I married my wife 2 years ago, it was all rossy till last year when she had a family issue which was very fatal, we solved it half way so the issues still lingers and bothers her anyway.

Early this year i started noticing lack of sexual urge for me, i practically have to beg her or rather ask for sex was thinking it might be the family issues she was facing, am very faithful to a fault, the issues has lingered on for long now that i have to engage sexual lubricant in other to have sex with her as she is never Hot or sexually stimulated, doesn't miss me or even initiate any form of sexual act with me, does not ask for sex, even during any sex i succeed to imitate she never acts intrested, i just have to stroke till am tired and pull out, she just lay like a dead wood with little or no moan.

This was a lady who was actually always demanding we make love.

I have discussed with her on this issues alot and what seems to be the problem is giving head, when i meet my wife i was very conscious of our sexual orientations as at then MouthAction was something we both agreed to wave off because she complains my dick shocks her and myself never enjoy giving head.

The whole pre intimacy was boiled down to kissing, smooching and fingering which was what normally excites her the most.

She later confessed to me that her female friend talk her into how exciting receiving head seems and after i tried it once she now needs to receive head before she can get Hot, have seen lots of her searched histroy are on lesbian pussy sucking, just last month we both ended up treating an STD she gave me, the last time i tried giving her head she told me i wasn't doing it well, i was lost in thoughts because this was my second time giving her head and i improved as compared to the first time.

Am worried over all these because am begining to think she is cheating on me, the worst nightmare to me is being that any attempt to touch her down there is being resisted and she always says fingering now pains her, it's either i give her head or nothing, i haven't gotten much evidence as to her sleeping around because i haven't done much scoping on her.

Am just confused as i type this because i need clarity and opinions on these how possible can a lady sexual preferences change this fast , if she is actually cheating already is there any good way to find out am just confused.

Please pardon my typos

Hmm

Hmmm, something is not right. Actually she may not be cheating with a man but a fellow woman or porn videos.
Oga I would've said ignore her but since she's your wife, better turn FBI on her asap.

Oh My!! She's obviously cheating with a woman that gives her the head she needs.
How does she know you weren't doing it well if she has not been receiving it from professionals.

And you said she gave you STD, did you bother asking her where she got that disease From? You need to stop overlooking some things before she gives you a deadly and incurable disease.

The bottom line is that she's a lesbian!!!

You were giving her head and she said you are not doing it well.



Issorite.

Now we know the problem isn’t the ‘fatal issue’ in her family. She’s experienced something different and she wants u to live up to the nonsense. I sometimes give my wife head and I’ve never contacted any std. oga, your madam dey waka

her search history shows lesbian pussy licking, there you go, with the answer. its possible her female friend may have introduced her to lesbianism by sucking her pussy, thats why she was damn sure you weren't doing it right.

Wetin concern person wey dey purge with snuff?

Madam haf la' oju gidi bwoda mi

She don chop the kind apple wey sister Evelyn and brother Adamu chop.

There are various kinds of Lesbians and all can be divided into 2 main categories.



1. Those that tolerate men
2. Those that do not tolerate men.


Women who belong to the second category hate men and normal sex from day one. They are the type that gets disgusted by the sight of the male organ and the prospect of being touched by a man. They may continue in life and not understand themselves. They may keep asking themselves why they are different from other women. But then the day will come when they get touched by another woman and all their passive sexuality comes alive!!!
On that day, they will know that they are full-blown lesbians.


Now the first category of lesbians are the most psychologically complex. They can have sex and live normal lives. They can marry and have kids But a day will come when the passive aspect of their nature will be triggered by another woman and that is when they will really know what they are. Some of these woman can actually love both men and woman at the same time, i.e have a male and female lover.

Unfortunately, many of these women cannot return once they cross that red line into lesbianism, hence their marriage/relationship suffers.



Your wife.

Sorry, bro, you married a woman from the first category and now she has 'crossed the red line' and reached a point of no return. She has tasted lesbianism and been 'unleashed' and so will never revert back to her old self; the woman you first knew.

It's highly likely she already has a lesbian lover, hence you are now a nuisance that must be tolerated and that is why you have to beg for sex these days and even when you do it to the best of your power, you never get her aroused. Simply put, you are not her food. That family issue you are talking about might just have coincided with her discovery of her lesbian tendencies and a lesbian lover.


Sorry, your marriage is done. You can try to save it but then there is a risk of AIDS as she roams with other women and brings their disease back to you.

Op, it doesn’t mean your wife is cheating don’t let NL ruin your marriage. Most porn are geared towards a male viewer, so most times the only female friendly porn available are lesbian flicks. So some women that watch porn, watch lesbian porn. Straight women are not as turned off as straight men are to anything gay. Now you guys need to have a talk on why she started watching porn, I suspect she doesn’t feel sexually satisfied.

