Jayslicky:
Yes a wife should submit her salary to her man, she should also submit her pvssy, her love, her time and most importantly her life to her man.

The woman belongs to the man, so far he has paid her bride price. Anything the man tells his woman she should do, she must do it, if he tells her to eat grass she must do it, if he tells her to kneel down to serve his food she must do it.

A man is a Lord while a woman is a maid.

modern day slavery

I find this degrading

ZIMDRILL:


if they dont agree they need to back to drawing board and find a way to agree to knew thing that work for both

in this case he is saying she wants her own house, lets forget about the car because if money is there you can have cars in family one for each but for me when comes to marriage you can not say this is house my house and that one is hers

nothing wrong with having many properties aka house but having them in personal names while you are married is not a good idea

she wants her own house may be the house is in his name only thats why she feels insecure WHY? (from the few responds i see here when it comes to properties aka house when the husband dies, husband's relatives will kick the window out take over the house etc ) so her solution would be having her own house just in case

But eg if the husband puts both there name on the property she feel secure because in the even he dies before her, she will legally the owner of the house and kids would have a roof on there head

so sometimes it is us men we make our women insecure because we do not involve them in financial decision of the future, therefore they try to have secret future plans in case the worst happen

i agree that sometimes we need to sacrifice personal happiness for marriage to work but its always better to lead by example eg you as the husband lead by sacrificing first

Why should a wife be thinking of the aftermath of her husband's death. She is the next of kin to all our properties. Woman and their thinking pattern!

The way things are going many single men will prefer to remain single and have baby mamas here and there.

jarmy:
Good day House.

Please, I need the response of only married couples.

Also, kindly indicate your sex.

My wife and I have been married for about 10 years now. We are blessed with two kids.
During courtship, we agreed that we will have a joint budget which will be funded by the income of both of us.

Initially, I was the only one working, with take-home pay of 40k. She then got a job of about 36k. back then, she would
withdraw her salary and hand it over to me. What I usually do is to hand it over to her and ask her to use it for feeding
while I take care of all other expenses with my salary.

My salary is now about 95k and her's 65k. Our children's school fees, house rent, feeding etc have all increase, no thanks to the current economic realities!

My wife stopped handing over are salary and insisted that I should be giving her feeding money. I clearly explained to her that my income can not accommodate feeding, for now, explaining clearly how I spend my salary and other income but she still insisted that I should be giving her feeding money

The thing is she is into so many saving schemes, without my approval. She just wants to save money!
She is insecure and doesn't trust me. She wants her own stuff: her own car, her own house, etc.

I have never cheated on her, I pay the rents, school fees, paid for her post-graduate programme, buy foodstuffs occasionally etc.

What should I do?

Oga please read
https://www.nairaland.com/1980256/husbands-demand-wives-submit-salaries

jarmy:
Why should a wife be thinking of the aftermath of her husband's death. She is the next of kin to all our properties. Woman and their thinking pattern!

The way things are going many single men will prefer to remain single and have baby mamas here and there.

its because of the environment she is aka she has seen other women loosing the house they built together with her husband simply because of 1 the house in her husband's name 2 inheritance after the death of a husband is dealt with traditionally whereby the relative of late takes everything instead of law letting the surviving spouse aka wife takeover everything

you see in zimbabwe where i am
from between 1990-2000 aids killed so man married man and most of the surviving spouse aka the wife lost properties due the traditional ways of dealing with surviving spouse, the late husband relatives takeover most properties and sold them etc

there even a movie made for awareness of how to deal with such issue, teaching people to respect and let the surviving spouse inherit her late husband's properties weather they were married traditionally or civil

so from 2000 and onwards most parents would encourage their daughters to have a civil
wedding, that would protect their daughter in the case the husband dies, the civil wedding protects a surviving spouse no relative would take anything (law wise) in case their is greedy relatives who would have admired the late's husband properties etc


so the wife would think of the aftermath becoz of how society is dealing with the death of a husband and husband is not also showing the wife that their future is safe in case he dies 1st

zeb04:
Oga everybody is polygamous by nature, everyone likes the thrill of something new. Everyone would like to know what variety taste like.

