Breaststroke:


Yinmu! You can never be happy without a child . I strongly disagree, I am an exception to this rule.

Motherhood is not for everyone, just because we have the equipment for it, doesn't mean we all have the disposition for it.

There's a consistent lack of desire for children I particularly feel. I have zero interest in birthing a child of my own, how do we explain that?

I am actually glad about being child free and staying that way. The researcher echoed my sentiments about kids in this article.

You may never realized the gravity of the feeling you stated above until when you are older and passed menopause.? Then reality will be dawned on you. By that time it may be already late to turn back the hand of time.
I am aware of a lady, she used to work with BBC, , no husband, no child and life became so boring to her to the extent that she became depressed and having memories issues. Just at about 55yrs yrs now and taken to a care home, I mean at 50+? She keeps lamenting every now and then that she got no one.

I can bet when she was younger, she was probably saying what you are saying now and defending it until reality dawn on her and she start experiencing boredom. Most will not tell youvthier regrets, people are only eager to share their successes and not failures. My dear, I will advise you rebuke every thought of singleton in your life. Men forget it. There is no better life than being in a blissful marriage with wonderful children for they are the inheritance of the lord. The proverb says, happy is the one that have is house full of children.
Do not allow one faceless bitter woman to mislead you.

All the very best

mikkyjay:


Then make it a point of duty to educate single ladies to enjoy their lives and stop bothering we
men about marriage, or even trying to rope single guys into marriage through various scrupulous means

On the contrary, it’s you guys who won’t stop bothering unmarried women.

luminouz:

Lies,at least for Nigerians.

Unmarried,Childless women are a special kind of bitter. Very acidic and vindictive. Its like bile flows in their veins instead of blood. Whether they are teachers,bankers,professors or even market women they are never happy and consciously make others unhappy too,especially if they are getting on in years. Let them get married or bear a kid and watch all the animosity drain out of them like oil from a leaking pipe.

The worst of all,are those not married,childless and undicked...they harbour atomic spite and bile. I hope not to meet such again,amen.

all correct especially the "undicked"

pocohantas:
I do not really agree with the article, not because unmarried childless women can't be happy or the happiest...

But because these things are relative.

It differs for the individuals invoved.

However, I would never understand why men who are supposed to be going their way are always having palpitations when some women say they don't want to marry. Heck, you are suppsed to be going your way right? Why does it bother you so much?

Anyway, find someone with like mind and have peace.

Because we know it's all lies. When lies spread like that without debunking it quickly. Some innocent souls may start taken it seriously

Sterope:
Are you saying that your mum's god given date was to shut her mouths be act as she is told?

You feel you've got the leverage to talk rubbish of other people's parents, not my mum otherwise I'll curse you.

I didn't say shit about your mum. You stated that first or is your mum no longer a woman? Carry your BS go joor

FortuneDeGreat:
You feel you've got the leverage to talk rubbish of other people's parents, not my mum otherwise I'll curse you.

geosegun:


Because we know it's all lies. When lies spread like that without debunking it quickly. Some innocent souls may start taken it seriously

What is your business if innocent souls take it seriously since some men have said they don't want women/marriage? Looks like it is all attention seeking from you lots to increase desirability. Artificial scarcity comes to mind.

Sterope:
I didn't say shit about your mum. You stated that first or is your mum no longer a woman? Carry your BS go joor

Go and marry, then shut up and endure your rigorous marriage.

midnighter:


I said that even if a lady would be better off without children like the OP said, the biological imperative to survive and pass on your genes is more important in evolutionary terms, so at times the lady's well-being will be sidelined for the "greater good" of the species.

I speculated that this may be the reason that most societies stigmatise women (and men) who do not want to have children. If people felt like they had a choice on procreating, the population would go down and the species would die out. I am speaking in PURELY BIOLOGICAL TERMS.

Then I observed that in some western countries they have prioritised their own happiness and contentment over that biological survival instinct, so it is a bit more accepted for them to choose not to have children.

As a result, their birthrate is beginning to decrease.

After which, you began to rant about what I dont know.

You must be one of the most intellectually bereft and dense people I have encountered on this site. And the most annoying thing about it is that you keep scraping and scouring the dregs of your unenlightened understanding to quote me and type even more rubbish, none of which has any particular basis.

This is how the government keeps us down in this country, by producing people like you who cant seem to comprehend a simply written piece of scientific speculation

you are the dumbest and most unintelligent person here ,check the last paragraph of what you typed first and see where my point is coming from before you DESTROY everywhere with saliva!

