khiaa:


Ok, I'm on it.

I'm still here dearie

chidiebereuzoma:

I'm still here dearie

Ok, I'll be honest with you because I believe in honesty. Give me a day or two to respond because I'm tired right now.

Beyonce forgave Jay-z

khiaa:


That's stupid, why can't a woman visit the man she loves and is going to marry? The good thing about this situation is she discovered that the man she loved didn't love her and he is a lying piece of crap. Just because she's 32 doesn't mean she's doomed if she doesn't marry that trash, she deserves better.

You girls need to stop being so desperate for marriage.

visiting d guy shows how desperate she is and wat made her even think she is d only one in d guys life baffles me

kestolove95:
visiting d guy shows how desperate she is and wat made her even think she is d only one in d guys life baffles me

OMG refer to my prior post to you.

kestolove95:
stop supporting her cox she is a lady like us, she bleeped up big time, visiting guys without notice is intruding

And guys hate Intruders. They want to be in control

khiaa:


Snowflake? I'm Black American so I know what the hell I'm talking about.

Okay love .

khiaa:


Ok, I'll be honest with you because I believe in honesty. Give me a day or two to respond because I'm tired right now.

A day or two?
Okay then

Hmm

A woman who visited her boyfriend's house unannounced to surprise him on his birthday has been left with a shocker.

A heartbroken woman has narrated the shock she got after trying to surprise her boyfriend on his birthday by visiting his house unannounced.

Read the post shared by relationship expert, Cynthia Valerian Raphaels:

Good afternoon ma. How is work and family? I need advise ma. Please hide my id .Something happened in my relationship last month like Saturday of last month. This is a man that knows my family and we are planning to marry by Easter next year. My boyfriends birthday was last Saturday of August. I decided to surprise him, packed my bags to go visit him to sleep over. I didn't tell him I was coming.

I left on Friday When I got to the house because I have my own keys, I got there around 2:30pm, I even stopped by the market to buy soup and stew items, got to the house, opened the entrance with my keys and first went to the kitchen to drop the food stuffs I bought . Meanwhile I have been discussing with him about his birthday will be, so he told me on that day, he will come and take me out.

That was our agreement . So I didn't tell him I was planning something else. When I dropped the stuff at the kitchen, I took my bags to the room, met a lady lying down, sleeping with just bra and short in his bedroom. The sound of my shoes woke her up and she asked me who am I, how did I get in?

I introduced myself and she laughed and told me that I should stop joking. She quickly went to where she was charging her phone to call him. That a girl came and was telling her they are dating. The phone was on speak out. He told her that the girl must be mad,that he has no other woman except her. That he is busy at work and will call her later. He dropped the call and I had to dial his number, he picked and I asked him what he just said some seconds ago, he started asking if I am the one, that why didn't I call him. I cut off.

I left with my bag, I didn't go with the food stuff again. He kept calling but I blocked off his lines and blocked him on WhatsApp and on Facebook. He started calling with another number, but got tired to call and stopped. Three years of my relationship him. Even that evening, he drove down to my house but I left to my friends place to cool off.

On Sunday he came again to my friends house but she asked him out . He has visited my work place like three times but I don't want to see him. He said the girl is his ex that doesn't want him to be. That she came to his house so late at night on Thursday and he allowed her to stay, that she came from east. He even said the girl left his house that day.

I don't know what to believe anymore. I love this guy ma'am, I really love him, he loves me but I am confused. He has called my mother to apologize to her, my mum has called me to forgive him, even his sisters are calling me. I am 32 years, he is 35 years

If you really love him then give him another chance. Only God saw what transpired. Don't take decisions when you are mad. A man who's not into you won't call your family members to intercede on his behalf. Please if you love him it's worth a try. No man is a saint

jospepper:
Cheating is a bad thing in any relationship. Don't overstress your self emotionally, I know it's not going to be easy .That guy fall hand Sha.

over the years and through many trials and tribulations,I have realized that a man can cheat and still love his girlfriend or wife at the same time,I see sex as a reflex action and given the right circumstances the unimaginable can happen especially if the lady is willing, cheating is over hyped,it is just a part of life, as long there are girls willing and ready to seduce a man,most men will continue to misbehave.

khiaa:


When you told her to learn not to trust him when he's alone you mooted your whole post.

Only a fool would marry someone who has proven that he can't be trusted. As if cheating wasn't bad enough he cheated with his ex which shows there were some unresolved feelings, he was still attached to her sexually, emotionally or both.

so what are u insinuating,

Sister, it is better to remain single and unmarried with your peace for life than to enter a relationship filled with regret, gnashing of teeth and sorrow. Many did not come out to tell their story.

You have a job, so you are not a liability to him. If he could tell that thing to an ex as he claimed and feed you with lies, it shows how much value he places on you. The way you carry yourself is proportional to how you are carried by him.

If you are confused because you feel you love him, I can tell you that love is never enough. When your peace of mind is compromised by a lying and cheating man, love cannot fill the void. It kills the love.

