This might be a long read guys pls don't be angry with me. I have been a guest on Nland for a while but decided to create this monicker for this purpose.

So this all started when i entered the university in fact i'm now in my finals but as it is now i'm laying on my bed facing the ceiling and we have a test going on in class, i have missed about 3 tests since this semester started but i don't seem to feel alarmed by that, i'll probably have an extra year too the way i'm going but i can't just push myself to get up and read and to wash my uniform being a law student.

Now i feel this is partially because of the fact that i have come to believe school is not for me...i have never been a bright student right from primary school...when i entered the uni as a freshman i had the dreams every fresher had which is to come out with a first class and i worked very hard for it, went for night class every day without sleeping even for a minute, but any time grades came out i always come out at the bottom of the food chain.

I have tried hard to demystify the exact cause of my failure in academics but found no answers, could it be my hand writing, or i don't understand what i read or i'm not good in cramming textbook case laws and sections, or could it be because my brain is just not acclimatized to school and the rigours that come with it.

I have put in effort to handle all these supposed problems but none if them have come to fruition, even to the point that i bought a handwriting book to help improve my handwriting ...yeah i was that desperate



Reality dawned on me tho when my year 2 and 3 results were nothing to write home about...then i started losing interest...hardly go to class even though there is a test...i always say to myself stupidity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results so if i can read and study so much without being able to secure even a C in my courses then i'd rather not try.

Its funny tho that in my year 4 i made more than half a million rendering freelance services to people online...this also fueled my loss of interest in school, I'd rather be committed to something that pays me. I feel bad for mum tho, she put in all this effort to make me learned and give me a good future and she has already started saving for my law school but i know deep down that i am a nut case and can't ever compete with my peers academically.

I have tried my best in fact i'm crying right now, school has always made me feel like a lesser human, i always come out last...i really don't know what to do with life anymore ...i mean why is life so partial and unfair, why can't i be like those bright students...

I brought this here because i believe my Nairaland family will help me get through this terrible faze of my life.

I'll really appreciate if more people get to see this

Thank you

You are EDUCATED, ENLIGHTENED and SELF AWARE.

You just WOKE UP..... so stay woke.

The course you are studying may have a fancy name and prospect but it is not for your kind of personality, consider this... IF THERE WAS A FACULTY OF INTERNET BUSINESS, AND YOU WERE IN THE BUSINESS OF FREELANCE, am sure you would have been a FIRST CLASS STUDENT or STRONGLY Two-One. My point is You are studying the wrong course, BUT you are NOT a lesser human. You are a Super Human because most of your class colleagues will NOT use anything from the course they studied in school... YOU ARE AHEAD OF THEM.

As a freelancer, kindly expand your field into other online things, buy a land, buy a bus for transport business, invest in agriculture, be a day trader on cryptocurrency...

MOVE ON with your ONLINE LIFE.... because "Las Las school na scam o" ... you will realize this soon if not already.

You are doing fine. Cheer up, plan for a LIFE that is free of the EMPLOYMENT RAT RACE.

To sorrow over A COURSE WHOSE BOOKS WERE WRITTEN BY DEAD OR VERY OLD MEN is simply a waste of youthful and useful time

How did you gain admission to study law? Let me guess, your parents "encouraged" you knowing very well you don't have the credentials and potential for the programme?

Truth is there are no dull people, only individuals who failed to identify their areas of strength. Your problem started when someone decided to pay your way into law programme.

I think you've gone too far to withdraw from school so strive harder and complete your studies. On completion, you can build a new path by first learning to discover yourself, who you are, and what you're good at.

All the best sir

blackpanthar:
You are EDUCATED, ENLIGHTENED and SELF AWARE.

You just WOKE UP..... so stay woke.

The course you are studying may have a fancy name and prospect but it is not for your kind of personality, consider this... IF THERE WAS A FACULTY OF INTERNET BUSINESS, AND YOU WERE IN THE BUSINESS OF FREELANCE, am sure you would have been a FIRST CLASS STUDENT or STRONGLY Two-One. My point is You are studying the wrong course, BUT you are NOT a lesser human. You are a Super Human because most of your class colleagues will NOT use anything from the course they studied in school... YOU ARE AHEAD OF THEM.

As a freelancer, kindly expand your field into other online things, buy a land, buy a bus for transport business, invest in agriculture, be a day trader on cryptocurrency...

MOVE ON with your ONLINE LIFE.... because "Las Las school na scam o" ... you will realize this soon if not already.

You are doing fine. Cheer up, plan for a LIFE that is free of the EMPLOYMENT RAT RACE.

