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DominusPrime:
by the way fountainofyouth? why that moniker?

All the juicy moniker were taken so I just got it from a movie I use to like "pirate of the carribean".

Fountainofyouth:
All the juicy moniker were taken so I just got it from a movie I use to like "pirate of the carribean".

ow...ok...nice movie too...made me laugh a lot

Fountainofyouth:
So In other words you already have someone you want to channel your time and energy to, and do away with your love for her? I don't understand what you mean by having a per hand? That name Alpha male to me is for insecure men that has to show dominance just to prove to themselves, not anyone, that they are in control, of which, most times, it backfires, I believe real men won't have time for stuffs like that, they love their woman completely, show her that in ways more than one if it's 100% mutual, at the same time, aspire for greatness and carry their woman along, simple, I hope you are like that.

Sometimes, in a relationship, love is simply not enough yeah, but it has to be there, it has to be mutual, there may be obstacles that will make it seem as if it cannot not work out now or in the nearest future, but still hold on to what you both share, life is full of surprises, God is ever faithful (sorry for going religious if you are not) and nothing is impossible.

Yeah I'd rather be friends here, I don't want to break my defences and walls, don't worry, we cant still flow freely, I'll claw on anyone who tries to separate us here or do anyhow, well, anyone except your girl

no I don't have anyone yet. I actually decided a long time ago not to go into anything serious until I'm really ready to settle down.
an alpha male and an insecure man are 2 different things. I'm not the way I am cos of insecurity. it's more cos loving hopelessly tampers with one's ability to reason. I think more with my head than my heart. don't get me wrong. not that i won't love her and of course I will show it but I certainly won't let it cloud my reasoning.

once you can't carry a woman along in a relationship then there's a big problem. anyway u can now see what I meant by having certain ideas which at first seem repulsive but with time you get to understand my perspective...

now u r talking like u r in my mind as regards relationships. if she could read what u said about love not being enough she'd wonder if we've spoken b4. I always say to young men that love is less than 10% of what is required for a successful relationship. that's why u see girls of 18, 19, 20 dating young boys of 22-25 and then they break his heart and move on to bigger boys. cos the love from the boys, or what they think is love is not enough. a woman needs a man, one who can provide for her, care for her, love her deeply and one whom she can respect. there must also be acceptability socially. a marriage where your parents don't like him or her spells trouble from the beginning. there's also the need for communication, purpose, finances etc...have all the love and let the man be broke, poverty will kill the love. have all the love and let your parents hate her, you'll constantly have battles btw wife and family. have all the love and let one person be sickly my dear it's one hospital to another.

so u see why that feeling isn't topmost when it comes to picking a partner for me? agewise I'm ready for marriage but I still have some goals to fulfil b4 I settle down. luckily for me I have a face that's 10 years younger than I am...lol..

as for your defences and wall there's nothing to be scared of as long as we define what's gonna be btw us and it's clearly spelt out already cos you have a guy u love so much...besides there's something I'd tell u that will discourage you from even thinking about having anything to do with me...

DominusPrime:
no I don't have anyone yet. I actually decided a long time ago not to go into anything serious until I'm really ready to settle down.
an alpha male and an insecure man are 2 different things. I'm not the way I am cos of insecurity. it's more cos loving hopelessly tampers with one's ability to reason. I think more with my head than my heart. don't get me wrong. not that i won't love her and of course I will show it but I certainly won't let it cloud my reasoning.

once you can't carry a woman along in a relationship then there's a big problem. anyway u can now see what I meant by having certain ideas which at first seem repulsive but with time you get to understand my perspective...

now u r talking like u r in my mind as regards relationships. if she could read what u said about love not being enough she'd wonder if we've spoken b4. I always say to young men that love is less than 10% of what is required for a successful relationship. that's why u see girls of 18, 19, 20 dating young boys of 22-25 and then they break his heart and move on to bigger boys. cos the love from the boys, or what they think is love is not enough. a woman needs a man, one who can provide for her, care for her, love her deeply and one whom she can respect. there must also be acceptability socially. a marriage where your parents don't like him or her spells trouble from the beginning. there's also the need for communication, purpose, finances etc...have all the love and let the man be broke, poverty will kill the love. have all the love and let your parents hate her, you'll constantly have battles btw wife and family. have all the love and let one person be sickly my dear it's one hospital to another.

so u see why that feeling isn't topmost when it comes to picking a partner for me? agewise I'm ready for marriage but I still have some goals to fulfil b4 I settle down. luckily for me I have a face that's 10 years younger than I am...lol..

as for your defences and wall there's nothing to be scared of as long as we define what's gonna be btw us and it's clearly spelt out already cos you have a guy u love so much...besides there's something I'd tell u that will discourage you from even thinking about having anything to do with me...