Take your case for example if you cheat, you loose money even though you are barely surviving.

If she cheats, she enjoys the dick and maybe get some “ Thanks for coming money”. So uncle you might want to respect yourself.

For your 2nd question, as long I take care of my own part of the bargain, he doesn’t care about the rest.

Babe, I love your third paragraph.


You are pretty BTW.

jarmy:
Ok. but is it ideal for the husband alone to foot all the bills at home? What should a working wife do with her income? I have seen wives that built a house without the husband's knowledge. If you are married to such, would you be happy?

Something must have triggered this attitude of hers, and it might be your attitude towards her. Honestly, with what is happening in marriages these days, most women are insecure in their homes, as most men have taken to adultery, hence women borrowing sense this days to secure themselves in case of any eventuality. I think it is your duty as the husband to take care of your family while she supports you as the helpmate but to support person no be by force; hence, you have to lovingly talk to her in the language she will grab. Hubby doesn't ask me of my salary.. yet he takes care of the feeding and the children's school fees while on my own, I take care of the children's clothing, making their hair, undies and some other little things... Just budget your salary to take care of your family in the best way you can.. don't depend on her salary... leave her to her conscience... You can give her like 35 or 40k for the feeding every month while you make do with the remaining 50k. May God perfect your home amen...
Please, kindly Ignore any words of mine that aren't ok with you.. just trying to make a common sense

jarmy:
Why should a wife be thinking of the aftermath of her husband's death. She is the next of kin to all our properties. Woman and their thinking pattern!

The way things are going many single men will prefer to remain single and have baby mamas here and there.

Why shouldn’t she? You yourself should be thinking of the aftermath of your own death. I don’t understand why a lot of Nigerian men act like they are immortal. Oga whether you think of it or not, you will die! And you don’t know when it’s going to happen.
Anyone (both men and women) with young kids should give some thought to what’s going to happen to their family when they die. And if they can, they should have some plan (save money, invest, build house e.t.c) to cushion the suffering of their offspring when they die.
This is common sense, but you see Nigerian man, the moment wife starts talking about will, he will say she is trying to kill him. Mtchew.

jarmy:
Good day House.

Please, I need the response of only married couples.

Also, kindly indicate your sex.

My wife and I have been married for about 10 years now. We are blessed with two kids.
During courtship, we agreed that we will have a joint budget which will be funded by the income of both of us.

Initially, I was the only one working, with take-home pay of 40k. She then got a job of about 36k. back then, she would
withdraw her salary and hand it over to me. What I usually do is to hand it over to her and ask her to use it for feeding
while I take care of all other expenses with my salary.

My salary is now about 95k and her's 65k. Our children's school fees, house rent, feeding etc have all increase, no thanks to the current economic realities!

My wife stopped handing over are salary and insisted that I should be giving her feeding money. I clearly explained to her that my income can not accommodate feeding, for now, explaining clearly how I spend my salary and other income but she still insisted that I should be giving her feeding money

The thing is she is into so many saving schemes, without my approval. She just wants to save money!
She is insecure and doesn't trust me. She wants her own stuff: her own car, her own house, etc.

I have never cheated on her, I pay the rents, school fees, paid for her post-graduate programme, buy foodstuffs occasionally etc.

What should I do?

Oga

In all sincerity, what changed?

What turned an open loving wife to one who hoards her salary, saved and wants more from you?

What made her stop trusting you?

jarmy:
Why should a wife be thinking of the aftermath of her husband's death. She is the next of kin to all our properties. Woman and their thinking pattern!

The way things are going many single men will prefer to remain single and have baby mamas here and there.

Please Sir, refer to this thread.
https://www.nairaland.com/5316341/how-recover-funds-accounts-deceased

ThothHermes:
Are you a woman

Or gay

Muttleylaff is Buda female

He insinuated he was female some months ago. I tend to believe it is true

LoJ:

He insinuated he was female some months ago. I tend to believe it is true

Should it not be she

jarmy:
Just watch National Geographic Channel, you will understand. A man is till sexually active even at 100, some men can have erection by mere looking at a woman

Is it the same national geographic channel that shows female animals receiving dick from different male species?
Abeg, let's hear word. If it's about how animals behave, many female species are polygamous in nature.
2ndly, with your mindset, one cannot blame your wife for not trusting you with her money

jarmy:
She has a personal mutual fund account and another saving scheme at her place of work.