Women are the main instigators of divorce - reason why men hate feminism cause they think it’s feminism giving women the liver to do that . Naija married women are miserable - marriage benefits men mostly and is a terrible institution for women - women are just learning this .

mankettle:
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not to join issues with you but I have a lot of guys( Nigeria not foreign) who are single and don't have any intention of marrying soon. these guys are well paid and have good careers.
whereas I also have female friends who also have good jobs etc but are sad because they are not married.
I am not doubting the research done, but I believe the research wasn't carried out in Nigeria and so what applies there may not apply here.

geosegun:


Because we know it's all lies. When lies spread like that without debunking it quickly. Some innocent souls may start taken it seriously

Thanks bro.
Is it by force to buy what these misandrists are selling? Even their fellow women are getting tired of the agenda.

Pocahontas, I saw your pathetic attempt to throw shots at me . Too bad you and your gang can not silence me on this platform. The bible doesn't call your kind the weaker vessel for no reason.

As for you cococandy, I'm not wicked. I actually fight for the course of women - my desire for your kind is that y'all become as independent as y'all can be. Be empowered and stay off mens pockets

Sterope:
I like your analogy.

It is going to be difficult for you to find a man with a like mind. Good luck to you.

I am a man and I can tell you I prefer companionship than kids just wanna live happily with my partner.yea I love kids but I don't have that ideology that it's a must.

Women don’t need you as an ally.

You’re hateful towards women and only are found in places where women are to be ridiculed and mocked.

Shove your faux concern

Fight for yourself.

genq:


Thanks bro.
Is it by force to buy what these misandrists are selling? Even their fellow women are getting tired of the agenda.

Pocahontas, I saw your pathetic attempt to throw shots at me . Too bad you and your gang can not silence me on this platform. The bible doesn't call your kind the weaker vessel for no reason.

As for you cococandy, I'm not wicked. I actually fight for the course of women - my desire for your kind is that y'all become as independent as y'all can be. Be empowered and stay off mens pockets

cococandy:
Women don’t need you as an ally.

You’re hateful towards women and only are found in places where women are to be ridiculed and mocked.

Shove your faux concern

Fight for yourself.

Congratulations!

I know you've been dying to vent your anger at me so I'm glad you got that off your chest!

Will keep doing my thing tho

geosegun:


You may never realized the gravity of the feeling you stated above until when you are older and passed menopause.? Then reality will be dawned on you. By that time it may be already late to turn back the hand of time.
I am aware of a lady, she used to work with BBC, , no husband, no child and life became so boring to her to the extent that she became depressed and having memories issues. Just at about 55yrs yrs now and taken to a care home, I mean at 50+? She keeps lamenting every now and then that she got no one.



I can bet when she was younger, she was probably saying what you are saying now and defending it until reality dawn on her and she start experiencing boredom. Most will not tell youvthier regrets, people are only eager to share their successes and not failures. My dear, I will advise you rebuke every thought of singleton in your life. Men forget it. There is no better life than being in a blissful marriage with wonderful children for they are the inheritance of the lord. The proverb says, happy is the one that have is house full of children.
Do not allow one faceless bitter woman to mislead you.

All the very best

If her wish is granted. she get a loving partner that have the same ideology with her my dear there is nothing to regret, who told you that everyone that gave birth ripe the fruit of there children. Some there child end up been the one to kill them, you just have to understand life know what you want, what will make you happy. Kids are wonderful to have. The main thing is companionship either from your partner or kids. I don't see any reason of regret here kids can cause pain too. All we want is the little time we have on earth should be a memorable one either with kids without kids or been single.

Guest007:

Lol are you laughing... I am sad for him honestly

Breaststroke:


Yinmu! You can never be happy without a child . I strongly disagree, I am an exception to this rule.

Motherhood is not for everyone, just because we have the equipment for it, doesn't mean we all have the disposition for it.

There's a consistent lack of desire for children I particularly feel. I have zero interest in birthing a child of my own, how do we explain that?

I am actually glad about being child free and staying that way. The researcher echoed my sentiments about kids in this article.

This is impressive. Your type is rare, though.

I've only met someone like you.

She has no interest in raising kids nor getting married except the dude is also not interested in kids like her.

