I am a young lady in my early twenties. I got in to a relationship I felt was going to be my last after so many mistakes I made in my past(although some were intentional due to youthful exuberance). I was so bitter until I met this new guy n I felt I was ready to love after my last heartbreak. I decided to love him totally and confess to him about my past mistakes(very terrible ones) and he kept asking many more things abt the past n I kept telling cos I wanted to purge myself and I really Dint like telling lies. He wanted to leave after all my confession as he called me "dirty"but I pleaded n we are still together.
The problem is I feel my horrible past is too weighty on him and so he treats me anyhow he likes becos he knows I love him very much. sometimes he is nice but whenever we have a slight misunderstanding(which happens almost on a daily),it doesn't take him anything to reject my calls and keep avoiding me for days even wen I text him,he doesn't reply but I talked to him so many times that when there is an issue,the best way to solve it is to talk but he keeps treating me this way. what do I do?...pls I need your contributions

lemxo:
I am a young lady in my early twenties. I got in to a relationship I felt was going to be my last after so many mistakes I made in my past(although some were intentional due to youthful exuberance). I was so bitter until I met this new guy n I felt I was ready to love after my last heartbreak. I decided to love him totally and confess to him about my past mistakes(very terrible ones) and he kept asking many more things abt the past n I kept telling cos I wanted to purge myself and I really Dint like telling lies. He wanted to leave after all my confession as he called me "dirty"but I pleaded n we are still together.
The problem is I feel my horrible past is too weighty on him and so he treats me anyhow he likes becos he knows I love him very much. sometimes he is nice but whenever we have a slight misunderstanding(which happens almost on a daily),it doesn't take him anything to reject my calls and keep avoiding me for days even wen I text him,he doesn't reply but I talked to him so many times that when there is an issue,the best way to solve it is to talk but he keeps treating me this way. what do I do?...pls I need your contributions

Some men appreciate the truth, others love to be lied to.

Relationship this days are hard.

They are some things you can't figure out about people especially boys.
You have to stop allowing him treat you like trash.

I would advise you to chase your dream and forget about relationships, as you say your past is dirty.

The only thing to clean your dirty pass is your future. When your success story overcomes your pass you hear words like 'I love you for who you are'.

At 20 just chase your dreams, didn't say you shouldnt go into a relationship but let it not be your top priority.

Honestly from a guy's perspective, you told him too much.
Most guys will take Advantage of a girl that gives theirself easily, This is the honest truth.
Only few guys like myself won't.

So you feel the best person to open all your past mistakes, weights, and sorrows to is a bf? Was it compulsory that you told him everything? Did he tell you all his pasts? Even if you marry him today, don't be surprised that once in a while, he may accuse you of your pasts.

That is why people should be careful of the lives they live, so their past should be something they are proud of. Your guy is totally turned off and is not very interested in the relationship. Solution is to continue to accept the relationship the way it is, because that is what you made of it. Continue to talk to him anyway, and pray to God to touch his heart. Hope you have leant you lesson.

Never be with someone that doesn't wanna be with you.

I know this might seem hard but in the end, there is high tendency you will be more hurt then than now.

Stop pleading with him when you have issues. Give him the silent treatment too and watch him come begging.

Never force things to be with someone that doesn't wanna be with you.

I know this might seem hard but in the end, there is high tendency you will be more hurt then than now.

. Nigga

Bloooody:
Honestly from a guy's perspective, you told him too much.
Most guys will take Advantage of a girl that gives theirself easily, This is the honest truth.
Only few guys like myself won't.

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lemxo:
I am a young lady in my early twenties. I got in to a relationship I felt was going to be my last after so many mistakes I made in my past(although some were intentional due to youthful exuberance). I was so bitter until I met this new guy n I felt I was ready to love after my last heartbreak. I decided to love him totally and confess to him about my past mistakes(very terrible ones) and he kept asking many more things abt the past n I kept telling cos I wanted to purge myself and I really Dint like telling lies. He wanted to leave after all my confession as he called me "dirty"but I pleaded n we are still together.
The problem is I feel my horrible past is too weighty on him and so he treats me anyhow he likes becos he knows I love him very much. sometimes he is nice but whenever we have a slight misunderstanding(which happens almost on a daily),it doesn't take him anything to reject my calls and keep avoiding me for days even wen I text him,he doesn't reply but I talked to him so many times that when there is an issue,the best way to solve it is to talk but he keeps treating me this way. what do I do?...pls I need your contributions

Ehya, he couldn't handle the truth but come to think of it, higher percentage of ladies would tell you their past to make you feel for them not them totally learning from their past rather exhibiting the same act they had in the past. May God have mercy!

