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Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by Pinky111: 10:49am On Aug 16, 2019
Pls friends I have a man coming for my hand in marriage- US base.

He was a two times divorcee and later came home in 2016 to marry the third who later joined him but the marriage is having issues.He has 4children in all from previous marriage
This man is telling me to have a child for him and possibly marry him that the children over there will never come back to Nigeria. He said he needs an indigenous wife and baby who are going to base in Nigeria until the child gets to 18. He is assuring of financial security and comfort.

He is in his early 70s and I'm 33. The age gap is much coupled with the fact that I don't love him. What should I do ,he is damn serious. On the other hand I'm considering my age. But truth be told I see him as a father figure and least expected the sudden demand for marriage.
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by Kingosytex(m): 10:52am On Aug 16, 2019
cheesycheesycheesycheesycheesy

You don't need any advise, what you need is medication. When last did you take some anti-malaria drugs? i think you have malaria.

The old man in question is a serial divorcee and you don't even love him so what then is gonna be the basis of such marriage? Is it money? or is it the prospect of living in the States? Please, turn down that man, even if he has the key to the Central Bank Of America. There is more to life than just money, turn down that man even if he is living in Jupiter. As long as i am concerned, there is no marriage offer on the table for you yet, that old man is a "NO". Don"t give him a chance in your life, i believe a better person is coming for you.

What makes you think you can succeed where other women have already failed?

You are 33 and you want to be the next Regina Daniels? Why get married to your ancestor when there are young and able bodied men like Kingosytex, NwaAmaikpe and GOFRONT everywhere?

Use your head, if you can't use it then the old man is gonna use it for you. Experience is the best teacher like the saying goes, it doesn't mean you have to let bad thing happen to you before you learn, it simply means you have to learn from the woes that have befallen others. If you can't learn from the woes that befell the former wives of the old man then i can assure you that others will learn from your own experience, If you can't draw experience from the old man's failed marriages then i have no option but to feel sorry for you in advance.


Anybody that tells you to marry that old divorcee is your worst enemy, he or she doesn't wish you well at all. Don't give your p**sy to that old man, he should go and find his mates or better still get himself a s*x toy. You deserve better than a 70+ yr old master divorcee. Turn down the old man completely.

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by empire2017(m): 10:53am On Aug 16, 2019
Follow your heart simple!!!

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by DenreleDave(m): 10:54am On Aug 16, 2019
Another Regina in the making.

If u think that he will die before you and u will inherit his property, I'm glad to announce to dt you are wrong.


Good advice

If you love him, marry him and be prepared also to be a divorcee sooner or later


Bad advice

At 33, u sef don turn evening newspaper hence u r seeing 70 yrs old as an option for you. Wait, are young men of 35 to 40 not coming your way ni, how did u spend ur 23 to 30 years youthful age.

You can marry him and get a side guy incase d old man pack before u... Atleast u r still a young-evening newspaper

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by millionboi2: 10:55am On Aug 16, 2019
Pinky111:
Pls friends I have a man coming for my hand in marriage- US base.

He was a two times divorcee and later came home in 2016 to marry the third who later joined him but the marriage is having issues.He has 4children in all from previous marriage
This man is telling me to have a child for him and possibly marry him that the children over there will never come back to Nigeria. He said he needs an indigenous wife and baby who are going to base in Nigeria until the child gets to 18. He is assuring of financial security and comfort.

He is in his early 70s and I'm 33. The age gap is much coupled with the fact that I don't love him. Which should I do ,he is damn serious. On the other hand I'm considering my age.
don't marry him.


All dat glitter is not gold.

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by millionboi2: 10:56am On Aug 16, 2019
DenreleDave:
Another Regina in the making.

If u think that he will die before you and u will inherit his property, I'm glad to announce to dt you are wrong.


But do whatever makes u happy sha...


ofcuz he wouldn't tell her all truth untill she falls be into his arm.
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by 2dice01: 10:58am On Aug 16, 2019
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by 2dice01: 10:58am On Aug 16, 2019
No love -√√

Age Factor -√√

Moneygram -√√√√√√√√

Nigggas without money be acting like money isnt everything grin

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by Temishams: 10:59am On Aug 16, 2019
You don't love him but you want to get a comfortable life with him because the money is there.

Madam I cant advice you, you know what you want. Marry him Sha am here to give you hot s e x once he as gone back to his base.

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by madridguy(m): 11:00am On Aug 16, 2019
To start with, what is your martial status? Single never married, separated or divorce?
If you're single never married i won't advise you to go into this.

