₦airaland Forum

Lovelyn451:
when a guy is 23 and cannot wash his cloth

That would also be an irresponsible guy. And there are many of them in Nigeria.

ednut1:
u teach am noni.

Teaching shouldn't be a problem for me, but wat about the recipient's willingness?? had it bn she's willing to learn she shouldnt b battling with inability to cook, habaa, at 23?? bro dont b dunce pls.
she pass secondary school in her parent ous she no sabi cook.
got admited to uni, living with her friends stil she no sabi cook.
and u say she has d will to learn?? i pity u if u marry such bro.

Joystark:
Everybody should know how to cook.
Both make and female.
Why won't you know how to fix something for yourself to eat?

Eating isn't gender based nau.

Exactly.

In a nutshell, I can never marry a man that cannot cook or do housechores .I do not know about other women but I know for myself, I cannot be working and you expect moi to also handle the domestic affairs alone. Kole werk
He should at least be giving me delicious meals fifteen times a week

Draught:
Yes, I will learn how to cook, I will be cooking everyday.

I will even be sweeping the house everyday, then wash the dishes,
I will still rush out to work and save 30% of my income for me, her and our family ,hell even her own family!

If girls don't know what is expected of them as a fully fledged woman, then i suggest they should sit their a**es down in their father house

Because you women definitely aren't teaching us how to make money or take care of another human being, rent/buy a property...

You know why? Because that's what expected of a Man! Something we learnt innately from our Fathers.

If she can't cook, its a SHAME, you better not encourage your sisters or female friends that cooking isnt sh*t cus if you can't we men will def go to a woman that can cook,

Do an online poll and see how many men will want to date or marry a woman that Can't cook

And just so you know, this isn't a Nigerian men thing, you can go to foreign blogs and do a poll there and see the response.

Ladyhippolyta88:
@bold, not anymore times have changed and are changing, I see the bold as a collective effort from both individuals. Women now work so they should bring something to the table
Everybody has their blueprint I do not believe in society's defined roles enter marriage let you and your wife dtermine your own roles and responsibilities.
You must not follow the bandwagon.
What century do you live in.
Read what I told the other person I quoted with you.

since you've said let my wife and I should determine our role then, you should know where my weight falls

Ladyhippolyta88:
In a nutshell, I can never marry a man that cannot cook or do housechores .I do not know about other women but I know for myself, I cannot be working and you expect moi to also handle the domestic affairs alone. Kole werk
He should at least be giving me delicious meals three times a week

now you are talking... Look for him very well oooo...

WildChild00:
Where are you from? Are you sure you are from Africa? are you married? And do you know the popular saying that the way to a man's heart is via his Tommy? Sis try and learn how to cook or register in training school for cooking, there are lots of slay queens out der Biko.

I hope you also know how to cook. If you don't, you better go and learn. It's no more a gender thing.

why on earth will a woman not know how to cook? is that not shameful? I'm so surprised at the way some ladies are responding to this sensitive issue. Even if your man tolerates such, how do you expect your in-laws and neighbors to view you? Very shameful!

stormborn28:
since you've said let my wife and I should determine our role then, you should know where my weight falls

Meet wifey first so una go sort out that one

Ladyhippolyta88:
I am not, but the thing is that not every lady enjoys cooking so no need to force them. To some cooking comes as a natural talent to some it does not.
Bit then again cooking should not be a gender thing in the 21st century world so men need to learn how to cook too.

21st century kee you dia!!!
So you don't know that there are certain things naturally and Africanly made for men and others made for the women? Who talked about men not knowing how to cook..abeg...swerve.

Awon feminist

OkwuruOKARISIA:
21st century kee you dia!!!
So you don't know that there are certain things naturally and Africanly made for men and others made for the women? Who talked about men not knowing how to cook..abeg...swerve.

Awon feminist

Who cares about african nature whatever.
Certainly not me.
So yes my man is not the typical african, egoistic, myopic, backward what have you type of man.
So your opinion ain't needed.
So swerve.

stormborn28:
now you are talking... Look for him very well oooo...

Thank you, jare.

ednut1:
As a man can't you cook also

Am a very good cook but I can't Marry a lady that can't cook.