Hmmm, good words

Lol okay, I'll think about it

Fountainofyouth:
Hmmm, good words
Lol okay, I'll think about it

smiles...alright then...fair enough...

Fountainofyouth:
Please is this the real deal? Is this love? How do I go about being in control of my emotions without affecting my health? Feel free to ask questions and I'll answer as discreetly as possible, thank you.

Feelings are mere response to the surface/auxiliary (not inherent) bearing of one or all of physical, emotional and psychological - except moral - compound(s). It isn't the real deal because precursor(s) of its yield isn't inherent, instead it's temporary and material - this doesn't nullify its efficacy in anyway.

That which breeds faithfulness, with understanding as constant, something that doesn't rely on recollected and/or foreseeable personal beneficial good to respond to is the real deal - good attributes. Don't mistake attribute for attitude.

By the way, I know your old moniker, but don't worry I won't tell anyone. Lol.

LordKO:
Feelings are mere response to the surface (not concrete) bearing of one or all of physical, emotional and psychological - except moral - compound(s). It isn't the real deal because precursor(s) of its yield isn't inherent, instead it's temporary and material - this doesn't nullify its efficacy in anyway.

That which breeds faithfulness, with understanding as constant, something that doesn't rely on recollected and/or foreseeable personal beneficial good to respond to is the real deal - good attributes. Don't mistake attribute for attitude.

By the way, I know your old moniker, but don't worry I won't tell anyone. Lol.

In other words, you are saying I shouldn't use my feelings to judge whether it's real but attributes alone? What if attributes, attitude, attraction and feelings is all sumed up into one? Can it be called real love?

Lol believe me you don't know who I am except you can guess the first letter of my old moniker.

Fountainofyouth:
In other words, you are saying I shouldn't use my feelings to judge whether it's real but attributes alone? What if attributes, attitude, attraction and feelings is all sumed up into one? Can it be called real love?

Lol believe me you don't know who I am except you can guess the first letter of my old moniker.

If you can conquer your feeling (very necessary) and base it with attribute you'll definitely get the "real deal." Of course, he who comes into equity must come with clean hands - take to the defensive side of life if you need a quick and effective result.

Once more, don't panic, I ain't telling anyone your old moniker.

LordKO:
If you can conquer your feeling (very necessary) and base it with attribute you'll definitely get the "real deal." Of course, he who comes into equity must come with clean hands - take to the defensive side of life if you need a quick and effective result.

Once more, don't panic, I ain't telling anyone your old moniker.

Good advice, will do that, thanks.

Lol okay.

Fountainofyouth:
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Please is this the real deal? Is this love? How do I go about being in control of my emotions without affecting my health? Feel free to ask questions and I'll answer as discreetly as possible, thank you.

���� No it is Not love

@Fountainofyouth. If he was jobless with no money, will you be getting wet just at the thoughts of him?

To me what you have is infatuation. The moment you sight his diick and he swindles your fanny. Then all will be clear from both sides.

That sex you think is not important will now be a thing of concern if he is a one minute man or with a small D below your expectation.

True love don't bring high blood pressure unless you are a desperado.

Some words here may seem offensive, they are not with intentions.

LordKO:
If you can conquer your feeling (very necessary) and base it with attribute you'll definitely get the "real deal." Of course, he who comes into equity must come with clean hands - take to the defensive side of life if you need a quick and effective result.

Once more, don't panic, I ain't telling anyone your old moniker.

Lord, picture this, what if one of us decides to take a step back to really see if it is meant to be, like think deep and in the process decides to try out other people, but he/she tells the other partner about it all, without necessarily going very intimate with any of them, is it advicable to do that or it is the beginning of the end? And if it is the end, is there any hope of getting back together in the nearest future?

