I'm looking forward to getting married in a year or so, and I'm looking for counsel which can help me and those who are in my shoes.

Are there certain exercises, experiences, plans, or actions which you regret having not taken before you got married?

Married folks, come in please.

Hydronium:
I'm looking forward to getting married in a year or so, and I'm looking for counsel which can help me and those who are in my shoes.

Are there certain exercises, experiences, plans, or actions which you regret having not taken before you got married?

Married folks, come in please.

You can never be prepared enough... Just oray mid life crisis does not strike you after marriage. I wish you a happy married life in advance

Get a babymama...marriage is overrated, especially with a Nigerian girl.

What counsel do you seek? Ahithophel’s counsel?

It’s not like you’re going into Priesthood or enrolling to go and fight in a war. You still have your life ahead of you, married or not

If you want to further your education or still pursuing your career, ensure you plan that with your wife before you get married so you know when to start having kids.

Also make sure you both are on the same page with what you want in life, you don’t want to get married then suddenly remember you want to travel abroad for a Master’s degree and expect her to understand

dawnomike:
You can never be prepared enough... Just oray mid life crisis does not strike you after marriage. I wish you a happy married life in advance

Wow thanks.
But midlife crisis? I thought that thing happened around age 40. I'm just clocking 30.

socialmediaman:
It’s not like you’re going into Priesthood or enrolling to go and fight in a war. You still have your life ahead of you, married or not

If you want to further your education or still pursuing your career, ensure you plan that with your wife before you get married so you know when to start having kids.

Also make sure you both are on the same page with what you want in life, you don’t want to get married then suddenly remember you want to travel abroad for a Master’s degree and expect her to understand

Wow. Really makes sense.
Funny thing tho is I'd like to travel out to further my education but my fiancee is not keen. We're still trying to reconcile that. But any further tips are welcome.

Zonefree:
Get a babymama...marriage is overrated, especially with a Nigerian girl.

Lol. Thanks tho but I don't believe in that. My fiancee & I are 'certified' virgins and looking forward to a satisfying sex life.

Mariangeles:
What counsel do you seek? Ahithophel’s counsel?

Hehehe. I get your point. But they say experience is the best teacher. Better to learn from those who've gone ahead than go through it myself...

Hydronium:


Lol. Thanks tho but I don't believe in that. My fiancee & I are 'certified' virgins and looking forward to a satisfying sex life.

Satisfying you say For two novice? Super story.


Anyways to your question..They said marriage is an Institution you will never graduate from...Just prepare your mindset and have good understanding, develope ability to listen more than you talk.

Pray for wisdom to make critical decisions and lead the home as the man with equity and fairness.

Munzy14:

Satisfying you say For two novice? Super story.


Anyways to your question..They said marriage is an Institution you will never graduate from...Just prepare your mindset and have good understanding, develope ability to listen more than you talk.

Pray for wisdom to make critical decisions and lead the home as the man with equity and fairness.

Yes, satisfying. Stop discouraging chastity in order to sound woke. Those who slept around, leaving a part of themselves with everyone they had sex with were once virgins. It's better for partners to be virgins and they both get to learn.

I am certain if everyone adhered, the rate of infidelity and stories related to it won't be as much as we have it now.

OP, you are doing well.

Hydronium:


Wow thanks.
But midlife crisis? I thought that thing happened around age 40. I'm just clocking 30.

it in your 50's

faithfull18:

Yes, satisfying. Stop discouraging chastity in order to sound woke. Those who slept around, leaving a part of themselves with everyone they had sex with were once virgins. It's better for partners to be virgins and they both get to learn.

I am certain if everyone adhered, the rate of infidelity and stories related to it won't be as much as we have it now.

OP, you are doing well.

Lol..People don't like to hear the ugly truth..

But it is what it is...

Woke ke? Most abused word on social media.

I am more of traditional man.
Woke,wake, weak or week anything you call it is out of the context.

Lack of money brings up rubbish issues.

Mariangeles:
What counsel do you seek? Ahithophel’s counsel?

Lmao

Ishilove:

Lmao

Since there’s no trouble in his life, he decided to look for some to spice things up.

Munzy14:

Satisfying you say For two novice? Super story.


Anyways to your question..They said marriage is an Institution you will never graduate from...Just prepare your mindset and have good understanding, develope ability to listen more than you talk.

Pray for wisdom to make critical decisions and lead the home as the man with equity and fairness.