Women make a lot of mistakes. Telling we guys your past is the worst thing to happen. Of what value are u saying all the things that happened? The guy won't tell u his own that much

Hmmm...






What past did you tell him

You don't tell me you've aborted 3 pregnancies or that you once had sexually transmitted infection or you were once possessed by demons, and you expect everything to remain the same between us.
Mbanu!!!

I dont get people. How hard is it to read in between the lines ehn. Move on . Stop telling guys how many pple u slept with. How many abortion u do etc

It's hard to find people in general who you can confide in about personal things that wont throw it back in your face, let alone a guy. Never tell a Nigerian man about your past (especially sexual things), he won't 'appreciate' your honesty

Also, stop begging him to be with you, cut your losses and let him be, this relationship isn't going anywhere and he's SHOWING you, you need to get the message dear

The stress in keeping a relationship going is just too much in the long run. At times, I feel the best life is not opening your heart to anyone, but one thing I've realised is that when you chose to, you will see them coming around you like they were told you're not dating.

Op, your boyfriend is immature. Whether your past was dirty or not, no matured guy uses that as a yardstick to maltreat you. As for the calls, they all do that when they get too comfortable with you.

You can always change. Time is the determining factor so endure it for now if you won't end it.

Never ever tell your past mistakes to your boyfriend , you might say some but not all, some are meant for after marriage.

Humans are too quick to judge. Infact keep them till you go below six feet.

Not everyone appreciates the truth And I think he's stupid for taking advantage of your past mistakes because that's what he's doing if he truly loves you he wouldn't be acting up on you after you told your past mistakes he's just plain stupid not you're not comfortable with him just leave. So as to avoid Another thread here That says "My boyfriend said he's not interested in my Again I wanna take sniper"

GrabHisBalls:
The stress in keeping a relationship going is just too much in the long run. At times, I feel the best life is not opening your heart to anyone, but one thing I've realised is that when you chose to, you will see them coming around you like they were told you're not dating.

Op, your boyfriend is immature. Whether your past was dirty or not, no matured guy uses that as a yardstick to maltreat you. As for the calls, they all do that when they get too comfortable with you.

You can always change. Time is the determining factor so endure it for now if you won't end it.

this your moniker is funny where did you get the idea

You remind me of Nicolas Anelka, he played for Arsenal, Real Madrid, Manchester City, Bolton Wanderers, Chelsea et.all and then he wanted to settle down after exuberant youthful career.

lemxo:
I am a young lady in my early twenties. I got in to a relationship I felt was going to be my last after so many mistakes I made in my past(although some were intentional due to youthful exuberance). I was so bitter until I met this new guy n I felt I was ready to love after my last heartbreak. I decided to love him totally and confess to him about my past mistakes(very terrible ones) and he kept asking many more things abt the past n I kept telling cos I wanted to purge myself and I really Dint like telling lies. He wanted to leave after all my confession as he called me "dirty"but I pleaded n we are still together.
The problem is I feel my horrible past is too weighty on him and so he treats me anyhow he likes becos he knows I love him very much. sometimes he is nice but whenever we have a slight misunderstanding(which happens almost on a daily),it doesn't take him anything to reject my calls and keep avoiding me for days even wen I text him,he doesn't reply but I talked to him so many times that when there is an issue,the best way to solve it is to talk but he keeps treating me this way. what do I do?...pls I need your contributions

u need me not him

what's the need of telling your boyfriend your nasty past when we know they don't have the strength to stomach to it.

He is an immature guy.

My past remains with me and only with me

SLAP44:


Some men appreciate the truth, others love to be lied to.

you are so right, i prefer to be hurt by the truth.
To you OP, no amount of word would make u leave the guy, jst wait till he dumps u then after that pls dnt run into it next time.

When you have money, insults will disappear. People will begin go respect you, even boyfriends!

Yes it’s time to let go of this relationship. Even though he stayed, he is still bogged down by your past, he is never going to let it go.

You are still young, don’t see this relationship as a waste, use it as a cathartic release for you. Now that you have purged yourself of your past, never to be brought up again, you can start anew with someone else.

While it’s good to be open in a relationship, you don’t have to share everything! You can be discerning in what you share or at least wait till your boyfriend has gotten to know the new you.