FannySwindler1:
@Fountainofyouth. If he was jobless with no money, will you be getting wet just at the thoughts of him?

To me what you have is infatuation. The moment you sight his diick and he swindles your fanny. Then all will be clear from both sides.

That sex you think is not important will now be a thing of concern if he is a one minute man or with a small D below your expectation.

True love don't bring high blood pressure unless you are a desperado.

Some words here may seem offensive, they are not with intentions.

Swindler, your words have no effect in my life whatsoever, however, your contribution is noted.

Fountainofyouth. It wasn't meant to have any impact, effect, affect in your life. Just my opinion. And I'm entitled to one.

Thanks

Fountainofyouth:
Lord, picture this, what if one of us decides to take a step back to really see if it is meant to be, like think deep and in the process decides to try out other people, but he/she tells the other partner about it all, without necessarily going very intimate with any of them, is it advicable to do that or it is the beginning of the end? And if it is the end, is there any hope of getting back together in the nearest future?

A relationship of convenience is different from a serious one that is altar bound bar any unavoidable circumstances, I hope you know this. So no matter the type it's, unassumingness is very important in sustaining it, therefore stepping back shouldn't be an option - but meeting other people on a platonic level is very much advisable, especially if it's a relationship of convenience. With your wokeness you will only err where and when you want to. lol.

Meanwhile, self-realization should be the main target from both sides, because when achieved, one can easily tell on another's disposition in particular and ethical leanings in general, either afar or near and within few time/days of meeting and interactions. In this regard, staying or moving on permanently will be solely based on self-conviction and aim.

LordKO:
A relationship of convenience is different from a serious one that is altar bound bar any unavoidable circumstances, I hope you know this. So no matter the type it's, unassumingness is very important in sustaining it, therefore, stepping back shouldn't be an option - but meeting other people on a platonic level is very much advisable, especially if it's a relationship of convenience. With your wokeness you will only err where and when you want to. lol.

Meanwhile, self-realization should be the main target from both sides, because when achieved, one can easily tell on another's disposition in particular and ethical leanings in general either afar or near and within few time/days of meeting and interactions. In this regard, staying or moving on permanently will be solely based on self-conviction and aim.

Thanks

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Hmmmm...this sounds so interesting.

Its nice to be crazy about someone like this, and nicer if the person feels exactly the same well . As queen fairy of lalaland, I suggest you give spending quality time with him a shot, if situation remains the sane then it is real love. Congratulations... Not everyone gets to feel this for another. Cheers.

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Fountainofyouth:
I decided to bring this to family section because I need matured advice.

In all my life I've only had three relationships because I always weigh the pros and cons before I commit to anything, my past relationships always start with sex, infact I'm always persuaded for a long time before I finally agree and there is never any attraction at first for me, but when sex sets in, the feelings grow and whatnot.

Then I met this wonderful man, we got talking and chating and both clicked at the same time, he is everything I ever wanted in every aspect you can think of but there is a problem, the sexual attraction and love between us is really strong and it's affecting my health, we are both working and we talk and chat for hours every night, we cant do without keeping in touch everyday (we don't stay in same state but we've seen several times) we've not had sex cos there comes a time in ones life that sex won't be a priority or a defining factor in a relationship but I'm always scared, when we fight it always seem as if we would never talk again, my heart beats fast when he misses my calls, I think of him every night before I sleep, a little thought of him makes me wet, when there is a misunderstanding I don't sleep at all, I've tried my best to shut my heart from my head but it's not working, sometimes I pray to God to take this strong feeling I have for him away cos it's just too much, I have never felt like this for anyone in my life before, this is someone that sex isnt involved at all so why this feeling, he says he feels that strong way too but I cant really describe his,

Last week Friday I had to check my BP and it was very high so I told myself this had to stop cos it's not normal, love shouldn't affect ones health this much, so I stopped talking to him, he called and asked what's wrong I said nothing that I just need a break but he wasn't happy with it, he asked and begged that I shouldn't leave him which I said I won't but I didn't tell him he is affecting my health. Since then we haven't talked to each other and it has not been easy for me especially this holiday, sometimes I lay on my bed and cry and groan cos I long to hear from him but I want him out of my head, I need my complete health restored.

