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RiyadhGoddess:
Op you and your mom or any other person in the family should stop forcing her. Just stop it!!! Instead of forcing her, channel all that energy to find out what her interest are. Like you said she loves reading story book so I am very sure that asides story books there might be some other areas of interest that you guys haven't discovered or she haven't discovered or she knows but afraid to talk about it since all you are after is Study Study Study. Find out what she loves(areas of interest) and use that as a tool to bring out the love to study again. Also please get her a mentor. It could be an educational mentor or counselor or something related trust me they will do the work and bring out the best in her. I know a lot of people whose lives changed after seeing one. They are doing well now...
See Op, I use to have a distant cousin who hates to study. He hates school that how he crossed secondary school I don't even know but his parents must have pushed him by force without taking time to know the reasons behind his lazy and unserious attitudes toward studies. The real deal blew out when he got to Uni. Nobody to bribe in the private Uni he was and his grades were so bad. Bad is an understatement. His parents talked and talked, scold and scold for where no changes. He was sent away from school because of his poor performance. Everyone thought that was the end for him. Some were already saying ko lo ko ise mechanic lols. Not until a man visited them and when he heard what happened, he called my distant cousin and spoke to him. The following week my distant cousin began a few weeks mentorship class and that was how my distant cousin in depth passion, interest was discovered. He use to like computer. He just loved playing around computer. He will pieces and fix it, do one thing one thing with the computer but nobody noticed it. When he was in the Uni before being sent away, the only class he loved and enjoyed was CIT and he was a business admin student imagine.
My distant cousin dropped out of school but today he is an IT Guru working with an oil firm. Them dey fight for am sef... I hope he doesn't get to read this...

Another case is a young lady who the parents pushed her all through secondary school but she had no interest but the parents didn't care because she must just go to school by fire by force. She just knew no jack, nothing but the parents had the money for special centres and all. She got into the Uni, the girl just didn't understand what was happening there. She began to skip classes and even miss school. Of course she lots of carry overs. Her mom will come to school and cry and cry until one day during her parents visit to the school, after the usual cry and cry, she told her parents ENOUGH! Stop it! I do not like School. I don't want to be in school but you all keep forcing me. Her parents were shocked. Her room mates and friends tried talking to her to stop it. Her mom cried more saying people will mock them and it's the work of the enemies. Her mom begged her friends to talk to her but this girl begged her parents to stop wasting their money. She said she wants to be a Top Fashion Designer. That was how this girl dropped out of school to pursue her dreams. Her parents are rich, she was sent out of the country to pursue her dreams after the parents got counseled. Today she's a big Time designer.

So Op or whoever reading that is also experiencing this, find out what your passions or area of interest are. It is a tool to bring out the greatness in you. Op find out what your sister likes or even ask her what she wants to become in life, what are her dreams? Start with that. Then we can then use that as a tool to bring out or unlock the greatness in her.
Lastly pls show her love! Not just you but every member of your family. Do not call her, I repeat, do not call her NEGATIVE names.
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Your write up is great and eloquent. Nice advice not only for the OP but for the general folks out there. We all have to discover our inner self worth and pursue that dream. That’s what builds a great nation.

petux:
I had to bring this here maybe I could get some helpful advice here as I am really clueless about what to do about her.

My younger sister is too dull. She is not smart and brilliant at all. She doesn't love studying at all. She is doing so poor in school due to her lackadaisical attitude towards studying. I have tried to talk her and advice her into studying, but she will just looking through it as if she doesn't know what she is reading and all.

During the time she was doing WAEC and NECO, you won't even know she was writting exam. My mum bought textbooks for her but she will end up misplacing them since she won't read them. What she enjoy doing most is just to eat,sleep and all these children story books. She is now fat like Bleep.

I always try to make her study or sometime even force her but there is little I can do for her as I can't put all the book in her head and I am not even always around because I'm in school.

I helped her check her waec result yesterday, and what I saw made me sad. She failed 6 subjects and passed only 3 subjects which she even had only C5 and C6.

I don't know what do to about her because I am tired. I don't want her to gain admission into the university with this kind of spirit because it's not going to help her at all. What can I do for her? How can I help her become more serious and become a better girl. She is 17.

Useful Advices will be highly appreciated.
Mods, please do the needful.

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Why isn't she serious? Have ever bothered whether there's an underlying problem?

She might have a learning disability. Or may just be a slow learner. That's how some people are wired.

What you need is patience.