She has a healthy mind and successful career.

midnighter:


Lol are you laughing... I am sad for him honestly

I cracked up! Don't be sad it's better to laugh at stupidity

Guest007:


I cracked up! Don't be sad it's better to laugh at stupidity

Lol

Sterope:
I like your analogy.

It is going to be difficult for you to find a man with a like mind. Good luck to you.

There are a few decent men out there open to her idea BUT you'll spread your dragnet of male friendship FAR beyond the pool of the penis-entitled idiots you all call NIGERIAN MEN

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cococandy:
Sp they are unhappy because of the wicked judgement of people like genq and co.

Not because they necessarily need the husbands. But because they want the wicked judgement to stop right?
Maybe without the judgement, it would really be a bad situation?

Makes you wonder why genq gets hyper when he hears of unmarried women.

I wonder! Personally I feel its shallow to judge a lady based on marital status. I have an unmarried older sis and mumsi's everyday prayer is for her to be settled but me I know if not for society she wouldn't want to be married atall but she's scared of the backlash if she comes out and states such.

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I am surprised some element thinks I even notice him or made my posts with him in mind. Who has that time? Such delusion of persecution.

The Guilty Are Afraid

Na people wey dey reply you I blame na. You seek more attention than a newborn baby. Let them ignore you for just 1wk and lets see how far you can go your own way...

Yes, now I am referring to you, you

Breaststroke:


Yinmu! You can never be happy without a child . I strongly disagree, I am an exception to this rule.

Motherhood is not for everyone, just because we have the equipment for it, doesn't mean we all have the disposition for it.

There's a consistent lack of desire for children I particularly feel. I have zero interest in birthing a child of my own, how do we explain that?

I am actually glad about being child free and staying that way. The researcher echoed my sentiments about kids in this article.

You Don't even sound happy you sound more like a wounded lioness trying to console herself sorry if this annoys you but it's the obvious truth

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cococandy:
They are sad because men have been fighting tooth and nail to convince them that they need marriage

They are sad because of the pressure put on them by society

Men or their parents?

I don't know why you Women hide under the banner of "Men are our problems" when you all refused to call your biased parents out, who always push you Women to marry unreasonably. 80% of bad marriages have been from adamant parents pushing their daughters out early or always reminding them of their age each year.

Also who is the "Society"?

You know you women are thy greatest enemies. You often look down on women that are not married & somehow think they are lesser than you.
Once one lady gets engaged, she starts flaunting it to make other ladies jealous, like that's all there is to Life.
You better start removing the log of wood from your eyes & start calling your people out of Mediocrity that you put all yourself.

chrismex:


If her wish is granted. she get a loving partner that have the same ideology with her my dear there is nothing to regret, who told you that everyone that gave birth ripe the fruit of there children. Some there child end up been the one to kill them, you just have to understand life know want you want, what will make you happy. Kids are wonderful to have. The main thing is companionship either from your partner or kids. I don't see any reason of regret here kids can cause pain too. All we want is the little time we have on earth should be a memorable one either with kids without kids or been single.

Bless you babe! It's all companionship, you're right! I'm planning to play until pension age and then settle down with an old G and drink brandy until thy kingdom come

yemisolar:
This is strictly the opinion of the writer. And, he is entiltled to it. True marriages these days are not what they should be but there are a lot of people having great times in their marriage. Though the bad ones get more publicity than the good ones but there are a good number of good ones out there.

Anyone can get angry at men, society or even religion but for a woman, having a life companion, -someone you can feel completely at home with, free without any inhibitions or shame, having your back at any point in time. Someone you can look up to as a friend, mentor, a good father to your children and even someone to get vent on - is the happiest thing that can happen to one.

The caveat however is making the right choice.

The truth is that women who know how powerful they are know that they are the ones controlling the home. Not the man. The problem most women have is that they think it's by confrontation. When that doesn't work they start crying foul.

No doubt marriage is a truest test of One's character but if one gets it right it can be heaven on Earth.

I am for finding ways for people to make right choices and making their marriages work rather than discouraging them completely.

Yes, I am married........ 11 years and counting.

yea l like your submission... I think women who CNt take time to discover the password of their men are the one who suffers. Most men l mean most men life are not difficult if u can discover Wat wrks for them. Many men hate confrontation n entitlement mentality, wen a woman humble herself even if u r higher than him financially n academically many men will surrender their entire life unto such women. Not just Wrd, am a living witness.

Twoclans:


Are you married?

Abi you no wan marry?

desvi:


make the purpose known then

The purpose is what brought you to planet earth