Not in Naija, biko.

In fact, the reverse is more like the case in Naija.

Our delectable Evening Newspapers scattered all over the country and most especially here on Nairaland, can help me confirm this!!!

Not in Nigeria

Whether she's right or not,we all know this happiness the expert is talking about has an exception and that's the african society.Here,a childless woman/man is considered as a low-life and unfit to be among his/her mates..even your own kinsmen and parents won't be pleased at all.

Its a different story here in Nigeria.

Mumu experts

You can be happy without being married but you can never be happy without a child

CHoccolaTE:
Hahahaha

This topic always pains men

Men are such hypocrites.
They go about declaring that they hate marriages
And have no need for it
Marriage is bondage,
Etc etc

But when women open their mouths to say they are happier without marriages just like men they get angry and forcefully insist that women want and desire marriage

Sis, you've just won yourself the consolation prize.

Congrats

I disagree.... If you speak about those who chose not to, fine but by nature.... It's the greatest trauma of womanhood.

Akwuna ga ebe akwa nwa n'ula nka.

CHoccolaTE:
I asked this question before in another topic and I will ask it again;
What exactly do women gain from marriages apart from escaping societal pressure of getting married and having kids?

Men are the ones prolonging their lineage with marriage and kids,
Men are the ones in charge of whatever homes they set up after marriage, they have control, they have the final say. Everyone submits to them.
Men are the ones who get both a co-breadwinner and lifetime cook, cleaner, sex slave ( trust me many married women lack sexual satisfaction, sex after marriage is mostly for husband's benefit),
Men can even cheat with impunity and have children outside wedlock and go scot free, he basically maintains his freedom to have wanton sex just like when he was a bachelor, and he gets no blame and his wife is advised to stay with him because men are ' naturally polygamous'.


Yet society wants us to believe women benefit more from marriages.


With loss of freedom, loss of former identity ( changing surname even if the man you now bear his name cannot take care of you or provide for you), loss of beauty and youth after having children that belong to another mans lineage and family, horrible unsatisfying sex life in many cases, is forced to overlook cheating husbands behaviour, must balance greatest majority of housework and breadwinning while husband contributes barest minimum to housework. The man might even be jobless but the wife is advised to stay and support her husband and help him grow.

Infact the list of losses is endless.

Feminist spotted .... I have a friend like u.... Who thinks women only suffer when they are in a relationship with men....
But it's not true.... It's funny tho....
People that think this way are those that don't want to be responsible for anyone else but themselves.... Now that's being selfish...
If you want to get a child and stay unmarried that's ur business until ur child gets older and starts asking questions you can't answer.....
My parents don't stay together and I don't stay with them either.... But when I asked they were both pushing the blame to one another... Each blaming the other for the separation... Not like they married anyway.... And from what I see that's what you think it's the best... Take it from me... Do not give birth to a child without making sure that he has both parents by his side... For the child's sake....
Yes not all marriage is blissful but that doesn't mean marriages don't work... In this life nothing is forever.... Nothing not even a stage or a position... Food wey dey bottom pot today go dey ontop cooler tomorrow.... Same with anything in life...

Ladies know say na Lie be this

This sounds like a condolence message

the person that did this findings is sick

CHoccolaTE:
Hahahaha

But when women open their mouths to say they are happier without marriages just like men they get angry and forcefully insist that women want and desire marriage

if nor be children, trust me, men nor go keep women for house.

It cant be In nigeria,cos over here they are frustrated,hopeless,arrogant,hater and always hating. I have met a few. Still forming boss inside 2 bedroom still no kids,no hope. Just hating constantly.

Is he married?

That may be the case, but from a purely evolutionary stance, maximum happiness will take a lower priority than other biological imperatives

Survival and passing genes onto a another generation will trump all

Therefore some contentment will be sacrificed in order to achieve the aim and preserve the species

I think this is why society tends towards leaning on women to have children, sometimes to their detriment

Some western countries have a rapidly declining birthrate because people have started to consider sociological factors like happiness, contentment, stress, etc above biological ones

is not applied to our Nigerian system... lies lies and lies... unmaried Pple are miserable and sad especially here... but i don't elsewhere

Ok

CHoccolaTE:
I asked this question before in another topic and I will ask it again;
What exactly do women gain from marriages apart from escaping societal pressure of getting married and having kids?