To sorrow over A COURSE WHOSE BOOKS WERE WRITTEN BY DEAD OR VERY OLD MEN is simply a waste of youthful and useful time

very correct bro.
I feel sorry for my mom that keeps threatening to develop bp if I don't continue school ;Dshe go dey alright las las....
Op keep doing what you do that gives you bread.
Build yourself and don't get carried away by money and you will marvel at the person you will become.
Real talk.

Acidosis:

How did you gain admission to study law? Let me guess, your parents "encouraged" you knowing very well you don't have the credentials and potential for the programme?

Truth is there are no dull people, only individuals who failed to identify their areas of strength. Your problem started when someone decided to pay your way into law programme.

I think you've gone too far to withdraw from school so strive harder and complete your studies. On completion, you can build a new path by first learning to discover yourself, who you are, and what you're good at.

All the best sir

nigga you smart!
You should be a counsellor.you'll marvel at it.
Not in 9ja ooo...

I am on the opinion that u just lack motivation in your course of studies and don't see your self having a future in it. as a lawyer myself I get, but u can always combine the 2. that's the beauty of law. get the law degree just for qualification sake and then focus on your hustle.
there are a lot of guys out there who are lawyers and are into other things.
so just focus in school, then after u can do what u want. unfortunately we are not in America where dropouts end up being Bill Gates and the likes, we are in Nigeria where even PHD holders drive trailers.
get ur ass out of your head, face your books and combine it with your hustle

blackpanthar:
You are EDUCATED, ENLIGHTENED and SELF AWARE.

You just WOKE UP..... so stay woke.

The course you are studying may have a fancy name and prospect but it is not for your kind of personality, consider this... IF THERE WAS A FACULTY OF INTERNET BUSINESS, AND YOU WERE IN THE BUSINESS OF FREELANCE, am sure you would have been a FIRST CLASS STUDENT or STRONGLY Two-One. My point is You are studying the wrong course, BUT you are NOT a lesser human. You are a Super Human because most of your class colleagues will NOT use anything from the course they studied in school... YOU ARE AHEAD OF THEM.

As a freelancer, kindly expand your field into other online things, buy a land, buy a bus for transport business, invest in agriculture, be a day trader on cryptocurrency...

MOVE ON with your ONLINE LIFE.... because "Las Las school na scam o" ... you will realize this soon if not already.

You are doing fine. Cheer up, plan for a LIFE that is free of the EMPLOYMENT RAT RACE.

To sorrow over A COURSE WHOSE BOOKS WERE WRITTEN BY DEAD OR VERY OLD MEN is simply a waste of youthful and useful time

thanks for this....i appreciate

mankettle:
I am on the opinion that u just lack motivation in your course of studies and don't see your self having a future in it. as a lawyer myself I get, but u can always combine the 2. that's the beauty of law. get the law degree just for qualification sake and then focus on your hustle.
there are a lot of guys out there who are lawyers and are into other things.
so just focus in school, then after u can do what u want. unfortunately we are not in America where dropouts end up being Bill Gates and the likes, we are in Nigeria where even PHD holders drive trailers.
get ur ass out of your head, face your books and combine it with your hustle

thanks for this,

Acidosis:

How did you gain admission to study law? Let me guess, your parents "encouraged" you knowing very well you don't have the credentials and potential for the programme?

Truth is there are no dull people, only individuals who failed to identify their areas of strength. Your problem started when someone decided to pay your way into law programme.

I think you've gone too far to withdraw from school so strive harder and complete your studies. On completion, you can build a new path by first learning to discover yourself, who you are, and what you're good at.

All the best sir

Actually i like Law and i don't want to blame my failure on Nigeria's educational system...i have always believed the problem is from me ...my brain just can't take a course like law, i guess you can't always get what you wish for.

This academic failure has been with me right from my primary school days

I was once in your shoes just that the difference is/was that, the acknowledgment of my brilliance and intelligence weren't just reflecting as I wanted in my grades (I wasn't having As). In fact, I set some records in my department but may not be recognized though. I led my department to finish first runner up in a national debate where we lost to an old rival, U.I and also set up a platform in my department that got me recognition from top professors in my department. To tell people (my friends and classmates) that I graduated with 3.44 CGPA, they all don't believe.

One thing for sure, I made sure I continue pursuing the very best of whatever I laid my hands on (my undergraduate programme inclusive) and today, I'm reaping the benefits of not giving up. I'll advice you complete your study with genuine commitment. You won't regret you did because, that degree will give you opportunities that only your innate strength can help you retain. I hope you understand my point?.

By the way, I'd like to get to know you more for further advices to spur you up.


I'd send a PM right away.

