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Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by HealingHeart(m): 7:52am On Aug 04, 2019
If you are a young man today struggling with relationship, you might have been advised that you are too much of a "nice guy" and that you need to act like the bad boys - the alpha males - getting all the girls.




Who is the bad boy or alpha male?

These are males with a few good qualities and bad qualities:

Good qualities - assertiveness, not putting women on pedestal, not putting up with women or anyone's crap. Bad qualities - arrogance, stubbornness, unruliness, emotionlessness, manipulative, unforgiving and vindictive, and treating women as inferiors.

Although in practice there are enough men with these qualities succeeding with women. On paper, if you ask most women about men with all these qualities, they'll tell you that they are not attracted to such men.

This is the truth. Women won't be attracted to a mean, miserable monster. UNLESS he has one thing - GOOD LOOKS.

See, for a man to get a woman that loves him enough to want to date or marry him & make love with him, he needs the good looks. Physical attraction is very important, far more than personality.




What do good looks in a man include?

1. Handsome masculine face
2. Decent Height
3. Decent muscle mass - not too skinny or fat
4. Decent penis size

If you're a man rating highly in AT LEAST 2-3 of these areas and average in the other areas, you'll find success in your romantic life. Most of the 'bad boys' getting the girls very likely have the good looks. Most of the 'nice guys' getting rejected or friend-zoned just very likely don't have the good looks to attract the girls.

Proofs Women Prioritize Good Looks

If you have the good looks, you're going to attract women, you don't need to become any alpha. Period. Here are proofs;

1. In online dating platforms, women respond better to men with better looks.
2. Women want beautiful babies and thus, they prefer physically attractive men for long term relationships.
3. Older and financially established but unmarried sugar mommies often pick their toyboys heavily based on looks.

Personality is important in men, especially for the long term, but it is highly overrated. It is a distant second to good looks when women select men.


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Martinez39
kazyhm
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mimimile93 et al.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by HealingHeart(m): 7:54am On Aug 04, 2019
What about Money?

Every man should make money. But look, money can only buy materials, fame, admiration, respect, success, better health, and sex. NOT love or a woman's heart.

With good looks, your money is a bonus for women that are physically attracted to you. But without good looks, your money is what attract women. They are only financially attracted to you. You are just an ATM, your wife is basically like your personal prostitute, who also have babies with you.

Advise to young men

Your looks is the dealbreaker with women. The sooner you accept this, the better for you. You can not really do anything about it. With gym work out or exercise, you might be able to improve your lean muscle mass & accentuate any of your good facial features, but there is not really much the gym can do to help.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by IneedSugarMumy1(m): 7:59am On Aug 04, 2019
Hustle oh make you no dey after your look while Ned and Oshomole go collect your babe from you

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by HealingHeart(m): 8:12am On Aug 04, 2019
IneedSugarMumy1:
Hustle oh make you no dey after your look while Ned and Oshomole go collect your babe from you

I said;

What about Money?

Every man should make money. But look, money can only buy materials, fame, admiration, respect, success, better health, and sex. NOT love or a woman's heart.

With good looks, your money is a bonus for women that are physically attracted to you. But without good looks, your money is what attract women. They are only financially attracted to you. You are just an ATM, your wife is basically like your personal prostitute, who also have babies with you.

All the money in the world won't get you a loving wife, if you look ugly.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by kazyhm(m): 9:48am On Aug 04, 2019
I don't know the rules alpha males follows neither have I come across nor apply any of these online script in real life.....


Contrary to the op opinion on look/appearance attraction.... Yes it get you sex only but not relationship per say....


Talking from experience and observation from friends........what keep a lady can at best be term complicated because its complex to explain


Its neither look nor money that keeps woman...

Myself as an example..... Apparently I'm good look but the sad truth is its most time disadvantageous if you lack self control.....

Relationship cost money but sex is free........
Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by tensazangetsu20(m): 9:52am On Aug 04, 2019
The game is rigged. Advice to men focus on yourself and pursue your interest cause if you fight this fight you cannot win grin

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by HealingHeart(m): 10:22am On Aug 04, 2019
I want to comment again about this money issue because a lot of men and women seem hung up on it. These men(including me) have been lied to all their lives. They were told that women love the 'rich gentleman'. And all their lives, they struggle to improve their finances and personalities hoping that they'll find THE WOMAN.

Many of these men end up frustrated. Because it takes time to become rich. When they become rich, they end up attracting gold diggers. The gold diggers find the men unattractive or ugly but cannot reject them because of their wealth. So they enter into relationship with them.