I was an average student in secondary school but finished with 5 a's and 2 C's in both WAEC and GCE.

Keep trying this and that. Let her learn a trade while she's at home until she gains admission. She can even start a business and be making good cash. You'd be surprised she may shine.

And most importantly, love her unconditionally despite her shortcomings. That's the greatest thing you can do for her, the very best thing you can do for her!

I think you guys failed to correct her on time. its an habit she developed from a very young age maybe during her early days in secondary school and at this age i don't think there is anything you and your family can do about it only if she decides to change her attitude towards school on her own. So i will suggest you advice her on doing other things aside from going to school maybe developing a skills. writing is ok since she loves literature or better still enrol her in a good vocational sch.

petux:
I had to bring this here maybe I could get some helpful advice here as I am really clueless about what to do about her.

My younger sister is too dull. She is not smart and brilliant at all. She doesn't love studying at all. She is doing so poor in school due to her lackadaisical attitude towards studying. I have tried to talk her and advice her into studying, but she will just looking through it as if she doesn't know what she is reading and all.

During the time she was doing WAEC and NECO, you won't even know she was writting exam. My mum bought textbooks for her but she will end up misplacing them since she won't read them. What she enjoy doing most is just to eat,sleep and all these children story books. She is now fat like Bleep.

I always try to make her study or sometime even force her but there is little I can do for her as I can't put all the book in her head and I am not even always around because I'm in school.

I helped her check her waec result yesterday, and what I saw made me sad. She failed 6 subjects and passed only 3 subjects which she even had only C5 and C6.

I don't know what do to about her because I am tired. I don't want her to gain admission into the university with this kind of spirit because it's not going to help her at all. What can I do for her? How can I help her become more serious and become a better girl. She is 17.

Useful Advices will be highly appreciated.
Mods, please do the needful.

Thanks

I sympathize with you on your predicament and I commend you for being actively interested in the academic improvement of your sister. If many Nigerians had siblings like you while growing up they would likely have gone farther in life.

First and foremost, what kind of school does she attend? A low budget private school or a state government school? If it is a standard private school in which the academic performances of her peers there are way beyond hers then there is a serious problem on ground.

Also, what kind of friends does she keep? If the school she attends is not good then I will suggest that you enroll her in the best tutorial center in that area and try to be in touch with the kind of friends she keeps there. Encourage them to carry each other along and try to also inquire about their performances.

Another suggestion I will make is that you and your mom should make her understand the importance of being serious with life at a young age. You can also try out some punitive/reward measures in other to force her to study whether or not she feels like it.

I have a friend that had F9 in English about 10 years ago. After attending one of the best tutorials in our area and with determination, he had A1 in that same English the following year.

Above all don't give up on her.

Plenty bad advice dey this thread sha..

1. Some saying nobody is dull, some people are dull. No long thing about that. You sister may be genetically dull.

2. Saying she doesnt have interest in certain things is the reason why she isnt passing is also crap. 6 F9s out of 9 is an abysmal performance and irrespective of your interests, you should be able to study and get even an C6. Any other advice is crap.

3 Your sister is either one of the following, lazy, unmotivated and unprepared for the future.

Im sure she is the last born. Na so them dey do.
Since she reads some books i think she is just lazy. Even for academically upstanding students, studying can be difficult at times and requires sacrifice. Even geniuses sacrifice their time and energy in studying.

Im going to live you with this small advice.

You sister needs to demonstrate sacrifice in her efforts. and she is obviously too comfortable to appreciate that.

What will happen is she fails?

Will food stop?

Will Daddy bring cane and flog her?

Will pocket money stop?

I guess the answer is No.

So why should she.

Some kids are Natural Starters. They see a future and it motivates them. Your sister does not. So you have to bring that reality to her.

But if your parents are unwilling to make the efforts. Then dont stress yourself.

I'm interested in this.

My younger sister has the same issue. She's currently 18 and just got promoted to JS3. (on merit)

Everyone is tired. Like, literally tired. We're nit motivated anymore. I'm not going to say she's dull cos she can definitely tell what is wrong from right. But mehn.. She's not smart academically. She's changed school countless times cos of this embarrassing issue. Even her junior mates are writing Jamb.

I don't even know what she likes or loves to do.. Probably i could chanel my energy from there.

Guys... What do you advise abeg.

petux:
I had to bring this here maybe I could get some helpful advice here as I am really clueless about what to do about her.

