I just broke up with my "Ex"


Yes, and this was a very interesting period I will never forget as there were very many deep lessons I learnt from interacting with women which I have to share with the brothers. Some of it I have already posted but will still share, and others as time goes on.

1. Focus on your purpose. Never bend to a woman's reality. Women will always cry and bitch about how much they want time, but the moment you become too available, you begin to slacken on your purpose, you become too soft. Their bitching and chase should always be music to your ears. Always know when to pull and come back with sweet nothings to her ears. I started with my purpose which she "fell" in love with it, but at some point, I began deviating from it, failing her manipulative tests and found myself drawn continuously to her life. I had her "soul" for about a year, but the moment I showed weakness, at some point, she started losing respect for me. I remember finding out one day she lied and I found out. By that time, I 've been drawn so deep into the web, I couldn't come out. I tried to find out the truth, yet she called me names, cut the call as I spoke etc. It was miserable. Yet, I was still simping down. The beta in me was taking over the alpha I should have been. Whenever we came back from a fight, she will speak so rudely to me. But you know when she is rude, you can't get the female to bend over. She's got to be feminine. She began imposing rules, being bossier. Well, I only wanted some cake which, even though I got, in the long run- wasn't worth it.

2. Keep frame. Always keep frame. She will always try to sh1t test you, but your ability to keep a masculine frame is what keeps her on her toes. The moment you realise she is getting more in her masculine frame, know that you 've been fvcking up and softening in your feminine state. The more masculine you are, the more feminine shes got to be. In a relationship, someone must chase. It's either you doing the chasing, or she's doing the chasing. Women are not logical so never expect it to be 50/50. Never argue back and forth with them. Never get into a debate with them. For two reasons. 1st- it will never be logical. Never, you will always feel stupid after it. 2nd-You will loose some respect from her after it. If you ever knew your company wouldn't fire an employee who stepped out of line, you will keep extending your boundaries. But when you know one mess up, and your ass is on the line, you will always sit up

3. Walk away. Know when to draw a line. A woman will test you so much and to an extent, if you got so weak, she may begin to disrespect you. At that point know when to bare it all and walk away. The highest position of strength in any negotiation is in the ability to walk away. When you walk away and never call or come back, you reinforce your masculinity. And when she calls, she definitely got to submit. The highest test occurs during a breakup. At this point, it's not about how big your voice is, how masculine you look, how long your beards are. If you show true strength and walk away, she will eventually call back. Women despise weakness. It is in their DNA. Forget what the media tells you, forget what she even tells you- watch what she does. Women cannot handle power most times. She will run you down to the ground eventually. If you show weakness, she will resent you way worse than even your enemy would, without any feeling of remorse. She will go to the next provider and ultimately restart the innocent card. This is why a guy will beg and plead for a woman to come back, but if he doesn't have something to offer, or if the respect is totally gone, there is nothing he can do.

4. Have an abundance mindset. You are the prize. Don't let any woman feel too special and even if they do. They MUST know you also got a lot of options. When they see that your whole social life revolves around them, they ll get bored. Women love chaos. Masculine chaos. Puts them in their toes. My mistake here was sucking up when she started messing up. Firstly- I never ask women out. I only create the vibe for sexx, and let them ask. But at some point with this girl, I began catching feelings due to certain reasons around our interaction, which was the undoing. I should have kept her in her constant state of seeking validation. Well, it was a mistake never to be made. Mates...This is why most times, the first 6 months of the relationship are often great... Till she pulls back. Till she starts flaking. That's the point, the relationship begins to take a whole lotta dynamics. Most guys at this point will go panic mode, wondering what went wrong. She 'll be texting other guys in your presence, testing you to see if you will be man enough to call her b.s or if you will act insecure. Eventually, they will manipulate you till you beg even when she is wrong.

5. No loyalty. I kid you not guys - women are not capable of truly loving a man. Women only love themselves. Honour, ethics and loyalty are only truly masculine traits. Women are simple manipulative by nature. At every point, she will always be thinking of how the relationship/partnership/marriage will benefit her, and not you. Women, chase validation and you never want to give it to them, cos at that point, she knows where she stands, and can then begin to throw you her little test,while you begin to simp down. Let her keep chasing your validation. Which is when you see a girl calling a guy she loved a scum, NOT because she loved him, cos she can't, but because he wouldn't give her his validation.