Please is this the real deal? Is this love? How do I go about being in control of my emotions without affecting my health? Feel free to ask questions and I'll answer as discreetly as possible, thank you.

so you have a man already , my fake wifey.

bigmic111:
so you have a man already , my fake wifey.

I can only have a man when I'm married, humans are filled with surprises everyday.

Fountainofyouth:
I can only have a man when I'm married, humans are filled with surprises everyday.

I get. but my wifey is scared of commitment. you are sort of a hot commodity

Fountainofyouth:
I dalth restored.

Please is this the real deal? Is this love? How do I go about being in control of my emotions without affecting my health? Feel free to ask questions and I'll answer as discreetly as possible, thank you.

Go off on him for two month, each passing day, the effect decreases
Until it get to that point where you are no more intoxicated, that's when you should rekindle the candle of love.

Tell him you want to sort out personal issues for 3 months, if he loves you, he will wait.

It's an obsession and with time; obsession loses its power.

Fountainofyouth:
I decided to bring this to family section because I need matured advice.

In all my life I've only had three relationships because I always weigh the pros and cons before I commit to anything, my past relationships always start with sex, infact I'm always persuaded for a long time before I finally agree and there is never any attraction at first for me, but when sex sets in, the feelings grow and whatnot.

Then I met this wonderful man, we got talking and chating and both clicked at the same time, he is everything I ever wanted in every aspect you can think of but there is a problem, the sexual attraction and love between us is really strong and it's affecting my health, we are both working and we talk and chat for hours every night, we cant do without keeping in touch everyday (we don't stay in same state but we've seen several times) we've not had sex cos there comes a time in ones life that sex won't be a priority or a defining factor in a relationship but I'm always scared, when we fight it always seem as if we would never talk again, my heart beats fast when he misses my calls, I think of him every night before I sleep, a little thought of him makes me wet, when there is a misunderstanding I don't sleep at all, I've tried my best to shut my heart from my head but it's not working, sometimes I pray to God to take this strong feeling I have for him away cos it's just too much, I have never felt like this for anyone in my life before, this is someone that sex isnt involved at all so why this feeling, he says he feels that strong way too but I cant really describe his,

Last week Friday I had to check my BP and it was very high so I told myself this had to stop cos it's not normal, love shouldn't affect ones health this much, so I stopped talking to him, he called and asked what's wrong I said nothing that I just need a break but he wasn't happy with it, he asked and begged that I shouldn't leave him which I said I won't but I didn't tell him he is affecting my health. Since then we haven't talked to each other and it has not been easy for me especially this holiday, sometimes I lay on my bed and cry and groan cos I long to hear from him but I want him out of my head, I need my complete health restored.

Please is this the real deal? Is this love? How do I go about being in control of my emotions without affecting my health? Feel free to ask questions and I'll answer as discreetly as possible, thank you.

You still miss your little loverboy. Better go back to him and stop stalking me on NL. The avoidance will do you no good. Go set things straight with the one who makes you drip

All these small girls sef

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ReluctantAdult:
You still miss your little loverboy. Better go back to him and stop stalking me on NL. The avoidance will do you no good. Go set things straight with the one who makes you drip

All these small girls sef

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Fountainofyouth:
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Did I stir up some bad, lonely feelings?

The bobo must've moved on with someone else. Too bad. I cry on your behalf

Funnily enough, I see you met your doctor boyfriend on this thread, how sweet! Take solace in that


I have to say, in a way though, you're similar to me. I killed my feelings a long time ago when I was about 17, because of how it got me trapped Like my happiness and peace depends on someone else? Wtf!! I said to myself, if this is love then it ain't for me. I love doing me

Ever since, I haven't found myself enchanted by any woman. I just sort of...grew cold... because I'm a free bird and I love it.

It turned out to affect the people who loved me genuinely because I couldn't let myself love them back. I had become cold as fvck. Well I guess that's the downside of it. But all the same I cannot trade my freedom for the emotional cage that is love

ReluctantAdult:
Did I stir up some bad, lonely feelings?