My younger sister is too dull. She is not smart and brilliant at all. She doesn't love studying at all. She is doing so poor in school due to her lackadaisical attitude towards studying. I have tried to talk her and advice her into studying, but she will just looking through it as if she doesn't know what she is reading and all.

During the time she was doing WAEC and NECO, you won't even know she was writting exam. My mum bought textbooks for her but she will end up misplacing them since she won't read them. What she enjoy doing most is just to eat,sleep and all these children story books. She is now fat like Bleep.

I always try to make her study or sometime even force her but there is little I can do for her as I can't put all the book in her head and I am not even always around because I'm in school.

I helped her check her waec result yesterday, and what I saw made me sad. She failed 6 subjects and passed only 3 subjects which she even had only C5 and C6.

I don't know what do to about her because I am tired. I don't want her to gain admission into the university with this kind of spirit because it's not going to help her at all. What can I do for her? How can I help her become more serious and become a better girl. She is 17.

Useful Advices will be highly appreciated.
Mods, please do the needful.

Thanks

hi poster. I think your sister is not an academic person. if you introduce me to her I can help her out. what she needs is just to understand basic maths and English. Then she should be asked what she loves (in terms of skills) and be honed in it. she would need the English to communicate with customers and basic arithmetic to calculate sales money.
Don't look down on her. we can work on her.

She passed three Subjects without studying and yet you call her dull. What will you call her if she had studied well and yet passed only three subjects? Ehh! When she gets Nine F9 you will understand what it means to be dull. My dear, there is nothing wrong with your sister. She is not interested in studying that all. Please don't call her dull again. There are people that have Nine F9 in school, but today, they are CEO's and MD's of companies. Find out what she is interested in, and help her build herself.

petux:
I had to bring this here maybe I could get some helpful advice here as I am really clueless about what to do about her.

My younger sister is too dull. She is not smart and brilliant at all. She doesn't love studying at all. She is doing so poor in school due to her lackadaisical attitude towards studying. I have tried to talk her and advice her into studying, but she will just looking through it as if she doesn't know what she is reading and all.

During the time she was doing WAEC and NECO, you won't even know she was writting exam. My mum bought textbooks for her but she will end up misplacing them since she won't read them. What she enjoy doing most is just to eat,sleep and all these children story books. She is now fat like Bleep.

I always try to make her study or sometime even force her but there is little I can do for her as I can't put all the book in her head and I am not even always around because I'm in school.

I helped her check her waec result yesterday, and what I saw made me sad. She failed 6 subjects and passed only 3 subjects which she even had only C5 and C6.

I don't know what do to about her because I am tired. I don't want her to gain admission into the university with this kind of spirit because it's not going to help her at all. What can I do for her? How can I help her become more serious and become a better girl. She is 17.

Useful Advices will be highly appreciated.
Mods, please do the needful.

Thanks

If your sister dull like Dollywood, I get one special remedy for her.......just brine come make my mama flog sense into her head by 12 midnite her brain go restart well well...?

RiyadhGoddess:
Op you and your mom or any other person in the family should stop forcing her. Just stop it!!! Instead of forcing her, channel all that energy to find out what her interest are. Like you said she loves reading story book so I am very sure that asides story books there might be some other areas of interest that you guys haven't discovered or she haven't discovered or she knows but afraid to talk about it since all you are after is Study Study Study. Find out what she loves(areas of interest) and use that as a tool to bring out the love to study again. Also please get her a mentor. It could be an educational mentor or counselor or something related trust me they will do the work and bring out the best in her. I know a lot of people whose lives changed after seeing one. They are doing well now...
See Op, I use to have a distant cousin who hates to study. He hates school that how he crossed secondary school I don't even know but his parents must have pushed him by force without taking time to know the reasons behind his lazy and unserious attitudes toward studies. The real deal blew out when he got to Uni. Nobody to bribe in the private Uni he was and his grades were so bad. Bad is an understatement. His parents talked and talked, scold and scold for where no changes. He was sent away from school because of his poor performance. Everyone thought that was the end for him. Some were already saying ko lo ko ise mechanic lols. Not until a man visited them and when he heard what happened, he called my distant cousin and spoke to him. The following week my distant cousin began a few weeks mentorship class and that was how my distant cousin in depth passion, interest was discovered. He use to like computer. He just loved playing around computer. He will pieces and fix it, do one thing one thing with the computer but nobody noticed it. When he was in the Uni before being sent away, the only class he loved and enjoyed was CIT and he was a business admin student imagine.
My distant cousin dropped out of school but today he is an IT Guru working with an oil firm. Them dey fight for am sef... I hope he doesn't get to read this...