Trust me... You will always have a clearer frame of mind if you don't bring these women too close. Keep them like batteries, When they re all well used, get spares asap. Always have spares... You always want to keep a couple of these females in your rotation cos when she flakes and comes back, You know what time it is

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Very well said

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Maximum respect to you. That number 1,3 & 4 got me. The three mistakes I also made. After crying many times about how I don't care or give her attention, I became soft and she used it against me. She started quarrel almost at any point, became very rude, and would never apologise, and if she manages to, she'd just throw it in my face. At a point I started apologising for her fvckups because I wanted to be the 'bigger man' and it was pushing my Alpha status out
I had enough and I told her I was out. I learnt it the hard way

Thank you for this, at a point, I thought you wrote this for me in particular because it all happened

NACE13:
Maximum respect to you. That number 1,3 & 4 got me. The three mistakes I also made. After crying many times about how I don't care or give her attention, I became soft and she used it against me. She started quarrel almost at any point, became very rude, and would never apologise, and if she manages to, she'd just throw it in my face. At a point I started apologising for her fvckups because I wanted to be the 'bigger man' and it was pushing my Alpha status out
I had enough and I told her I was out. I learnt it the hard way

Thank you for this, at a point, I thought you wrote this for me in particular because it all happened

Man.. That's the female nature no one tells you about. Always best to learn it earlier than later. Good thing is you ll be better equipped when next you meet someone else. More grease to your elbows

Place your happiness in ur goals and nt girls.


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God bless you for the post...

Medicine after death

Chai... Op, this girl really show you pepper oh.
I learnt some of this things from harddon's thread, and i can now confidently say it is more profitable to learn by instruction than learning by experience.

Last last, you go dey alright.

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AussiePlayboy:
I just broke up with my "Ex"


Yes, and this was a very interesting period I will never forget as there were very many deep lessons I learnt from interacting with women which I have to share with the brothers. Some of it I have already posted but will still share, and others as time goes on.

1. Focus on your purpose. Never bend to a woman's reality. Women will always cry and bitch about how much they want time, but the moment you become too available, you begin to slacken on your purpose, you become too soft. Their bitching and chase should always be music to your ears. Always know when to pull and come back with sweet nothings to her ears. I started with my purpose which she "fell" in love with it, but at some point, I began deviating from it, failing her manipulative tests and found myself drawn continuously to her life. I had her "soul" for about a year, but the moment I showed weakness, at some point, she started losing respect for me. I remember finding out one day she lied and I found out. By that time, I 've been drawn so deep into the web, I couldn't come out. I tried to find out the truth, yet she called me names, cut the call as I spoke etc. It was miserable. Yet, I was still simping down. The beta in me was taking over the alpha I should have been. Whenever we came back from a fight, she will speak so rudely to me. But you know when she is rude, you can't get the female to bend over. She's got to be feminine. She began imposing rules, being bossier. Well, I only wanted some cake which, even though I got, in the long run- wasn't worth it.

you broke up, still bitter about it, try seeing a therapist

so good. let me sit down and read


meanwhile, can you consider writing a Guest Miseducation?

AUSSIEPLAYBOY's MISEDUCATION? or whatever you will want to call it. We would be honored.

ubunja:
so good. let me sit down and read


meanwhile, can you consider writing a Guest Miseducation?

AUSSIEPLAYBOY's MISEDUCATION? or whatever you will want to call it. We would be honored.

Definitely brother. It's a whole lot I now know about women. You get to that point you begin to see them from the clear lens, and not the one the media has made you believe and there is no going back. I will be posting with time as we need to re-educate men over.

AussiePlayboy:

Definitely brother. It's a whole lot I now know about women. You get to that point you begin to see them from the clear lens, and not the one the media has made you believe and there is no going back. I will be posting with time as we need to re-educate men over.

Pls, mention me when you do..

Lmao, i am sure it was a white girl that broke your heart, guess she cheated on you..anyway they easily cheat with the biggest and strongest BBC in town

why is that when Guys on Nairaland break up with their GF they remember Focus on your purpose. so when you were with the girl you couldnt Focus on your purpose., it basically shows you are not even a focus person with or without the girl.


there are four things men on NL become after breakup, Philosopher, women behavior analysers, MGTOW and "Alphamale"....choose one and make you life easy until you find another girl

lilwetdick:
Lmao, i am sure it was a white girl that broke your heart, guess she cheated on you..anyway they easily cheat with the biggest and strongest BBC in town

why is that when Guys on Nairaland break up with their GF they remember Focus on your purpose. so when you were with the girl you couldnt Focus on your purpose., it basically shows you are not even a focus person with or without the girl.


there are four things men on NL become after breakup, Philosopher, women behavior analysers, MGTOW and "Alphamale"....choose one and make you life easy until you find another girl

Being alpha is not for breakups. Its a lifestyle. Not just with women in life, you need an abundance mindset

Still trying to get the sense of this article but my observation are these;

Women are attracted and respect men of purpose

Also don't suck up to a woman
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Be your real self, say your mind, don't be a respecter of person

Women also respect a man who knows where he is going, a leader that can give her direction, she can look up to for sound counsel/advice

In being real, show your vulnerable side sometimes, that you are still human not a robot. Because if you become too mechanical, you are becoming a zombie or robot.


