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Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Xisnin(m): 12:26pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Kapeter: Shed your inferiority complex. Mariage is way harder in the western world, that is why it is gradually dying and their divorce rate ranges from 40 to 70%. The problem I have with many of you JJCs is that you live your lives inside Hollywood or choose to believe in myth as opposed to reality. Even many western men have started going to Asian countries to find traditional women to marry because they can't face the prospect of a "hard" marriage. I am not the one to tell people how to live their life but just because you don't measure up to certain societal standards doesn't give the right to spread lies about it. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by 12345baba(m): 12:27pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Na southern Nigeria get this problem pass. |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Xisnin(m): 12:28pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
lilwetdick:You are probably still a kid. Nobody forces men to marry. Some men don't want to marry and they don't. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by TheShopKeeper(m): 12:29pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
...any concept in hands of africans...especially nigerians is turned into hardship... 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by edward1984(m): 12:34pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Kapeter: I have a polish friend who married with just 20€,, they went to the towns hall, registration fee was 100 zloty which is 20€,, the parents of both couples only and that was that,, and they both are in their early 20s,,, simple as that 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Nobody: 12:34pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Xisnin: you are the kid. There is always pressure for men to marry from family members and society , when a man does not want to marry at his prime, society looks at him as he is not responsible and also most women will force the man in their life to get marry to them, why is there always the "the talk" if you have been in a relationship before, you will understand the "the talk" "the talk" is the speech from women, asking about where the relationship is leading to. 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by 0taPiaPia(m): 12:44pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Offpoint: U aren't ready to be responsible 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Cuteamigo1(m): 12:47pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
lilwetdick:keep pounding his head and you might be lucky he learns a thing or two. Thumbs up 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by omoharry(f): 12:50pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
lilwetdick:They certainly do.The op seems to compare African culture/marriage to that of the western countries ;he sees our marriage/culture as bleeped up but he will not like a situation where he can not to talk someone when his wife is misbehaving or out of order. African parent(good and responsible ones) do step in some times during crisis in their children's marriages so as to resolve some issues especially when they have gone astray, but the Oyinbos would not interfere becos they see it has rude, since the issue in question is between two adult. Divorce is the next action and everyone goes their separate way. Though the rate of Divorce here in Nigeria is relatively high but i am emphasizing on intervention from parents before the marriage finally hit the rock. However, marriage should not be too much of a burden for young up coming couples, rather family and friends should encourage these young people to get settled with ease without any extra burden just because of societal expectations. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Offpoint: 12:51pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
0taPiaPia:Coming home early is also characteristics of responsible man? |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by potosky: 1:09pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
The only thing I see here is wife family and their financial burden. What about the husband family that find fault in everything the wife does?........they see the wife as a less human including the so called husband. 99% of African women are miserable because of marriage. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by CHoccolaTE: 1:10pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Another idiotic thread for small boys with no life experience to whine on. If you hate marriage so much then don'tget married. Simple. And it's very funny you men think you are the only ones who carry financial burdens in marriage when many women are working like dogs to support lazy or jobless husbands. They don't announce it to outsiders because they are ashamed and they dont want to be mocked. The only problem men have with marriage is the fact that they have to spend on the woman they married. You want to be leaders and superior to everybody but you don't want respnsibilities. If women start listing all the problems they face from disrespect to neglect to catching stds from men who got married but want to like single guys to countess other family issues your thread will not have space left. Naggers and complainers. Men these days just have nagging problem. Always complaining but never doing anything to solve problems. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Xisnin(m): 1:10pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
lilwetdick: You just confirmed my post that you are a kid. And adult should know the difference between a negotiation and use of force. An adult will also know that you cannot use force unless you have leverages such as being physically stronger, well-connected or above-average wealth. You are just like a child who doesn't understand why they told him to look left and right before crossing a busy road but choose to rebel instead. People will always volunteer their opinion if you let them. Should you travel out? Should you further your education? The good news is that they are not forcing you to do anything. You can't claim to be a man and be behaving like a sissy. If your mother tells you to get married, tell her to never mention it again and if your pastor is disturbing you, change your church. It will be a shame if you are still being controlled at your old age(allegedly). Are you really being forced or you are afraid to stand for yourself and choose to become a doormat to other adults who have their own lives? Only you are to blame if you choose the coward way out. This reminds me of some people who are learning different skills instead of proceeding to a tertiary institution. Sure, somebody somewhere is not happy with their decision but they still went ahead with it. They didn't come online to rant about being forced to go to school. I think you should never marry for everyone's sake, we have enough monster husbands already. If you tell your boss that you need a raise and will probably resign if refused. Are you forcing your boss to give you a raise? Of course not, he can fire you on the spot, demote you in anger, hire someone else or give you the damn raise. It doesn't matter why you need the raise or if you deserved it. Imagine the boss now complaining to the shareholders that you forced him to give you a raise? He would be thought of as a fool and incompetent. I now realize that some people can be forced into marriage. Half-wits, imbe ciles and other psychologically underdeveloped humans may not have the means to say No. 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Xclusiveme: 1:12pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Africa Tradition just tire me A Wedding must be grand in every way. Some even borrow just to make the people pleased. A Burial Ceremony is always the talk of the town. The lavish spending on the dead shows that Africa needs to dumb their rubbish tradition and implement d western's. Africa has made it so that if you don't have money, you cannot marry. And if u didn't spend much they call u stingy or broke. What a crazy way of life 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by uthlaw: 1:17pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Offpoint:you just make my day....I try relationship for 3yrs nothing is there than sex, being single is Worth being a billion! 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Xclusiveme: 1:29pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