Her saying “you are not doing it well” just means she is not getting any satisfaction from the way you ‘do’ it. You don’t need to be getting ‘it’ elsewhere to know when you are not sexually satisfied. Again, talk to her, ask her what she wants and why lately she is no longer as excited as she used to be. I will look for the article about female friendly porn, will post it when I see it.

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https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a61995/straight-women-lesbian-porn/

I dnt think ur wife is a wayward "omo logba logba/gbanjo ni temi type.Seem the family issues still dey affect her emotionally. since u are legally married, nothing stop u from giving her "headbutt".Do it and watch her reaction. Abeg, block ur ears to gossip and make ur wife happy biko

Thanks for all your contributions

The issues is no matter how hard i try giving her head i cant seem to ratify her, her reactions toward my efforts is very discouraging and secondly since am not into it from onset i belive am not good in it.

The STD she tagged was toilet infection but i later found out it wasn't, after having disccuedwith my family doctor who told me STD cant be contacted from the toilet.

I just seem lost in this as all my effort to connect with her emotionally seems dead, secondly i dont wish to have a divorced home but then again i cant continue begging for sex always, i just feel bad doing that must times i just sleep with my urge, it's affecting me and cheating is not my stuff.

Stupid wife..
Kukuma cut your head and give it to her to chop..
Headmistress..

Hyacenth22:
I married my wife 2 years ago, it was all rossy till last year when she had a family issue which was very fatal, we solved it half way so the issues still lingers and bothers her anyway.
Early this year i started noticing lack of sexual urge for me, i practically have to beg her or rather ask for sex was thinking it might be the family issues she was facing, am very faithful to a fault, the issues has lingered on for long now that i have to engage sexual lubricant in other to have sex with her as she is never Hot or sexually stimulated, doesn't miss me or even initiate any form of sexual act with me, does not ask for sex, even during any sex i succeed to imitate she never acts intrested, i just have to stroke till am tired and pull out, she just lay like a dead wood with little or no moan.

This was a lady who was actually always demanding we make love.
I have discussed with her on this issues alot and what seems to be the problem is giving head, when i meet my wife i was very conscious of our sexual orientations as at then MouthAction was something we both agreed to wave off because she complains my dick shocks her and myself never enjoy giving head.
The whole pre intimacy was boiled down to kissing, smooching and fingering which was what normally excites her the most.
She later confessed to me that her female friend talk her into how exciting receiving head seems and after i tried it once she now needs to receive head before she can get Hot, have seen lots of her searched histroy are on lesbian pussy sucking, just last month we both ended up treating an STD she gave me, the last time i tried giving her head she told me i wasn't doing it well, i was lost in thoughts because this was my second time giving her head and i improved as compared to the first time.
Am worried over all these because am begining to think she is cheating on me, the worst nightmare to me is being that any attempt to touch her down there is being resisted and she always says fingering now pains her, it's either i give her head or nothing, i haven't gotten much evidence as to her sleeping around because i havent done much scoping on her.
Am just confused as i type this becuase i need clarity and opinions on these how possible can a lady sexual preferences change this fast , if she is actually cheating already is there any good way to find out am just confused.
Please pardon my typos

Oga but you already know her problem she wants head which you are not giving to her, you tried twice and did it wrongly she might be getting the head outside but what will you do if you discover she's cheating divorce her? Sex practices are changing and like it or not every woman wants to reach orgasm which can't be achieved through penetrated sex alone, oga if u love your wife learn this act of giving head and win your wife back the information is all over google don't be a sexual failure

The case is complicated.
I think you should have sincere discussion with your wife.
Let her know your findings and conclusion and ask her what she really wants, I expect her to be sincere enough to tell you.

I'm not sure you will be comfortable with what she wants but it's in your interest to let her have it.
You deserve to be happy, don't die in silence.

Deepfeel:

Oga but you already know her problem she wants head which you are not giving to her, you tried twice and did it wrongly she might be getting the head outside but what will you do if you discover she's cheating divorce her? Sex practices are changing and like it or not every woman wants to reach orgasm which can't be achieved through penetrated sex alone, oga if u love your wife learn this act of giving head and win your wife back the information is all over google don't be a sexual failure

are you married I guess NO
If am sure she cheated why cant i conside divorce.
Its just 2 years old marriage, so if she cheated she will still cheat.
The act hasn't been my stuff and it's not like am complaning about her not giving me head.
Sexual failure well i will choose to ignore that part but before this issues was out she was always satisfied and reached organism always.

greatcrown:
The case is complicated.
I think you should have sincere discussion with your wife.
Let her know your findings and conclusion and ask her what she really wants, I expect her to be sincere enough to tell you.

I'm not sure you will be comfortable with what she wants but it's in your interest to let her have it.
You deserve to be happy, don't die in silence.

i have done this alot even yesterday she keeps saying nothing is wrong

Hyacenth22:

The STD she tagged was toilet infection but i later found out it wasn't, after having disccuedwith my family doctor who told me STD cant be contacted from the toilet.

