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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Nobody: 12:03pm On Jun 29, 2019
Hyacenth22:
I married my wife 2 years ago, it was all rossy till last year when she had a family issue which was very fatal, we solved it half way so the issues still lingers and bothers her anyway.

Early this year i started noticing lack of sexual urge for me, i practically have to beg her or rather ask for sex was thinking it might be the family issues she was facing, am very faithful to a fault, the issues has lingered on for long now that i have to engage sexual lubricant in other to have sex with her as she is never Hot or sexually stimulated, doesn't miss me or even initiate any form of sexual act with me, does not ask for sex, even during any sex i succeed to imitate she never acts intrested, i just have to stroke till am tired and pull out, she just lay like a dead wood with little or no moan.

This was a lady who was actually always demanding we make love.

I have discussed with her on this issues alot and what seems to be the problem is giving head, when i meet my wife i was very conscious of our sexual orientations as at then MouthAction was something we both agreed to wave off because she complains my dick shocks her and myself never enjoy giving head.

The whole pre intimacy was boiled down to kissing, smooching and fingering which was what normally excites her the most.

She later confessed to me that her female friend talk her into how exciting receiving head seems and after i tried it once she now needs to receive head before she can get Hot, have seen lots of her searched histroy are on lesbian pussy sucking, just last month we both ended up treating an STD she gave me, the last time i tried giving her head she told me i wasn't doing it well, i was lost in thoughts because this was my second time giving her head and i improved as compared to the first time.

Am worried over all these because am begining to think she is cheating on me, the worst nightmare to me is being that any attempt to touch her down there is being resisted and she always says fingering now pains her, it's either i give her head or nothing, i haven't gotten much evidence as to her sleeping around because i haven't done much scoping on her.

Am just confused as i type this because i need clarity and opinions on these how possible can a lady sexual preferences change this fast , if she is actually cheating already is there any good way to find out am just confused.

Please pardon my typos
Bro,
Has she told u the name of her friend who tip her on how sweet givig head/licking is?

Cos am thinking that her friend must be lesbian or young gigolo.

Dont confront her now until u gather all evidences.
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by swaggprofessor(m): 12:04pm On Jun 29, 2019
Hyacenth22:
I married my wife 2 years ago, it was all rossy till last year when she had a family issue which was very fatal, we solved it half way so the issues still lingers and bothers her anyway.

Early this year i started noticing lack of sexual urge for me, i practically have to beg her or rather ask for sex was thinking it might be the family issues she was facing, am very faithful to a fault, the issues has lingered on for long now that i have to engage sexual lubricant in other to have sex with her as she is never Hot or sexually stimulated, doesn't miss me or even initiate any form of sexual act with me, does not ask for sex, even during any sex i succeed to imitate she never acts intrested, i just have to stroke till am tired and pull out, she just lay like a dead wood with little or no moan.

This was a lady who was actually always demanding we make love.

I have discussed with her on this issues alot and what seems to be the problem is giving head, when i meet my wife i was very conscious of our sexual orientations as at then MouthAction was something we both agreed to wave off because she complains my dick shocks her and myself never enjoy giving head.

The whole pre intimacy was boiled down to kissing, smooching and fingering which was what normally excites her the most.

She later confessed to me that her female friend talk her into how exciting receiving head seems and after i tried it once she now needs to receive head before she can get Hot, have seen lots of her searched histroy are on lesbian pussy sucking, just last month we both ended up treating an STD she gave me, the last time i tried giving her head she told me i wasn't doing it well, i was lost in thoughts because this was my second time giving her head and i improved as compared to the first time.

Am worried over all these because am begining to think she is cheating on me, the worst nightmare to me is being that any attempt to touch her down there is being resisted and she always says fingering now pains her, it's either i give her head or nothing, i haven't gotten much evidence as to her sleeping around because i haven't done much scoping on her.

Am just confused as i type this because i need clarity and opinions on these how possible can a lady sexual preferences change this fast , if she is actually cheating already is there any good way to find out am just confused.

Please pardon my typos
sorry that u have to hear this from me ,but ur wife is receiving head from her friend. Yeah shr is now into lesbianism. Better perfect it now so as to help break away from it as it seens she only got one partner n thats the friend she has been stylishly telling u about.

