I need help seriously to something that has been bothering me for a long time now. I am an extreme introvert that can't start or hold a conversation with anybody. Where ever I go I always see my self as a misfit due to my inability to communicate reasonably with people and this normally scares people away from me. Most people think I am a snub but the problem is that I find it very to communicate effectively. I think right now it has gotten worse and my self esteem has been affected drastically and it has also affected me mentally. Even at the place where I work everyone now ignores me and think that I am not mentally conscious. I no longer feel happy and safe with my job and life in general. Right now I feel like giving up with life because this kind of life is not worth living.

:- u wan kill urself for nothing.Who force u to dey talk/must you talk always. Talkative irritate me.Some pipu just talk anyhow/meaningless talk.Urs is to observe/ even nod ur head/laff.U pay attention to convo/talk less. Nobody will beat u for not making noise

This doesn't call for you ending it.

You just have to develop the act of mingling with people. Start going to public places like viewing centre, shows, beach , parties and get involved in engaging acts in church like choir or Sun. Sch.

Whenever you find yourself in those places, always force yourself to contribute to whatever they are doing/ saying

Pathokpo:
I need help seriously to something that has been bothering me for a long time now. I am an extreme introvert that can't start or hold a conversation with anybody. Where ever I go I always see my self as a misfit due to my inability to communicate reasonably with people and this normally scares people away from me. Most people think I am a snub but the problem is that I find it very to communicate effectively. I think right now it has gotten worse and my self esteem has been affected drastically and it has also affected me mentally. Even at the place where I work everyone now ignores me and think that I am not mentally conscious. I no longer feel happy and safe with my job and life in general. Right now I feel like giving up with life because this kind of life is not worth living.

Wow this is so me. I tink u have depression anxiety, ADHD and brain fog. U need a stimulant drug. Pls lalasticlala move to front page

Nobody else can help you but YOU.

You gat to come and out of your shell and get your love and support.

My dad was like that and I inherited the same from him

I soon discovered that being introvert doesnt pay as many people always take advantage of my father for being an introvert.

I decided not to go my fathers way and to be vocal. I mix with people who talk so that I can talk. I move with funny people.

Today, I face crowd, I do professional training for youth and corporate bodies for a living.

I was able to do that because I decided to come out

You too can do it

You need to be confident always, especially at work.. chat with your colleagues and be free to express yourself

Pathokpo:
I need help seriously to something that has been bothering me for a long time now. I am an extreme introvert that can't start or hold a conversation with anybody. Where ever I go I always see my self as a misfit due to my inability to communicate reasonably with people and this normally scares people away from me. Most people think I am a snub but the problem is that I find it very to communicate effectively. I think right now it has gotten worse and my self esteem has been affected drastically and it has also affected me mentally. Even at the place where I work everyone now ignores me and think that I am not mentally conscious. I no longer feel happy and safe with my job and life in general. Right now I feel like giving up with life because this kind of life is not worth living.

Listen. You are allowing mind to deceive yourself. Most of what you think people think about you are just your own assumptions and imaginations. Do you actually expect people to leave their jobs and sit down with you? Sometimes this is just a sign of over pampering by parents. Were you over pampered? If you were you had better grow up now because you are no longer a kid. You are now an adult. Face your life. Face your your job. Face your career. That is what everybody is doing. Nothing is wrong with you.

when I saw the headline i thought it was very serious....mtcheeee you want to kill yourself because you are not giving people enough attention.. you can start today, give people enough attention and as Time goes on you'll surely blend

tunjilee003:
when I saw the headline i thought it was very serious....mtcheeee you want to kill yourself because you are not giving people enough attention.. you can start today, give people enough attention and as Time goes on you'll surely blend

I dont really know what to talkabout in conversations. My mind just goes blank

AmericanDad:


I dont really know what to talkabout in conversations. My mind just goes blank

If you don't know what to talk about in any conversation just let other people do the talking and you can respond with "yes", "no", "I agree with you", "it's okay" etc. That's enough in a conversation.

tommy40:


If you don't know what to talk about in any conversation just let other people do the talking and you can respond with "yes", "no", "I agree with you", "it's okay" etc. That's enough in a conversation.