The repercussion of this is a feeling of dissatisfaction, detachment & unfulfillment by the gold diggers. Any relationship where one partner feels dissatisfied will not prosper.

As a man, once a woman doesn't find you physically attractive, no amount of money can build a prosperous relationship with her.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by ubunja(m): 10:35am On Aug 04, 2019
Alpha all the way
Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by KevinDein: 10:47am On Aug 04, 2019
grin

You can be both...

Look up Sergio Ramos for reference

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by Korllami007: 10:54am On Aug 04, 2019
HealingHeart:
I want to comment again about this money issue because a lot of men and women seem hung up on it. These men(including me) have been lied to all their lives. They were told that women love the 'rich gentleman'. And all their lives, they struggle to improve their finances and personalities hoping that they'll find THE WOMAN.

Many of these men end up frustrated. Because it takes time to become rich. When they become rich, they end up attracting gold diggers. The gold diggers find the men unattractive or ugly but cannot reject them because of their wealth. So they enter into relationship with them.

The repercussion of this is a feeling of dissatisfaction, detachment & unfulfillment by the gold diggers. Any relationship where one partner feels dissatisfied will not prosper.

As a man, once a woman doesn't find you physically attractive, no amount of money can build a prosperous relationship with her.

Op. A girl once said that she will prefer crying in G wagon than laughing while flying Okada. 98% of women in Nigeria will choose oshomole that worth millions of dollars over your good look that worth 50 thousand naira because she knows that dating oshomole will secure the future of hers and children. She knows that she can tour to any country she wants, ride any cars she wants and poverty won't locate her children. Mind you, not every woman that marries a man because of his money that cheats.
Man sexual attraction is based on 50% of his look and 50% of his financial status. But in Nigeria the poverty capital of the world, man sexual attraction is based on 85% of his financial status. If a woman settles for your poor ass in this age, that means the guys hovering around her are in the same pocket range with you. If she's lucky to see a man that can use all your net worth to buy a perfume for her, she won't think twice before leaving you.
My brother, if you like fine pass handsome, you will just be scouting beautiful women for rich potbelly men to marry.
So, guy, go and make money and stop rubbing make up. Get fit not because you want get pu..sy, but you want to stay healthy.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by Boxer007(m): 10:59am On Aug 04, 2019
tensazangetsu20:
The game is rigged. Advice to men focus on yourself and pursue your interest cause if you fight this fight you cannot win grin

Females are useless sir. We males must stick together. Brother do you wear thong?

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by HealingHeart(m): 11:00am On Aug 04, 2019
KevinDein:
grin

You can be both...

Look up Sergio Ramos for reference

You can only make money. You can't change your looks.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by FROGMAN101(m): 11:00am On Aug 04, 2019
You guys just get all these wrong. Are you
Making money to get women or to be fulfilled in life? Until you answer this question you will keep going in a circle.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by HealingHeart(m): 11:05am On Aug 04, 2019
Korllami007:


Op. A girl once said that she will prefer crying in G wagon than laughing while flying Okada. 98% of women in Nigeria will choose oshomole that worth millions of dollars over your good look that worth 50 thousand naira because she knows that dating oshomole will secure the future of hers and children. She knows that she can tour to any country she wants, ride any cars she wants and poverty won't locate her children. Mind you, not every woman that marries a man because of his money that cheats.
Man sexual attraction is based on 50% of his look and 50% of his financial status. But in Nigeria the poverty capital of the world, man sexual attraction is based on 85% of his financial status. If a woman settles for your poor ass in this age, that means the guys hovering around her are in the same pocket range with you. If she's lucky to see a man that can use all your net worth to buy a perfume for her, she won't think twice before leaving you.
My brother, if you like fine pass handsome, you will just be scouting beautiful women for rich potbelly men to marry.
So, guy, go and make money and stop rubbing make up. Get fit not because you want get pu..sy, but you want to stay healthy.

Yeah, I'm hustling for money. But, I've given up counting on my money.
Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by KevinDein: 11:06am On Aug 04, 2019
HealingHeart:


You can only make money. You can't change your looks.
Some hit the gene Jack pot. They've got the looks, they are talented and make tons of money off this talent, leadership also comes natural to them.

My point is one can be very good looking and still be an alpha. The two are not mutually exclusive.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by HealingHeart(m): 11:07am On Aug 04, 2019
tensazangetsu20:
The game is rigged. Advice to men focus on yourself and pursue your interest cause if you fight this fight you cannot win grin

Yea, the game is rigged in favor of those blessed with good looks.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by Nobody: 11:07am On Aug 04, 2019
ubunja:
Alpha all the way


Alpha ko imam nii ... channel ur energy to something else.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by bdsm: 11:15am On Aug 04, 2019
Girls and Guys get attracted to the opposite sex in similar ways:

A girl enjoys a bad boy(alpha male, muscular guy)for flirting or sex relationship but goes for a nice guy for marriage.