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Fountainofyouth(f): 12:04pm On Jun 29, 2019
romenna:
Women are very good at manipulating men emotionally.
You need sound emotional intelligence to understand that ur wife is manipulating u.
M9st times, wateva they tell u they dnt like is wat they like d most.
Always make ur woman comfy to tell u her sexual fetish. Dnt see that as a bad tin.
I had an ex who opened up to me that their male dog at home gives her head n bleeps her once in a while n she enjoys it cos dogs know how to suck ass n pussy very well. Some of ur gfs n wives hav such fetishes but will never ever open up to u due to fears of stigmatization.
Dnt be modest wit sex issues wit ur spouse


shocked shocked shocked

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Hyacenth22: 12:05pm On Jun 29, 2019
Eco2580:

Bro,
Has she told u the name of her friend who tip her on how sweet givig head/licking is?

Cos am thinking that her friend must be lesbian or young gigolo.

Dont confront her now until u gather all evidences.

Well if u have her email and it password, we will reveal this mystery to u.
yes i have both mails and password and what mystery is that?
And i know that her friend
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by afrodoc2: 12:09pm On Jun 29, 2019
Hyacenth22:
I married my wife 2 years ago, it was all rossy till last year when she had a family issue which was very fatal, we solved it half way so the issues still lingers and bothers her anyway.

Early this year i started noticing lack of sexual urge for me, i practically have to beg her or rather ask for sex was thinking it might be the family issues she was facing, am very faithful to a fault, the issues has lingered on for long now that i have to engage sexual lubricant in other to have sex with her as she is never Hot or sexually stimulated, doesn't miss me or even initiate any form of sexual act with me, does not ask for sex, even during any sex i succeed to imitate she never acts intrested, i just have to stroke till am tired and pull out, she just lay like a dead wood with little or no moan.

This was a lady who was actually always demanding we make love.

I have discussed with her on this issues alot and what seems to be the problem is giving head, when i meet my wife i was very conscious of our sexual orientations as at then MouthAction was something we both agreed to wave off because she complains my dick shocks her and myself never enjoy giving head.

The whole pre intimacy was boiled down to kissing, smooching and fingering which was what normally excites her the most.

She later confessed to me that her female friend talk her into how exciting receiving head seems and after i tried it once she now needs to receive head before she can get Hot, have seen lots of her searched histroy are on lesbian pussy sucking, just last month we both ended up treating an STD she gave me, the last time i tried giving her head she told me i wasn't doing it well, i was lost in thoughts because this was my second time giving her head and i improved as compared to the first time.

Am worried over all these because am begining to think she is cheating on me, the worst nightmare to me is being that any attempt to touch her down there is being resisted and she always says fingering now pains her, it's either i give her head or nothing, i haven't gotten much evidence as to her sleeping around because i haven't done much scoping on her.

Am just confused as i type this because i need clarity and opinions on these how possible can a lady sexual preferences change this fast , if she is actually cheating already is there any good way to find out am just confused.

Please pardon my typos

She gave you an STD and you are still wondering if she is cheating on you?

What STD did she give you? Let us start from there so that we won't have to carry opo to oloro's house.
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Jinad50: 12:11pm On Jun 29, 2019
[quote author=Deepfeel post=79774523]
Well it might be unnatural but what can we do we are stock with it now it's becoming part of our lifestyle [/quote Make God help us resist such lifestyle o.
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Nobody: 12:13pm On Jun 29, 2019
Hyacenth22:
yes i have both mails and password and what mystery is that?
And i know that her friend
Ok,
Watch and observe that her friend she may be lesbian.

Lesbians are professional lickers/headgivers, u cant never compete with them.

Yes she can only get infection from toilet not STDs.


Mysterious...
Places she visit, her youtube etc search histories, what she often do with her phone.
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Coolmedown: 12:13pm On Jun 29, 2019
She is cheating on you with a lesbian partner. Period!
She will soon graduate to a 3in1 and this time a man will likely be involved.

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Nobody: 12:26pm On Jun 29, 2019
Hyacenth22:
yes i have both mails and password and what mystery is that?
And i know that her friend

Install secret CCTV in your bedrooms, plan a trip and ask your friend to invite that her friend to keep her company before u come back: I believe your will see some hidden secrets.

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by KingLennon(m): 12:27pm On Jun 29, 2019
QueenSekxy:
Oh My!! She's obviously cheating with a woman that gives her the head she needs.
How does she know you weren't doing it well if she has not been receiving it from professionals.