Men are the ones prolonging their lineage with marriage and kids,
Men are the ones in charge of whatever homes they set up after marriage, they have control, they have the final say. Everyone submits to them.
Men are the ones who get both a co-breadwinner and lifetime cook, cleaner, sex slave ( trust me many married women lack sexual satisfaction, sex after marriage is mostly for husband's benefit),
Men can even cheat with impunity and have children outside wedlock and go scot free, he basically maintains his freedom to have wanton sex just like when he was a bachelor, and he gets no blame and his wife is advised to stay with him because men are ' naturally polygamous'.


Yet society wants us to believe women benefit more from marriages.


With loss of freedom, loss of former identity ( changing surname even if the man you now bear his name cannot take care of you or provide for you), loss of beauty and youth after having children that belong to another mans lineage and family, horrible unsatisfying sex life in many cases, is forced to overlook cheating husbands behaviour, must balance greatest majority of housework and breadwinning while husband contributes barest minimum to housework. The man might even be jobless but the wife is advised to stay and support her husband and help him grow.

Infact the list of losses is endless.

Then make it a point of duty to educate single ladies to enjoy their lives and stop bothering we
men about marriage, or even trying to rope single guys into marriage through various scrupulous means

One word: RUBBISH.

Fit only for the thrash can.

awon omo ologo! thats what they are called!


Anyway, check my signature to fix your faulty laptop

CHoccolaTE:


That's because misery loves company. Majority of them are in miserable marriages so they want to rope others in with them.

now that you know that you will be happier without getting married and not having kids hope you will never get married in your life

CHoccolaTE:
Hahahaha

This topic always pains men

Men are such hypocrites.
They go about declaring that they hate marriages
And have no need for it
Marriage is bondage,
Etc etc

But when women open their mouths to say they are happier without marriages just like men they get angry and forcefully insist that women want and desire marriage

and so is your father

Society and womanhood is the entire existense of human. What else should a woman be for?

CHoccolaTE:
I asked this question before in another topic and I will ask it again;
What exactly do women gain from marriages apart from escaping societal pressure of getting married and having kids?

Men are the ones prolonging their lineage with marriage and kids,
Men are the ones in charge of whatever homes they set up after marriage, they have control, they have the final say. Everyone submits to them.
Men are the ones who get both a co-breadwinner and lifetime cook, cleaner, sex slave ( trust me many married women lack sexual satisfaction, sex after marriage is mostly for husband's benefit),
Men can even cheat with impunity and have children outside wedlock and go scot free, he basically maintains his freedom to have wanton sex just like when he was a bachelor, and he gets no blame and his wife is advised to stay with him because men are ' naturally polygamous'.


Yet society wants us to believe women benefit more from marriages.


With loss of freedom, loss of former identity ( changing surname even if the man you now bear his name cannot take care of you or provide for you), loss of beauty and youth after having children that belong to another mans lineage and family, horrible unsatisfying sex life in many cases, is forced to overlook cheating husbands behaviour, must balance greatest majority of housework and breadwinning while husband contributes barest minimum to housework. The man might even be jobless but the wife is advised to stay and support her husband and help him grow.

Infact the list of losses is endless.

This just comfirm my stand that most women dont know what they want. How can one sacrifice her happiness cus of 'what people will say' mentality?
Women gain everything in marriage( the one with love and respect).
Marriage isnt any kind of contest, if any lady feels better without it, pls be proud to join the leauge of baby mamas. People will only talk for a while and thereafter other events will overtake ur issue.
Chimamanda Adichie never change her name after marriage and l never heard her hubby complained. I myself didnt changed my late wife's surname after marriage even with much presure from her yet l loved, cherished and respect her.
So many women achieved their life's dream via marriage. Pls learn to speak for yourself and let others decide what they want. I think in society such as the US, the Social Security System in place could be the reason for cases of single motherhood.
Marriage is beneficial to both sexes joor.

CHoccolaTE:


The only reason women appear to 'want' marriages is because they have a biological need to bear children and they can't do that outside marriage because they and their children will be stigmatized. Many married women are miserable as hell in their marriages, single women are better off than them when it comes to peace of mind.

And many married women are happy as ever

Same also single unmarried women who are miserable and want company hence would happily rope others in by screaming independent woman

It goes both ways

Cheers

CHoccolaTE:
I asked this question before in another topic and I will ask it again;
What exactly do women gain from marriages apart from escaping societal pressure of getting married and having kids?

