Can you just "code" the queation for me right here or give me an idea whats its about maybe l can also code an answer to you until l get the Email sorted?

Cheers.

K

Eleganza33:
Not married but if my hubby open his mouth and tell me all this kain things without fear hmmm ok o

Hmmmmm, I sight you sha.

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truthsayer009:


Jeez! how did I even miss this, It has to be a Joke sha. Please don't allow whosoever you're dating to read your Online comments & profiles, He might change his mind.

Wetin concern you? Let him read everything! This is me....it doesn't get any sexierrr!

sisisioge:


Wetin concern you? Let him read everything! This is me....it doesn't get any sexierrr!

Sexierrr? Inyama.

truthsayer009:


Sexierrr? Inyama.

I know English is your second language...don't worry,it will come to you .

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truthsayer009:


Just bring it to my house instead jare.

This your email that never works, I'm angry.

Don't be...I will keep praying for it to work. Just give it time

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truthsayer009:


Hmm, let me test it now. I honestly just believe anyone putting a mail out there on their profile would not be real. I may be wrong.

You no well! Let me even take it down.

.

truthsayer009:


You actually took it down? LMAO. Anyway, waiting...

Oga get off my handle jare...have a lovely afternoon.

sisisioge:


Oga get off my handle jare...have a lovely afternoon.

Alright, can you then do me a favor & unquote me on this thread. Thanks

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truthsayer009:


Alright, can you then do me a favor & unquote me on this thread. Thanks

Unquote unquote unquote...cheers!

sisisioge:




Unquote unquote unquote...cheers!

Lol. No problem then. I asked to send you a mail & there is nothing wrong in that, you then went on with a passive diss at me.
That was disrespectful & uncalled for. I never replied in a disrespectful manner, but asked you to unquote me but you went ahead & did the exact opposite, Why didn't you just respect my request? Ofcourse you wanted to score points on NL & make yourself look better.

A month ago, you asked me to stop calling you Mrs Jakande & I did. Initially actually took it as a Joke calling you that, but then I respected your request moved on from the joke.

Anyway, this shows the kind of person you are & I'm glad I dodged a bullet.

Needtolove:
Hi nairalanders this post is going to be quite disorganized, as I am not such a good writer. Just need an avenue to let our some steam. No advise needed too. The only way forward for me is to quit my marriage.

The reason for this write up is to ease the pain of betrayal that comes from my husband cheating on me with a our neighbor,what really hurts is that after I investigated and found out her identity, I presented him with hard evidence ,instead of an apology he said he is an African man o and polygamy is allowed. He says I should better mind my business as the said girl is not disturbing me. He further stated that the girl is crazy o, so I should not even think of confronting her

Just this morning she had the nerve to come to my apartment with her room mate to clarify some house issues. The nerve of all of them. Really want to make them pay. Really want to make my husband suffer.
This guy body shames me at any chance he gets. (I have a four month old baby) he says am ugly and shapless, and my breast are flat

I want African men to know that women have feelings too, am expected to bottle up my pain and be a woman. When I react violently he calls me mad woman. He is still with her and I am still expected to mind my business.
I will though, but they will both get it.

U made the wrong choice.

We'll only make progress when we leave our gender equality/inequality shiiiits aside and focus on our problems.

The husband's a bad human being. Polygamy means two or more wives, not keeping concubines.

Needtolove:
Hi nairalanders this post is going to be quite disorganized, as I am not such a good writer. Just need an avenue to let our some steam. No advise needed too. The only way forward for me is to quit my marriage.

The reason for this write up is to ease the pain of betrayal that comes from my husband cheating on me with a our neighbor,what really hurts is that after I investigated and found out her identity, I presented him with hard evidence ,instead of an apology he said he is an African man o and polygamy is allowed. He says I should better mind my business as the said girl is not disturbing me. He further stated that the girl is crazy o, so I should not even think of confronting her

Just this morning she had the nerve to come to my apartment with her room mate to clarify some house issues. The nerve of all of them. Really want to make them pay. Really want to make my husband suffer.
This guy body shames me at any chance he gets. (I have a four month old baby) he says am ugly and shapless, and my breast are flat

I want African men to know that women have feelings too, am expected to bottle up my pain and be a woman. When I react violently he calls me mad woman. He is still with her and I am still expected to mind my business.
I will though, but they will both get it.

If you commit a crime I hope you are equally ready to the time
Ofter it isnt worth it, so think very well...