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I guess it doesn't even seem like visitation anymore but rather an encroachment.
Went off the dating scene for a couple of years after a somewhat horrible breakup. Then I started seeing this hottie recently for like a week plus now and counting.
The thing is from the very first day we did stuff...she is ALWAYS asking to come over. I've indulged her more times than I'd like to but only because I'm running out of excuses to give her.
She's so young. I don't want to hurt her by making her feel I'm kind of avoiding her - even though that's what I really want.
Oh wait she's calling again...wants to come over I guess..
Guys?

That is the first stage. Always want to talk, see and be around each other.

-Give her time, she will get over it and start telling you she had friends before you came along. Na you go come create thread again


"Help, My Girlfriend Is Always Going Out With Her Friends. Are They Lesbians?"

Once a blue moon because we living in different part of the world

Pettyprincess:
Once a blue moon because we living in different part of the world

No mind am, e even see person wey wan come see am- e dey complain. I wish I could go to his house after a hectic week, lazy about and chop his money well well.

Are you a novice?

blogger10:
I guess it doesn't even seem like visitation anymore but rather an encroachment.
Went off the dating scene for a couple of years after a somewhat horrible breakup. Then I started seeing this hottie recently for like a week plus now and counting.
The thing is from the very first day we did stuff...she is ALWAYS asking to come over. I've indulged her more times than I'd like to but only because I'm running out of excuses to give her.
She's so young. I don't want to hurt her by making her feel I'm kind of avoiding her - even though that's what I really want.
Oh wait she's calling again...wants to come over I guess..
Guys?

If you don't like her break up with her, you won't like to be around someone you don't fancy, this is the natural order of things, or else
I don't see why you are not happy that she is giving you her time and attention.

Am sure it's the worthless ones and the ones that have nothing to offer that will take up your time.

pocohantas:
That is the first stage. Always want to talk, see and be around each other.

-Give her time, she will get over it and start telling you she had friends before you came along. Na you go come create thread again


"Help, My Girlfriend Is Always Going Out With Her Friends. Are They Lesbians?"

Yea I get your point..
But she doesn't allow me time to miss her..
And quite contrary to your opinion I think it'll only get worse with time.
Lol...now she's asking me to skip work and stay home tomorrow.

lilmax:
Are you a novice?

At serious commitments...yea

pryme:
If you don't like her break up with her, you won't like to be around someone you don't fancy, this is the natural order of things, or else
I don't see why you are not happy that she is giving you her time and attention.

Am sure it's the worthless ones and the ones that have nothing to offer that will take up your time.

Far from that actually...
I don't want the breakup to be heavy that's why I want to keep things light...but its kinda hard to do as she's persistent.

blogger10:
Yea I get your point..
But she doesn't allow me time to miss her..
And quite contrary to your opinion I think it'll only get worse with time.
Lol...now she's asking me to skip work and stay home tomorrow.

She should get a job. Only a jobless (juvenile) person can reason such.

If you ask him her age now, he will say 21 yrs. Have you noticed the guys that complain of their babes always have their ages around 21! I dont understand this at all. At 21, what do they expect from them? We have matured ladies of 25-34 looking for serious relationship to settle but my guys will not see them. When I was dating, I made up my mind not to go under 24yrs cos I dont tolerate childishness!

pocohantas:
She should get a job. Only a jobless (juvenile) person can reason such.

blogger10:
...I started seeing this hottie recently for like a week plus now and counting.
The thing is from the very first day we did stuff...she is ALWAYS asking to come over. I've indulged her more times than I'd like to but only because I'm running out of excuses to give her.
She's so young. I don't want to hurt her by making her feel I'm kind of avoiding her - even though that's what I really want.

So after expanding the eye of a needle to the size of a well, you no longer want to see the girl again? You try.

blogger10:
I guess it doesn't even seem like visitation anymore but rather an encroachment.
Went off the dating scene for a couple of years after a somewhat horrible breakup. Then I started seeing this hottie recently for like a week plus now and counting.
The thing is from the very first day we did stuff...she is ALWAYS asking to come over. I've indulged her more times than I'd like to but only because I'm running out of excuses to give her.
She's so young. I don't want to hurt her by making her feel I'm kind of avoiding her - even though that's what I really want.
Oh wait she's calling again...wants to come over I guess..
Guys?

Send me her phone number so I can talk to her about reducing the tempo of her visitation.

For me it has kind of become a living paradox...an occurring pattern. Where after a very fruitful and eventful relationship the female can't just believe its over...a normal part of the process. Not like I care for her passive aggressive reactions after the fact, but limiting the fun initially is just way better...no matter her age.