I have worked hard to ensure that we complete our own house but she sees the house as mine and not ours

The house is indeed yours, and she can be driven out of it anytime by the time it's completed.
She completely understands the Nigerian system and that is why she keeps her money from you.
You also have a mentality that you are naturally polygamous. She is calculating in her head why she should contribute to a house where she is just a tenant, and a cowife/cotenant can be brought in to her

Jayslicky:
Yes a wife should submit her salary to her man, she should also submit her pvssy, her love, her time and most importantly her life to her man.

The woman belongs to the man, so far he has paid her bride price. Anything the man tells his woman she should do, she must do it, if he tells her to eat grass she must do it, if he tells her to kneel down to serve his food she must do it.

A man is a Lord while a woman is a maid.

Hmm...
I fear the kind life of one with such view. May our sisters not fall in kinda trap of such view. My sisters and mother are not maid. They are queens.

jarmy:
For only married couples, please!

budaatum:
Should I get my husband to respond instead?

ThothHermes:
Are you a woman

Or gay

Muttleylaff is Buda female

ThothHermes, because budaatum identifies, acknowledges and expresses his feminine side of him does not make budaatum any less of a man than he already is.

budaatum is a virile non-gay manly man, he is a conscious person and so happens to have no qualms, expressing and being in touch with his feminine side

LoJ:
He insinuated he was female some months ago. I tend to believe it is true

Us human beings are fearfully and wonderfully made, wonderful works of God. We are all complex creatures, and yes, we have characteristics which whether by nurture or nature are associated with the two genetic sexes, as in male and female, and so another yes, we all, at one time or occasionally talk about or express a spectrum of those characteristics to a greater or lesser degrees and so why budaatum usually does same about his anima (i.e. talk about his feminine parts of his personality, persona, attractiveness and make-up)

MuttleyLaff:




ThothHermes, because budaatum identifies, acknowledges and expresses his feminine side of him does not make budaatum any less of a man than he already is.

budaatum is a virile non-gay manly man, he is a conscious person and so happens to have no qualms, expressing and being in touch with his feminine side

Us human beings are fearfully and wonderfully made, wonderful works of God. We are all complex creatures, and yes, we have characteristics which whether by nurture or nature are associated with the two genetic sexes, as in male and female, and so another yes, we all, at one time or occasionally talk about or express a spectrum of those characteristics to a greater or lesser degrees and so why budaatum usually does same about his anima (i.e. talk about his feminine parts of his personality, persona, attractiveness and make-up)

ThothHermes:

You look like you're scratching your head and gotten more confused than you already were. I am sorry that I didn't keep quiet and now only worsened the matter

MuttleyLaff:
You look like you're scratching your head and gotten more confused than you already were. I am sorry that I didn't keep quiet and now only worsened the matter

Exactly.

He's a man until proven otherwise.

ThothHermes:
Exactly.

He's a man until proven otherwise.

Trust me please, at least for the sake of you know I can't ever knowingly lie to you. Budaatum is as man as you and I are, if not more than most men are, and that's for having no qualms expressing and identifying with his feminine side, just as much as some of we men usually do.

ThothHermes, if his missus, is the one who wears the trousers in the home, then means budaatum has got a husband on his hands, its just as simple as that. Capisce now?

LordPherule:


Hmm...
I fear the kind life of one with such view. May our sisters not fall in kinda trap of such view. My sisters and mother are not maid. They are queens.

Dude don't take it too serious, I was just being sarcastic.

LordPherule:


Hmm...
I fear the kind life of one with such view. May our sisters not fall in kinda trap of such view. My sisters and mother are not maid. They are queens.

And men are pigs!

MuttleyLaff:
Trust me please, at least for the sake of you know I can't ever knowingly lie to you.