And you said she gave you STD, did you bother asking her where she got that disease From? You need to stop overlooking some things before she gives you a deadly and incurable disease.

The bottom line is that she's a lesbian!!!
Sharp girl, I agree with you 70% but the last part may not be so certain
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Fountainofyouth(f): 12:30pm On Jun 29, 2019
Toks2008:


I try to find the problem here but I no see any problem..

Sometimes ladies don't know what they are missing until they try it...now she has realized that fellato is a deal maker for her so give her head recklessly...go get honey and use it to spice up her kini and lick it to stupor...you can Google sex education topics (not porn) on how to give head to your wife....bro nothing sweet pass giving head to your wife o as long as she is clean down there...infact tell her to face sit you so that she can control how she wants it.

Facesitting is when you lie down and she sits her sonething on your mouth while you eat it as she grinds on you.


Forgive my explicit description but you need to really understand that sex is responsible 70% for the growth of any marriage. All the best.


kiss kiss kiss

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by mkoabiola: 12:33pm On Jun 29, 2019
Sex whala in marriages sha......

It can nva be over looked
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Fountainofyouth(f): 12:35pm On Jun 29, 2019
Hyacenth22:
Alot of you thinking i dont do it well the truth is i cant, there is no need pretending about that. Giving head is not my kind of thing.
Have confronted her alot of times she even swore to me no man has ever seen her naked since we got married
I have asked her countless times about the lesbian stuff which she denied.
Why is that now a priority to her now, i cant connect with her emotionally anymore because the more i try the more difficult it becomes.
Life is just not fair this betrayal comming from someone i would take a bullet for, it's hurt.
I cant and will not indulge myself on that Mouth Gig stuff because even if i do it does not necesaary mean she will stop cheating if she was cheating neither will it assure me she would not come up with new sexual orientations


Nawa oo, you both are on opposite sides sexually, how do you want to salvage the situation since you don't want to do what she wants?

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by romenna: 12:43pm On Jun 29, 2019
Fountainofyouth:



shocked shocked shocked
u'r not alone in this act dear. we already found long time.
dnt sweat it, we r all naughty like dat deep inside
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by MrSly(m): 12:46pm On Jun 29, 2019
liberalchick:
Op, it doesn’t mean your wife is cheating don’t let NL ruin your marriage. Most porn are geared towards a male viewer, so most times the only female friendly porn available are lesbian flicks. So some women that watch porn, watch lesbian porn. Straight women are not as turned off as straight men are to anything gay. Now you guys need to have a talk on why she started watching porn, I suspect she doesn’t feel sexually satisfied.

Her saying “you are not doing it well” just means she is not getting any satisfaction from the way you ‘do’ it. You don’t need to be getting ‘it’ elsewhere to know when you are not sexually satisfied. Again, talk to her, ask her what she wants and why lately she is no longer as excited as she used to be. I will look for the article about female friendly porn, will post it when I see it.

Modified
https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a61995/straight-women-lesbian-porn/
Clap for yourself. The porn gave her STD which she transfered to her hubby. Abeg stop already!
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by elmagnifico411(m): 12:50pm On Jun 29, 2019
Bros, u don marry? Do u you know there’s a fluid in the vagina that cleans it up? If u don’t know ask doctors. Don’t come here with your shallow knowledge and talk about hints u know not of, and don’t even try bringing in any religious talk about it cos I go use bible close your mouth. Al these archaic men dem.
HitSong:

Stop giving head to women.
It's a very foolish thing to do.
Medically, the vagina area is one of the most dirty part of a woman .
No matter how well they wash it, it will still be dirty.
Did you know that sperm can hide and stay alive in the vagina for 5 days?
So when you give head, you're literally sucking or licking out your sperm and other guys sperm that has been deposited in that vagina.
And for the fact that, no be only don even fûck that Toto before, it's a very foolish thing to do .

