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Omojudy:
Maybe she feels you just don’t trust her? Can u try looking past the dressing as long as her privates are well covered and focus on showing her love? I wouldn’t want my man always reporting me or nagging over my dressing. The report go vex me pass.

http://astrongnigerianwoman.com/

But you are addressed the way you dress. Dressing well doesn't mean covering your privates only.

Although, I believe like someone said earlier, she has always dressed that way while they were dating but the op formed a blind eye.

Omojudy:
Maybe she feels you just don’t trust her? Can u try looking past the dressing as long as her privates are well covered and focus on showing her love? I wouldn’t want my man always reporting me or nagging over my dressing. The report go vex me pass.

http://astrongnigerianwoman.com/

But you are addressed the way you dress. Dressing well is not all about private part covering.

Although, I feel the op's wife has always dressed that way even while they were courting but the op probably overlooked it thinking she would change.

Omojudy:
Maybe she feels you just don’t trust her? Can u try looking past the dressing as long as her privates are well covered and focus on showing her love? I wouldn’t want my man always reporting me or nagging over my dressing. The report go vex me pass.

http://astrongnigerianwoman.com/

why will a married man look pass his wife dressing?,,you dress the way you want to be addressed

SmellingAnus:
Op in as much as you may want the best for her and your marriage, this is a battle you can't win just by being like a dictator... It's obvious you already lost your home so if you still value your home, let this matter be before you develop BP ... Know that if you die, she will still move on ...

he can call it quits!!

emmaodet:
Lol but with that trend and action, that means divorce rate go sky rocket be that oooooo

just try Google what causes high BP in married men, ND u will b surprise to see that their wife is one of them, bro divorce or not, divorce is not meant to kill a person, since u feel ur position as a man is been seen As a trash then d best after much settling and it still changes nothing, it's to part way, that's the truth,

I understand fully well most women are turning into working class too to also beat their chest at their husband of what a man can do a woman can do better, thereby challenging the position of a man,

man way kw himself if such woman bring such around him just show her d door, Atleast she is well to do, and can survive on her own

Souqwaqif:
Thanks man,as simple as that. I have always been the one reconciling even when she goes wrong,I do everything possible to save situation because of our little daughter now I will stand like a gentle man,invite or visit her family and let them know I am no longer interested until she apologises for insulting me and change from bad influence.






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bro do the needfull, ur woman has to grow up, marriage no b Cinderella and the prince,if she kws wat a disfunctional home is, am sure she will fight everything against it, she will not only trumatize u but na the kid go hear am pass,

u need to call for a family meeting, it's very important, if she isn't prepared for marriage then she should voice it out in d meeting, like they say nobody is perfect even u dear op u are not perfect, but when wat an average or even a blind man knows is wrong and u refuse to listen to correction then, u just hate been corrected, in other words it's best she stays on her own,

I had the intention of dating a girl that was just an ssce holder but I noticed that each time I advise her on an issue, she always feel am laughing at her or am making gest of her, so I just had to end d relationship, though I am a BSc holder, I already knew wat the marriage will b like settling for such, such a person, telling her to always turn of the gas, she will definitely see like u day laugh her, and I think it's because of her level of thinking,


dear op, if u don't hold a morning devotion please start one from tomorrow, it doesn't matter if u hardly go to church, put guy man life aside, na ur kid be ur priority, a praying family stays together,

happy Sunday

djoe21:
But you are addressed the way you dress. Dressing well is not all about private part covering.

Although, I feel the op's wife has always dressed that way even while they were courting but the op probably overlooked it thinking she would change.

Yes. That’s a problem with many marriages. Spouses will over look something because they want someone thinking when we marry I will force them to change!

larryking540:
just try Google what causes high BP in married men, ND u will b surprise to see that their wife is one of them, bro divorce or not, divorce is not meant to kill a person, since u feel ur position as a man is been seen As a trash then d best after much settling and it still changes nothing, it's to part way, that's the truth,

I understand fully well most women are turning into working class too to also beat their chest at their husband of what a man can do a woman can do better, thereby challenging the position of a man,

man way kw himself if such woman bring such around him just show her d door, Atleast she is well to do, and can survive on her own

I understand u bro.
In my area, atleast i know of 4 people that died last year of kidney failure due to HP and overthinking caused by there wives.
One of them that was close to me was always complaining bitterly about his wife attitude until he died last year, really liked the man.
Funny enough, some of them were already fvcking codedly before the men died.
It is a shame what our women are turning into.
They are suppose to support and help together but the reverse is the case.
Funny enough, when they divorce and stay alone, they can't still feed and take care of themselves alone without fvcking men to support and augment there lives.
What a shame

emmaodet:
I understand u bro.
In my area, atleast i know of 4 people that died last year of kidney failure due to HP and overthinking caused by there wives.
One of them that was close to me was always complaining bitterly about his wife attitude until he died last year, really liked the man.
Funny enough, some of them were already fvcking codedly before the men died.
It is a shame what our women are turning into.
They are suppose to support and help together but the reverse is the case.
Funny enough, when they divorce and stay alone, they can't still feed and take care of themselves alone without fvcking men to support and augment there lives.
What a shame