Sorry, but you cannot be trusted to have done sufficient research to ensure you have not unknowingly lied!

budaatum:
Sorry, but you cannot be trusted to have done sufficient research to ensure you have not unknowingly lied!

Whatever you say budaatum. However you want it.

ThothHermes, never lie to yourself because the most dangerous lies, are ones, you tell yourself. Denial is the worst kind of lie, because its a lie you tell yourself

Jayslicky:
Dude don't take it too serious, I was just being sarcastic.

Only few saw the sacarsm in your post. Nigerian's are too emotional, damn!

yeyeosoronga:


The house is indeed yours, and she can be driven out of it anytime by the time it's completed.
She completely understands the Nigerian system and that is why she keeps her money from you.
You also have a mentality that you are naturally polygamous. She is calculating in her head why she should contribute to a house where she is just a tenant, and a cowife/cotenant can be brought in to her

I taught marriage should be about trust.

ststyreal:

Something must have triggered this attitude of hers, and it might be your attitude towards her. Honestly, with what is happening in marriages these days, most women are insecure in their homes, as most men have taken to adultery, hence women borrowing sense this days to secure themselves in case of any eventuality. I think it is your duty as the husband to take care of your family while she supports you as the helpmate but to support person no be by force; hence, you have to lovingly talk to her in the language she will grab. Hubby doesn't ask me of my salary.. yet he takes care of the feeding and the children's school fees while on my own, I take care of the children's clothing, making their hair, undies and some other little things... Just budget your salary to take care of your family in the best way you can.. don't depend on her salary... leave her to her conscience... You can give her like 35 or 40k for the feeding every month while you make do with the remaining 50k. May God perfect your home amen...
Please, kindly Ignore any words of mine that aren't ok with you.. just trying to make a common sense

Thank you.

Some have advised me NOT to depend on my wife's income for anything. Well, that means she equally have not right to question how I spend my money. Is that not separation?

I think this will create gaps in our home.

The best thing is for her to tell me how much she is willing to put on the table.

We both will then discuss what we intend to do with our income for the month or year. This is very import in a home. A man should know the financial status of his wife and vice versa . Many bankers have become rich due to financial secrets in homes.

Manner of approach also matters.

jarmy:
Good day House.

Please, I need the response of only married couples.

Also, kindly indicate your sex.

My wife and I have been married for about 10 years now. We are blessed with two kids.
During courtship, we agreed that we will have a joint budget which will be funded by the income of both of us.

Initially, I was the only one working, with take-home pay of 40k. She then got a job of about 36k. back then, she would
withdraw her salary and hand it over to me. What I usually do is to hand it over to her and ask her to use it for feeding
while I take care of all other expenses with my salary.

My salary is now about 95k and her's 65k. Our children's school fees, house rent, feeding etc have all increase, no thanks to the current economic realities!

My wife stopped handing over are salary and insisted that I should be giving her feeding money. I clearly explained to her that my income can not accommodate feeding, for now, explaining clearly how I spend my salary and other income but she still insisted that I should be giving her feeding money

The thing is she is into so many saving schemes, without my approval. She just wants to save money!
She is insecure and doesn't trust me. She wants her own stuff: her own car, her own house, etc.

I have never cheated on her, I pay the rents, school fees, paid for her post-graduate programme, buy foodstuffs occasionally etc.

What should I do?

The biggest cost of all is feeding. To feed 4 mouths on that salary is no easy thing.
Rent is probably paid once a year.
School fees is paid once in a term.
Food is eaten everyday!!
It is expensive and gulping down all the 65k.
Take some money out of your salary and give to her monthly to support the running of the home.

budaatum:

And men are pigs!

We are kings!

Jayslicky:
Dude don't take it too serious, I was just being sarcastic.

Oh lol
That scares me...

Jayslicky:
Yes a wife should submit her salary to her man, she should also submit her pvssy, her love, her time and most importantly her life to her man.

The woman belongs to the man, so far he has paid her bride price. Anything the man tells his woman she should do, she must do it, if he tells her to eat grass she must do it, if he tells her to kneel down to serve his food she must do it.

A man is a Lord while a woman is a maid.

...I pity d unlucky woman that will marry u