Another case is a young lady who the parents pushed her all through secondary school but she had no interest but the parents didn't care because she must just go to school by fire by force. She just knew no jack, nothing but the parents had the money for special centres and all. She got into the Uni, the girl just didn't understand what was happening there. She began to skip classes and even miss school. Of course she lots of carry overs. Her mom will come to school and cry and cry until one day during her parents visit to the school, after the usual cry and cry, she told her parents ENOUGH! Stop it! I do not like School. I don't want to be in school but you all keep forcing me. Her parents were shocked. Her room mates and friends tried talking to her to stop it. Her mom cried more saying people will mock them and it's the work of the enemies. Her mom begged her friends to talk to her but this girl begged her parents to stop wasting their money. She said she wants to be a Top Fashion Designer. That was how this girl dropped out of school to pursue her dreams. Her parents are rich, she was sent out of the country to pursue her dreams after the parents got counseled. Today she's a big Time designer.

So Op or whoever reading that is also experiencing this, find out what your passions or area of interest are. It is a tool to bring out the greatness in you. Op find out what your sister likes or even ask her what she wants to become in life, what are her dreams? Start with that. Then we can then use that as a tool to bring out or unlock the greatness in her.
Lastly pls show her love! Not just you but every member of your family. Do not call her, I repeat, do not call her NEGATIVE names.
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Op, I recommend you to read the autobiography of Albert Einstein - arguably the greatest scientist that had ever lived.

So, because she finds "formal" education tedious, you automatically concluded she is dull... Nah. This is why we keep getting it wrong in this country.

Watch how dumb ones will come up with spiritual attachments...

Your sister should be exposed to the kind of education she easily fancies...

okpala95:
I'm interested in this.

My younger sister has the same issue. She's currently 18 and just got promoted to JS3. (on merit)

Everyone is tired. Like, literally tired. We're nit motivated anymore. I'm not going to say she's dull cos she can definitely tell what is wrong from right. But mehn.. She's not smart academically. She's changed school countless times cos of this embarrassing issue. Even her junior mates are writing Jamb.

I don't even know what she likes or loves to do.. Probably i could chanel my energy from there.

Guys... What do you advise abeg.

My wife to be goddess has said it all read it

if everything about her is 'at all' then she is not serious at all.

@petux It looks like she wants to suffer when she’s old. She better take school serious or learn a trade properly else prepare to regret and suffer
Rich or average people don’t have this kind of mentality

Let her go acquire a skill

grandstar:
Why isn't she serious? Have ever bothered whether there's an underlying problem?

She might have a learning disability. Or may just be a slow learner. That's how some people are wired.

What you need is patience.

I was an average student in secondary school but finished with 5 a's and 2 C's in both WAEC and GCE.

Keep trying this and that. Let her learn a trade while she's at home until she gains admission. She can even start a business and be making good cash. You'd be surprised she may shine.

And most importantly, love her unconditionally despite her shortcomings. That's the greatest thing you can do for her, the very best thing you can do for her!

You call finishing with 5As and 2Cs being an average student. hahaha

Please, just learn when she is most receptive and talk to her. Don't nag. Just discuss with her. You may discover useful leads you can act upon.

Not everyone is book smart. The white man noticed the situation recently and expanded their definition of intelligence. At least if one doesn’t fall into book smart-intelligence there are many more they can try their hands at and improve in.

My benchmark for intelligence is very low: can an animal eat when hungry? If it can then it can get trained. In the real world, the real dog-eat-dog world, that is all which matters and nothing else. Humans just bleeped up and made life more difficult than necessary.

I was once like this.....the op should follow the advice from a fellow on the first page.

Op Nobody is dull, she just hasn't found her interest

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Mitocyan:
You call finishing with 5As and 2Cs being an average student. hahaha

I was average. If you wanted to know the best 10 students in my class, I'm sure I wans't one of them.
I was blown away when I checked my scores. My cousin was filled with so much joy that he hugged me.

Some of my classmates wondered why I was still studying for WAEC after getting such marks. Some saw me as strange

Na so e dey easy to sit down, carry book and start reading... Make we no lie ourself, e hard big time...

If truly she wan read, she go find out herself one day..

And if she no wan read, no force her, don't let her sole aim of reading to be because u guyz asked her to read..

Reading is more than "let me read because i want to pass my exam", we all have something in us, the primary aim of reading is to allow us to know more.

Abeg, she is not dull...