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by Dande55: 11:00am On Aug 16, 2019
Marry him if you want, you won't regret so long he isn't stingy.
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by Pinky111: 11:10am On Aug 16, 2019
madridguy:
To start with, what is your martial status? Single never married, separated or divorce?
If you're single never married i won't advise you to go into this.



Never been married before
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by Pinky111: 11:11am On Aug 16, 2019
DenreleDave:
Another Regina in the making.

If u think that he will die before you and u will inherit his property, I'm glad to announce to dt you are wrong.


Good advice

If you love him, marry him and be prepared also to be a divorcee sooner or later


Bad advice

At 33, u sef don turn evening newspaper hence u r seeing 70 yrs old as an option for you. Wait, are young men of 35 to 40 not coming your way ni, how did u spend ur 23 to 30 years youthful age.

You can marry him and get a side guy incase d old man pack before u... Atleast u r still a young-evening newspaper


AS Genotype issues and disappointments
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by Pinky111: 11:11am On Aug 16, 2019
millionboi2:
don't marry him.


All dat glitter is not gold.


Okay, thanks
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by madridguy(m): 11:20am On Aug 16, 2019
I think its better you settle with someone within your age bracket.
May God direct your path.

Pinky111:


Never been married before

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by Kingosytex(m): 11:22am On Aug 16, 2019
Pinky111:


Okay, thanks

Firstly, you don't love him.


Secondly, he is a chronic divorcee.


Thirdly, he is your great great grand father. Any body that advises you to marry that man is your enemy, he or she doesn't wish you well.

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by Diamond23(f): 11:26am On Aug 16, 2019
Pinky111:
Pls friends I have a man coming for my hand in marriage- US base.

He was a two times divorcee and later came home in 2016 to marry the third who later joined him but the marriage is having issues.He has 4children in all from previous marriage
This man is telling me to have a child for him and possibly marry him that the children over there will never come back to Nigeria. He said he needs an indigenous wife and baby who are going to base in Nigeria until the child gets to 18. He is assuring of financial security and comfort.

He is in his early 70s and I'm 33. The age gap is much coupled with the fact that I don't love him. What should I do ,he is damn serious. On the other hand I'm considering my age. But truth be told I see him as a father figure and least expected the sudden demand for marriage.
chaii sis,
Can u withstand hz wrinkled nd fallen hero, premature Ejection, 1/2 minuets Nd d urge to satisfy urself with younger blood. Pls tink twice before u decide cux u r way to younger for dat type of punishment. Tnk God u said u don’t luv him...... urs will come!
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by Pinky111: 11:29am On Aug 16, 2019
madridguy:
I think its better you settle with someone within your age bracket.
May God direct your path.


Amen thanks. I actually brought it up here after chatting up someone I consider a confidant. The advice he gave me is a bitter pill to swallow. He advised I get pregnant for him and bear him a child. That having children at this my age should be a priority. And I can always get married to a younger guy later in future.
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by DenreleDave(m): 11:32am On Aug 16, 2019
Pinky111:



AS Genotype issues and disappointments


I'm so sorry miss.

But As isn't a big problem though... U can get AA and for the disappointment, it's a stage we all pass through..

But for the old man, be prepared to have some problems later on ooo. If u can tolerate them sha

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by DenreleDave(m): 11:48am On Aug 16, 2019
Pinky111:


Amen thanks. I actually brought it up here after chatting up with someone I consider a confidant. The advice he gave me is a bitter pill to swallow. He advised I get pregnant for him and bore him a child. That having children at this my age should be a priority. And I can always get married to a younger guy later in future.


I'm sorry to say.. Been a single mother at 34 or 35 isn't a pretty thing ooo.. It may be very hard to find a young guy that will marry u.. U can only marry men of 40 to 50 who are divorced too.

The person bad sha, get pregnant sharp sharp like that... Nawa ooo

Even single mothers of 24 to 28 are not getting husbands, na only young boys dey chop them run Comot... Not to talk abt u wey u will go be 40 or even 45 when u start searching for a new man

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by Macqueeny(f): 12:02pm On Aug 16, 2019
Dat person that advice u hate u..u r still young don't be desperate.calm down your man will come don't make a mistake dt u will regret all ur life
.the number of divorce and broken marriages and how men treat women are increasing don't be part of them..you Don't know d reason why he got divorce..don't jump into wat will cost you ur life.. moreover that man is like ur grandpa you won't enjoy that marriage..my dear face your life pray and your own husband will come.may God help u

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by DBestDoc(f): 12:16pm On Aug 16, 2019
Hahaha.
I actually laughed out loud for real. cheesy

So you want to be a 4th Baby mama to an ancestor that is old enough to be your great grand dad at only 33?