A guy loves a bad girl( very confident, curvy and spoilt girl ) for sex relationship but goes for a decent girl for marriage.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by HealingHeart(m): 11:19am On Aug 04, 2019
KevinDein:

Some hit the gene Jack pot. They've got the looks, they are talented and make tons of money off this talent, leadership also comes natural to them.

My point is one can be very good looking and still be an alpha. The two are not mutually exclusive.

OK, but the point of the original post is that young men who keep failing with women are often advised that they can turn the tables by becoming 'alpha males'. If a woman doesn't find a man's face, height or physique to meet her standard, becoming an alpha male won't help him.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by KevinDein: 11:24am On Aug 04, 2019
HealingHeart:


OK, but the point of the original post is that young men who keep failing with women are often advised that they can turn the tables by becoming 'alpha males'. If a woman doesn't find a man's face, height or physique to meet her standard, becoming an alpha male won't help him.
Or you can become really successful and end up with young beauties, no matter your physical deficiencies. Ned, Oshiomole, etc all ended up with stunning women (OK, Regina not so much cheesy) they definitely would never had a chance with simply because the made a success out of their lives.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by Nobody: 11:29am On Aug 04, 2019
Korllami007:


Op. A girl once said that she will prefer crying in G wagon than laughing while flying Okada. 98% of women in Nigeria will choose oshomole that worth millions of dollars over your good look that worth 50 thousand naira because she knows that dating oshomole will secure the future of hers and children. She knows that she can tour to any country she wants, ride any cars she wants and poverty won't locate her children. Mind you, not every woman that marries a man because of his money that cheats.
Man sexual attraction is based on 50% of his look and 50% of his financial status. But in Nigeria the poverty capital of the world, man sexual attraction is based on 85% of his financial status. If a woman settles for your poor ass in this age, that means the guys hovering around her are in the same pocket range with you. If she's lucky to see a man that can use all your net worth to buy a perfume for her, she won't think twice before leaving you.
My brother, if you like fine pass handsome, you will just be scouting beautiful women for rich potbelly men to marry.
So, guy, go and make money and stop rubbing make up. Get fit not because you want get pu..sy, but you want to stay healthy.


You are right my brother @ the same time money can only buy a woman's body i.e you will av are body full time but trust me her heart is somewhere ... from experience my friend stil i had some exes he still bangs even after they married rich dudes.
money is powerful but words do greater magic on women ....the butterflies ,the blushing are all effects of words ...even if everyman hustle we all can't be rich so men should also work on words.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by ednut1(m): 11:34am On Aug 04, 2019
Must your life revolve around women Why not be like mayweather. Make money enjoy your life and f$$k
Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by FROGMAN101(m): 11:44am On Aug 04, 2019
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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by TimiRume(f): 11:47am On Aug 04, 2019
What men don't get is that many women are ready to go into loveless relationships to build legacies for themselves and enjoy what they never had; wealth, fame, trips, etc They would seek the male comfort they never had from your wealth.

Get the money but work on your looks so you can get a wife that is into you don't believe the hype that women are not into looks because they are that is what weakens their hearts and make some ride or die with you.

With your money you can get a wife but a 'loving wife'? slim chance, except she is physically attracted to you.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by Amarabae(f): 11:47am On Aug 04, 2019
Everyone has different taste.
And there is a somebody for everybody

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by MissRaine69(f): 11:53am On Aug 04, 2019
There has to be more to a guy than just looks and his wallet otherwise what do we talk about if he has very low IQ and is good looking? Makeup?
Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by bigpriik: 12:08pm On Aug 04, 2019
HealingHeart:
What about Money?

Every man should make money. But look, money can only buy materials, fame, admiration, respect, success, better health, and sex. NOT love or a woman's heart.

With good looks, your money is a bonus for women that are physically attracted to you. But without good looks, your money is what attract women. They are only financially attracted to you. You are just an ATM, your wife is basically like your personal prostitute, who also have babies with you.

Advise to young men

Your looks is the dealbreaker with women. The sooner you accept this, the better for you. You can not really do anything about it. With gym work out or exercise, you might be able to improve your lean muscle mass & accentuate any of your good facial features, but there is not really much the gym can do to help.