Stalemate:
I was once in your shoes just that the difference is/was that, the acknowledgment of my brilliance and intelligence weren't just reflecting as I wanted in my grades (I wasn't having As). In fact, I set some records in my department but may not be recognized though. I led my department to finish first runner up in a national debate where we lost to an old rival, U.I and also set up a platform in my department that got me recognition from top professors in my department. To tell people (my friends and classmates) that I graduated with 3.44 CGPA, they all don't believe.

One thing for sure, I made sure I continue pursuing the very best of whatever I laid my hands on (my undergraduate programme inclusive) and today, I'm reaping the benefits of not giving up. I'll advice you complete your study with genuine commitment. You won't regret you did because, that degree will give you opportunities that only your innate strength can help you retain. I hope you understand my point?.

By the way, I'd like to get to know you more for further advices to spur you up.


I'd send a PM right away.

Finding it difficult to send PM, I don't know why. If could send it, I'd reply as soon as possible. However, do not give up in pursuing relentlessly, that which you have started. #Shalom!

Stalemate:
I was once in your shoes just that the difference is/was that, the acknowledgment of my brilliance and intelligence weren't just reflecting as I wanted in my grades (I wasn't having As). In fact, I set some records in my department but may not be recognized though. I led my department to finish first runner up in a national debate where we lost to an old rival, U.I and also set up a platform in my department that got me recognition from top professors in my department. To tell people (my friends and classmates) that I graduated with 3.44 CGPA, they all don't believe.

One thing for sure, I made sure I continue pursuing the very best of whatever I laid my hands on (my undergraduate programme inclusive) and today, I'm reaping the benefits of not giving up. I'll advice you complete your study with genuine commitment. You won't regret you did because, that degree will give you opportunities that only your innate strength can help you retain. I hope you understand my point?.

By the way, I'd like to get to know you more for further advices to spur you up.


I'd send a PM right away.

i've replied...thank u a lot

DEPRESSION DUE TO ACADEMIC ISSUES! Why should you miss your tests? Why don't you struggle all through and come out with a degree? Forget about the class of degree you will graduate with, just ensure you graduate. ''i am a nut case and can never compete with my pears academically'', if you are truly a nut case you would not have been able to write a good thread as this, you wouldn't also be able to be engaging in part time jobs. We all have our strengths and weaknesses in life, some are very bright in school, while some are not, so the ones who are weak should struggle through without giving up.

I can't advice you to dump the course now, because you have come too far. Give in your very best like a real man, and take whatever will be the outcome.[quote author=BathingSoap post=79496752][/quote]

BathingSoap:
This might be a long read guys pls don't be angry with me. I have been a guest on Nland for a while but decided to create this monicker for this purpose.



Thank you

You think you are depressed and you know what it means to go through difficult times. Trust me you dont but you will find out soon when you drop out without a degree certificate. I have seen what is about to happen to you happen to my friend. He is a singer and performer and was making money from shows. he got admission to read a course he didn't like and was unmotivated. His father told him to try and finish even if with a pass certificate. My guy abandoned his school in his final year to sing song. today his younger brother has also dropped out and his defense is "i am not the first person to do it in this family". Today my friend is chasing undergraduate admission doesn't mind the course because he has become a yard stick of ridicule , something that he got without stress 8 years ago. His fiancees family rejected him....they couldn't allow their daughter who has a MSC and studied abroad marry a university dropout, shes now married to a Doctor.. My guy no longer gets invites for shows and concerts though he still makes money as he has gone into music production. But he has missed out on so many opportunities even an Exxon Mobil job (his father is well connected) because he doesn't have a certificate. He is now seen as someone who is not reliable and doesnt finish what he starts just because of one stupid action. Thats a story his kids will eventually hear. that their father couldnt finish school (When he is not bill gates or zuck). One lesson i learnt is "Always do something whenever your mates are doing it" even if you dont know how to do it. You have the "Wisdom of the crowd that knows you" to help you. He is my physical representation of Job in the bible, cos I have never seen someone endure so many misfortunes till the point his family has left him alone (they still blame him for his younger brother dropping out and he blames himself for it too) . I am sure if he could do things differently he ll try his best to finish with a certificate. My guy now knows depression he understands it, you dont...at least not yet.

BathingSoap:
This might be a long read guys pls don't be angry with me. I have been a guest on Nland for a while but decided to create this monicker for this purpose...

... Its funny tho that in my year 4 i made more than half a million rendering freelance services to people online...this also fueled my loss of interest in school, I'd rather be committed to something that pays me. I feel bad for mum tho, she put in all this effort to make me learned and give me a good future and she has already started saving for my law school but i know deep down that i am a nut case and can't ever compete with my peers academically.

Thank you

Thanks for sharing

Have you discussed this with your mum?