For financial security? haa!
God help us.

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by missjo(f): 12:23pm On Aug 16, 2019
Stay away from that septuagenarian Pinky, there nothing for you there.

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by psalmuelwater(m): 1:44pm On Aug 16, 2019
Pinky111:


Amen thanks. I actually brought it up here after chatting up someone I consider a confidant. The advice he gave me is a bitter pill to swallow. He advised I get pregnant for him and bear him a child. That having children at this my age should be a priority. And I can always get married to a younger guy later in future.
Funny Enough, this is my thought!!!
Young Lady, don't waste your time, the next person you might possibly fall in love with can be AS as well.
Get pregnant, don't go for the money, If you have a good job that can take care of you and the child.
This submission is true if there's a younger option.
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by psalmuelwater(m): 1:46pm On Aug 16, 2019
DenreleDave:



I'm so sorry miss.

But As isn't a big problem though... U can get AA and for the disappointment, it's a stage we all pass through..

But for the old man, be prepared to have some problems later on ooo. If u can tolerate them sha
Give her one AA na.

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Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by DenreleDave(m): 1:54pm On Aug 16, 2019
psalmuelwater:
Give her one AA na.

So u think she shud settle with the old man Abi
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by ednut1(m): 2:23pm On Aug 16, 2019
I pity u
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by Charleys: 2:37pm On Aug 16, 2019
DenreleDave:



So u think she shud settle with the old man Abi

She's 33, or do you have another man for her?

OP sheets happens, you've missed it.
This is your level now, but it has a wonderland in it.
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by Nobody: 3:16pm On Aug 16, 2019
my advice, don't marry him. u are likely to be divorced u and your children will have issues with the other wives and their children u will become a widow early how will he take care of all of u


ur husband will come.
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by madridguy(m): 3:20pm On Aug 16, 2019
Having children should be your priority but i will suggest with a good man. How could the person gave such advise, you born now and get a younger man later in future? So after having kids for an old man they you will start searching for a young man! As a sugar boy or what? Are you going to be searching for a single man then or running after someone else husband as a side chic or second wife. What i will say is that you move closer to God to lead you to make the right decision.

Pinky111:


Amen thanks. I actually brought it up here after chatting up someone I consider a confidant. The advice he gave me is a bitter pill to swallow. He advised I get pregnant for him and bear him a child. That having children at this my age should be a priority. And I can always get married to a younger guy later in future.
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by oceanized25(m): 4:31pm On Aug 16, 2019
Pinky111:
Pls friends I have a man coming for my hand in marriage- US base.

He was a two times divorcee and later came home in 2016 to marry the third who later joined him but the marriage is having issues.He has 4children in all from previous marriage
This man is telling me to have a child for him and possibly marry him that the children over there will never come back to Nigeria. He said he needs an indigenous wife and baby who are going to base in Nigeria until the child gets to 18. He is assuring of financial security and comfort.

He is in his early 70s and I'm 33. The age gap is much coupled with the fact that I don't love him. What should I do ,he is damn serious. On the other hand I'm considering my age. But truth be told I see him as a father figure and least expected the sudden demand for marriage.
He is in his early 70's,before your child is 18,won't he have bought his casket already?and you,a wife that stays in Nigeria while he stays abroad,will you have a boy toy keeping body and soul together?
What kinda marriage is this,and you even considering it.....sister I weak for this your matter.
Re: Help Me To Make A Marital Decision by LosC: 4:36pm On Aug 16, 2019
Hello Dear,

I know you want to live in the US but please don't jeopardize your future.
You're young but you need to be Bold.
See, that Papa needs a young blood and not a wife.

Don't ever make the mistake of allowing him into your life and don't collect any material stuff from him,but if you have been accepting money or other things, then you need to stop ASAP, so nothing will speak against you when you finally decline his request.

The devil is actually tempting you but don't fall. Yes, America is a Blessed land, but don't sell your destiny.

You'll find another decent and young African/Nigerian American if you can only make a request and pray to God about it. Tell God you need a good man from US and I'll be waiting for your TESTIMONY.

Don't marry for the future now but for the future later.

SHALOM LOVE.

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