The bobo must've moved on with someone else. Too bad. I cry on your behalf

Funnily enough, I see you met your doctor boyfriend on this thread, how sweet


I have to say, in a way though, you're similar to me. I killed my feelings a long time ago when I was about 17, because of how it got me trapped Like my happiness and peace depends on someone else? Wtf!! I said to myself, if this is love then it ain't for me. I love doing me

Ever since, I haven't found myself enchanted by any woman. I just sort of...grew cold... because I'm a free bird and I love it.

It turned out to affect the people who loved me genuinely because I couldn't let myself love them back. I had become cold as fvck. Well I guess that's the downside of it. But all the same I cannot trade my freedom for the emotional cage that is love

Ok let me be a little bit nice, we are not similar, never will be


You threatened me if I don't stop mentioning you, why forget so soon?

I quote you everyday cos I'm still waiting to see the worst you can do

So you see, I don't know you, I do not care to know you, you are a faceless moniker to me, so stop insisting or forcing love on me that can never be there,

You can speculate and speculate on my love life, I do not care, your opinion is just an opinion,

The only thing that can make me stop quoting you is if you "remorsefully apologise with feelings" for threatening fountain of youth, if you do that, maybe, just maybe, we can be friends

ReluctantAdult:
Did I stir up some bad, lonely feelings?

The bobo must've moved on with someone else. Too bad. I cry on your behalf

Funnily enough, I see you met your doctor boyfriend on this thread, how sweet! Take solace in that


I have to say, in a way though, you're similar to me. I killed my feelings a long time ago when I was about 17, because of how it got me trapped Like my happiness and peace depends on someone else? Wtf!! I said to myself, if this is love then it ain't for me. I love doing me

Ever since, I haven't found myself enchanted by any woman. I just sort of...grew cold... because I'm a free bird and I love it

It turned out to affect the people who loved me genuinely because I couldn't let myself love them back. I had become cold as fvck. Well I guess that's the downside of it. But all the same I cannot trade my freedom for the emotional cage that is love

Can relate, brother.

KevinDein:
Can relate, brother.

My man

Fountainofyouth:
Ok let me be a little bit nice, we are not similar, never will be


You threatened me if I don't stop mentioning you, why forget so soon?

I quote you everyday cos I'm still waiting to see the worst you can do

So you see, I don't know you, I do not care to know you, you are a faceless moniker to me, so stop insisting or forcing love on me that can never be there,

You can speculate and speculate on my love life, I do not care, your opinion is just an opinion,

The only thing that can make me stop quoting you is if you "remorsefully apologise with feelings" for threatening fountain of youth, if you do that, maybe, just maybe, we can be friends

My opinion is not just an opinion, it is a fact! I've psychoanalyzed you and believe me, I'm rarely wrong. It is a gift

You made me crack up with the bolded. It's very clear you have no idea who you're dealing with. I've been toying with you for a while, I guess it's time to show you a tinnie little bit of my dark side.
A minion, demanding apologies and feelings from a cold, remorseless monster? What a bold insult!

ReluctantAdult:
My opinion is not just an opinion, it is a fact! I've psychoanalyzed you and believe me, I'm rarely wrong. It is a gift

You made me crack up with the bolded. It's very clear you have no idea who you're dealing with. I've been toying with you for a while, I guess it's time to show you a tinnie little bit of my red side.
A minion, demanding apologies and feelings from a cold, remorseless monster? What a bold insult!

And you clearly do not know who I am, I have never, and will never cower in fear of another human being, not to talk of one on a faceless forum,

You are not a monster, it's just mere words to put people that wants to be affected by it, in their place, that tactics can't work on me,

You are one that has not been pricked at your core, reason why you like to be hard on women unfortunate not to see through you,

I see through you, I really do, and believe me, if I decide to use you as an assignment, you will, in no time, fall on your knees, trust me.

Fountainofyouth:
And you clearly do not know who I am, I have never, and will never cower in fear of another human being, not to talk of one on a faceless forum,

You are not a monster, it's just mere words to put people that wants to be affected by it, in their place, that tactics can't work on me,

You are one that has not been pricked at your core, reason why you like to be hard on women unfortunate not to see through you,

I see through, I really do, and believe me, if I decide to use you as an assignment, you will, in no time, fall on your knees, trust me.

Look, you should really watch your words around me. Beware of getting me provoked beyond my limit. Be very wary.
A reminder that I have your IP address and location. Better retract into your shell.