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So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?

Sis no one can answer this question for you o

You know what to do but u just want to tell ur self that others helped u make the decision

shagasha:
Sis no one can answer this question for you o

You know what to do but u just want to tell ur self that others helped u make the decision

You're actually right

shagasha:
Sis no one can answer this question for you o

You know what to do but u just want to tell ur self that others helped u make the decision

Difficult to come to terms with

But when he wants to chop you his role in your life is active abi


Abeg break up with him

Let both parties move on individually

Tales

As you were forming independent he got used to not helping you, move on he does not cherish you

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months , almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me , or he'll leave me to do it all, I don't demand anything from him he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat , he knows this but he didn't do anything to help , that's how I've been living like I'm single , I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy, do you think its okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future

If there is love existing between both of you then keep watching him

If you know that you are not having any feelings

Just go your ways

He couldn't give you any financial help because am sure he doesn't have either

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months , almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me , or he'll leave me to do it all, I don't demand anything from him he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat , he knows this but he didn't do anything to help , that's how I've been living like I'm single , I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy, do you think its okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future

well the best thing now is to confront him and talk to him about it before deciding what he might not be.

You got involved in a scam and want to use the results of your decision to scapegoat your supposed boo.

These streets are crazy.

Study well and read your books, let someone not greedily lose money to a scam and write epistle o.

You said he is not financially stable but here you are doubting his role in your life because he didn't give you money. You see why I call Nigerian girls parasites. The bobo is probably drinking garri and struggling but you are here saying nonsense. I pity men that fall in nonsense love these days.

Relationship Don become cacovid palliative scheme. Nigerian girls and stupid entitlements. Op don't be lazy, go and work

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months , almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me , or he'll leave me to do it all, I don't demand anything from him he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat , he knows this but he didn't do anything to help , that's how I've been living like I'm single , I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy, do you think its okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future

You have poverty mentality on what a relationship is all about. Please get a job to get out of poverty. If you think relationship will do that for you, that's a very big lie

Jersuiyjoe:
well the best thing now is to confront him and talk to him about it before deciding what he might not be.

Thank you I think I'll do that

frozen70:
If there is love existing between both of you then keep watching him

If you know that you are not having any feelings

Just go your ways

He couldn't give you any financial help because am sure he doesn't have either

I do have feelings for him, but sometimes you feel its one sided, I'll talk to him and find out if he's sincere about everything, if he is I don't mind staying and working together

femi4:
You have poverty mentality on what a relationship is all about. Please get a job to get out of poverty. If you think relationship will do that for you, that's a very big lie

For your information I contribute more to my relationship than my partner , I said I want to work on myself ciz I'm not yet stable , is that what you call poverty mentality? So its wrong that my partner lends a hand when I fall , do you really have to expose yourself ?

Both good and bad response are welcome , I'm taking points from the ones that make sense

You can discuss this about him dear. He shouldn’t be looking at you this way without giving a assistance in your needy situation.

Christiano25:
You can discuss this about him dear. He shouldn’t be looking at you this way without giving a assistance in your needy situation.

Thank you , I'll make out time , its better than keeping it to myself

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months , almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me , or he'll leave me to do it all, I don't demand anything from him he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat , he knows this but he didn't do anything to help , that's how I've been living like I'm single , I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy, do you think its okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future

Gerrarahere jare. Nonsense topic.

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months , almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me , or he'll leave me to do it all, I don't demand anything from him he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat , he knows this but he didn't do anything to help , that's how I've been living like I'm single , I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy, do you think its okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future

Yeah you just said the answer yourself....Focus yourself, how you can regain your financial stability...that guy is not a real nigga...forget him with his money and pray to God to give you your financial freedom back...there is not more sweeter than having your money yourself

Love for me is a partnership with the right person oh.Lets say he doesn't even have but at least showing concern about your well-being will make you understand that he has the heart to help when he will be buoyant enough.... sis if he's not showing any form of concern about your present condition then he's just leeching on you. or is he showing concern?

Rubbish comments above... See their mouth "yivam" yen yen.... Aunty, bill the idiot. Shebi u date to benefit from each other. I'm sure the idiot also bleeps you. U dey fuckup. Bill am! If e do anyhow.... No japa oh! Just do like say e no exist at all. No even let am near ur punny again make e no spoil am before ur real husband come.

you were scammed just like anyone could have also. but using that incident alone to have a rethink is not enough.... Nigeria herself get financial problems
other things dey wey you and this your bobo for done enjoy now... abi those ones no enough?

Is this an MBA forex issue?? Nigerians won't learn. Those guys are big time scammers

whala carry basket on his head é tie wrapper and wear dirty pant

You barely have money to eat...as in, you didn't have a job/any source of income besides the investment that went bad?
That's terrible. He should at least be able to help you feed (that’s if he’s not even struggling to feed himself).

If you have anything to say to him, just say it. If you want him to help you out with something, go and ask him.

Please be careful/wise with the advice you take here.

First of all, why are you with him? Is it love? Infatuation? Lust? His personality? The sex? or the money?

Answer this question and I'll tell you what to do.

Nonexistent1:
You said he is not financially stable but here you are doubting his role in your life because he didn't give you money. You see why I call Nigerian girls parasites. The bobo is probably drinking garri and struggling but you are here saying nonsense. I pity men that fall in nonsense love these days.

Look at them and their double standards crawling out. Assuming the guy was the person that lost all, and the lady is still financially okay, the gospel would've been to help him, build with him, suffer with him and all the nonsense y'all say.

Ndi ala