Of course, they will have a satisfying sex life, since they’d both be each other’s first, and there would be no previous experience to compare (themselves) with, so they wouldn’t be missing anything.
Instead, it’ll only keep getting better for them, as they explore each other.

Mariangeles:


Of course, they will have a satisfying sex life, since they would both be each other’s first, and there would be no previous experience to compare (themselves) with, so they wouldn’t be missing anything.
Instead, it’ll keep getting better and better for them, as they explore each other.

O kwa i cho ga ihe m ga ekwu?

Ka m mechie onu, since you be my person.

Mana ihuru moto eji onu anyaga, anahu enwe accident...

The world is not prepared for truth/blunt humans..So ka m were onu m tinye n'akpa maintainia before unu ahu m asi onye akwa m iko zuru ahu ...

Cutehector:
Lack of money brings up rubbish issues.

Issues makes us human...They will always come.

Hydronium:


Lol. Thanks tho but I don't believe in that. My fiancee & I are 'certified' virgins and looking forward to a satisfying sex life.

Who certified u people?

Munzy14:

O kwa i cho ga ihe m ga ekwu?

Ka m mechie onu, since you be my person.

Mana ihuru moto eji onu anyaga, anahu enwe accident...

The world is not prepared for truth/blunt humans..So ka m were onu m tinye n'akpa maintainia before unu ahu m asi onye akwa m iko zuru ahu ...

I shi nini?

Munzy14:

Satisfying you say For two novice? Super story.


Anyways to your question..They said marriage is an Institution you will never graduate from...Just prepare your mindset and have good understanding, develope ability to listen more than you talk.

Pray for wisdom to make critical decisions and lead the home as the man with equity and fairness.

Indeed, I have several live examples around me of those who got married as virgins and have a good sex life
Good advice too

Mariangeles:


I shi nini?

Mma m si, Nwaanyi otele ukwu ga ama ihe o mere onwe ya mgbe oso suru

Hydronium:


Indeed, I have several live examples around me of those who got married as virgins and have a good sex life
Good advice too

K

Munzy14:

Satisfying you say For two novice? Super story.


Anyways to your question..They said marriage is an Institution you will never graduate from...Just prepare your mindset and have good understanding, develope ability to listen more than you talk.

Pray for wisdom to make critical decisions and lead the home as the man with equity and fairness.

Speaking of leading the home as a man, do you insist on what you want? Or you confer together and come to a consensus?

Hydronium:



Speaking of leading the home as a man, do you insist on what you want? Or you confer together and come to a consensus?

Their is no way I can insist on what I want in almost every situation...But some things are not negotiable...

Things like religion, beliefs because we must be on same page for the spiritual direction of the family...

But some other critical decision, we put heads together for ideas..Even though an alpha, I don't like dominating/forcing my woman...I have realized you enjoy some ladies most when you guarantee them a little freedom and a mind of their own..

More like you sit back, and position her for the moves atimes...Some of them are go getters...Just like in a game of chess.

Munzy14:

K

Elee ke wu K?
O nwere ihe ojoo no na ihe o kwuru?

ibechris:



Who certified u people?

Some of you people just hate it when some men are not promiscuous as you expect them to be.
Do you think everyone regard sex the same way?

Mariangeles:


Elee ke wu K?
O nwere ihe ojoo no na ihe o kwuru?

O kwa i biala ugbu a...

Zukwanuike!

That was an innocent k...

As you can see, I responded to his m
Next question na..

Munzy and Maria, write in English please

Mariangeles:


Some of you people just hate it when some men are not promiscuous as you expect them to be.
Do you think everyone regard sex the same way?

Not because a man is open and blunt with sex talks, it will now equate to him being promiscuous..

For your information, the silent ones are the ones eating everything under skirt and you won't hear pim! Holy nweje things...Scientific ways.

Men know themselves...

Ladies enjoy men who tell them lies and sweet talk them with what they want to hear...

Then she will be smiling like woman wey visit her in-law house for the first time .

Munzy14:

Not because a man is open and blunt with sex talks, it will now equate to him being promiscuous..

For your information, the silent ones are the ones eating everything under skirt and you won't hear pim! Holy nweje things...Scientific ways.

Men know themselves...

Ladies enjoy men who tell them lies and sweet talk them with what they want to hear...

Then she will be smiling like woman wey visit her in-law house for the first time .

That guy was using scope to mock the guy.