If you exhibit these traits, you can get a woman with sense, wise and smart( which is a good plus to your life, because wise and smart woman can add great value and help you to build your life. But I mean smart ones not brain dead ones, which are disasters to a mans life

Na women matter go kill some guys

AussiePlayboy:


Being alpha is not for breakups. Its a lifestyle. Not just with women in life, you need an abundance mindset

If I may ask.. Can you educate me what really is this abundance mindset... Thanks

lilwetdick:
Lmao, i am sure it was a white girl that broke your heart, guess she cheated on you..anyway they easily cheat with the biggest and strongest BBC in town

why is that when Guys on Nairaland break up with their GF they remember Focus on your purpose. so when you were with the girl you couldnt Focus on your purpose., it basically shows you are not even a focus person with or without the girl.


there are four things men on NL become after breakup, Philosopher, women behavior analysers, MGTOW and "Alphamale"....choose one and make you life easy until you find another girl

lilwetdick is so furious she will never have a dick. A concept you will have to live with till you die

I always notice your moniker in threads about MGTOW and etc.

You always seem offended when guys try to do things that are of full benefits to them. Men are getting wiser, no manipulation.

You will never be a man. Stop being pained.

THIS MIGHT BE THE BEST WRITE READ ON ROMANCE SECTION IN A WHILE ... YOU'VE SAID IT ALL MAN THERE'S NOT MUCH I CAN ADD... KUDOS BRUV

Bro,that's the best way to deal with girls.
D moment guys learn to realize that they can choose not to be emotional. They are all free from those selfish being called girls.I don't hate them but they are nt indispensable. I enjoy striving to be a better person than to keep hypocrites(That's who they are).Nobody owe me loyalty and i owe nobody my emotion.The reality of our dream should eclipse this so called emotional love.You can love without being emotional. The moment they realize ure not a push over...their feather go drop. One should just be a success...they will rush u & u already know how to deal with them. Baba just dey look am.Eat,play game,go watch ball & chase that dream.

Bro,that's the best way to deal with girls.
D moment guys learn to realize that they can choose not to be emotional. They are all free from those selfish being called girls.I don't hate them but they are nt indispensable. I enjoy striving to be a better person than to keep hypocrites(That's who they are).Nobody owe me loyalty and i owe nobody my emotion.The reality of our dream should eclipse this so called emotional love.You can love without being emotional. The moment they realize ure not a push over...their feather go drop. One should just be a success...they will rush u & u already know how to deal with them. Baba just dey look am.

Whitestory:


If I may ask.. Can you educate me what really is this abundance mindset... Thanks

Abundance mindset. The opposite being a scarcity mindset which is born from a fear of failure.

Ever seen people who lost out in a business and quickly started another one, ever seen people who got ditched by a girl and got two replacements back. If you got your MBA and a few certifications, believe me, you will walk next day into your office with a certain confidence that if things step out of line, you can have a replacement lined out. It is funny how women always do this, but we dont see it. Women always have an option lined.

When you have an abundance mindset, you are basically saying you are a high value male and can attract a lot of options.
When you have a scarcity mindset, you are saying you don't have a lot of options, and you can't bee willing to walk away if the situation stops favoring you. This is ultimately unattractive and weak, and women see through it, even when they are the subjects in question.

Trust me, it is not enough to just say the good, in the real world, an abundance mindset comes with a lot of failure and learning. It is part of what builds you

AussiePlayboy:


Abundance mindset. The opposite being a scarcity mindset which is born from a fear of failure.

Ever seen people who lost out in a business and quickly started another one, ever seen people who got ditched by a girl and got two replacements back. If you got your MBA and a few certifications, believe me, you will walk next day into your office with a certain confidence that if things step out of line, you can have a replacement lined out. It is funny how women always do this, but we dont see it. Women always have an option lined.

When you have an abundance mindset, you are basically saying you are a high value male and can attract a lot of options.
When you have a scarcity mindset, you are saying you don't have a lot of options, and you can't bee willing to walk away if the situation stops favoring you. This is ultimately unattractive and weak, and women see through it, even when they are the subjects in question.

Trust me, it is not enough to just say the good, in the real world, an abundance mindset comes with a lot of failure and learning. It is part of what builds you

Thanks

Nice one

Nice one OP, no 4 is really working for me, don't give a Bleep what they think, I have never try to make any girl special, they don't worth it, I treat them my own way and if they don't like it, they are free to leave.