Men are the ones prolonging their lineage with marriage and kids,
Men are the ones in charge of whatever homes they set up after marriage, they have control, they have the final say. Everyone submits to them.
Men are the ones who get both a co-breadwinner and lifetime cook, cleaner, sex slave ( trust me many married women lack sexual satisfaction, sex after marriage is mostly for husband's benefit),
Men can even cheat with impunity and have children outside wedlock and go scot free, he basically maintains his freedom to have wanton sex just like when he was a bachelor, and he gets no blame and his wife is advised to stay with him because men are ' naturally polygamous'.


Yet society wants us to believe women benefit more from marriages.


With loss of freedom, loss of former identity ( changing surname even if the man you now bear his name cannot take care of you or provide for you), loss of beauty and youth after having children that belong to another mans lineage and family, horrible unsatisfying sex life in many cases, is forced to overlook cheating husbands behaviour, must balance greatest majority of housework and breadwinning while husband contributes barest minimum to housework. The man might even be jobless but the wife is advised to stay and support her husband and help him grow.

Infact the list of losses is endless.

when you reach 45 you will understand

What is written in the article is total deception. Women who never married or childless are the most depressed of all. Humans, most especially, Women are good liars, when it comes to facing reality. They will tell you and show you they want one thing but despirately desiring another. Even the writer is just trying to deny reality.

So the person that rewrote this gibberish knew what she was all out to see? A single lady wilm alway tell any random person that she is happy with her life, as she does not have to worry over men infidelity? However, when she goes her way and all alone.She will be crying all day and possibly become depressed, all because she was craving for a man in her life.

Humans generally love lies...and women loves to decieve themselves. If a lady is experiencing bad experiences, she will fake a good life, encourage the other lady to do same so they can be in the same situation, this is what men dont do. The writer knew this, hence trying to get as many women into depression as possible. (Mark.my words)

Are we not talking about humans here? Believe what you read up there at your own peril.

Ok

Definitely not Nigerians!

CHoccolaTE:


The only reason women appear to 'want' marriages is because they have a biological need to bear children and they can't do that outside marriage because they and their children will be stigmatized. Many married women are miserable as hell in their marriages, single women are better off than them when it comes to peace of mind.

Lol, I doubt this. I live in America where feminism is at its peak and women have never been as successful as they are today. Despite their high levels of education and success, these ladies crave for marriage and children like crazy despite no apparent American societal pressure to get married or have kids. Some in their late 30s and 40s are even freezing their eggs in the hopes of having children later so as to beat their biological clocks - which indicates that despite all the success, many still desire to have kids or be married. Linda Ikeji would be a solid example and she even confessed being much happier after giving birth as she had always desired to be a mother.

In fact, several studies here have shown that American women now (who are more single, educated and successful) are much less happier than their counterparts (who were mostly housewives) in the 50s, 60s and 70s (when America was more traditional, just like Nigeria).

The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness - Yale Law School
https://law.yale.edu/sites/default/files/documents/pdf/Intellectual_Life/Stevenson_ParadoxDecliningFemaleHappiness_Dec08.pdf

Gains in women’s rights haven't made women happier. Why is that?
Anna Petherick

Since the 70s, women in the US and Europe have reported feeling less satisfied with their lives.
Women are outliving men in every country in the world, despite facing higher levels of poverty than men, greater odds of encountering sexual violence and many additional, diverse forms of discrimination.

But while women are living longer, it’s unclear whether their wellbeing is showing comparable strides. As women gain political, economic and social freedoms, one would expect that they should feel even more contented relative to men. But this isn’t so.

The “paradox of declining female happiness” was pointed out by economists Betsey Stevenson and Justin Wolfers, who also happen to share a house and kids. They analyzed the happiness trends of US citizens between 1970 and 2005 and found a surprising result.

Stevenson and Wolfers discovered that American women rated their overall life satisfaction higher than men in the 1970s. Thereafter, women’s happiness scores decreased while men’s scores stayed roughly stable. By the 1990s, women were less happy than men. This relative unhappiness softened after the turn of the century, but men continue to enjoy a higher sense of subjective wellbeing that is at least as high — if not higher — than women’s.

Those 35 years saw advances in American women’s rights and financial power. For example, in 1974, Congress outlawed credit discrimination based on sex; in 1975, states were prevented from excluding women from juries. Until 1976, marital rape was legal in every US state. Over the 35-year period, women working full time went from earning less than 60% of a man’s median salary to earning about 76% of it — still an embarrassment for a country that aspires to be a meritocracy but an improvement nonetheless.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/may/18/womens-rights-happiness-wellbeing-gender-gap