Imagine coming home with your friends and your wife be like "Honey, Remember you haven't prepare dinner, the children and I are hungry"

Not necessary for a woman to know how to cook

Like seriously, my experience 3 days ago, brought her home, told her to enter the kitchen, I suggested she cooked white rice come and see the way she screamed that she will like to prepare spaghetti, I said no no wahala. Gave the househelp 3k to get everything she would ever needed. Lo and behold, sadly my girlfriend can't even boiled eggs. I couldn't eat the spag the lil I ate I Pudge all nights


I stylishly yab her sha she s 25 fa because all she knows is to form, I'm not made for stress and all I be like make I check next bus stop o, this one na no go area


I no it's a no no no go Area



Cooking is one of the least thing I can do, I can cook anything no hype o I started cooking since I was pry 2 because I stayed with my brother through out my pry and secondary School days. I would never believe this story until it happened to me o so hilarious

Divineayo:
In America it may not be necessary, in some culture a lady learning to keep the house clean is necessity , in royal house of England a lady does not need to know how to cook but she must have charisma , and learn to carry and present herself as royalty. But here inside this naija, a woman wey no fit cook na shit� infact no real naija mother will want her son to marry a woman that cannot cook .

Wrong about America. It's actually more necessary to know how to fix your meal in the US than in Nigeria. This is because it is less common to have house help or servant in the US than in Nigeria. In the US, only the super rich can afford house help. So the average American male or female usually knows how to, at least, fix their own meal.
In Nigeria, the average Joe has a house help (mostly under age relatives that are usually poorly treated).

Ladyhippolyta88:
I am not, but the thing is that not every lady enjoys cooking so no need to force them. To some cooking comes as a natural talent to some it does not.
Bit then again cooking should not be a gender thing in the 21st century world so men need to learn how to cook too.

And ladies should learn how to provide too if that's the case. Hope you don't mourn over this. How do you expect a man to provide and still do the cooking? what's your use then being a wife? please for your own good, erase this mentality from your brain so you don't become a laughing stock. All those guys ranting jabs of 'it doesn't mater' will still be the first to escalate.

giggspro:
She is a disgrace to womanhood... My sister of 16 can cook different types of food.

I hope you too, can cook. That would be irresponsible if you cannot.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Every individual should learn how to do chores irrespective of gender.

Who's saying "every individual" shouldn't learn how to do their chores?
I'm asking why at 23 a lady shouldn't know how to cook?
What was she doing when her mom was cooking for the passed 23 years?
You're dodging my question and responding with something else.

yeyeosoronga:
Women need to learn to be independent financially.
Your life is yours. If you don't like cooking, then don't cook. If you have your money, you can always outsource cooking and cleaning and at the same time help build someone else's business (Yes, there are businesses where they cook and deliver, do housecleaning etc). We have male cooks, male housekeepers. If you want male staff, you can request for them from the company.
Every page you open on instagram these days is filled with people cooking for homes and delivering them. Some deliver nice soups from UK to America, Dubai and different places in the world. That's the beauty of technology and advancement. Your cravings can be met within the twinkling of an eye.
Cooking should never be gender specific. You don't need special brains, hands to cook, same as you don't need anything different or special to eat.
Why waste precious time on such mundane things that can easily be outsourced?
If you love cooking, that's great. You will always gladly do what you love. If you don't, then don't bother yourself. If it's noodles that you just add the spices, water and put in microwave for 5minutes to eat and stay alive, by all means do so.

It's not about whether one likes to cook or not. It's about knowing how to cook. It's irresponsible for anyone to not know how to prepare a meal for themselves. It's not a gender thing though.

OlawaleBammie:
Teaching shouldn't be a problem for me, but wat about the recipient's willingness?? had it bn she's willing to learn she shouldnt b battling with inability to cook, habaa, at 23?? bro dont b dunce pls.
she pass secondary school in her parent ous she no sabi cook.
got admited to uni, living with her friends stil she no sabi cook.
and u say she has d will to learn?? i pity u if u marry such bro.

no be cooking go determine is marriage work or not. Teach am lol

PrimadonnaO:
Her mother first... who didn't teach a growing child what she needed to know.

Then the adult who grows up and still refused to learn for herself what she needs to know.

Using myself as an instance, growing up we didn't eat a variety of foods... nobody in my house liked swallow so my mum rarely prepared soups... the few occasions she did, they were mostly three soups... egusi, banga soup and pepper soup. My kid bro hated anything that had okro or was stretchy... the others had their peculiar dislikes, that was why my mum narrowed things down to the three generally-eaten options.

But when I got into uni, I saw that people cooked several other varieties of foods... and sometimes in better ways than they were prepared in my house. I took it upon myself to learn... I'll cook stuff even though I know I'll barely eat it... then distribute to my neighbours.
And practice makes perfect.