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Deepfeel(m): 12:51pm On Jun 29, 2019
owila4luv:
Isok! I understand you now. both let me ask you a question. is it ideal for a man to get his dick enlarged in the quest for for his partners sexual satisfaction?
Well I don't really know about pen*s enlightenment but if it's has no side effects on the man why not , ladies do breast implants butts enlightenment etc just to satisfy a man's sexual taste don't they?
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by elmagnifico411(m): 12:52pm On Jun 29, 2019
Same of same
Listar:

Which one is head n which one is mouth action?
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Joe4real1988(m): 12:53pm On Jun 29, 2019
samcus:
so many problem in dis life,well make 3pm reach make I go drink beer jare,imagine married woman dey ask 4 head up nd down without thinking of cancer of d month yeye dey smell
I wish u go knw how much i like dis ur comment. No solution to any problem a man faces in this world rather than BEER. As for women, make them continue with their confused life. There will be a time when guys will no longer give a flying Bleep about them and all our attention and care will be directed to BEER. Las las all of dem go turn to prostitute due to lack of care and attention from men. I am beginning to fancy BEER mor dan most women sef.

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Tboysalau(m): 12:54pm On Jun 29, 2019
osato45:
is it possible that two females grinding their pussy together during the act can transmitt std to the other lady?
I wonder ooooo
Most likely HSV 1&2, HBV, HCV or even HPV shaaa
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Fountainofyouth(f): 12:54pm On Jun 29, 2019
romenna:
u'r not alone in this act dear. we already found long time.
dnt sweat it, we r all naughty like dat deep inside


Been trying to imagine how a dog can do something like that, it's disgusting, yeah some of us are naughty, but not with animals nah. .......

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Francischibiko: 12:56pm On Jun 29, 2019
From francis Chibiko
. COZA pastor shoild be tried
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Francischibiko: 12:57pm On Jun 29, 2019
From francis Chibiko
. COZA pastor should be tried , because the accusation is so overwhelming.
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by omotoyossi(m): 1:00pm On Jun 29, 2019
Shes a lesbian..shes been doing it with that her friend.
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by romenna: 1:09pm On Jun 29, 2019
Fountainofyouth:



Been trying to imagine how a dog can do something like that, it's disgusting, yeah some of us are naughty, but not with animals nah. .......
google bestiality videos and the search results will leave u wit more imaginations
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by owila4luv(m): 1:10pm On Jun 29, 2019
Deepfeel:

Well I don't really know about pen*s enlightenment but if it's has no side effects on the man why not , ladies do breast implants butts enlightenment etc just to satisfy a man's sexual taste don't they?
i will love my woman the way she is, thus i expect my woman to accept me the way i am. d*ck enlargement has a long run effect, the woman sexual organ has the ability to expand what will happen if it goes out of the new size of d*ck again, there should be a way to maintain the size or contrast it na.. instead of looking out for large one always(just saying).
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Tboysalau(m): 1:14pm On Jun 29, 2019
Wallade:


I disagree with you and I demand that you conduct a research on this. Stop being fixated in a box of outdated knowledge. The reality is that STIs and STDs can be transmitted as toilet disease or infection.
Can you please shed more light?
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Deepfeel(m): 1:18pm On Jun 29, 2019
owila4luv:
i will love my woman the way she is, thus i expect my woman to accept me the way i am. d*ck enlargement has a long run effect, the woman sexual organ has the ability to expand what will happen if it goes out of the new size of d*ck again, there should be a way to maintain the size or contrast it na.. instead of looking out for large one always(just saying).
Well a man must not enlarge his d*ck before satisfying a woman cause the p*ssy is designed in a way that a lot of methods can be applied to give her that maximum satisfaction she desires all a man needs to do is to study his woman sexually and know where she feels it the most
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Wallade(m): 1:23pm On Jun 29, 2019
Tboysalau:

Can you please shed more light?

Read my subsequent correspondence on this subject.
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Tboysalau(m): 1:23pm On Jun 29, 2019
laydoh:
that is so so rare. The only way it can be a bathroom infection is only when there are virus deposits in the toilet.
So tell me how did the wife got the infection if it ain't from the man. The man got it from her.
Viruses doesn't even survive out of the human body
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by owila4luv(m): 1:24pm On Jun 29, 2019
Deepfeel:

Well a man must not enlarge his d*ck before satisfying a woman cause the p*ssy is designed in a way that a lot of methods can be applied to give her that maximum satisfaction she desires all a man needs to do is to study his woman sexually and know where she feels it the most
alright bro thank you
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Tboysalau(m): 1:27pm On Jun 29, 2019
Wallade:

Read my subsequent correspondence on this subject.
OK sir

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