bullshit career woman stuff, who career woman don help, I told a lady on this forum that most ladies that give their husband uncalled for headache and later end up divorcing last last regret it,they sometimes think they can survive on their own, when the bills which ur husband chest out on his own without asking for ur help, then u start taking responsibility, then u will know what u signed up for,
No time to check time, if ur woman misbehave, bro, call her to order, if she doesn't change, call family meeting, if she still remains desame just call the next meeting make they return your bride price,

efighter:
This one has psychiatric disorders

Tot I was the only one that noticed.
I only but recently noticed that he forced himself on my followers timeline.

larryking540:
bullshit career woman stuff, who career woman don help, I told a lady on this forum that most ladies that give their husband uncalled for headache and later end up divorcing last last regret it,they sometimes think they can survive on their own, when the bills which ur husband chest out on his own without asking for ur help, then u start taking responsibility, then u will know what u signed up for,
No time to check time, if ur woman misbehave, bro, call her to order, if she doesn't change, call family meeting, if she still remains desame just call the next meeting make they return your bride price,

Thanks my able brother just what I intend doing.

He would burn her clothes?
As in?
Some of you leave your brains at home before logging onto the internet.

GrabHisBalls:
Your wife didn't just wake up to start dressing like a "Harlot" as a married woman. She's always been like that when it comes to her choice of clothing while you overlooked. You're reacting now 'cause your expectations(hoping she would change after marriage) were cut short. Any lady that dresses leaving a pound of flesh to be imagined has more men following her than a modestly dressed woman. Sorry to ask, if your wife isn't an harlot, why does she always dress like one?

You don't have reasons enough to want to run away. Act like a Nigerian man. If I were you, I would take out all her skimpy clothes, get them burnt and take her out to shop for decent clothes. If you exert authority on her, she will behave than reporting her to anyone.

Souqwaqif:
Good evening all,I and my wife are married,after a very long courtship.our first issue is just about 3years and I don't want her to emulate certain type of dressing from my wife is fond with of recent.after series of correction my wife would not change from dressing like a harlot to a married woman.parental intervention has not yielded anything.in fact recent discussion with the father on the way forward made her infuriated against me that I reported her to her father.while I reside elsewhere due to work and she off campus I called recently to ask how they are doing and she rained insult on me,I then cut the phone on her.Am thinking of dissolving the whole thing because she is always fond of not taking instructions from me for her own good and that of our little girl.Pls what step will be right for me.Only mature advise is appreciated.Thanks.

When you’re tired of giving instructions instead of having a conversation with a fellow adult that you’re married to, then maybe you can actually get the issue resolved. Until then, keep up the dictatorial attitude and third party interventions

cococandy:
He would burn her clothes?
As in?
Some of you leave your brains at home before logging onto the internet.

If you were expecting a reply in the tone you just typed, I won't give you the pleasure. Good bye! Madam brain.

Lemme get this straight.
The skimpy dresses attracted you like an infested fly seeking for shits and now you believe it will attract other guys like it attracted you. . In this case, you decided to give yourself headache, not because she was caught cheating but because you're a typical insecure Nigerian horseband. Come on men . Get you act together and stop whining like a sissy. After reporting to her parent what happened...nothing, nada, zilch, efu, sifili . Because they know you were over-reacting.

Get this-
She is not a child or your child that you will instruct or command. You converse with an adult, the decision about their life is their perogative.

Casually typing BS like it’s an everyday normal thing to say and being upset about the tone it was responded to.

GrabHisBalls:
If you were expecting a reply in the tone you just typed, I won't give you the pleasure. Good bye! Madam brain.

missjo:
You are probably the only one who has asked him if the dressing is something new,instead of assuming it started during the dating phase.

We need to dig to the roots.

bukatyne:
We need to dig to the roots.

Yeah

Theyoungmatron:
Lemme get this straight.
The skimpy dresses attracted you like an infested fly seeking for shits and now you believe it will attract other guys like it attracted you. . In this case, you decided to give yourself headache, not because she was caught cheating but because you're a typical insecure Nigerian horseband. Come on men . Get you act together and stop whining like a sissy. After reporting to her parent what happened...nothing, nada, zilch, efu, sifili . Because they know you were over-reacting.

Get this-
She is not a child or your child that you will instruct or command. You converse with an adult, the decision about their life is their perogative.

I wonder the type of human being you are,so you encouraged insurbodination,for your info I didn't meet her initially in that kind of dressing, I saw her a decently dressed lady before I went to her,this is just happening now because of bad friends

Souqwaqif:
I wonder the type of human being you are,so you encouraged insurbodination,for your info I didn't meet her initially in that kind of dressing, I saw her a decently dressed lady before I went to her,this is just happening now because of bad friends

INSUBORDINATION? DA HELL . Your wife- insubordination. No wonder she is rebelling. What are running in that home of yours? A slave camp You probably sees her as an object in the garrison you called a home.
No wonder you are hyperventilating Insubordination your left yellow balls.