1. She is not interested in having coitus with you.
2. She gave you STD she contacted from someone.

Your wife is cheating on you. It's not rocket science.

if she says nothing is wrong where did the std come from?

on her browser when did she start browsing about lesbianism pussy sucking? afterall you said you both agreed to wave it off at the onset of your marriage.

you have to jot down all your observation and get her response to them one by one, that way you can know the real cause.

Hyacenth22:
are you married I guess NO
If am sure she cheated why can i conside divorce.
Its just 2 years old marriage, so if she cheated she will still cheat.
The act hasn't been my stuff and it's not like am complaning about her not giving me head.
Sexual failure well i will choose to ignore that part but before this issues was out she was always satisfied and reached organism always.

No am not married but I have been close enough to a married lady in the past to know what is happening to your wife, especially if u married her as a virgin or u are the only man she knows sexually, that feeling of there is more to sex than what she's getting from you will always be there till she tries it with another man,
Initially she was always satisfied and reach orgasm with just penetrated sex right? But u see sex is a mind game in her mind she has a new taste for sex which goes beyond just kissing smooching fingering and penetrating
She's out to explore sex with someone else
If u still love your wife will advise u to study and get to know your wife more sexually the act of sex is a progressive one she has moved to another stage you are still on the same initial stage sexual understanding is important between couples

osato45:
if she says nothing is wrong where did the std come from?

on her browser when did she start browsing about lesbianism pussy sucking? afterall you said you both agreed to wave it off at the onset of your marriage.

you have to jot down all your observation and get her response to them one by one, that way you can know the real cause.

I have my suspense bro but what confuses is she is not active on social media, whatsapp and the likes, she is after her looks, she dosent hide her phone, i know her password, she still shows me this care and give me but i beg for her time and attention, she has only a female friend i know off and that's the one who told her how good oral was according to her, can i woman be cheating with out being secretive with her phones, and extra mindful on her looks

Deepfeel:

No am not married but I have been close enough to a married lady in the past to know what is happening to your wife, especially if u married her as a virgin or u are the only man she knows sexually, that feeling of there is more to sex than what she's getting from you will always be there till she tries it with another man,
Initially she was always satisfied and reach orgasm with just penetrated sex right? But u see sex is a mind game in her mind she has a new taste for sex which goes beyond just kissing smooching fingering and penetrating
She's out to explore sex with someone else
If u still love your wife will advise u to study and get to know your wife more sexually the act of sex is a progressive one she has moved to another stage you are still on the same initial stage sexual understanding is important between couples

she isnt even good with sex, 15 mins of thrusting and she will complain of pains, she never satisfied me because i mostly pull out erected and wanting more, she herself is sad she does not satisfy me, secondly I do 99% of the work on her to get her in the mood without receiving any, thirdly did not marry her a virgin

Modified
Pls i actually dated this said lady for over 4 years before marriage, sex was never our issues, my stuff is about 8 to 10 inch long more reasons I believed she complains of pains after about 15 mins thrusting.
I have never cheated and i can start that oral thing as it irritates me, i dont demand for it either.
Am just ashamed of how things are going because she isnt opening up no matter how hard i ask her, am i feel stupid if this will lead me for a divorce.
And also no child yet more reasons am worried.
Can STD be gotten from toilet or any other means aside body contact??

i think her only female friend may have sucked her pussy and made her climax which is way better than fingering.

she revealed a clue to you by telling you what her friend said, her search on the internet is another proof, she wants you to practice it on her, another proof, you are not doing it well, another proof.

yes you know her password and she doesn't hide her phone and she isn't regular on social media doesn't mean she isn't cheating.

does her friend visit the house or does she go visit her?

do you as a couple have a child already?

Hyacenth22:
she isnt even good with sex, 15 mins of thrusting and she will complain of pains, she never satisfied me because i mostly pull out erected and wanting more, she herself is sad she does not satisfy me, secondly I do 99% percent of the work on her to get her in the mood without receiving any, thirdly did not marry her a virgin

In your words,
This was a lady who was actually always demanding we make love.
I have discussed with her on this issues alot and what seems to be the problem is giving head

Like I said sex is a mind game and a progressive act, oral s*x is the only thing she desires now and her mind is wrapped around it, and about her feelings pains of just 15 minutes thrusting it's Ethier she gets dry cause her mind is not there or she has and infection, u sound like u have a big D*ck looks like u are not using it well

SageMK:

1. She is not interested in having coitus with you. 2. She gave you STD she contacted from someone.
Your wife is cheating on you. It's not rocket science.

Correct but not with another man. A woman. I can bet my saving on it.

May all weak men like soon amen. Beta go find another wife

is it possible that two females grinding their pussy together during the act can transmitt std to the other lady?