At times I wonder if Nairaland guys actually have mothers, nieces, aunties and above all, sisters.

I read comments here against women and I cringe.

The slut shaming, body shaming, broke shaming, marriage shaming etc is way too undue.

Virtually all comments on relationships are about how women should be abused, fuccked, treated with contempt, disdain and then abandoned like cadaver.

I love my sister so much and I imagine how I would feel I heard my brother in-law beat or abused her in any way. Hence my resolve to be nice to people nay women.

What is more, I am neither pussywhipped nor henpecked. In fact, I tilt towards misogyny.

But then I would rather go my own way (like the MGTOW ) than be unnecessarily harsh. I have refused doing favours to young women many times, just because I perceive a modicum of entitlement mentality in their deportment or demeanour. I go my own way and not hurt them too.

It strikes me that the negative, and derogatory remarks used against women here is a defence mechanism; a subtle response to the sudden assertion of rights by women. Assertions occasioned by western influence and increasing female independence flowing from financial independence.


Please while giving men advice on how to maltreat women. Think about your own women too like your sisters. They could be victims of your advice too.

it shows the type of home they were raised

Have you realised that the female population on this site is decreasing drastically? Men gather here after their depressed and miserable day to release tension. As a woman all you can do is laugh, because in reality we know how they are, and it’s nothing like the persona they put online.

This is woman-wrappering in disguise

Tell them.

Stop reading only romance and family section

An insecure person who is in search of validation, have a burning desire to shame another.

Citing the fact that you generalized your submission, I wonder how you're different from "men here." Irrespective of your gender, you aren't in any way different from the small-minded men here - I neither hold brief for the small-minded men nor you. Generalization is unpalatable.

Well, only small-minded men see all women as evil and reason for that isn't farfetched, people always see reflection of their negative dispositions through others justifiably or unjustifiably - behind any cynic is person who's selfish, self-centered or/and greedy. All women (human beings) aren't the same or of the same ethical leanings.

The above analogy is applicable to any woman, or class of women, who sees alpha men (dominant men, not domineering men) - I don't hold brief for wannabe alpha men (domineering men) who're unrefined subclass of the beta men class - as undesirable, because behind such a woman is a headstrong woman - wannabe strong-minded/independent woman.

Wannabe strong-minded women and wannabe alpha men share subjugation (or have penchant for subjugation) in common. No space for servile people here.

I doff my hat for all strong-minded/independent/virtuous women.

Blakjewelry:
it shows the type of home they were raised

This is the truth.

Safitu:
Have you realised that the female population on this site is decreasing drastically? Men gather here after their depressed and miserable day to release tension. As a woman all you can do is laugh, because in reality we know how they are, and it’s nothing like the persona they put online.

But I think "boys" would be a better word. Succinctly put for the most part BTW.

Thank you.

@partnerbiz3, more sales!

Pavore9:
An insecure person who is in search of validation, have a burning desire to shame another.

Exactly!

Safitu:
Have you realised that the female population on this site is decreasing drastically? Men gather here after their depressed and miserable day to release tension. As a woman all you can do is laugh, because in reality we know how they are, and it’s nothing like the persona they put online.

To EVERYMAN, his own.

Stop deceiving yourself. It occurs on almost every thread that hits FP.

YourCoffin:
Stop reading only romance and family section

Op, you've played your part. Thanks.

What you cited is the bitter truth. The hate and anger directed at women on this platform is sky-high.

They term every successful woman "olosho" including those who worked their asses off to get to the top. Linda Ikeji is termed an olosho who slept with politicians to get to the top despite the fact there is zero evidence affirming such notions.

Such imbecilic thought process reeks of a very poor upbringing. But then it's a free world. You can't stop people from being myopic and stupid.

no mind them

I just hope they change


rubbish

To some of what LordKO said, you are NO different from the men here on NL. You are a misogynist with a smile doesn’t mean you deserve a cookie.

liberalchick:
To some of what LordKO said, you are NO different from the men here on NL. You are a misogynist with a smile doesn’t mean you deserve a cookie.

How is the original poster a misogynist?

Partnerbiz3:
At times I wonder if Nairaland guys actually have mothers, nieces, aunties and above all, sisters.

I read comments here against women and I cringe.

The slut shaming, body shaming, broke shaming, marriage shaming etc is way too undue.

Virtually all comments on relationships are about how women should be abused, fuccked, treated with contempt, disdain and then abandoned like cadaver.

I love my sister so much and I imagine how I would feel I heard my brother in-law beat or abused her in any way. Hence my resolve to be nice to people nay women.

What is more, I am neither pussywhipped nor henpecked. In fact, I tilt towards misogyny.

But then I would rather go my own way (like the MGTOW ) than be unnecessarily harsh. I have refused doing favours to young women many times, just because I perceive a modicum of entitlement mentality in their deportment or demeanour. I go my own way and not hurt them too.

It strikes me that the negative, and derogatory remarks used against women here is a defence mechanism; a subtle response to the sudden assertion of rights by women. Assertions occasioned by western influence and increasing female independence flowing from financial independence.


Please while giving men advice on how to maltreat women. Think about your own women too like your sisters. They could be victims of your advice too.

Most people think all (wo)men are scum apart from their family members.

Then you wonder who the scum are if everybody's family members are saints.

The internet gives some people the opportunity to try out their alteregos and the dream personalities in their heads.

Notice that you rarely find such comments in non-anonymous sites such as facebook and instagram.

Safitu:
Have you realised that the female population on this site is decreasing drastically? Men gather here after their depressed and miserable day to release tension. As a woman all you can do is laugh, because in reality we know how they are, and it’s nothing like the persona they put online.

How did you come to this conclusion?