The rate of divorce in the Western part is alarming. The women do not tolerate any nonsense from the man. Unlike Africans we asslick a lot. We keep on going with the marriage even tho it's not working out perfectly. We lie to our friends how our marriage is the best thing that happened to us, while we're at home quarrelling and fighting everyday. 80%Of African women Marry because they want men to carter for their needs and family. If the man isn't treating her well, she doesn't care so far as he's bringing money for the family. Africans and Love of money are like Magnet 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by omoharry(f): 1:30pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
edward1984:That is why the world is diverse with thier unique way of doing things. The way of the polish people cannot be the same in places like India or China or other countries that have their peculiar way of marriage and tradition.. You cannot use another country and their way of life and style of marriage as a yardstick to measure your own continent..it shows you do not have an identity. You are always quick to put down your own because it is convenient for you to accept their style of living, then why don't you take every package that comes with marriages in the western world where the woman rules and the laws favors her if she does not want the marriage anymore. You think sey na here wey you be master of the house?where you can do and undo and society will tell your wife to bear your nonsense and pray for her husband? whilst she continue to be the good wife of keeping the home front running as you gallivant around with your guys around town and a couple of side chicks... Applying the western culture means you have to be involve with the domestic affairs of the home 50/50..including helping out with the work around the house as well as the children, cleaning them up caring for then as at when due, both of you will be sharing roles and there wont be " I am the man of the house" both of you will share income 50/50 and no body is the head of the house. You dare misbehave in anyway with another woman or any mistake of unfaithfulness then you are a goner..you will not only loose all your properties, you will lose full custody of your children ,you will be allowed visitation right(that is if she really mean to deal with you) So marriages everywhere has their pros and cons..it now depend on you to know which one you can cope with. You can travel and marry a foreign woman with just 20 dollas /pound if you so wish..it is your life and we should choose what will make us happy. Abeg nor dey rubbish our culture ooo..! I am sure that even within Nigeria we have marital rite that are very cheap and less fun fare..it varies from ethnic group to group and families to families 7 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Nobody: 1:52pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
skywalker240: In today's Nigeria, na mugu dey marry Ibo girl 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Nobody: 1:53pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Skmoda: Apart from that, Igbo women are intense gold diggers. Na them gold dig pass every other tribe. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Ugosample(m): 1:54pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Kapeter: who want to hear what the Africans have to say at unga? they have nothing to say |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Ugosample(m): 1:55pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
omoharry: You see what the OP was talking about? hahahahaha 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Nobody: 1:57pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
skywalker240: This is an Igbo problem. Don't marry an Igbo woman |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Ugosample(m): 1:59pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Xisnin: anyone who does not know that marriage is a sham, especially in Africa is fooling himself If not for the societal chains Africans live with in their neck so gleefully many sham marriages would have collapsed tey tey.... It's all for the societal appearances Many men in Nigeria have been pushed into a lifetime of misery, fending for an ungrateful wife, and useless in-laws while his mental health is in decline.... many women in Nigeria have been pushed into a lifetime of misery as well, with what they have to suck up to and the heaping of undue responsibility here and there Marriage of the last three centuries is a big sham on that note I agree with the OP. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by khiaa(f): 1:59pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
JONNYSPUTE: LMAO That's sweet. How old are they? 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Ugosample(m): 2:02pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
skywalker240: don't mind them when you call out the uselessness of the system run in Africa they will open their mouth and try bringing in western countries into it.... The marriage scam in western countries come in a different dimension from the sham in Africa the difference is that while they over there are having frank discussions about it, Nigger Africans are still burying their head in the sand, and in love with their chains Damn it hahahahahahaha 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Ugosample(m): 2:03pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Ikem11: that is interesting 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Nobody: 2:04pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
khiaa: Shutup, married women don't stay out late at night. Over sabi nai go make you remain single for life. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by khiaa(f): 2:10pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
condemn: You shut up mo.ron, no one said anything about staying out late at night. Stu.pid kids. 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Ugosample(m): 2:10pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Originalsly: so our culture involves marrying a woman and feeding HER FAMILY that's fuxked up Traditional marriage is all good2 its our heritage and we should keep that with all the coiourfulness and all that But after it's you, your wife and your kids your wife family should NEVER be your obligation this is one thing I hate about igbos we kill ourselves for ungrateful women and their useless families 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Ugosample(m): 2:16pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Originalsly: and just so you know it's the societal chains and all that has kept divorce rates somewhat lower in Nigeria not because the marriages are better Let Nigeria slide away from that and you will see 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Ugosample(m): 2:23pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
Pettyprincess: You and your man will need balls of steel to pull this off... I wish you well |
Re: Marriage Isn't Hard Africans Made It So(opinion) by Ugosample(m): 2:25pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
MoonWater: facts |
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