Does she know how much money you've made with your freelance online services?

lordragner:


You think you are depressed and you know what it means to go through difficult times. Trust me you dont but you will find out soon when you drop out without a degree certificate. I have seen what is about to happen to you happen to my friend. He is a singer and performer and was making money from shows. he got admission to read a course he didn't like and was unmotivated. His father told him to try and finish even if with a pass certificate. My guy abandoned his school in his final year to sing song. today his younger brother has also dropped out and his defense is "i am not the first person to do it in this family". Today my friend is chasing undergraduate admission doesn't mind the course because he has become a yard stick of ridicule , something that he got without stress 8 years ago. His fiancees family rejected him....they couldn't allow their daughter who has a MSC and studied abroad marry a university dropout, shes now married to a Doctor.. My guy no longer gets invites for shows and concerts though he still makes money as he has gone into music production. But he has missed out on so many opportunities even an Exxon Mobil job (his father is well connected) because he doesn't have a certificate. He is now seen as someone who is not reliable and doesnt finish what he starts just because of one stupid action. Thats a story his kids will eventually hear. that their father couldnt finish school (When he is not bill gates or zuck). One lesson i learnt is "Always do something whenever your mates are doing it" even if you dont know how to do it. You have the "Wisdom of the crowd that knows you" to help you. He is my physical representation of Job in the bible, cos I have never seen someone endure so many misfortunes till the point his family has left him alone (they still blame him for his younger brother dropping out and he blames himself for it too) . I am sure if he could do things differently he ll try his best to finish with a certificate. My guy now knows depression he understands it, you dont...at least not yet.

This is deep, while i don't fully agree with his fiancee's stance, i admit that's life, i wonder how and when a piece of paper became so powerful. In the end really it wasn't about his education honestly, he just wasn't financially buoyant enough to account for his academic shortfall

alignacademy:


Thanks for sharing

Have you discussed this with your mum?

Does she know how much money you've made with your freelance online services?

no she doesn't at least not yet...

lordragner:


You think you are depressed and you know what it means to go through difficult times. Trust me you dont but you will find out soon when you drop out without a degree certificate. I have seen what is about to happen to you happen to my friend. He is a singer and performer and was making money from shows. he got admission to read a course he didn't like and was unmotivated. His father told him to try and finish even if with a pass certificate. My guy abandoned his school in his final year to sing song. today his younger brother has also dropped out and his defense is "i am not the first person to do it in this family". Today my friend is chasing undergraduate admission doesn't mind the course because he has become a yard stick of ridicule , something that he got without stress 8 years ago. His fiancees family rejected him....they couldn't allow their daughter who has a MSC and studied abroad marry a university dropout, shes now married to a Doctor.. My guy no longer gets invites for shows and concerts though he still makes money as he has gone into music production. But he has missed out on so many opportunities even an Exxon Mobil job (his father is well connected) because he doesn't have a certificate. He is now seen as someone who is not reliable and doesnt finish what he starts just because of one stupid action. Thats a story his kids will eventually hear. that their father couldnt finish school (When he is not bill gates or zuck). One lesson i learnt is "Always do something whenever your mates are doing it" even if you dont know how to do it. You have the "Wisdom of the crowd that knows you" to help you. He is my physical representation of Job in the bible, cos I have never seen someone endure so many misfortunes till the point his family has left him alone (they still blame him for his younger brother dropping out and he blames himself for it too) . I am sure if he could do things differently he ll try his best to finish with a certificate. My guy now knows depression he understands it, you dont...at least not yet.

i'll try to find the motivation to complete the course even tho there's a high probability that i won't find any.

LilMissFavvy:
DEPRESSION DUE TO ACADEMIC ISSUES! Why should you miss your tests? Why don't you struggle all through and come out with a degree? Forget about the class of degree you will graduate with, just ensure you graduate. ''i am a nut case and can never compete with my pears academically'', if you are truly a nut case you would not have been able to write a good thread as this, you wouldn't also be able to be engaging in part time jobs. We all have our strengths and weaknesses in life, some are very bright in school, while some are not, so the ones who are weak should struggle through without giving up.

I can't advice you to dump the course now, because you have come too far. Give in your very best like a real man, and take whatever will be the outcome.

thanks i'll try my very best on that... Hopefully i scale through..need to get myself motivated

Go to school

BathingSoap:
no she doesn't at least not yet...

OK

Thanks for clarifying

You sound intelligent and l believe you have a bright future

Frankly I think ditching your academics won't be a wise step.

Having come this far, you might as well finish what you started. (Come on, it's not like the career is illegal...)

I also feel you have a tough task ahead of you: getting your family to see reason with you

There is a balance you need to strike between following your dreams and gaining the support of key stakeholders in your success

But you are an intelligent guy. You'll figure it out

GOD bless you

Iwwww

welcome to reality

Same here. I'm in my Finals though. Remaining 1 semester to go

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