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Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Tokziby: 4:30pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by skywalker240(m): 4:32pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Skmoda:true, not only igbo though, alot of african traditions. |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Kapeter(m): 4:32pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
kongolo:i never said weddings isn't expensve man. Everything should be willingly not societal pressure. And marriage is difficult everywhere by 30% and very difficult here in Africa by 97%, thanks to society. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Nobody: 4:36pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Kapeter: The western culture of Marriage that you praise so much has lead to the death of many men, homelessness of men, inability for them to see their children, false allegations, their properties been taken away from them and lot more. And who told you divorce in the western world is easy, it always comes with its consequences whether financially, mentally and emotionally for the couple and their children marriage isnt easy any where, it is hard work, if you dont want it, you dont do it, the only reason women go to marriage is because of stability, thinking that when they marry their financial situation will be solved. Most men on the otherside, do not want to go into marriage but through the manipulation of women it works out, when her expectation and idealisation doesnt work out, she wants to walk out but that is impossible because of the investment she has invested in the marriage, she has kids that need care, need to go to school, she cant just divorce when her herself does not have any income to survive on her own talkless of taking care of her kids. so if you think divorce is easy get into one and see if you can divorce after enough investment. you can separate but to divorce is hard. marriage isnt simple anywhere in this world, waking up to the same person everyday is hard whether in Africa or in Europe. 8 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Nobody: 4:37pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Kapeter: Every where in the word, society force you to marry Most men do not want to marry but thanks to pressure from women. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by kongolo(m): 4:38pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Kapeter:There is societal pressure on men and women to get married in every community,society and country on earth.Marriage is 100% difficult in Africa,Asia,north and south america,Oceania,Europe and antarctica.Travel and see 8 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Nobody: 4:38pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
some nigerian guys have borrowed millions of naira from the bank or from money lenders just to do a wedding and after the wedding they are in perpetual debt . 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Kapeter(m): 4:42pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
lilwetdick:many of my points in the initial post buh it's okay. Let's rest 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Nobody: 4:48pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Kapeter: but you said, marriage isnt hard, we cant make it simple |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Originalsly: 6:05pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
[qumoote author=Kapeter post=82675837] I don't know what the problem with African is though buh it seems it's not God that created others that also create us sha cuz in everything we are totally different and it's obvious. [/quote] Who should we be like? That is our Culture... do the Chinese do the same as the Americans? ...do the Indians do the same as the Latinos? Isn't it the same God that created them all?... and yet you don't see them as difficult... but we are... difficult and different. Again... who should we like? With this your reasoning and conclusions you don't even know you are supporting what you are condemning. ... too young to marry... not mature enough. You want to be free to marry at 18...like the Americans and others.... they were already living on there own....earning for themselves... were you?...are you? As difficult as they may be....what is the divorce rate compared to the ehmmm.... easy marriage countries? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Nobody: 11:32pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Kapeter:Been happy about something special is not nonsense.... Is African way of life.... |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by onwuakpachris(m): 8:28am On Sep 30, 2019 |
seconded.... |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by MoonWater: 10:10pm On Oct 02, 2019 |
skywalker240:that's what you think . |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by khiaa(f): 2:17am On Oct 03, 2019 |
JONNYSPUTE: Do your wife have girls night out as well while you watch the kids? We all need our "me" time. Be fair. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by khiaa(f): 2:21am On Oct 03, 2019 |
Offpoint: With the right woman you can have that understanding as long as you respect the marriage and she has the same freedom as well. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by khiaa(f): 2:27am On Oct 03, 2019 |
lilwetdick:So in other words, Africans have less divorces because the wife is totally dependent on the husband and can't provide for the kids and herself so she remains in a unhappy miserable marriage. 5 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by khiaa(f): 2:29am On Oct 03, 2019 |
lilwetdick: Yeah the irresponsible boys fear marriage, but the men don't. |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by khiaa(f): 2:35am On Oct 03, 2019 |
kongolo: A nice wedding do not have to be expensive, it's only expensive when you are trying to show out and impress others. Honestly it would be wiser to invest that money into your marriage not a one day affair like a wedding. Use that saved money to build a house, preparing for your first child, or saving for financial security. 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Offpoint: 6:24am On Oct 03, 2019 |
khiaa:lol, dear you're a lady and I know no woman will understand that.... none has ever understand that |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by JONNYSPUTE(m): 7:00am On Oct 03, 2019 |
khiaa:. Hahahahaha. She do have her girls afternoon hangout mostly on sundays,she goes with the kids. |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by khiaa(f): 9:38am On Oct 03, 2019 |
JONNYSPUTE: Be fair and take care of the kids and let her have fun with her friends? 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by khiaa(f): 9:42am On Oct 03, 2019 |
Offpoint: She will understand if you give her the same freedom and don't make her a prisoner of the home. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by JONNYSPUTE(m): 9:45am On Oct 03, 2019 |
khiaa:.. She enjoys going out with the two boys(kids)So its her choice. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by khiaa(f): 9:54am On Oct 03, 2019 |
JONNYSPUTE:Unless you have offered to keep the kids you wouldn't know that. You have boys, do some guy things with them. 5 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Nobody: 10:30am On Oct 03, 2019 |
khiaa: Marriage is for women not for men Women love marriage because they know their financial problems is almost over 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Nobody: 10:33am On Oct 03, 2019 |
khiaa: Marriage in Africa is division of labour aka burden sharing and not all African marriages are miserable if she is unhappy in the marriage, she can leave, it is up to her. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by khiaa(f): 11:05am On Oct 03, 2019 |
lilwetdick: I already explained the reason why they stay in a miserable marriage. |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by JONNYSPUTE(m): 11:58am On Oct 03, 2019 |
khiaa:.. You want me to be answering many many questions. Just like I was home all through on Tuesday, they want to finish me with questions.But to be honest, mothers dey try. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by pehay: 12:22pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Who talk am...Marriage is HARD... 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Truthbites: 12:22pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Whites made it harder 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by IceColdVeins(m): 12:24pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Everyone says this, So I wonder who's been doing all these loud weddings that i see around. Talk is cheap my dear, till you get there! Pettyprincess: 6 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Ikem11(m): 12:25pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Lol op this more reason I married a white lady. For past 6 years I been with her not even a day I paid for her mama or papa things... Na them they join come give me sef as someone married to their daughter. African mentality is so bad. My wedding was paid by my father in-law cos am not allowed to since am getting married to his daughter (not like I can't afford it they know very well I can) 5 Likes 1 Share |
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