Now, I can whip up so many things that I crave... I think I can cook at least 10 soups... plus all the bakes and pastries.

you have my respect dear. very encouraging...thumbs up!

halogate:
..actually it's Smirnoff ice and its cos domestic work is done.
.there's more to life u say?..oya eat only indomie for the next 6months let's see how far u can take it.
..don't wash ur clothes or clean ur room for one month.
..leave ur toilet unwashed for the next 3 months..
when u are satisfied with the results..then I'll take u serious

I have people that come in to clean, so that's covered.
I enjoy cooking, but I like quick indomie just plain, microwaved early in the morning with tea, and I'm fine with that for 6 months straight, but I can always replace with some toast or sandwich. I also have people that can deliver meals just a phone call away on days I can't be bothered to cook. So that's covered!
Because you don't cook doesn't mean you'll starve. Because you don't personally do laundry doesn't mean you wear dirty clothes, and because you don't clean doesn't mean your home will be dirty.
All these can be outsourced which is kinda my point.

Ladyhippolyta88:
In a nutshell, I can never marry a man that cannot cook or do housechores .I do not know about other women but I know for myself, I cannot be working and you expect moi to also handle the domestic affairs alone. Kole werk
He should at least be giving me delicious meals fifteen times a week

Lol, I see what you did there, well done.

You might hate this fact but only when you embrace it can you know how to be successful in a relationship.

**A Man is the head and the woman is there to support him**

poseidon12:
Wrong about America. It's actually more necessary to know how to fix your meal in the US than in Nigeria. This is because it is less common to have house help or servant in the US than in Nigeria. In the US, only the super rich can afford house help. So the average American male or female usually knows how to, at least, fix their own meal.
In Nigeria, the average Joe has a house help (mostly under age relatives that are usually poorly treated).

Hmm, you are right

My 23year old niece honestly can't cook. Only indomine, white rice and stew? Fried yam plantain....

But she speaks Korean and French. She's also a first class graduate with several job offers so what the neck with cooking, she said she'll employ a cook or eat out

Ladyhippolyta88:
Who cares about african nature whatever.
Certainly not me.
So yes my man is not the typical african, egoistic, myopic, backward what have you type of man.
So your opinion ain't needed.
So swerve.
Thank you, jare.

Don't waste ur time replying them. Cooking is good and I cook very well but it's no longer a relevant skill required for the 21st century young woman for survival as she has other skills

enambobo:
And ladies should learn how to provide too if that's the case. Hope you don't mourn over this. How do you expect a man to provide and still do the cooking? what's your use then being a wife? please for your own good, erase this mentality from your brain so you don't become a laughing stock. All those guys ranting jabs of 'it doesn't mater' will still be the first to escalate.

@bold, how do you expect a woman to be working and do the hpusechores alone on a regular abi oga nor fit help out.
Nah fon't tell me what to do I have men arpund me who cook. I know a lady who doesn't cook she has a help and her husband helps out. The man is not jobless.
Just because you cannot do it does not mean some of your fellow men do not and it does not make them less of a man

poseidon12:
It's not about whether one likes to cook or not. It's about knowing how to cook. It's irresponsible for anyone to not know how to prepare a meal for themselves. It's not a gender thing though.

I agree it's a great skill to have, but some people are not just interested, and they haven't starved to death. They even eat better than some so called professional cooks.

YelloweWest:
Don't waste ur time replying them. Cooking is good and I cook very well but it's no longer a relevant skill required for the 21st century young woman for survival as she has other skills

Thank you mama

YelloweWest:
My 23year old niece honestly can't cook. Only indomine, white rice and stew? Fried yam plantain....

But she speaks Korean and French. She's also a first class graduate with several job offers so what the neck with cooking, [b]she said she'll employ a cook or eat out]/b]

Oh my this is definitely what I have in mind@bold
I can cook but I do not find any joy in it. It bores me to be honest.My cooking is within average or below average.

Tell this to your husband or future husband and stop corrupting the minds of young ladies who deserve good husbands /family

Ladyhippolyta88:
Not everywoman knows how to cook. It does not make such woman less of a woman if she is interested she can learn or get someone to be doing the cooking. I see nothing wrong there.
Men should learn how to cook to complement the ladies effort

Offpoint:
Who's saying "every individual" shouldn't learn how to do their chores?

I'm asking why at 23 a lady shouldn't know how to cook?

What was she doing when her mom was cooking for the passed 23 years?

You're dodging my question and responding with something else.

Maybe she was doing other relevant things that would add value to her life other than cooking, ask her not me. By the way, do you know if it was her mom doing the cooking.

Ladyhippolyta88:
I have nothing against this.
I have never been in support of only guys buying gifts for their women.
So the joke is on you.

What's this one saying?


some of you are so dumb that you argue for the sole aim of arguing alone