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OP this case is more serious than you let on in your initial post.

baby124:
Ah ah. Only your sister? She must be very fine o. Just investigate reliable places for injectable birth control. Take here there, pay for it and let them give her the shot. Some can last for 3yrs.

I will do that. Thanks

Richy4:
It's nice that you were worried about their welfare. but it's not going to be easy in Nigeria to just storm in and take the kids.. Especially in a country where social workers are not practicable.

The alternative will be that you make those kids know that they can come to you for anything.. just anything.. Sometimes a sleepover at your place can help the kids.
That will strengthen their bond with you.. Maybe instead of giving her money, you can buy all those things that the kids might required...

And I must add that please don't act as if u were better than her in any way. EVERY one got one demon/challenges he/she is facing on this planet...And people tend to deal with it the best way that they choose.. some ways are right some wrong... Maybe going after men was how she thinks she can suppress or deal with her issues

I will try xmas holiday....

baby124:
Ah ah. Only your sister? She must be very fine o. Just investigate reliable places for injectable birth control. Take here there, pay for it and let them give her the shot. Some can last for 3yrs.

She thinks she us not fine enough,she is the least in beauty in our family.

Hmmmm...why not just pay to put them in a boarding school. That way, it won't look like you're taking her kids from her. It is well.

Make she no Bleep again?

Pointmade:
She thinks she us not fine enough,she is the least in beauty in our family.

You're very harsh on your sister, perhaps you should back off and let her be.

Pointmade:
I want to know if there is an agency that will back me in taking my sister kids away from her. she is my sis and i love her but i have to be realistic,she is the opposite of everything that makes up mother.

I believe this is what you came here to inquire.
Please try making use of online tools in google, it seems no one here has an answer for you.

In organized climes, those children (below 18) would have been taken away from her by the government when a family member (you) makes a complaint, after due investigations of course.

Pointmade:
You are quick to accuse,i have try heart to heart tried everythhing i can,ironic enough i am a semi atheist while she is the chronic church goer(why i used the pastor)

So instead of accusing tell me other ways to try

I cant drag a 37years old to see psychologist.

U can't drag a 37yrs old to see a psychologist?

Sorry, I popped in.

nairalandposter:
You're very harsh on your sister, perhaps you should back off and let her be.

Thank u.
I thought I was alone.
Her choice of words so toxic.

Considering all the extra "details" the op added after his/her first post, plus the fact s/he registered the id today and has been online for 1 hour and 2 minutes, I'm inclined to believe this is one of the fake nairaland stories like many others.


Op, if your story is indeed true, I would advise you to tell your sister to stop bringing men home but she should go to her boyfriend/s place instead whenever they want to have sex. I'm of course assuming the boyfriend is a single never married bachelor. Minding the fact it's up to her if she wants to listen or not. The man or men too should find somewhere to meet her besides her residence since obviously that is not working out and everyone is upset. I am also not endorsing extramarital sex but I can't dictate to adults if they should or shouldn't do that, I can only advise. Her so called relationship/s also don't have to involve sex, can't the man lead by example and make a honest woman out of her.

If your sister's relationship is going somewhere, they should make this known to concerned parties. If they are simply booty calls with different men (hard to see how a chronic churchgoer would engage in such), then it's obviously a nympho situation which might be arising from rebellion against your judgemental attitude or some other problems which you refused to explain.

Some people up there are just bashing op, saying she's not a good sister bla bla bla. You don't know her story, she just gave us the summary here. She's calling a spade a spade. She can't come here and be seeking for advice and still mince words.

You are not the ones wearing the shoe, you don't know where it pinches.

If you're fortunate to come from a working family, you should be greatfull.

Working family in this case doesn't mean a rich family, but a family where the parents and the children are morally upright.

Unfortunately, most families have that one bad apple that brings shame and mockery to them.
Funny thing is such family members are the ones the family gives their most attention, trying everything possible to make sure he/she changes for good. In some families, it's the father, in other families, it's the mother (just like OP's sister), while in other families, it's one of the children.

In my own case, it's that of my immediate elder brother, he's just morally bankrupt. He has his good side of course, but his bad side far outweighs his good. I can relate to what op is saying because I know the effort my parents have made to make him a better man, but all to no avail.

Last last them live am like that, believing he'll learn the hard way.

24kmagic:
Some people up there are just bashing op, saying she's not a good sister bla bla bla. You don't know her story, she just gave us the summary here. She's calling a spade a spade. She can't come here and be seeking for advice and still mince words.

You are not the ones wearing the shoe, you don't know where it pinches.

If you're fortunate to come from a working family, you should be greatfull.

Working family in this case doesn't mean a rich family, but a family where the parents and the children are morally upright.

Unfortunately, most families have that one bad apple that brings shame and mockery to them.
Funny thing is such family members are the ones the family gives their most attention, trying everything possible to make sure he/she changes for good. In some families, it's the father, in other families, it's the mother (just like OP's sister), while in other families, it's one of the children.

In my own case, it's that of my immediate elder brother, he's just morally bankrupt. He has his good side of course, but his bad side far outweighs his good. I can relate to what op is saying because I know the effort my parents have made to make him a better man, but all to no avail.

Last last them live am like that, believing he'll learn the hard way.

Oh your indeed a nigerian.others comenting dont have a clue about what thie poster is going through,you can never get through to that kind of person i am talking from experience.in our case i took my nephew and niece out of the environment and left her to enjoy her life, she calls once in 3 or 4 months which is fine with the kids...

ambient:
Oh your indeed a nigerian.others comenting dont have a clue about what thie poster is going through,you can never get through to that kind of person i am talking from experience.in our case i took my nephew and niece out of the environment and left her to enjoy her life, she calls once in 3 or 4 months which is fine with the kids...

The OP is the one going through some things?

She needs to back off.

nairalandposter:
The OP is the one going through some things?

She needs to back off.

Back off and let her niece become damaged then when they grow and becaome a nuisance you will start speaking english.. Abeg.

Op fight for the kids jor They will appreciate it later.