If she is, she won't pick up a novel

I guess you don’t wanna sort for her?

What if she’s good in sth else apart from education? At least she can speak and write

petux:
I had to bring this here maybe I could get some helpful advice here as I am really clueless about what to do about her.

My younger sister is too dull. She is not smart and brilliant at all. She doesn't love studying at all. She is doing so poor in school due to her lackadaisical attitude towards studying. I have tried to talk her and advice her into studying, but she will just looking through it as if she doesn't know what she is reading and all.

During the time she was doing WAEC and NECO, you won't even know she was writting exam. My mum bought textbooks for her but she will end up misplacing them since she won't read them. What she enjoy doing most is just to eat,sleep and all these children story books. She is now fat like Bleep.

I always try to make her study or sometime even force her but there is little I can do for her as I can't put all the book in her head and I am not even always around because I'm in school.

I helped her check her waec result yesterday, and what I saw made me sad. She failed 6 subjects and passed only 3 subjects which she even had only C5 and C6.

I don't know what do to about her because I am tired. I don't want her to gain admission into the university with this kind of spirit because it's not going to help her at all. What can I do for her? How can I help her become more serious and become a better girl. She is 17.

Useful Advices will be highly appreciated.
Mods, please do the needful.

Thanks

grandstar:
Why isn't she serious? Have ever bothered whether there's an underlying problem?

She might have a learning disability. Or may just be a slow learner. That's how some people are wired.

What you need is patience.

I was an average student in secondary school but finished with 5 a's and 2 C's in both WAEC and GCE.

Keep trying this and that. Let her learn a trade while she's at home until she gains admission. She can even start a business and be making good cash. You'd be surprised she may shine.

And most importantly, love her unconditionally despite her shortcomings. That's the greatest thing you can do for her, the very best thing you can do for her!

The reason there probably isn't an award for wisest person on Nairaland is because you're already a lifetime winner.

petux:
I had to bring this here maybe I could get some helpful advice here as I am really clueless about what to do about her.

My younger sister is too dull. She is not smart and brilliant at all. She doesn't love studying at all. She is doing so poor in school due to her lackadaisical attitude towards studying. I have tried to talk her and advice her into studying, but she will just looking through it as if she doesn't know what she is reading and all.

During the time she was doing WAEC and NECO, you won't even know she was writting exam. My mum bought textbooks for her but she will end up misplacing them since she won't read them. What she enjoy doing most is just to eat,sleep and all these children story books. She is now fat like Bleep.

I always try to make her study or sometime even force her but there is little I can do for her as I can't put all the book in her head and I am not even always around because I'm in school.

I helped her check her waec result yesterday, and what I saw made me sad. She failed 6 subjects and passed only 3 subjects which she even had only C5 and C6.

I don't know what do to about her because I am tired. I don't want her to gain admission into the university with this kind of spirit because it's not going to help her at all. What can I do for her? How can I help her become more serious and become a better girl. She is 17.

Useful Advices will be highly appreciated.
Mods, please do the needful.

Thanks

She doesn't need to attend university before she can be successful..she can speak and write well so let her go learn a lucrative skill for 2 to 3 years and you'll be glad she did...Too many graduates in the street and give them a second chance 95% will go for a skill.

user4321:
The reason there probably isn't an award for wisest person on Nairaland is because you're already a lifetime winner.

Thanks so much for this. Appreciated

School isn’t for everybody! Assist her there might be sth else she’s good at!

okpala95:
I'm interested in this.

My younger sister has the same issue. She's currently 18 and just got promoted to JS3. (on merit)

Everyone is tired. Like, literally tired. We're nit motivated anymore. I'm not going to say she's dull cos she can definitely tell what is wrong from right. But mehn.. She's not smart academically. She's changed school countless times cos of this embarrassing issue. Even her junior mates are writing Jamb.

I don't even know what she likes or loves to do.. Probably i could chanel my energy from there.

Guys... What do you advise abeg.

grandstar:


I was average. If you wanted to know the best 10 students in my class, I'm sure I wans't one of them.
I was blown away when I checked my scores. My cousin was filled with so much joy that he hugged me.

Some of my classmates wondered why I was still studying for WAEC after getting such marks. Some saw me as strange

Lool it still doesn't mean you are average. It just means you went to a very good school or you were in a class filled with very good students. My department was one of the most competitive department in my university (a fedral university in south west) and out of over 80 students, I don't think up to 5 people had more than 5 As in their O level. So you were not an average student.