Theyoungmatron:
INSUBORDINATION? DA HELL . Your wife- insubordination. No wonder she is rebelling. What are running in that home of yours? A slave camp You probably sees her as an object in the garrison you called a home.
No wonder you are hyperventilating
Insubordination your left yellow balls.

Guess you are a victim of what you are saying that's not so in my own case.The person you seems to be fighting for is already apologizing.

emmaodet:
I understand u bro.
In my area, atleast i know of 4 people that died last year of kidney failure due to HP and overthinking caused by there wives.
One of them that was close to me was always complaining bitterly about his wife attitude until he died last year, really liked the man.
Funny enough, some of them were already fvcking codedly before the men died.
It is a shame what our women are turning into.
They are suppose to support and help together but the reverse is the case.
Funny enough, when they divorce and stay alone, they can't still feed and take care of themselves alone without fvcking men to support and augment there lives.
What a shame

Without fvcking men to support and augment their lives

Souqwaqif:
I wonder the type of human being you are,so you encouraged insurbodination,for your info I didn't meet her initially in that kind of dressing, I saw her a decently dressed lady before I went to her,this is just happening now because of bad friends

Bukatyne

Bluehill1051:
Maybe her grand parents or maybe even their village chief! Bastard he-goat! You'll soon die miserably!

Watch how you cuss on social media lest it boomerangs when you least expect later.

Lush100:
Wow.
So no correction for the lady in question and all the advice here is an abuse of op because the lady must have been wearing the clothes before marriage.
So when couple marry they don't need to make sacrifices abi? They just sign the documents and go back to being single.
Wow,
The generation we have now enh,
I just pray another flood will not cover the whole earth.
Oh there's rainbow. May be fire.
When u have a "sister" that behaves like that pls advise her not to change oh,
When she gets to 70 years, she should also continue,

Best thread comment. Undiluted truth

Souqwaqif:
I wonder the type of human being you are,so you encouraged insurbodination,for your info I didn't meet her initially in that kind of dressing, I saw her a decently dressed lady before I went to her,this is just happening now because of bad friends

You did not answer any of my questions.

This post addresses one so let me ask the other again:

Give us instances of her insubordination.

Can you give us more background? How she met the friends? What they are enticing her with? Prior to now, how was your home? Did you guys have a good marriage?

missjo:
Bukatyne

Thanks a lot.

healthserve:
Without fvcking men to support and augment their lives

Bro that is the truth.
Forget what most ladies say, a large percent of them survive alot on dick

emmaodet:
Bro that is the truth.
Forget what most ladies say, a large percent of them survive alot on dick

You're so blunt

Funny thread

The @op just dey vex.
At the end he got no answer as he is busy fighting everybody.

And some people wanted to help.
Let me add my little cent na


Could it be that ur tone is what is making her rebellious?

On the flip side, she might be doing that to entice u more.

Don't even crowd her space, rather commend any one u like and u will see her tell u why she started wearing them
Maybe to build self esteem after giving birth?
Buy some for her.
Yes, get some for her and tell her when u want to see her put those ones on.
She will not know when she stops. Can't u manipulate her to do ur wish?
U don't bark, don't fume just gradually turn her away from such.

Another important thing. Don't ever take such type of thing to her parents. Or better still stop involving third party.
If small thing like this can make u look for her father( the man will be eyeing any how now as if he made a mistake by giving u his daughter in marriage), what will happen if big issue comes up( sure they will)?
U will summon her whole community?

U enter into marriage with love and stay in it with wisdom.

Souqwaqif:
Guess you are a victim of what you are saying that's not so in my own case.The person you seems to be fighting for is already apologizing.

YEAH right!!!. You have threatened her then not that she wanted to. You have to report her for her to apologize that says a lot about you.

How old are the two of you? You both sound so immature and unprepared for marriage. Husband is running to wife’s PARENTS to report about her dressing. As if you guys don’t have any other serious issues. You are even willing to dump her because of her dressing and end your marriage. She may just shock you by standing by your decision.

There is no way she just started dressing and showing some skin. What type of exposure are we talking about here OP? What kind of dressing do you also expect from her? Do you want to turn her from a regular dressed girl to eleha cause the idea of decency for some people can be scary.

For her to vehemently refuse then OP’s demands may actually be worse than we imagine. By the way it’s not by dressing o, lots of covered up women are olosho. So, try to focus on important things to grow your marital journey.

I will really like you to describe this so called dressing. It can’t be more than cleavage and short skirts. . I also sure she has a nice body which is driving OP mad and making him insecure. Most women with nice bodies like to show it off. Some have voluptuous bodies that whatever they wear can come across as too much and too sexy.