Haha thats not. I wanna have a personality

AmericanDad:


Haha thats not. I wanna have a personality

And what do you call personality? Being a talkertive? No. People of great personalities don't even talk much. Wise people and great counsellors listen more and talk less. They choose their words carefully.

tommy40:


And what do you call personality? Being a talkertive? No. People of great personalities don't even talk much. Wise people and great counsellors listen more and talk less. They choose their words carefully.

Being a good talker attracts people to u. I feel alone with Lil friends most times. I wish i could express my self more

British scientist Steven Hawkins said: "Quiet people have d loudest mind". If u want to become lousy, just go to betnaija shop or football viewing centre or newspaper stand in d morning. I rest my case

AmericanDad:


Being a good talker attracts people to u. I feel alone with Lil friends most times. I wish i could express my self more

Then just keep trying and stop complaining and don't get so sad to the point of getting depressed.
Being a good talker doesn't happen in one day. It takes constant practice. You may even disappoint yourself a couple of times but don't worry. It's part of the learning process.

Work on yourself, practice makes you a better person. Try to go to places alone especially public places. You will succeed

Pathokpo:
I need help seriously to something that has been bothering me for a long time now. I am an extreme introvert that can't start or hold a conversation with anybody. Where ever I go I always see my self as a misfit due to my inability to communicate reasonably with people and this normally scares people away from me. Most people think I am a snub but the problem is that I find it very to communicate effectively. I think right now it has gotten worse and my self esteem has been affected drastically and it has also affected me mentally. Even at the place where I work everyone now ignores me and think that I am not mentally conscious. I no longer feel happy and safe with my job and life in general. Right now I feel like giving up with life because this kind of life is not worth living.

You have no idea what death is

Go and learn how to smoke weed and thank me later.

Pathokpo:
I need help seriously to something that has been bothering me for a long time now. I am an extreme introvert that can't start or hold a conversation with anybody. Where ever I go I always see my self as a misfit due to my inability to communicate reasonably with people and this normally scares people away from me. Most people think I am a snub but the problem is that I find it very to communicate effectively. I think right now it has gotten worse and my self esteem has been affected drastically and it has also affected me mentally. Even at the place where I work everyone now ignores me and think that I am not mentally conscious. I no longer feel happy and safe with my job and life in general. Right now I feel like giving up with life because this kind of life is not worth living.

Pathokpo:
...

If you're a man, read the book FemaleSextapés. No, it's not about sex, but an acronym for men to hold conversation with women and never lack what to say. Google it and purchase it.

Pathokpo:
I need help seriously to something that has been bothering me for a long time now. I am an extreme introvert that can't start or hold a conversation with anybody. Where ever I go I always see my self as a misfit due to my inability to communicate reasonably with people and this normally scares people away from me. Most people think I am a snub but the problem is that I find it very to communicate effectively. I think right now it has gotten worse and my self esteem has been affected drastically and it has also affected me mentally. Even at the place where I work everyone now ignores me and think that I am not mentally conscious. I no longer feel happy and safe with my job and life in general. Right now I feel like giving up with life because this kind of life is not worth living.

Every thing you complained of started with you and must be stopped by you

Talk to yourself, you own yourself not anyone

Tell your self that you want to start socialising and meeting people both in physically and on social media

This is the right time to start because if you get married,

Your wife might not blend with you that means she must seek for happiness anywhere

Your kids will be scared of you because you don't relate with them, which means they will get it from other kids and family, don't blame them when they start adopting something new in terms of character

If you don't change your style, people will blame you for things going wrong with your family even when it's actually not your fault

The next thing will be depression and frustration, all will start and boil in you

You should be the happiest person on earth right now. The world is looking for people like you who can only talk when it's necessary.

9JAFULLBREED:
Go and learn how to smoke weed and thank me later.