This op is learner with little or no experience with women .if you say money I agree with you
because women are naturally attracted to men with high social status it is called hypergamy and money gives a man social status thus making him attractive to women.
I am not the most attractive amongst my friends but I have a monopoly of women no brags compared to them there are countless of fine boys who are lonely as fuckkk because I understand the summary of what women want,only a minority of women are looks freak and they are mostly teenagers they will later outgrow it when their hypergamous instincts sets in .

since women are hypergamous in nature especially the very pretty ones the pickup artists inventented game to help low social class men get a share of women.in summary attraction is governed by nature every man has a chance of getting laid or finding love if only he is strong in mind E.g confident,masculine, emotionally balanced and assertive these things are attractive to women when a man is fearless,tough and is very sure of his step and destiny women will naturally feel his power and get attracted to him starting from his first approach.....

op stop confusing is ontop confusion abeg.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by HealingHeart(m): 12:08pm On Aug 04, 2019
KevinDein:

Or you can become really successful and end up with young beauties, no matter your physical deficiencies. Ned, Oshiomole, etc all ended up with stunning women (OK, Regina not so much cheesy) they definitely would never had a chance with simply because the made a success out of their lives.

You seem to get me wrong. Here are my points;

Physically attractive males, not alpha males, is what women want.
Money can get a man a woman's body, but not her heart. If she don't find him physically attractive, she won't bond with him. She'll be dissatisfied, begin to resent him, and may end up cheating.

I repeat, all men should make money, for the obvious reason - life is not cheap. But don't count on your money for meaningful relationship if a woman is not physically attracted to you.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by HealingHeart(m): 12:27pm On Aug 04, 2019
bigpriik:


This op is learner with little or no experience with women .if you say money I agree with you
because women are naturally attracted to men with high social status it is called hypergamy and money gives a man social status thus making him attractive to women.

What! Plenty of wealthy men with high status are detested by their wives, some are even not happy in their marriage.

I am not the most attractive amongst my friends but I have a monopoly of women no brags compared to them there are countless of fine boys who are lonely as fuckkk because I understand the summary of what women want,only a minority of women are looks freak and they are mostly teenagers they will later outgrow it when their hypergamous instincts sets in.

I can ask so many questions of this because it is based on pure anecdotes. Also your username, of course, tells a lot about you, enough to confirm my argument.

since women are hypergamous in nature especially the very pretty ones the pickup artists inventented game to help low social class men get a share of women.in summary attraction is governed by nature every man has a chance of getting laid or finding love if only he is strong in mind E.g confident,masculine, emotionally balanced and assertive these things are attractive to women when a man is fearless,tough and is very sure of his step and destiny women will naturally feel his power and get attracted to him starting from his first approach.....

smiley pick up artists have been exposed. Their game only seem to work if the woman is already physically attracted to you or she is just another bimbo.

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Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by Korllami007: 12:27pm On Aug 04, 2019
ericsmith:



You are right my brother @ the same time money can only buy a woman's body i.e you will av are body full time but trust me her heart is somewhere ... from experience my friend stil i had some exes he still bangs even after they married rich dudes.
money is powerful but words do greater magic on women ....the butterflies ,the blushing are all effects of words ...even if everyman hustle we all can't be rich so men should also work on words.

Do you know that if any of your friend's exes married your friend, they would still cheat on your friend with the same rich dudes and with the same reason they left your friend and married the rich dudes if your friend failed to provide for them financially. Unless you want to pretend that rich dudes don't Bleep married women of poor men, which happens every time. Guy, it goes both ways. A woman that will cheat will cheat even if you have both fine face and money together. There are women that have sex with less attractive men and are very low in terms of financial status than their husbands because of their husbands travel a lot or busy with work. Those women have sex with gatemen or drivers. So, what are you going to say about that?
A woman that will cheat will cheat and all she has to do is to look for excuses or reasons to do it.
Re: Women Want Physically Attractive Males, NOT Alpha Males by bigpriik: 12:53pm On Aug 04, 2019
HealingHeart:


What! Plenty of wealthy men with high status are detested by their wives, some are even not happy in their marriage.



I can ask so many questions of this because it is based on pure anecdotes. Also your username, of course, tells a lot about you, enough to confirm my argument.



smiley pick up artists have been exposed. Their game only seem to work if the woman is already physically attracted tfo you or she is just another bimbo.

I don't argue with your type you will keep wallowing in ignorance, tommorow you will come and post another topic based on the same argument men like me think outside the box and face reality of life .most guys who suffer with women do so because they never wanna face reality they keep letting media and society deceive them ,society is just doing business .same society that produce and sell roseflowers,lovecards, wedding rings but will never tell you how to get women love to you for who you are...

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