I will say this again and again

Only men who are intimidated by their wives progress goes about maltreating them

All such me wants is to control the woman and her resources, where she refuses, wahala comes in

But the good thing is that women are getting more independent and once they detect such men, they run

Pls run for your life, what they want is to kill such women and take possession

I think many of them just live out their 'horror movie' fantasies here since it's an anonymous forum.They are probably not that way in real life.

However,some are indeed that way.Misogynists borne out of their backgrounds.They had fathers who mistreated their mothers.They have sisters they are bitter against for whatever reasons best known to them.

From the OP. Go read his post, it’s there.

PrincessNZ:


How is the original poster a misogynist?

An average Nigeria man is a misogynist. He will hate a woman, slut shame a woman, deny a woman from having means of livelihood, talk down at a woman, hit a woman, bodyshame a woman, make a woman feel inferior, marriage shame a woman. Just to boost his ego and hide his insecurity.

It has nothing to do with NL, it is how Nigerian society is.

Do I take it serious..? No. Why? Because, I know at the end, they still can't do without us and we can't do without them too. Even, in all their shaming, they will still marry us and we will still raise their kids for them.

I stand up for myself when in the mood or when I have the strength, when I am not, I overlook them and walk away.

Lastly, I feel is our duty(women) to start raising our sons differently, so that our daughters don't grow up to experience what we did.

It strikes me that the negative, and derogatory remarks used against women here is a defence mechanism; a subtle response to the sudden assertion of rights by women.

Plus the frustrations that come with the hard times.

Imagine one telling me i am dumb, i don't have a brain, etc. I just felt for him because i tried to understand and imagine how frustrated he may have been. Bitterness used to be a woman's thing but the men seem to have adopted it.

Most of them will avoid this thread. It is still on the first page. If it was a topic on "women are oloshos", it would have been on page 20.

desiregold:
An average Nigeria man is a misogynist. He will hate a woman, slut shame a woman, deny a woman from having means of livelihood, talk down at a woman, hit a woman, bodyshame a woman, make a woman feel inferior, marriage shame a woman. Just to boost his ego and hide his insecurity.

It has nothing to do with NL, it is how Nigerian society is.

Do I take it serious..? No. Why? Because, I know at the end, they still can't do without us and we can't do without them too. Even, in all their shaming, they will still marry us and we will still raise their kids for them.

I stand up for myself when in the mood or when I have the strength, when I am not, I overlook them and walk away.

Lastly, I feel is our duty(women) to start raising our sons differently, so that our daughters don't grow up to experience what we did.

It hurts me, to say the least, that you feel this way about Nigerian men. I feel it is necessary to let you know that there are still many decent men out there. Do not allow the misdemeanor of some deviants influence your opinion of the whole bunch. Men who will love, respect and protect women are still very much available in our society. Don't give up on humanity. Don't give up on us.

Really??

lilmax:
no mind them

I just hope they change


rubbish

And if you don’t stand by and let them have their way with the onslaught, then you are a bitter feminist.

desiregold:
An average Nigeria man is a misogynist. He will hate a woman, slut shame a woman, deny a woman from having means of livelihood, talk down at a woman, hit a woman, bodyshame a woman, make a woman feel inferior, marriage shame a woman. Just to boost his ego and hide his insecurity.

It has nothing to do with NL, it is how Nigerian society is.

Do I take it serious..? No. Why? Because, I know at the end, they still can't do without us and we can't do without them too. Even, in all their shaming, they will still marry us and we will still raise their kids for them.

I stand up for myself when in the mood or when I have the strength, when I am not, I overlook them and walk away.

Lastly, I feel is our duty(women) to start raising our sons differently, so that our daughters don't grow up to experience what we did.

@bold:

Thinking about it again, I do not think it is a Nairaland something.

They are just more vocal because of the anonymousity provided.

To answer your question, yes these pudding-heads have sisters, mothers, wives and girlfriends, and am sure they treat the women around them like poo.

I had been an unregistered guest on this forum for many years, I usually read news around the world and other stuffs, I did not used to visit romance section or read much of comments.

As I registered on this forum and found interest in the romance section, I got terribly turned off by the attitude of guys. I saw the bad-mouthing of women by some very uncultured dipsticks who called themselves men, i began to hate them and bash back. Thank God there may be few good ones.

TO ALL THE FEW GOOD MEN WHO MAY EXIST ON THIS FORUM, PLS DON'T BE INFLUENCED BY THE BAD EGGS HERE, AND MAY YOU FIND A GOOD WOMAN WHO APPRECIATES YOU!

It shows how they're raised. They probably are like that irl: uncouth, disrespectful, miserable. It's not uncommon for a male on Nairaland to quote you and start insulting you b|c he doesn't agree with something you said. Thankfully I've learned to ignore insulting people who quote me. I'm so over arguing or name-calling back and forth w| faceless people on Nairaland.

LilMissFavvy:
To answer your question, yes these pudding-heads have sisters, mothers, wives and girlfriends, and am sure they treat the women around them like poo.

I had been an unregistered guest on this forum for many years, I usually read news around the world and other stuffs, I did not used to visit romance section or read much of comments.

As I registered on this forum and found interest in the romance section, I got terribly turned off by the attitude of guys. I saw the bad-mouthing of women by some very uncultured dipsticks who called themselves men, i began to hate them and bash back. Thank God there may be few good ones.

TO ALL THE FEW GOOD MEN WHO MAY EXIST ON THIS FORUM, PLS DON'T BE INFLUENCED BY THE BAD EGGS HERE, AND MAY YOU FIND A GOOD WOMAN WHO APPRECIATES YOU!

How about the ladies , by retaliation they became bad mouths themselves, u can't deny you got a bad mouth too , to a limit though