I am very serious please I need help

AmericanDad:


Wow this is so me. I tink u have depression anxiety, ADHD and brain fog. U need a stimulant drug. Pls lalasticlala move to front page

please what is ADHD

Tumbulum:
You should be the happiest person on earth right now. The world is looking for people like you who can only talk when it's necessary.

The problem is that most people mock you with your situation when you tell them about it

AmericanDad:


I dont really know what to talkabout in conversations. My mind just goes blank

My brother you truely understand what am trying to say

Pathokpo:

The problem is that most people mock you with your situation when you tell them about it

Isaac newton was one man that you will call a misfit and in his lifetime,he only had one friend who eventually got fed up with him and separated from him. Newton having lost his only friend realized how helpful the guy has been to him but he never called him back and never made effort to reconcile. He died a money man yet the world remembers him till date.

Your behavior are hired wired in your gene and there is nothing you can do about it. The earlier you realise that peoples opinion has nothing to do with your life the better. Embrace your true and self,be happy for being an introvert and try and harvest the positive aspect of being an introvert.

I sell a bottle of sniper for cockroaches. It's #600 per bottle. Pm me for it. A carton of 24 bottles is #12 000 only.

Start by saying hi to your colleague at Your work place
Most times the things we face growing up makes us to build protective walls and keep things to ourselves...
He that wants a friend will show himself friendly.... show yourself as friendly forget all these temperaments stuff and breakout of your wall...

And please don't end your life

Pathokpo:
I need help seriously to something that has been bothering me for a long time now. I am an extreme introvert that can't start or hold a conversation with anybody. Where ever I go I always see my self as a misfit due to my inability to communicate reasonably with people and this normally scares people away from me. Most people think I am a snub but the problem is that I find it very to communicate effectively. I think right now it has gotten worse and my self esteem has been affected drastically and it has also affected me mentally. Even at the place where I work everyone now ignores me and think that I am not mentally conscious. I no longer feel happy and safe with my job and life in general. Right now I feel like giving up with life because this kind of life is not worth living.

Are u a male or a female?
In what way have you found it difficult to communicate. Do u have speech issues?

If u can communicate with ur family members u can communicate with anyone.
Try to share, stay where people are, smile with them, share your thoughts, knowledge, feelings etc no matter how small.
More importantly, be confident in your self and don't stay to urself, lossen up and u should feel better.

zedegit:
I sell a bottle of sniper for cockroaches. It's #600 per bottle. Pm me for it. A carton of 24 bottles is #12 000 only.

my friend please be serious for ones not all situations are to be joked with

infogenius:


Are u a male or a female?
In what way have you found it difficult to communicate. Do u have speech issues?

If u can communicate with ur family members u can communicate with anyone.
Try to share, stay where people are, smile with them, share your thoughts, knowledge, feelings etc no matter how small.
More importantly, be confident in your self and don't stay to urself, lossen up and u should feel better.

I am a male

Pathokpo:
I need help seriously to something that has been bothering me for a long time now. I am an extreme introvert that can't start or hold a conversation with anybody. Where ever I go I always see my self as a misfit due to my inability to communicate reasonably with people and this normally scares people away from me. Most people think I am a snub but the problem is that I find it very to communicate effectively. I think right now it has gotten worse and my self esteem has been affected drastically and it has also affected me mentally. Even at the place where I work everyone now ignores me and think that I am not mentally conscious. I no longer feel happy and safe with my job and life in general. Right now I feel like giving up with life because this kind of life is not worth living.

I use to be worse than you Op
I'd stay indoor for days. And when I come out eventually everything just looks odd and weird. The problem with introversion is that it tends to create a world of it's own; where introverts drown in their own thoughts and lose touch with reality.


It's all in your head Op

The simple remedy is to leave your comfort zone; do things that are hardly suited to your persona. Go out, meet new people, make friends and work on your conversational skills. Trust me, you need people! I'm not asking you to become an extrovert but be a better introvert.