As for the guy, only a person with low intelligence would cheat on a doting partner. The lies that come afterwards reveal your thinking faculty is low to even be in a relationship. When you are caught, stop the tomfoolery and own up and take responsibility. Stop ridiculing yourself by calling people to beg her, so that she'd forgive you for you to make a better fool of her? Fool her once, shame on you; for her to allow you fool her a second time, shame on her.

My dear you are not valued in that relationship. Go to where you are valued and you'd experience bliss in a relationship of reciprocated love, not where someone feels he is doing you a favour by being in a relationship with you.

what now happened to the foodstuff?

danilmo:


so what are u insinuating,

You gave bad advice, she should move on with her life without him in it.

khiaa:


You gave bad advice, she should move on with her life without him in it.

hope u ll give same advice if the next person cheat on her again, the earlier u know a Man shouldn't be trusted with woman the better though it doesn't mean he doesnt love, just the nature of Man, trust a man with other thing but woman, takes the grace of God, that shouldn't be ur yardstick except the unrepentant and remorseful ones, just like this case, the guy was remorse abt it..


major reason y I asked how old are u or if ure married coz a married woman will hardly advice such, only those young girls still leaving in the euphoria of their beauty think of moving on at every possible opportunity.

khiaa:


Snowflake? I'm Black American so I know what the hell I'm talking about.

Marry me.i need green card

Rescue a brother from.this Shit hole

paddyofboss:

Marry me.i need green card

Rescue a brother from.this Shit hole

Ok.

danilmo:


hope u ll give same advice if the next person cheat on her again, the earlier u know a Man shouldn't be trusted with woman the better though it doesn't mean he doesnt love, just the nature of Man, trust a man with other thing but woman, takes the grace of God, that shouldn't be ur yardstick except the unrepentant and remorseful ones, just like this case, the guy was remorse abt it..


major reason y I asked how old are u or if ure married coz a married woman will hardly advice such, only those young girls still leaving in the euphoria of their beauty think of moving on at every possible opportunity.

If she forgives him and they get married, when he cheats on her again he will say that she knew he was a no good lying cheating dog when she married him.

How can a man love his woman and continue to cheat on her?

khiaa:


If she forgives him and they get married, when he cheats on her again he will say that she knew he was a no good lying cheating dog when she married him.

How can a man love his woman and continue to cheat on her?

u said continue as if he has been caught several time, u av a point though and that should b if caught again, but for the first time, no no, where did u put the word repentance, did u see any act of remorse from what d guy action??

I
I hope this is superstore

If the gal is side chick how did she got the audacity to call him when she saw the lady and why did he respond as that.

It is a difficult situation

danilmo:


u said continue as if he has been caught several time, u av a point though and that should b if caught again, but for the first time, no no, where did u put the word repentance, did u see any act of remorse from what d guy action??

Cheat on me once, shame on you, cheat on me twice shame on me.

My dear sis my candid advice is for you to forgive him and move on with him. ALL MEN ARE CHEATS. It runs in their vein

My dear... Pls do the breakup thing... Who cares if u are 32
You ain't married yet and he's cheating on u, what if you get married... He'll bring em home in scores ...nonsense, u know say u love me but u fit cheat on me, with ur ex for that matter

Lord knows I'd rather stay single than to be in any relationship... It is kuku my life not others' own

khiaa:

Cheat on me once, shame on you, cheat on me twice shame on me.

answer, if d next person cheat, what ll u do, keep moving to another abi??

stella1997:
My dear sis my candid advice is for you to forgive him and move on with him. ALL MEN ARE CHEATS. It runs in their vein

And ALL WOMEN ARE CHEAT. They can't do without it.

How's that for generalising?

pryme:


And ALL WOMEN ARE CHEAT. They can't do without it.

How's that for generalising?

Hmm u know it's true.

khiaa:


Cheat on me once, shame on you, cheat on me twice shame on me.

Dear khiaa,
How are you doing over there? I hope you are fine and cool.
I have been refreshing my narialand mail box in the hope of seeing your response to my mail. Like I said to you yesterday, I'm interested in getting acquainted with you and then we see... I know some people here would be laughing at me but I don't care. Kindly let me know if you ain't gonna reply me so that I won't be in limbo.
Yours Truly
Emmanuel

khiaa:


Ok.

danilmo:


answer, if d next person cheat, what ll u do, keep moving to another abi??

I would remain single.

chidiebereuzoma:

Dear khiaa,
How are you doing over there? I hope you are fine and cool.
I have been refreshing my narialand mail box in the hope of seeing your response to my mail. Like I said to you yesterday, I'm interested in getting acquainted with you and then we see... I know some people here would be laughing at me but I don't care. Kindly let me know if you ain't gonna reply me so that I won't be in limbo.
Yours Truly
Emmanuel

What did you want to say to me?

khiaa:


What did you want to say to me?

I want to know your personality, I checked on your profile to see your photo but you didn't put up your pic. The truth is that I want to know you and you can know me too if you don't mind. Then we see how it goes